FabSwingers.com forum: Wish body shaming would stop, not just on fab.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I've been to talking to others on another site been getting to talk them and getting along nicely, we were planning a little gangbang for 2 women and we got to the point of meeting for drinks to see if were capable of getting along with eachother and socialising... Then they asked for a picture with a body shot, all I had was face and cock pics they seemed ok with, so I uploaded a body shot... Instantly "haha no way fat cunt!" Blocked by the girls .... the lads said it was totally uncalled for but the girls all be it large themselves had to stoop that low.

So the past week or two talking and getting to know eachother was just a complete waste.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"So I've been to talking to others on another site been getting to talk them and getting along nicely, we were planning a little gangbang for 2 women and we got to the point of meeting for drinks to see if were capable of getting along with eachother and socialising... Then they asked for a picture with a body shot, all I had was face and cock pics they seemed ok with, so I uploaded a body shot... Instantly "haha no way fat cunt!" Blocked by the girls .... the lads said it was totally uncalled for but the girls all be it large themselves had to stoop that low.

So the past week or two talking and getting to know eachother was just a complete waste.

There's pricks in every walk of life. Better to find out now rather than when you turn up for a gang bang.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds harsh. Why not have a body shot on your profile, even if its wearing a shirt, at least then the women that chat to you have seen what you got and are up for it. The body shamers and six pack brigade will pass you by and save you wasting your time on them. Fabs a cruel world and some people are just plain old rude, never take anything said on here to heart.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Getting called tubby etc at work helped me lose over a stone, i had let myself go and it was the push i needed.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Yeah, I hear you. The best thing to do, and I'm well aware it's easier said than done, is to get comfortable in your own skin. Accept yourself for who you are. I did that, started bothering to buy clothes that made me look and feel good... and the boost in confidence means I'm losing weight. Goddamn it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was called Sumo at work. It was hilarious at a five aside tournament we had two teams in. As my mates would chant Sumo! Sumo! Sumo! whenever I was on the ball.

It was actually only the scales when I hit my heaviest weight ever that woke me up enough to take action. 20 odd years later than Sumo played his last 5 aside game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Body shaming is hurtful though and needs to be challenged

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe it would be a good idea to have photos of your body on this other site, like the ones you do on this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah, I hear you. The best thing to do, and I'm well aware it's easier said than done, is to get comfortable in your own skin. Accept yourself for who you are. I did that, started bothering to buy clothes that made me look and feel good... and the boost in confidence means I'm losing weight. Goddamn it

You are looking great

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

6ft and 16 stone isnt that big. Its pretty shit but if you have a good clear full photo on your profile it will stop it happening again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So the past week or two talking and getting to know eachother was just a complete waste.

That is just horrible. You have made massive progress Atlas don’t let ignorant hypocrites like that put you down.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

You are looking great

Thank you. Still get crap, increasingly from all sides. Too fat, too thin, too muscular...

I've stopped giving a shit. I do it for myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Painting with a broad brush here, but women are often worse for body shaming (I know, men can do it too)

Ive come across loads of profiles that say "im not a skinny minnie" or "bones are for dogs". Attitudes like that are an instant turn off for me.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Sorry to hear that OP. Their loss not yours hun x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Painting with a broad brush here, but women are often worse for body shaming (I know, men can do it too)

Ive come across loads of profiles that say "im not a skinny minnie" or "bones are for dogs". Attitudes like that are an instant turn off for me."

I find a lot of that comes from years of being attacked for their bodies. It's unfortunate that it comes out like that, but it gets frustrating to be told you have less right to exist because you're not within extremely narrow contradictory aesthetic preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could be wrong but it sounds, to me, that the gangbang was never going to happen.

To get that response smacks of a string along and unfortunately, you were the punchline.

I have read several of your threads OP and you seem adept at falling at the last hurdle.

I think that how someone approaches sites like this and their members, can play into the hands of those who like to be disrespectful to others.

There's no need to speak to anyone in the manner you were. There's no excuse for it.

That said, when history keeps repeating, you have to ask yourself why.

I don't think it is all down to your weight and build.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are looking great

Thank you. Still get crap, increasingly from all sides. Too fat, too thin, too muscular...

I've stopped giving a shit. I do it for myself. "

Doing it for yourself is the only way. I enjoy the exercise now and the results from losing 3 stones, toning up and improving my, strength conditioning and fitness but it’s about how I feel and not what others say. However, thankfully, I’ve not been on the end of any body shaming apart from the funny Sumo stuff above. I’ve only ever received encouragement from friends and family.

I’d like to shed another stone but I’m taking my time and enjoying myself too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So the past week or two talking and getting to know eachother was just a complete waste.

I'm sorry you had to deal with this kind of abuse OP. Outrageous!!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I could be wrong but it sounds, to me, that the gangbang was never going to happen.

To get that response smacks of a string along and unfortunately, you were the punchline.

I have read several of your threads OP and you seem adept at falling at the last hurdle.

I think that how someone approaches sites like this and their members, can play into the hands of those who like to be disrespectful to others.

There's no need to speak to anyone in the manner you were. There's no excuse for it.

That said, when history keeps repeating, you have to ask yourself why.

I don't think it is all down to your weight and build."

Unfortunately I agree. There's much to be said for being extremely guarded on places like this.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

If i was walking towards a cliff edge, or smoking/drinking myself into an early grave, I'd want someone to tell me. The truth hurts as they say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Painting with a broad brush here, but women are often worse for body shaming (I know, men can do it too)

Ive come across loads of profiles that say "im not a skinny minnie" or "bones are for dogs". Attitudes like that are an instant turn off for me."

The best one is when they say ‘if you don’t like a BBW, then jog on!’ Always tickles me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t let their wanky comments undermine what you have already achieved, be proud of yourself and they can go fuck themselves !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If i was walking towards a cliff edge, or smoking/drinking myself into an early grave, I'd want someone to tell me. The truth hurts as they say. "

I feel sorry for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Painting with a broad brush here, but women are often worse for body shaming (I know, men can do it too)

Ive come across loads of profiles that say "im not a skinny minnie" or "bones are for dogs". Attitudes like that are an instant turn off for me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a harsh way to react. I am put off by chubby and average bodies but am not rude about it.

Unless people have health problems there is no excuse not to get in shape though.

I have arthritis and joint problems with old injuries but as you can see from my body I still keep in shape despite it being challenging with my underlying issues. Plus I have demanding job.

So no excuses people, get yourselves in shape for not only an increased sex appeal, but better health too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see the beauty of all the girls on here, everyone has there own thing, it might not be for you but you can see appreciate the form.

One of the hottest things I’ve seen on tv atm is the new simply be advert, OMG have you seen the women on that

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South

They sound like arseholes.

Onwards and upwards OP!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure why people are saying to have a body shot to stop this happening! There behaviour was unexcusable. Their are far better and far more polite ways of saying "not my type".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is a harsh way to react. I am put off by chubby and average bodies but am not rude about it.

Unless people have health problems there is no excuse not to get in shape though.

I have arthritis and joint problems with old injuries but as you can see from my body I still keep in shape despite it being challenging with my underlying issues. Plus I have demanding job.

So no excuses people, get yourselves in shape for not only an increased sex appeal, but better health too

Good for you! But I'm good as I am ta!

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"It is a harsh way to react. I am put off by chubby and average bodies but am not rude about it.

Unless people have health problems there is no excuse not to get in shape though.

I have arthritis and joint problems with old injuries but as you can see from my body I still keep in shape despite it being challenging with my underlying issues. Plus I have demanding job.

So no excuses people, get yourselves in shape for not only an increased sex appeal, but better health too

A decent attitude to others helps with sex appeal to......

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"If i was walking towards a cliff edge, or smoking/drinking myself into an early grave, I'd want someone to tell me. The truth hurts as they say.

I feel sorry for you. "

It's ok, i lost the spare tyre and im quite healthy now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is a harsh way to react. I am put off by chubby and average bodies but am not rude about it.

Unless people have health problems there is no excuse not to get in shape though.

I have arthritis and joint problems with old injuries but as you can see from my body I still keep in shape despite it being challenging with my underlying issues. Plus I have demanding job.

So no excuses people, get yourselves in shape for not only an increased sex appeal, but better health too

A decent attitude to others helps with sex appeal to......

Absolutely, the girls this thread is about sound utterly foul. No need for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If i was walking towards a cliff edge, or smoking/drinking myself into an early grave, I'd want someone to tell me. The truth hurts as they say. "

Fair enough, but what happened to having a bit of tact?

OP I think they were awful to you. There is no excuse for speaking to someone in such a rude way. I'd consider myself lucky to not be involved with people who have such a shitty and careless attitude.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

maybe people should develop thicker skin i say...

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By *4nc3rCouple
over a year ago

Clacton-On-Sea, Essex

"Painting with a broad brush here, but women are often worse for body shaming (I know, men can do it too)

Ive come across loads of profiles that say "im not a skinny minnie" or "bones are for dogs". Attitudes like that are an instant turn off for me."

Honestly as a woman, I totally agree with this!

Unfortunately I know all too well how much we can body shame, ourselves, other women and especially men.

It might just be me, because I quite like a chubby guy, but I really dislike the concept that men are supposed to accept us larger ladies as "BBWs" and yet any man who isn't 6ft+ and "ripped" should be ignored and disregarded

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"It is a harsh way to react. I am put off by chubby and average bodies but am not rude about it.

Unless people have health problems there is no excuse not to get in shape though.

I have arthritis and joint problems with old injuries but as you can see from my body I still keep in shape despite it being challenging with my underlying issues. Plus I have demanding job.

So no excuses people, get yourselves in shape for not only an increased sex appeal, but better health too

A decent attitude to others helps with sex appeal to......

Absolutely, the girls this thread is about sound utterly foul. No need for it"

I meant you! This isn't about you and your look at me post......and do this and that and you'll be amazing like me post.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"maybe people should develop thicker skin i say...

Oh how ridiculous!!

So people can be rude and nasty and that's fine then because it's not there fault if people get upset.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fucking shaaaaaaaaaame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"maybe people should develop thicker skin i say...

So you think it's OK to be a dick for no reason?

I don't get it. Surely if someone you love and care about was insulted you wouldn't just tell them to not be so sensitive? Why should they be the ones to feel like shit because of a foul mouthed gobshite?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is a harsh way to react. I am put off by chubby and average bodies but am not rude about it.

Unless people have health problems there is no excuse not to get in shape though.

I have arthritis and joint problems with old injuries but as you can see from my body I still keep in shape despite it being challenging with my underlying issues. Plus I have demanding job.

So no excuses people, get yourselves in shape for not only an increased sex appeal, but better health too

A decent attitude to others helps with sex appeal to......

Absolutely, the girls this thread is about sound utterly foul. No need for it

I meant you! This isn't about you and your look at me post......and do this and that and you'll be amazing like me post.....

Oh I see lol. Well I was just trying to get across I have health problems but am staying in shape so no excuse for those able bodied. I honestly don’t have an ego so sorry if you got that impression. You made me laugh though sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is a harsh way to react. I am put off by chubby and average bodies but am not rude about it.

Unless people have health problems there is no excuse not to get in shape though.

I have arthritis and joint problems with old injuries but as you can see from my body I still keep in shape despite it being challenging with my underlying issues. Plus I have demanding job.

So no excuses people, get yourselves in shape for not only an increased sex appeal, but better health too

A decent attitude to others helps with sex appeal to......

Absolutely, the girls this thread is about sound utterly foul. No need for it

I meant you! This isn't about you and your look at me post......and do this and that and you'll be amazing like me post.....

It really came across as "look at me". Also you said you wouldn't be rude about it but you were.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"maybe people should develop thicker skin i say...

So you think it's OK to be a dick for no reason?

i have and i do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life isn't butterflies and Rose's I'm afraid...welcome to the real world.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"maybe people should develop thicker skin i say...

Oh how ridiculous!!

So people can be rude and nasty and that's fine then because it's not there fault if people get upset.

yes

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Life isn't butterflies and Rose's I'm afraid...welcome to the real world. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Life isn't butterflies and Rose's I'm afraid...welcome to the real world. "

Again how ridiculous!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This OP is the reason I show my body as is.. Bar the odd mood filter.

If the majority of me is on display in some way. Yet they're still talking to me. It gives me confidence.

I've had conversations like you described and they hurt. Feel your pain man. If it helps I've seen some stunning women hand in hand with plenty of big lads.

In my experience, attractive people are far less shallow than they're given credit for. Maybe years of attracting ass holes makes them desire someone a little deeper. Have faith man.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"It is a harsh way to react. I am put off by chubby and average bodies but am not rude about it.

Unless people have health problems there is no excuse not to get in shape though.

I have arthritis and joint problems with old injuries but as you can see from my body I still keep in shape despite it being challenging with my underlying issues. Plus I have demanding job.

So no excuses people, get yourselves in shape for not only an increased sex appeal, but better health too

A decent attitude to others helps with sex appeal to......

Absolutely, the girls this thread is about sound utterly foul. No need for it

I meant you! This isn't about you and your look at me post......and do this and that and you'll be amazing like me post.....

And what's average? You've alienated most of the population there.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"maybe people should develop thicker skin i say...

Oh how ridiculous!!

So people can be rude and nasty and that's fine then because it's not there fault if people get upset.

yes"

OK then, some true colour's showing through on this thread.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Life isn't butterflies and Rose's I'm afraid...welcome to the real world.

Again how ridiculous!!!

in your opinion

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"maybe people should develop thicker skin i say...

Oh how ridiculous!!

So people can be rude and nasty and that's fine then because it's not there fault if people get upset.

yes

OK then, some true colour's showing through on this thread. "

now im upset

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is a harsh way to react. I am put off by chubby and average bodies but am not rude about it.

Unless people have health problems there is no excuse not to get in shape though.

I have arthritis and joint problems with old injuries but as you can see from my body I still keep in shape despite it being challenging with my underlying issues. Plus I have demanding job.

So no excuses people, get yourselves in shape for not only an increased sex appeal, but better health too

A decent attitude to others helps with sex appeal to......

Absolutely, the girls this thread is about sound utterly foul. No need for it

I meant you! This isn't about you and your look at me post......and do this and that and you'll be amazing like me post.....

It really came across as "look at me". Also you said you wouldn't be rude about it but you were. "

Christ you are gagging for a fight lol. I just took a Nytol so wont be much cop sorry x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"maybe people should develop thicker skin i say...

Oh how ridiculous!!

So people can be rude and nasty and that's fine then because it's not there fault if people get upset.

yes

OK then, some true colour's showing through on this thread.

now im upset

You have said its OK for people to nasty and rude and it's not their fault if people get upset. I think you should be upset with your attitude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is a harsh way to react. I am put off by chubby and average bodies but am not rude about it.

Unless people have health problems there is no excuse not to get in shape though.

I have arthritis and joint problems with old injuries but as you can see from my body I still keep in shape despite it being challenging with my underlying issues. Plus I have demanding job.

So no excuses people, get yourselves in shape for not only an increased sex appeal, but better health too

A decent attitude to others helps with sex appeal to......

Absolutely, the girls this thread is about sound utterly foul. No need for it

I meant you! This isn't about you and your look at me post......and do this and that and you'll be amazing like me post.....

It really came across as "look at me". Also you said you wouldn't be rude about it but you were.

Christ you are gagging for a fight lol. I just took a Nytol so wont be much cop sorry x"

Not at all, just pointing out what you said.

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By *isterPepperMan
over a year ago

Central Swindon

"It is a harsh way to react. I am put off by chubby and average bodies but am not rude about it.

Unless people have health problems there is no excuse not to get in shape though.

I have arthritis and joint problems with old injuries but as you can see from my body I still keep in shape despite it being challenging with my underlying issues. Plus I have demanding job.

So no excuses people, get yourselves in shape for not only an increased sex appeal, but better health too

No excuses? Nobody owes it to you to be “in shape”. They don’t need excuses, this isn’t a moral issue.

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

And then if you are in shape you get the "spends more time looking in the mirror" comments so you can't win either way

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"maybe people should develop thicker skin i say...

Oh how ridiculous!!

So people can be rude and nasty and that's fine then because it's not there fault if people get upset.

yes

OK then, some true colour's showing through on this thread.

now im upset

You have said its OK for people to nasty and rude and it's not their fault if people get upset. I think you should be upset with your attitude. "

it was sarcasm. im perfectly happy with my life outlook. my kids excel and iv lots of friends... and im successful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"maybe people should develop thicker skin i say...

Oh how ridiculous!!

So people can be rude and nasty and that's fine then because it's not there fault if people get upset.

yes"

Do you not think treating people with respect might be better all round?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"maybe people should develop thicker skin i say...

Oh how ridiculous!!

So people can be rude and nasty and that's fine then because it's not there fault if people get upset.

yes

OK then, some true colour's showing through on this thread.

now im upset

You have said its OK for people to nasty and rude and it's not their fault if people get upset. I think you should be upset with your attitude.

it was sarcasm. im perfectly happy with my life outlook. my kids excel and iv lots of friends... and im successful.

Good

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"maybe people should develop thicker skin i say...

Oh how ridiculous!!

So people can be rude and nasty and that's fine then because it's not there fault if people get upset.

yes

Do you not think treating people with respect might be better all round?"

for who?

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"maybe people should develop thicker skin i say...

Oh how ridiculous!!

So people can be rude and nasty and that's fine then because it's not there fault if people get upset.

yes

OK then, some true colour's showing through on this thread.

now im upset

You have said its OK for people to nasty and rude and it's not their fault if people get upset. I think you should be upset with your attitude.

it was sarcasm. im perfectly happy with my life outlook. my kids excel and iv lots of friends... and im successful.

Good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And then if you are in shape you get the "spends more time looking in the mirror" comments so you can't win either way

So true mate haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can see the beauty of all the girls on here, everyone has there own thing, it might not be for you but you can see appreciate the form.

One of the hottest things I’ve seen on tv atm is the new simply be advert, OMG have you seen the women on that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is a harsh way to react. I am put off by chubby and average bodies but am not rude about it.

Unless people have health problems there is no excuse not to get in shape though.

I have arthritis and joint problems with old injuries but as you can see from my body I still keep in shape despite it being challenging with my underlying issues. Plus I have demanding job.

So no excuses people, get yourselves in shape for not only an increased sex appeal, but better health too

These kind of comments are half the problem.

You're in good physical shape, good for you! But it's none of your (order anyone else's) business what shape someone else is in.

Who are you to say someone has "no excuse" to be gym fit?!

Maybe "average" or "chubby" people are quite happy as they are!

If someone wants to get in shape, it should be for them, not for you, or anyone else! And if they don't, that is just fine too!

People should be able to exist in whatever body they have without getting grief or being told they should look/be different by anyone.

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By *agenta400Woman
over a year ago

All over the shop

So the past week or two talking and getting to know eachother was just a complete waste.

Oh sweetheart, that’s bloody horrid!!

Say up front you’re a BHM, with pride, on your profile. The trolls will pass you by. I’m BBW upfront and have never had that kind of message. Say you’re BHM to attract those ladies interested BHM.

Don’t let them get in your head. Eject them.

Move on.

Big hugs.

Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"maybe people should develop thicker skin i say...

Oh how ridiculous!!

So people can be rude and nasty and that's fine then because it's not there fault if people get upset.

yes

Do you not think treating people with respect might be better all round?

for who?"

Everyone! I think for many people this has been a very useful thread.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

Arhhhhh the water boy trolls......bless em....

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"maybe people should develop thicker skin i say...

Oh how ridiculous!!

So people can be rude and nasty and that's fine then because it's not there fault if people get upset.

yes

Do you not think treating people with respect might be better all round?

for who?

Everyone! I think for many people this has been a very useful thread. "

ah well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, it's fucking shit that people think it's ok to bash others for their appearance. It's never nice. But just remember, for every person who doesn't find you attractive, there will be another who does!

There is nothing 'wrong' with your body! You're simply not for them, and they were fuck nuggets about it.

Try not to give it too much thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you for real....get off the site and join a gym.....????? Your beyond rude....."

And? I don't care about your feelings. As a fellow chubster I can say this.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

Are you for real....get off the site and join a gym.....????? Your beyond rude.....

And? I don't care about your feelings. As a fellow chubster I can say this.

It's an opinion not a feeling...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Imagine a woman posted this and men had slagged her off.

The responses would be so very different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think many of you are getting a bit emotional about what I said generally about getting in shape.

If you are happy as you are then fine, as long as we don't hear moaning about rejection or health problems as a result

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you for real....get off the site and join a gym.....????? Your beyond rude.....

And? I don't care about your feelings. As a fellow chubster I can say this.

It's an opinion not a feeling..."

Emotionally charged opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you for real....get off the site and join a gym.....????? Your beyond rude.....

And? I don't care about your feelings. As a fellow chubster I can say this.

You can say whatever you like...freedom of speech and all that. You still come across hateful and rude.

In my experience, it's normally people who have issues with themsleves that bash others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Imagine a woman posted this and men had slagged her off.

The responses would be so very different. "

I know right, this thread is becoming unbelievable and like I said showing a few true colors are being shown.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"OP, it's fucking shit that people think it's ok to bash others for their appearance. It's never nice. But just remember, for every person who doesn't find you attractive, there will be another who does!

There is nothing 'wrong' with your body! You're simply not for them, and they were fuck nuggets about it.

Try not to give it too much thought. "

but if bad comments hurt you mate id suggest leaving, get thicker skin or change how you look because its brutal here and in life, theres no point trying to hide the fact sometimes people say harsh things sometimes nice things too... someone will find you attractive and tell you so... BUT some wont and will tell you so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think many of you are getting a bit emotional about what I said generally about getting in shape.

If you are happy as you are then fine, as long as we don't hear moaning about rejection or health problems as a result

The OP wasn't moaning about being rejected. He was, understandably upset at the way in which it was done.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"Imagine a woman posted this and men had slagged her off.

The responses would be so very different.

I know right, this thread is becoming unbelievable and like I said showing a few true colors are being shown. "

yes youv said. again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think many of you are getting a bit emotional about what I said generally about getting in shape.

If you are happy as you are then fine, as long as we don't hear moaning about rejection or health problems as a result

The OP wasn't moaning about being rejected. He was, understandably upset at the way in which it was done."

I know I am talking about everyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you for real....get off the site and join a gym.....????? Your beyond rude.....

And? I don't care about your feelings. As a fellow chubster I can say this.

You can say it, but being a 'fellow chubster' doesn't make you beyond reproach

You knew full well that your comments were likely to lead others to bite back - that is why you made them

Sage advice, sugar coated or not, isn't your strong card

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is nothing 'wrong' with your body! You're simply not for them, and they were fuck nuggets about it.

Try not to give it too much thought.

A lot of people need to learn some tact! There's no need to be vile to someone because you don't find them attractive. That's not ok.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

You know what some attitudes are as ugly as they think their bodies are *amazing*......and your right LJ opens your eyes to alot of ppl ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Imagine a woman posted this and men had slagged her off.

The responses would be so very different.

I know right, this thread is becoming unbelievable and like I said showing a few true colors are being shown. "

It’s disgusting

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"I think many of you are getting a bit emotional about what I said generally about getting in shape.

If you are happy as you are then fine, as long as we don't hear moaning about rejection or health problems as a result

The OP wasn't moaning about being rejected. He was, understandably upset at the way in which it was done."

ah well... he'll survive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no excuse for that type of response at all. I know you may not have been their type, after seeing a body shot, but to say such an awful thing is simply terrible. I really hope you don't take this too much to heart OP. Some people lack common decency and respect. It can be hurtful when a nasty comment is thrown at you, because of how you look. Just remember that, although you may not have been their type, there are others who will be very happy to get jiggy with you. As for the user who commented about health issues being the only viable excuse for someone being overweight, it's far more complex than that. If it were that simple, then there wouldn't be an obesity issue.... And it's not always about laziness either.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"There is no excuse for that type of response at all. I know you may not have been their type, after seeing a body shot, but to say such an awful thing is simply terrible. I really hope you don't take this too much to heart OP. Some people lack common decency and respect. It can be hurtful when a nasty comment is thrown at you, because of how you look. Just remember that, although you may not have been their type, there are others who will be very happy to get jiggy with you. As for the user who commented about health issues being the only viable excuse for someone being overweight, it's far more complex than that. If it were that simple, then there wouldn't be an obesity issue.... And it's not always about laziness either."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love you!

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

I love you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spot on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People do love a good scrap on here don’t they lol

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"People do love a good scrap on here don’t they lol"

It's not about scrapping far from it....

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

"People do love a good scrap on here don’t they lol"

they like it one way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People do love a good scrap on here don’t they lol

It's not about scrapping far from it...."

Quite the opposite in fact!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People do love a good scrap on here don’t they lol"

Yup

Don't you be getting all aggressive now the Nytols kicked in either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People do love a good scrap on here don’t they lol"

No, people just won't sit back and leave a very bad attitude unchallenged. The OP was just saying something that had happened to him and he got rounded on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People do love a good scrap on here don’t they lol"

That almost sounds like you are goading people in to a scrap?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People do love a good scrap on here don’t they lol"

Disagreeing is not arguing

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"People do love a good scrap on here don’t they lol

they like it one way! "

Not at all......a thread about someone being body shamed then gets even more shaming?.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People do love a good scrap on here don’t they lol

they like it one way! "

I think it's clear that a lot of us simply don't think anyone deserves to get abuse because of how they look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Body shaming is always going to be so e people's go to when they feel like insulting you.

Maybe the issue is it's become acceptable to be rude online and we should address that as well.

For me I am a big lad (fat) and I am happy with who I am. We have great friends on here that love spending time with me and enjoy that time.

For those that don't fancy me or do t do a fat lad my answer is always the same have fun and happy fabbing and I just move on

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By *isterPepperMan
over a year ago

Central Swindon

ah well... he'll survive "

I daresay he will, but some do not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People do love a good scrap on here don’t they lol

That almost sounds like you are goading people in to a scrap?"

I am sure people would scrap with or without me or you adding comments in relation to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ah well... he'll survive

I daresay he will, but some do not "

Exactly! No one is deserving of it, whether they're able to brush it off or not. Body shaming is totally fucking unnecessary!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People do love a good scrap on here don’t they lol

Yup

Don't you be getting all aggressive now the Nytols kicked in either

"
m

Nytol rage they call it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could off been best night of there lifes ha oh well onward and upwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading through this thread has reinforced what I've witnessed over the years on fab. It's not the best looking, fittest most successful who have what's of real value. Those are purely outward appearances and can very soon be taken away in an instant. It's what's inside that matters and that comes from understanding and appreciating what's really important.

Great thread for exposure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t worry you can Comment on my profile folks, as I will be knocked out on Nytol shortly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be a shit place at times.. But loving the Forum Female show of Force on this thread

Even I'd think twice about taking you lot on

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"It can be a shit place at times.. But loving the Forum Female show of Force on this thread

Even I'd think twice about taking you lot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is a harsh way to react. I am put off by chubby and average bodies but am not rude about it.

Unless people have health problems there is no excuse not to get in shape though.

I have arthritis and joint problems with old injuries but as you can see from my body I still keep in shape despite it being challenging with my underlying issues. Plus I have demanding job.

So no excuses people, get yourselves in shape for not only an increased sex appeal, but better health too

Having an ‘in shape’ body does not guarantee more sex appeal. Many guys that message me with gym fit bodies do nothing for me because I may not find their face attractive. Sexy is not a shape.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It can be a shit place at times.. But loving the Forum Female show of Force on this thread

Even I'd think twice about taking you lot on

Girl power!!

the 90's are making a come back, don't you know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All have big boobs too I notice, these strong women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It can be a shit place at times.. But loving the Forum Female show of Force on this thread

Even I'd think twice about taking you lot on

That's a shame!

I enjoy a wrestle!

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"Don’t worry you can Comment on my profile folks, as I will be knocked out on Nytol shortly "

No ta...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It can be a shit place at times.. But loving the Forum Female show of Force on this thread

Even I'd think twice about taking you lot on

You can take me on bby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is a harsh way to react. I am put off by chubby and average bodies but am not rude about it.

Unless people have health problems there is no excuse not to get in shape though.

I have arthritis and joint problems with old injuries but as you can see from my body I still keep in shape despite it being challenging with my underlying issues. Plus I have demanding job.

So no excuses people, get yourselves in shape for not only an increased sex appeal, but better health too

Having an ‘in shape’ body does not guarantee more sex appeal. Many guys that message me with gym fit bodies do nothing for me because I may not find their face attractive. Sexy is not a shape. "

Fit mind trumps everything!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It can be a shit place at times.. But loving the Forum Female show of Force on this thread

Even I'd think twice about taking you lot on

Girl power!!

the 90's are making a come back, don't you know.

Who is which Spice Girl?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People do love a good scrap on here don’t they lol

they like it one way! "

You may have shot yourself in the foot not just once but your arrogance may have sealed it for many who only read the forums.

Best forums aren't about goading, but rather respectful debate which isn't personalised, then you get respect from others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It can be a shit place at times.. But loving the Forum Female show of Force on this thread

Even I'd think twice about taking you lot on

That's a shame!

I enjoy a wrestle!

I said think twice.. But when has that stopped me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It can be a shit place at times.. But loving the Forum Female show of Force on this thread

Even I'd think twice about taking you lot on

You can take me on bby"

Thought you'd called me boy then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"maybe people should develop thicker skin i say...

No, people should be polite about rejecting someone not ridicule them with cruel words. No excuse and OP, you didn’t miss out, they don’t sound like nice people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People do love a good scrap on here don’t they lol

they like it one way!

You may have shot yourself in the foot not just once but your arrogance may have sealed it for many who only read the forums.

Best forums aren't about goading, but rather respectful debate which isn't personalised, then you get respect from others."

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"People do love a good scrap on here don’t they lol

they like it one way!

You may have shot yourself in the foot not just once but your arrogance may have sealed it for many who only read the forums.

Best forums aren't about goading, but rather respectful debate which isn't personalised, then you get respect from others."

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is a harsh way to react. I am put off by chubby and average bodies but am not rude about it.

Unless people have health problems there is no excuse not to get in shape though.

I have arthritis and joint problems with old injuries but as you can see from my body I still keep in shape despite it being challenging with my underlying issues. Plus I have demanding job.

So no excuses people, get yourselves in shape for not only an increased sex appeal, but better health too

Having an ‘in shape’ body does not guarantee more sex appeal. Many guys that message me with gym fit bodies do nothing for me because I may not find their face attractive. Sexy is not a shape.

Fit mind trumps everything! "

Oh absolutely, mind over body any day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All have big boobs too I notice, these strong women "

Big hearts as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"maybe people should develop thicker skin i say...

No, people should be polite about rejecting someone not ridicule them with cruel words. No excuse and OP, you didn’t miss out, they don’t sound like nice people. "

I agree with this he had a lucky escape, no one should be rude with rejecting people no need for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All have big boobs too I notice, these strong women "

Need to be strong to carry these girls around all day. They weigh heavier than my shopping.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll be back in 48hrs to have a butchers lol

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London&Dublin

Body shaming is wrong and we are all sorry for what happened, OP.

I think many are being supportive by giving their advice and sharing their experiences.

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/883697

We can't control other people's action, but we can control ours OP. Keep it up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All have big boobs too I notice, these strong women

Need to be strong to carry these girls around all day. They weigh heavier than my shopping. "

Lol

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

I'm going to close this as it is getting nasty.

A link to the forum rules, especially the nit-picking one

https://www.fabswingers.com/content/forum-rules

You should report any abusive messages you receive, let Admin take a look.

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