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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why is it so hard for a single guy to talk to ppl wen messaging Iv been on and off here for years single and as a cpl but this time round it seems no women or cpls want to talk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to the forums!

Women and couples do want to talk. Presumably to people they are interested in. So if they aren’t interested in you, they won’t want to talk

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

I wouldn't Wana chat based on the fact your profiles given me nothing about you and you'd probably just give a hey how are you standard message which never usually goes anywhere as I've learnt.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't Wana chat based on the fact your profiles given me nothing about you and you'd probably just give a hey how are you standard message which never usually goes anywhere as I've learnt. "

Ok can wat kinds of things should put on my profile any tips would b grate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't Wana chat based on the fact your profiles given me nothing about you and you'd probably just give a hey how are you standard message which never usually goes anywhere as I've learnt.

Ok can wat kinds of things should put on my profile any tips would b grate "

Sell yourself. Get a more variety of pictures up.

What are you interested in? What do you like? What kind of women do you like? Tell us about yourself

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I wouldn't Wana chat based on the fact your profiles given me nothing about you and you'd probably just give a hey how are you standard message which never usually goes anywhere as I've learnt.

Ok can wat kinds of things should put on my profile any tips would b grate

Thank you I’ll have a rethink and put something on

Sell yourself. Get a more variety of pictures up.

What are you interested in? What do you like? What kind of women do you like? Tell us about yourself "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry fella but you’re on a site with a hundred men to every woman, and probably not too many more couples. You have to put some effort in on your profile and be patient, get yourself to a club too. Stand out from the crowd. Finally, complaining on forums won’t win you much sympathy with single women and couples....these posts seldom end well but good luck

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

been here 5 months and 2 meets, your doing ok fella

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sorry fella but you’re on a site with a hundred men to every woman, and probably not too many more couples. You have to put some effort in on your profile and be patient, get yourself to a club too. Stand out from the crowd. Finally, complaining on forums won’t win you much sympathy with single women and couples....these posts seldom end well but good luck "

Cheers mate will have a rethink and change my profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"been here 5 months and 2 meets, your doing ok fella"

Previously been on here as a single guy and was a total different place I had loads of verifications I think there are loads more males on now than b4 I was also on here with my ex that was a lot of fun going to party’s and clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't deal with text talk so that would put me off

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"I can't deal with text talk so that would put me off

P"

That usually sinks a guy's chances

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can't deal with text talk so that would put me off

P"

I didn’t realise I used txt speak until you said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it so hard for a single guy to talk to ppl wen messaging Iv been on and off here for years single and as a cpl but this time round it seems no women or cpls want to talk "

I have the same problem getting chats, but don't take it personal. It's a woman's world on here.

You have already met a woman though, and that is much better than many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't deal with text talk so that would put me off

P

That usually sinks a guy's chances "

Yep, I like the convo to flow rather than need to decipher it making it effort.

P

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"I can't deal with text talk so that would put me off

P

That usually sinks a guy's chances

Yep, I like the convo to flow rather than need to decipher it making it effort.

P"

Hilarious way of putting it I would've used the term decrypting myself

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Why is it so hard for a single guy to talk to ppl wen messaging Iv been on and off here for years single and as a cpl but this time round it seems no women or cpls want to talk

I have the same problem getting chats, but don't take it personal. It's a woman's world on here.

You have already met a woman though, and that is much better than many. "

It's not a woman's world at all - it's a common misconception that it is, mainly amongst single guys who find the site doesn't live up to their (false) expectations - whilst it's true that men outnumber women by around 10:1 on here, if you take away those men who don't "get" the site, have the wrong expectations of it, and adopt the wrong attitude and approach to it, then the numbers are a lot more evenly balanced - it still doesn't guarantee a thing of course, but you generally find those men on the even side of the balance aren't the ones saying they struggle to strike up conversations or get meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it so hard for a single guy to talk to ppl wen messaging Iv been on and off here for years single and as a cpl but this time round it seems no women or cpls want to talk

I have the same problem getting chats, but don't take it personal. It's a woman's world on here.

You have already met a woman though, and that is much better than many.

It's not a woman's world at all - it's a common misconception that it is, mainly amongst single guys who find the site doesn't live up to their (false) expectations - whilst it's true that men outnumber women by around 10:1 on here, if you take away those men who don't "get" the site, have the wrong expectations of it, and adopt the wrong attitude and approach to it, then the numbers are a lot more evenly balanced - it still doesn't guarantee a thing of course, but you generally find those men on the even side of the balance aren't the ones saying they struggle to strike up conversations or get meets "

Oh how I do love you

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Many reasons but largely it is choice - or plenty of it in particular. The site is busier than in the past and guys who stay around improve how they use it or else get others who will do better than they do, all things being equal.

Focus on demonstrating clearly how you may be a good match for someone. If it's hard to deduce this, they will meet the person who made it easy enough. Put yourself in our shoes and consider what we need to see and learn about you as a minimum and ask yourself if you are giving me and others that chance. We have limited time, so don't make it slower or harder than it needs to be.

I look at profiles if I get a message or am looking to find a guy. I need to see if he physically appeals and his personality and interests match. I like clear photos that show enough of a guy to make me a little excited. I'm not alone in that, I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes photos first, with no dick pics, face pic ideal. If the woman only wants a big dick they will either say on their profile or ask you at some point.

Put decent info on your profile, what you are looking for, interests hobby, kind of person, etc.

Avoid fancy a fuck, can you/want to meet now, hi how are you, shit like that. Avoid text speech + write like an adult if you want to do adult things.

... and chat to a woman like you would if you were trying to "pull her" in the real world. If you can't do that then get off this site + learn first.

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By *riplefMan
over a year ago

Burntwood

The guy/girl ratio is probably about 20/1 if not worse. We are a massive majority here unfortunately. Appearance is everything because that is what people see first. Nice guys finish last, as Greenday said! Haha would be great to be a girl on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find when you don't look it happens. Also go to a club, socialise and mingle higher percentages of having fun rather pressing that browse and 'next' button on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had any problems I think it's all about effort managing expectations and being true to yourself do the mates test.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't deal with text talk so that would put me off

P"

Same here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never had any problems I think it's all about effort managing expectations and being true to yourself do the mates test."

Exactly right!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I wouldn't Wana chat based on the fact your profiles given me nothing about you and you'd probably just give a hey how are you standard message which never usually goes anywhere as I've learnt.

Ok can wat kinds of things should put on my profile any tips would b grate "
Here's something a lady posted... https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/879358

And another useful one from a single male...

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/support/8538.

You'd do well to read these, there's also advice on my profile for newbies and people who aren't getting meets should you wish to use it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t find it difficult finding women to chat to. However converting that into meeting them I am rubbish at. I can accumulate plenty of women as friends that have no desire to have sex with me. And those that initially might have, soon go off the idea.

You’re at the right age to do quite well on here, if you present yourself well, get a good selection of pictures and let people see your personality on here.

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

In just wing it

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