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"They say women are complicated but some men are far worse! There are always a few posts on here looking to gain understanding of a situation. Usually a man has left a woman feeling like a fool in some way. Why do men do it? Is there a secret class in school where they learn how to be a dick or where to hurt a woman most? Is it purely because they dont think and suddenly there is some jolt of conscience and they run so they don't have to face us? At 35 I genuinely thought I was past all the drama and games. Sadly I fear I'm an easy target! So men tell me what goes through your minds? (Aside from the desires of your penis)" dunno what u mean luv i never went to school | |||
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"My dad always said that a 'standing prick has no conscience'. Possibly that explains some mens behaviour?" What if it suddenly finds it at the worst moment? | |||
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"The penis can overrule the brain, when the penis is sated the brain kicks back in. It's not a conscious thing, we can't control it. Think of us as victims." In what way, give an example | |||
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"Male ego is a fragile thing along with insecurity, can often be root causes of a man’s bad behaviour..." I concur | |||
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"I'm more in the class of if you let someone fool you..more fool you kinda chick. " If I feel hard done by I look at my role in the situation as this is the one thing I can control. | |||
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"Male ego is a fragile thing along with insecurity, can often be root causes of a man’s bad behaviour..." I think we may be getting somewhere now... | |||
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"Unfortunately it's often because we let them. I couldn't think of a way to word that without it being anti men. There are plenty of women out there doing it too. They sense vulnerability and swoop in. " Agreed | |||
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"Unfortunately it's often because we let them. I couldn't think of a way to word that without it being anti men. There are plenty of women out there doing it too. They sense vulnerability and swoop in. Agreed " If the bloke is really doing that then it’s a bad person, nothing to do with being male or female. Someone like that should be kicked out of your life immediately | |||
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"Unfortunately it's often because we let them. I couldn't think of a way to word that without it being anti men. There are plenty of women out there doing it too. They sense vulnerability and swoop in. Agreed If the bloke is really doing that then it’s a bad person, nothing to do with being male or female. Someone like that should be kicked out of your life immediately " | |||
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"Unfortunately it's often because we let them. I couldn't think of a way to word that without it being anti men. There are plenty of women out there doing it too. They sense vulnerability and swoop in. Agreed If the bloke is really doing that then it’s a bad person, nothing to do with being male or female. Someone like that should be kicked out of your life immediately " I agree but often they manipulate you and you don't realise until you are in too deep. There are so many people in abusive relationships because they can't just walk away. | |||
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"I'm more in the class of if you let someone fool you..more fool you kinda chick. If I feel hard done by I look at my role in the situation as this is the one thing I can control." very true | |||
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"Unfortunately it's often because we let them. I couldn't think of a way to word that without it being anti men. There are plenty of women out there doing it too. They sense vulnerability and swoop in. Agreed If the bloke is really doing that then it’s a bad person, nothing to do with being male or female. Someone like that should be kicked out of your life immediately I agree but often they manipulate you and you don't realise until you are in too deep. There are so many people in abusive relationships because they can't just walk away. " Fair point. And when you say that it makes more sense, there are people like that | |||
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"Unfortunately it's often because we let them. I couldn't think of a way to word that without it being anti men. There are plenty of women out there doing it too. They sense vulnerability and swoop in. Agreed If the bloke is really doing that then it’s a bad person, nothing to do with being male or female. Someone like that should be kicked out of your life immediately I agree but often they manipulate you and you don't realise until you are in too deep. There are so many people in abusive relationships because they can't just walk away. " | |||
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"The penis can overrule the brain, when the penis is sated the brain kicks back in. It's not a conscious thing, we can't control it. Think of us as victims." You poor loves.... | |||
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"I tend not to think of it as a men vs women thing - more a people thing - there will always be those that seek to take advantage, to think they're the only thing that matters, who lack respect and consideration and think it's ok to walk all over people - just as there will always be people who are the complete polar opposite of that, and those that fall somewhere in between. The problem is not men, it's not women, it's people and people are strange at times " Exactly, gender has nothing to do with it. | |||
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"I tend not to think of it as a men vs women thing - more a people thing - there will always be those that seek to take advantage, to think they're the only thing that matters, who lack respect and consideration and think it's ok to walk all over people - just as there will always be people who are the complete polar opposite of that, and those that fall somewhere in between. The problem is not men, it's not women, it's people and people are strange at times " I agree with Gemini. It’s a personality trait that makes people treat others a particular way | |||
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"Men.... Women ... different wiring! I won’t be derogatory per se - save to say after this week my enjoyment of fab somewhat declined rapidly" Don’t let it ruin Fab for you it is a good site, we all at some point get messages that are off putting but not a reflection of everyone. I had a couple message me last week who wanted to be my human toilet how do you think I felt after, wretched lol | |||
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"Unfortunately it's often because we let them. I couldn't think of a way to word that without it being anti men. There are plenty of women out there doing it too. They sense vulnerability and swoop in. Agreed If the bloke is really doing that then it’s a bad person, nothing to do with being male or female. Someone like that should be kicked out of your life immediately I agree but often they manipulate you and you don't realise until you are in too deep. There are so many people in abusive relationships because they can't just walk away. " I met a friend for coffee yesterday who is in another ‘locked in’ relationship and felt embarrassed to tell me so. He was in one when I met him that took him years to get out of. Some men court the situations they find themselves in. | |||
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"The penis can overrule the brain, when the penis is sated the brain kicks back in. It's not a conscious thing, we can't control it. Think of us as victims. You poor loves.... " I'm thinking of starting a charity | |||
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"I tend not to think of it as a men vs women thing - more a people thing - there will always be those that seek to take advantage, to think they're the only thing that matters, who lack respect and consideration and think it's ok to walk all over people - just as there will always be people who are the complete polar opposite of that, and those that fall somewhere in between. The problem is not men, it's not women, it's people and people are strange at times I agree with Gemini. It’s a personality trait that makes people treat others a particular way " I would agree Babs | |||
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"Men.... Women ... different wiring! I won’t be derogatory per se - save to say after this week my enjoyment of fab somewhat declined rapidly Don’t let it ruin Fab for you it is a good site, we all at some point get messages that are off putting but not a reflection of everyone. I had a couple message me last week who wanted to be my human toilet how do you think I felt after, wretched lol " I imagine you did! I know it’s not a reflection of everyone but it’s that ONE comment that stands out | |||
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"Unfortunately it's often because we let them. I couldn't think of a way to word that without it being anti men. There are plenty of women out there doing it too. They sense vulnerability and swoop in. Agreed If the bloke is really doing that then it’s a bad person, nothing to do with being male or female. Someone like that should be kicked out of your life immediately I agree but often they manipulate you and you don't realise until you are in too deep. There are so many people in abusive relationships because they can't just walk away. I met a friend for coffee yesterday who is in another ‘locked in’ relationship and felt embarrassed to tell me so. He was in one when I met him that took him years to get out of. Some men court the situations they find themselves in. " That sounds remarkably like victim blaming there. If a woman was in that situation then it would be calling it emotional abuse, because it's a guy; hes courted the situation? | |||
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"Unfortunately it's often because we let them. I couldn't think of a way to word that without it being anti men. There are plenty of women out there doing it too. They sense vulnerability and swoop in. Agreed If the bloke is really doing that then it’s a bad person, nothing to do with being male or female. Someone like that should be kicked out of your life immediately I agree but often they manipulate you and you don't realise until you are in too deep. There are so many people in abusive relationships because they can't just walk away. " that also swings both ways too pregnancy trapping for example | |||
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"I tend not to think of it as a men vs women thing - more a people thing - there will always be those that seek to take advantage, to think they're the only thing that matters, who lack respect and consideration and think it's ok to walk all over people - just as there will always be people who are the complete polar opposite of that, and those that fall somewhere in between. The problem is not men, it's not women, it's people and people are strange at times Exactly, gender has nothing to do with it. " well said | |||
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"Also, if women keep on choosing wrong un’s, then surely it’s better to stop and reflect upon what is making them choose said wrong uns. We have a choice in who we choose." We can only choose going on what we have before us. If someone is pretending to be something they aren't, we don't have all the information. Some people change too. | |||
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"Men and women are very similar they both can get hurt , there not from a different planet .. perhaps us ladies fall in love a bit quicker than guys but once a guy has found the person he loves they are capable of deep love . We all become more vulnerable once in love but it’s not a bad thing . " . Very true | |||
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"Also, if women keep on choosing wrong un’s, then surely it’s better to stop and reflect upon what is making them choose said wrong uns. We have a choice in who we choose. We can only choose going on what we have before us. If someone is pretending to be something they aren't, we don't have all the information. Some people change too." But surely that only happens once? Once you’ve been with someone who does that you get wise to that behaviour? You’ve lived it, you learn from it and you check out that the next person you get involved with isn’t like that? | |||
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"Wow I did a thread 5 years ago inquiring into understanding a woman’s mind, that in my mind wasn’t derogatory towards women at all. I was roasted and flamed on the Forum spit. I was accused of misogyny and torn asunder in a verbal tirade. Times have changed. " Shhhhhh first rule of double standards club is dont mention the double standards | |||
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"Wow I did a thread 5 years ago inquiring into understanding a woman’s mind, that in my mind wasn’t derogatory towards women at all. I was roasted and flamed on the Forum spit. I was accused of misogyny and torn asunder in a verbal tirade. Times have changed. Shhhhhh first rule of double standards club is dont mention the double standards " | |||
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"The penis can overrule the brain, when the penis is sated the brain kicks back in. It's not a conscious thing, we can't control it. Think of us as victims." Im starting a victim support group... queue this way please | |||
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"Unfortunately it's often because we let them. I couldn't think of a way to word that without it being anti men. There are plenty of women out there doing it too. They sense vulnerability and swoop in. Agreed If the bloke is really doing that then it’s a bad person, nothing to do with being male or female. Someone like that should be kicked out of your life immediately I agree but often they manipulate you and you don't realise until you are in too deep. There are so many people in abusive relationships because they can't just walk away. I met a friend for coffee yesterday who is in another ‘locked in’ relationship and felt embarrassed to tell me so. He was in one when I met him that took him years to get out of. Some men court the situations they find themselves in. That sounds remarkably like victim blaming there. If a woman was in that situation then it would be calling it emotional abuse, because it's a guy; hes courted the situation? " If you knew him you’d know where I’m coming from | |||
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"Also, if women keep on choosing wrong un’s, then surely it’s better to stop and reflect upon what is making them choose said wrong uns. We have a choice in who we choose. We can only choose going on what we have before us. If someone is pretending to be something they aren't, we don't have all the information. Some people change too. But surely that only happens once? Once you’ve been with someone who does that you get wise to that behaviour? You’ve lived it, you learn from it and you check out that the next person you get involved with isn’t like that? " If it's normal behaviour how do you know they will change, or are lying? Until they change, or are caught lying you're none the wiser. | |||
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"Male ego is a fragile thing along with insecurity, can often be root causes of a man’s bad behaviour..." What is 'a man's bad behaviour' ? So often phrases are splurged on posts and they have NO substance... What is it ? | |||
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"The penis can overrule the brain, when the penis is sated the brain kicks back in. It's not a conscious thing, we can't control it. Think of us as victims. You poor loves.... I'm thinking of starting a charity" I will donate heavily ....... very heavily | |||
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"Unfortunately it's often because we let them. I couldn't think of a way to word that without it being anti men. There are plenty of women out there doing it too. They sense vulnerability and swoop in. " ...just like that film. The Eagle Has Landed! | |||
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"Wow I did a thread 5 years ago inquiring into understanding a woman’s mind, that in my mind wasn’t derogatory towards women at all. I was roasted and flamed on the Forum spit. I was accused of misogyny and torn asunder in a verbal tirade. Times have changed. " ohhhhhhhhhhh can you find it for us ? | |||
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"Unfortunately it's often because we let them. I couldn't think of a way to word that without it being anti men. There are plenty of women out there doing it too. They sense vulnerability and swoop in. Agreed If the bloke is really doing that then it’s a bad person, nothing to do with being male or female. Someone like that should be kicked out of your life immediately I agree but often they manipulate you and you don't realise until you are in too deep. There are so many people in abusive relationships because they can't just walk away. I met a friend for coffee yesterday who is in another ‘locked in’ relationship and felt embarrassed to tell me so. He was in one when I met him that took him years to get out of. Some men court the situations they find themselves in. That sounds remarkably like victim blaming there. If a woman was in that situation then it would be calling it emotional abuse, because it's a guy; hes courted the situation? " | |||
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"All I can say is I hope that he's feeling as shitty as me right now!" What happened? | |||
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"Unfortunately it's often because we let them. I couldn't think of a way to word that without it being anti men. There are plenty of women out there doing it too. They sense vulnerability and swoop in. Agreed If the bloke is really doing that then it’s a bad person, nothing to do with being male or female. Someone like that should be kicked out of your life immediately I agree but often they manipulate you and you don't realise until you are in too deep. There are so many people in abusive relationships because they can't just walk away. " I could say woman do the same, manipulate even better, enough said they have vagina and man as someone noticed thinking with dick, therefore it's much easier for woman to manipulate man | |||
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"I'm more in the class of if you let someone fool you..more fool you kinda chick. If I feel hard done by I look at my role in the situation as this is the one thing I can control." I like this | |||
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"I don't believe it's gender specific. We are all affected by our own life experiences and some handle it better than others. Lots of breakdowns are more to do with what's unsaid rather than said. My motto has always been that I can't be hurt by truth, but not everyone is capable or wants to let you in. Both genders have insecurities that make them behave in a way that's not always clear. The key is working out who's worth letting close. " | |||
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"We need an awakening as a race, and find out Why we always want to hurt each other " Yes, I think people generally act out of their own pain. Only love and kindness can break the cycle. | |||
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"We need an awakening as a race, and find out Why we always want to hurt each other Yes, I think people generally act out of their own pain. Only love and kindness can break the cycle. " Feels like we always look for someone to beat on who will take the pain for us, willingly or not, rather than solve it for ourselves with kindness. | |||
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"I gave up with this thread half way down...... .....when people start treating other people as people indmstaed of a gender then we'll be equal and shit will be a lot easier to understand and explain. Taking gender sides in an argument gives you an instant 50% weighting but it also gives you the same opposition and what have we learned recently about 50:50 conflict resolution..... Sad at pretty much everything written here, except for PM's wisdom of accepting your own roleans looking for improvement.... Peace innit " I accept my own role in having shit typing above and I'll be looking to improve..... | |||
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"There is an important point ( to my mind ) that hasn't been mentioned. Some people - NOT having been offered ANYTHING other than sexual acquaintance - create an alternative reality based on their own wants and blame the other when it doesn't fully materialise. Some people let themselves down. I agree with Gemini that it's personality not gender. It happens to people. " I agree with this. I'm not saying that it's the situation in this case but often people get hurt because of what they hoped for rather than what was on offer or agreed to. | |||
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"There is an important point ( to my mind ) that hasn't been mentioned. Some people - NOT having been offered ANYTHING other than sexual acquaintance - create an alternative reality based on their own wants and blame the other when it doesn't fully materialise. Some people let themselves down. I agree with Gemini that it's personality not gender. It happens to people. I agree with this. I'm not saying that it's the situation in this case but often people get hurt because of what they hoped for rather than what was on offer or agreed to. " Fuck yes! Ppl can see what they want in a person, often not what's on offer..... | |||
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"There is an important point ( to my mind ) that hasn't been mentioned. Some people - NOT having been offered ANYTHING other than sexual acquaintance - create an alternative reality based on their own wants and blame the other when it doesn't fully materialise. Some people let themselves down. I agree with Gemini that it's personality not gender. It happens to people. I agree with this. I'm not saying that it's the situation in this case but often people get hurt because of what they hoped for rather than what was on offer or agreed to. " Totally agree. Was actually the subject of thread I was thinking about.. round peg, square hole. | |||
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"There is an important point ( to my mind ) that hasn't been mentioned. Some people - NOT having been offered ANYTHING other than sexual acquaintance - create an alternative reality based on their own wants and blame the other when it doesn't fully materialise. Some people let themselves down. I agree with Gemini that it's personality not gender. It happens to people. I agree with this. I'm not saying that it's the situation in this case but often people get hurt because of what they hoped for rather than what was on offer or agreed to. Fuck yes! Ppl can see what they want in a person, often not what's on offer..... " Have to agree with this too. They can invent a future that just isnt happening. | |||
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"There is an important point ( to my mind ) that hasn't been mentioned. Some people - NOT having been offered ANYTHING other than sexual acquaintance - create an alternative reality based on their own wants and blame the other when it doesn't fully materialise. Some people let themselves down. I agree with Gemini that it's personality not gender. It happens to people. I agree with this. I'm not saying that it's the situation in this case but often people get hurt because of what they hoped for rather than what was on offer or agreed to. Totally agree. Was actually the subject of thread I was thinking about.. round peg, square hole. " Perv! | |||
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"There is an important point ( to my mind ) that hasn't been mentioned. Some people - NOT having been offered ANYTHING other than sexual acquaintance - create an alternative reality based on their own wants and blame the other when it doesn't fully materialise. Some people let themselves down. I agree with Gemini that it's personality not gender. It happens to people. I agree with this. I'm not saying that it's the situation in this case but often people get hurt because of what they hoped for rather than what was on offer or agreed to. Totally agree. Was actually the subject of thread I was thinking about.. round peg, square hole. Perv! " Not that kinda pegging.. | |||
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"There is an important point ( to my mind ) that hasn't been mentioned. Some people - NOT having been offered ANYTHING other than sexual acquaintance - create an alternative reality based on their own wants and blame the other when it doesn't fully materialise. Some people let themselves down. I agree with Gemini that it's personality not gender. It happens to people. I agree with this. I'm not saying that it's the situation in this case but often people get hurt because of what they hoped for rather than what was on offer or agreed to. Totally agree. Was actually the subject of thread I was thinking about.. round peg, square hole. Perv! Not that kinda pegging.. " Just, you said hole and it made me moist.... | |||
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"There is an important point ( to my mind ) that hasn't been mentioned. Some people - NOT having been offered ANYTHING other than sexual acquaintance - create an alternative reality based on their own wants and blame the other when it doesn't fully materialise. Some people let themselves down. I agree with Gemini that it's personality not gender. It happens to people. I agree with this. I'm not saying that it's the situation in this case but often people get hurt because of what they hoped for rather than what was on offer or agreed to. Fuck yes! Ppl can see what they want in a person, often not what's on offer..... " I think it's a case of projecting feelings and emotions onto the other person and making the evidence fit the desire. We don't do that in any other situation in life though, we don't agree to buy a cheeseburger then complain when it's not a big mac. | |||
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"There is an important point ( to my mind ) that hasn't been mentioned. Some people - NOT having been offered ANYTHING other than sexual acquaintance - create an alternative reality based on their own wants and blame the other when it doesn't fully materialise. Some people let themselves down. I agree with Gemini that it's personality not gender. It happens to people. I agree with this. I'm not saying that it's the situation in this case but often people get hurt because of what they hoped for rather than what was on offer or agreed to. Totally agree. Was actually the subject of thread I was thinking about.. round peg, square hole. Perv! Not that kinda pegging.. Just, you said hole and it made me moist.... " Yeah... A thread about pegging holes might get a different reaction than intended... Anyway, we're derailing! | |||
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"There is an important point ( to my mind ) that hasn't been mentioned. Some people - NOT having been offered ANYTHING other than sexual acquaintance - create an alternative reality based on their own wants and blame the other when it doesn't fully materialise. Some people let themselves down. I agree with Gemini that it's personality not gender. It happens to people. I agree with this. I'm not saying that it's the situation in this case but often people get hurt because of what they hoped for rather than what was on offer or agreed to. Fuck yes! Ppl can see what they want in a person, often not what's on offer..... I think it's a case of projecting feelings and emotions onto the other person and making the evidence fit the desire. We don't do that in any other situation in life though, we don't agree to buy a cheeseburger then complain when it's not a big mac. " There's a lot of that on here.. people not taking responsibility for their own actions and creating situations that upset them of their own participation. | |||
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"There is an important point ( to my mind ) that hasn't been mentioned. Some people - NOT having been offered ANYTHING other than sexual acquaintance - create an alternative reality based on their own wants and blame the other when it doesn't fully materialise. Some people let themselves down. I agree with Gemini that it's personality not gender. It happens to people. I agree with this. I'm not saying that it's the situation in this case but often people get hurt because of what they hoped for rather than what was on offer or agreed to. Fuck yes! Ppl can see what they want in a person, often not what's on offer..... I think it's a case of projecting feelings and emotions onto the other person and making the evidence fit the desire. We don't do that in any other situation in life though, we don't agree to buy a cheeseburger then complain when it's not a big mac. There's a lot of that on here.. people not taking responsibility for their own actions and creating situations that upset them of their own participation. " Exactly, then blaming the other person for 'making them' feel a certain way. There are those that wilfully lead others on and manipulate, there are others who do it to themselves. Self awareness and managing our own emotions is crucial, I think. | |||
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"There is an important point ( to my mind ) that hasn't been mentioned. Some people - NOT having been offered ANYTHING other than sexual acquaintance - create an alternative reality based on their own wants and blame the other when it doesn't fully materialise. Some people let themselves down. I agree with Gemini that it's personality not gender. It happens to people. I agree with this. I'm not saying that it's the situation in this case but often people get hurt because of what they hoped for rather than what was on offer or agreed to. Fuck yes! Ppl can see what they want in a person, often not what's on offer..... I think it's a case of projecting feelings and emotions onto the other person and making the evidence fit the desire. We don't do that in any other situation in life though, we don't agree to buy a cheeseburger then complain when it's not a big mac. There's a lot of that on here.. people not taking responsibility for their own actions and creating situations that upset them of their own participation. Exactly, then blaming the other person for 'making them' feel a certain way. There are those that wilfully lead others on and manipulate, there are others who do it to themselves. Self awareness and managing our own emotions is crucial, I think. " There's a huge lack of self awareness on here sometimes. It's so easy to slate the other person for not being what you want them to be. | |||
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"There is an important point ( to my mind ) that hasn't been mentioned. Some people - NOT having been offered ANYTHING other than sexual acquaintance - create an alternative reality based on their own wants and blame the other when it doesn't fully materialise. Some people let themselves down. I agree with Gemini that it's personality not gender. It happens to people. I agree with this. I'm not saying that it's the situation in this case but often people get hurt because of what they hoped for rather than what was on offer or agreed to. Fuck yes! Ppl can see what they want in a person, often not what's on offer..... I think it's a case of projecting feelings and emotions onto the other person and making the evidence fit the desire. We don't do that in any other situation in life though, we don't agree to buy a cheeseburger then complain when it's not a big mac. There's a lot of that on here.. people not taking responsibility for their own actions and creating situations that upset them of their own participation. Exactly, then blaming the other person for 'making them' feel a certain way. There are those that wilfully lead others on and manipulate, there are others who do it to themselves. Self awareness and managing our own emotions is crucial, I think. There's a huge lack of self awareness on here sometimes. It's so easy to slate the other person for not being what you want them to be. " I'm wherever you want me to be. Think my profile says as much.... (hope other ppl don't take it literally) | |||
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"Wow I did a thread 5 years ago inquiring into understanding a woman’s mind, that in my mind wasn’t derogatory towards women at all. I was roasted and flamed on the Forum spit. I was accused of misogyny and torn asunder in a verbal tirade. Times have changed. ohhhhhhhhhhh can you find it for us ?" I’ll see | |||
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"I tend not to think of it as a men vs women thing - more a people thing - there will always be those that seek to take advantage, to think they're the only thing that matters, who lack respect and consideration and think it's ok to walk all over people - just as there will always be people who are the complete polar opposite of that, and those that fall somewhere in between. The problem is not men, it's not women, it's people and people are strange at times " | |||
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"I tend not to think of it as a men vs women thing - more a people thing - there will always be those that seek to take advantage, to think they're the only thing that matters, who lack respect and consideration and think it's ok to walk all over people - just as there will always be people who are the complete polar opposite of that, and those that fall somewhere in between. The problem is not men, it's not women, it's people and people are strange at times " This! Come on ladies..... You shouldn't be tarring us all with the same brush. That's just not how it is. If we said this kinda crap, we'd be deemed sexiist, misogynistic bastards. You're wrong.... End of! | |||
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