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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why is it seedy and sad when a man uses a fleshlight but a woman using a dildo is hot and horny. It’s basically the same thing lol ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a step up from a crusty sock, but you're still a dirty wanker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who says it’s seedy or sad?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Who says it’s seedy or sad?"

Society

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's a step up from a crusty sock, but you're still a dirty wanker."

True

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who says it’s seedy or sad?

Society "

Ah ok. Never noticed to be honest.

God knows.

I still know a lot of people who judge women for sex toys; I had a house party and my friend opened my bedside drawer which has all my toys and restraints in it. Scarred her for life.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Because people assume women using a dildo are there to be watched. Fundamentally for most people it's the same thing. Getting off. Not for an audience.

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

IV never heard any one call it seedy before,I guess if you're carrying it about that would be a bit odd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because people assume women using a dildo are there to be watched. Fundamentally for most people it's the same thing. Getting off. Not for an audience. "

So a male gaze thing?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Because people assume women using a dildo are there to be watched. Fundamentally for most people it's the same thing. Getting off. Not for an audience.

So a male gaze thing? "

I think so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds a good movie title..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it used in spelunking ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I imagine having to clean a fleshlight up after the fun is had kills the romance a bit

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I don't think it's seedy at all - it's really hot watching a man (I fancy) using one. I encouraged someone to buy one purely for the amazing sight of him using it.

Actually answering your question, Op - yeah. I think it's the male gaze thing. Also cleaning a fleshlight after is a bit... not sexy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I imagine having to clean a fleshlight up after the fun is had kills the romance a bit "

Stick it in the dishwasher lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The idea of cleaning one afters not appealing at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I imagine having to clean a fleshlight up after the fun is had kills the romance a bit

Stick it in the dishwasher lol"

Spunky plates and cutlery?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's seedy at all - it's really hot watching a man (I fancy) using one. I encouraged someone to buy one purely for the amazing sight of him using it.

Actually answering your question, Op - yeah. I think it's the male gaze thing. Also cleaning a fleshlight after is a bit... not sexy. "

What if they where a condom when they use it? Like a posh posh wank.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Actually answering your question, Op - yeah. I think it's the male gaze thing. Also cleaning a fleshlight after is a bit... not sexy.

What if they where a condom when they use it? Like a posh posh wank. "

That could work Nell. That could work.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I don't think it's seedy at all - it's really hot watching a man (I fancy) using one. I encouraged someone to buy one purely for the amazing sight of him using it.

Actually answering your question, Op - yeah. I think it's the male gaze thing. Also cleaning a fleshlight after is a bit... not sexy.

What if they where a condom when they use it? Like a posh posh wank. "

You still need to lube the fleshlight so it still needs cleaning after, so I'm told... By a friend...

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By *rivate_userMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Only the sad would call it seedy

Both are masturbation aids.. both do the job.. both need cleaning after

If only they could cook as well....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's seedy at all - it's really hot watching a man (I fancy) using one. I encouraged someone to buy one purely for the amazing sight of him using it.

Actually answering your question, Op - yeah. I think it's the male gaze thing. Also cleaning a fleshlight after is a bit... not sexy.

What if they where a condom when they use it? Like a posh posh wank. "
isnt that a royal wank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's seedy at all - it's really hot watching a man (I fancy) using one. I encouraged someone to buy one purely for the amazing sight of him using it.

Actually answering your question, Op - yeah. I think it's the male gaze thing. Also cleaning a fleshlight after is a bit... not sexy.

What if they where a condom when they use it? Like a posh posh wank.

You still need to lube the fleshlight so it still needs cleaning after, so I'm told... By a friend... "

But I imagine that's just the same amount of stuff that would be on a dildo. It's the jizz that's a little more unsavoury (is that the correct word there? I not sure how to put it.... )

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's seedy at all - it's really hot watching a man (I fancy) using one. I encouraged someone to buy one purely for the amazing sight of him using it.

Actually answering your question, Op - yeah. I think it's the male gaze thing. Also cleaning a fleshlight after is a bit... not sexy.

What if they where a condom when they use it? Like a posh posh wank.

You still need to lube the fleshlight so it still needs cleaning after, so I'm told... By a friend...

But I imagine that's just the same amount of stuff that would be on a dildo. It's the jizz that's a little more unsavoury (is that the correct word there? I not sure how to put it.... ) "

I should really proof read my messages. So many typos.....

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I'll have one of each please OP, it'll give me something to do on a cold winter's morning

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I don't think it's seedy at all - it's really hot watching a man (I fancy) using one. I encouraged someone to buy one purely for the amazing sight of him using it.

Actually answering your question, Op - yeah. I think it's the male gaze thing. Also cleaning a fleshlight after is a bit... not sexy.

What if they where a condom when they use it? Like a posh posh wank.

You still need to lube the fleshlight so it still needs cleaning after, so I'm told... By a friend...

But I imagine that's just the same amount of stuff that would be on a dildo. It's the jizz that's a little more unsavoury (is that the correct word there? I not sure how to put it.... ) "

I think the main difference is that a dildo doesn't require physically turning inside out and washing, as opposed to wiping off. I guess, in all seriousness there has always been a touch of the seedy about male sex aids.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's seedy at all - it's really hot watching a man (I fancy) using one. I encouraged someone to buy one purely for the amazing sight of him using it.

Actually answering your question, Op - yeah. I think it's the male gaze thing. Also cleaning a fleshlight after is a bit... not sexy.

What if they where a condom when they use it? Like a posh posh wank.

You still need to lube the fleshlight so it still needs cleaning after, so I'm told... By a friend...

But I imagine that's just the same amount of stuff that would be on a dildo. It's the jizz that's a little more unsavoury (is that the correct word there? I not sure how to put it.... )

I think the main difference is that a dildo doesn't require physically turning inside out and washing, as opposed to wiping off. I guess, in all seriousness there has always been a touch of the seedy about male sex aids. "

That's quite a double standard though, isn't it?

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I don't think it's seedy at all - it's really hot watching a man (I fancy) using one. I encouraged someone to buy one purely for the amazing sight of him using it.

Actually answering your question, Op - yeah. I think it's the male gaze thing. Also cleaning a fleshlight after is a bit... not sexy.

What if they where a condom when they use it? Like a posh posh wank.

You still need to lube the fleshlight so it still needs cleaning after, so I'm told... By a friend...

But I imagine that's just the same amount of stuff that would be on a dildo. It's the jizz that's a little more unsavoury (is that the correct word there? I not sure how to put it.... )

I think the main difference is that a dildo doesn't require physically turning inside out and washing, as opposed to wiping off. I guess, in all seriousness there has always been a touch of the seedy about male sex aids.

That's quite a double standard though, isn't it? "

Most definitely but double standards abound regarding sex frequently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't think it's seedy at all - it's really hot watching a man (I fancy) using one. I encouraged someone to buy one purely for the amazing sight of him using it.

Actually answering your question, Op - yeah. I think it's the male gaze thing. Also cleaning a fleshlight after is a bit... not sexy.

What if they where a condom when they use it? Like a posh posh wank.

You still need to lube the fleshlight so it still needs cleaning after, so I'm told... By a friend...

But I imagine that's just the same amount of stuff that would be on a dildo. It's the jizz that's a little more unsavoury (is that the correct word there? I not sure how to put it.... )

I think the main difference is that a dildo doesn't require physically turning inside out and washing, as opposed to wiping off. I guess, in all seriousness there has always been a touch of the seedy about male sex aids.

That's quite a double standard though, isn't it?

Most definitely but double standards abound regarding sex frequently. "

But whyyyyyyyyyyy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually answering your question, Op - yeah. I think it's the male gaze thing. Also cleaning a fleshlight after is a bit... not sexy.

What if they where a condom when they use it? Like a posh posh wank.

That could work Nell. That could work."

Doesn’t work, splits the condom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually answering your question, Op - yeah. I think it's the male gaze thing. Also cleaning a fleshlight after is a bit... not sexy.

What if they where a condom when they use it? Like a posh posh wank.

That could work Nell. That could work.

Doesn’t work, splits the condom "

Even with lube?

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

If someone wants to buy me a flesh light I'll supply a tribute vid in return. Make it a tight one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually answering your question, Op - yeah. I think it's the male gaze thing. Also cleaning a fleshlight after is a bit... not sexy.

What if they where a condom when they use it? Like a posh posh wank.

That could work Nell. That could work.

Doesn’t work, splits the condom

Even with lube? "

It was the smell of burning rubber that really put me off

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


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But whyyyyyyyyyyy? "

Possibly because the concept of female masturbation is sexualised for viewing pleasure in porn, whereas in the male case its considered 'lonely and sad'. Maybe its because Ann Summers made sex toys for ladies 'fun and cool' whereas for men, they were still the jokey rubber dolls. Even anal toys, which are the same ones, cause people to question the guys masculinity...

Who knows? The double standard is there though. And cleaning out a flesh light *is* icky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a Tenga Flip. They're a bit pricey but totally worth it.

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