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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyone else sick of those people where whatever someone has done, they've always done something bigger and better? They always have to be centre of attention.

Someone had an amazing first mmf but they had the best mmmmmmmmmmf ever with fireworks, champagne, money falling from the sky and glitter bombs.

Stop trying to make people feel inadequate. We're all here for fun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Putting it in the forum is only going to attract those people, if you had a great mmf, just keep it to yourself don’t need to the elk everyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It was just an example, not me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work with someone like this. I got tattooed, and he went and got ones off his brother which apparently were better because he didn't pay for them (they aren't). I picked up photography, he was trying to get the same/better results on his iPhone. He always tries to outdo people, but fails and then won't admit he can't do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone else sick of those people where whatever someone has done, they've always done something bigger and better? They always have to be centre of attention.

Someone had an amazing first mmf but they had the best mmmmmmmmmmf ever with fireworks, champagne, money falling from the sky and glitter bombs.

Stop trying to make people feel inadequate. We're all here for fun x

'Two shits'..for every one you have they have two gold plated ones.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I work with someone like this. I got tattooed, and he went and got ones off his brother which apparently were better because he didn't pay for them (they aren't). I picked up photography, he was trying to get the same/better results on his iPhone. He always tries to outdo people, but fails and then won't admit he can't do it."

It drives me nuts. I can't get away from them. Everywhere I go. I think I need to hibernate permanently lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ohh ok, well yeah there are these people everywhere, annoy the shot out of me, but sometimes I think they do this out of insecurity sometimes, because their life isn’t that great

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

'Two shits'..for every one you have they have two gold plated ones."

With diamonds x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never done that

Cos i dont like the competitivness i get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not just on here, happens in all areas of life in general.

Doesn't piss me off, just makes me think they must lead a sad life to think that they need to do this.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

Nope can't say I've noticed to much.

. I do remember my first mfm but that led to thinking what would 3 guys be like... Oh what about 4.

Hardly doing one up. Just exploring and Having fun.

The thing that does me on here is the women that don't follow girl code or two faced people

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not just on here, happens in all areas of life in general.

Doesn't piss me off, just makes me think they must lead a sad life to think that they need to do this."

That's very true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They don’t have a black cat, they actually have a panther.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody does stuff as awesome as me so i call them liers

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope can't say I've noticed to much.

. I do remember my first mfm but that led to thinking what would 3 guys be like... Oh what about 4.

Hardly doing one up. Just exploring and Having fun.

The thing that does me on here is the women that don't follow girl code or two faced people"

I understand that but you don't go blurting it in peoples faces at every opportunity.

I don't think a lot of people know what girl code is in all honesty.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I just re read that, I wasnt insinuating that you do by the way. It was a general comment

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"Nope can't say I've noticed to much.

. I do remember my first mfm but that led to thinking what would 3 guys be like... Oh what about 4.

Hardly doing one up. Just exploring and Having fun.

The thing that does me on here is the women that don't follow girl code or two faced people

I understand that but you don't go blurting it in peoples faces at every opportunity.

I don't think a lot of people know what girl code is in all honesty. "
depends on what the comment is I suppose.

And to many on here have no idea what girl code is.

But thankfully I've got a few rocks that truly get it and get swinging

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Anyone else sick of those people where whatever someone has done, they've always done something bigger and better? They always have to be centre of attention.

Someone had an amazing first mmf but they had the best mmmmmmmmmmf ever with fireworks, champagne, money falling from the sky and glitter bombs.

Stop trying to make people feel inadequate. We're all here for fun x

They're not trying to make people feel inadequate. They feel inadequate so they're trying to make themselves feel better.

I had a friend like this, she would wait until I'd told her about stuff that had happened to me then tell me about her "considerably better than you" experiences. It used to make me laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good thread ppl

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" depends on what the comment is I suppose.

And to many on here have no idea what girl code is.

But thankfully I've got a few rocks that truly get it and get swinging "

Likewise. I'm very lucky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all know people like that. I think it's often themselves they're trying to convince, they see others enjoy something and have to shout about how much better their version is.

The really happy people are the quiet ones just getting on with things.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"We all know people like that. I think it's often themselves they're trying to convince, they see others enjoy something and have to shout about how much better their version is.

The really happy people are the quiet ones just getting on with things. "
I avoid these types of people as it's a trait of being a narcissist. I don't come across it much on the sense of the original post though . Ie on here.. But outside of sexual things yes x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prime example of people just not getting swinging it's getting ridiculous and the pot kettle black posts are hilarious. Girl code? That's become women acting like dogs marking their territory and too much she said the next door neighbours cat said and everyone else said, its swinging it's fun, it's a release from real life don't get it then swinging isn't for you

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I refuse to engage. My take on most of my achievements is, I do OK. OK might be I'm trying but I'm shit. It might be that I'm exceptional. Unless I know you're not going to turn it into a dick measuring contest (general you), you won't know.

It tends to deflate those who want to compete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've all probably done it at some point haven't we, and then corrected ourselves hopefully once we realised we were being a twat?

I can understand how a lot of the modern world, with social media and even fab, can be seen by some as a big competition, so it's hardly surprising that ppl can get it wrong and complete rather than sharing and celebrating in their friends enjoyment, especially if they're feeling a little anxious or insecure.

Have a break, have a kitkat and let the insecure folks feel better about themselves. I'm not bothered by it, but I'll only really open up with listeners. Listening is a dying art.....!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Prime example of people just not getting swinging it's getting ridiculous and the pot kettle black posts are hilarious. Girl code? That's become women acting like dogs marking their territory and too much she said the next door neighbours cat said and everyone else said, its swinging it's fun, it's a release from real life don't get it then swinging isn't for you

Are you suggesting I don't get swinging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you suggesting I don't get swinging?"

If the shoe fits.. you shouldn't really act whiter then white with the posts I've seen you make about other users on the site and clubs and their owners it is a very pot kettle black post and if no I don't think you get swinging at all in all honesty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope can't say I've noticed to much.

. I do remember my first mfm but that led to thinking what would 3 guys be like... Oh what about 4.

Hardly doing one up. Just exploring and Having fun.

The thing that does me on here is the women that don't follow girl code or two faced people

I understand that but you don't go blurting it in peoples faces at every opportunity.

I don't think a lot of people know what girl code is in all honesty. depends on what the comment is I suppose.

And to many on here have no idea what girl code is.

But thankfully I've got a few rocks that truly get it and get swinging "

What is girl code?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is swinging then?

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

What is girl code?"

Respecting other women. No matter what ..

Including Don't go after friends ex crushes or partners.

Rescue a lady if she is being hassled

Look out for one another

On fab it is a bit more like. If someone was meeting someone regular. I'd ask the other lady if it was okay to meet the guy.

If someone is cheating you would tell them.

There are many parts to it.. It's kinda the unwritten rules of conduct

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

"They don’t have a black cat, they actually have a panther."

I used to work with a guy that was nicknamed "le chat noir" for this reason..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is girl code?

Respecting other women. No matter what ..

Including Don't go after friends ex crushes or partners.

Rescue a lady if she is being hassled

Look out for one another

On fab it is a bit more like. If someone was meeting someone regular. I'd ask the other lady if it was okay to meet the guy.

If someone is cheating you would tell them.

There are many parts to it.. It's kinda the unwritten rules of conduct "

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I have a friend who does the exact opposite. It’s equally annoying.

I had a great day.... hers will have been the worst ever.

I am happy about something.... she will be sobbing in her g&t

I am sad about something. She’s had the best day ever.

Drives me fucking nuts to the point I don’t pop round so much.

V x

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"I have a friend who does the exact opposite. It’s equally annoying.

I had a great day.... hers will have been the worst ever.

I am happy about something.... she will be sobbing in her g&t

I am sad about something. She’s had the best day ever.

Drives me fucking nuts to the point I don’t pop round so much.

V x "
lol I know that one... Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I went to college with a guy who, no matter what you'd done, he'd done it not once but three times. We used to call him Trio.

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

"I went to college with a guy who, no matter what you'd done, he'd done it not once but three times. We used to call him Trio.

You can actually get bullshit alerts for people like this. Show it to them , tell then whatvits for and put it on the desk..

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

What is girl code?

Respecting other women. No matter what ..

Including Don't go after friends ex crushes or partners.

Rescue a lady if she is being hassled

Look out for one another

On fab it is a bit more like. If someone was meeting someone regular. I'd ask the other lady if it was okay to meet the guy.

If someone is cheating you would tell them.

There are many parts to it.. It's kinda the unwritten rules of conduct "

Sounds OK, in theory.

Can't that lead to people taking advantage though? I've heard of similar 'codes' which end up being the very opposite of the thing that they seek to preserve.

I've found that sometimes, the person making the rules is the one that the rules best serve.

I'm not saying that this is the case with yourselves, I'm just curious as to how you preserve an unwritten code?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is girl code?

Respecting other women. No matter what ..

Including Don't go after friends ex crushes or partners.

Rescue a lady if she is being hassled

Look out for one another

On fab it is a bit more like. If someone was meeting someone regular. I'd ask the other lady if it was okay to meet the guy.

If someone is cheating you would tell them.

There are many parts to it.. It's kinda the unwritten rules of conduct

Sounds OK, in theory.

Can't that lead to people taking advantage though? I've heard of similar 'codes' which end up being the very opposite of the thing that they seek to preserve.

I've found that sometimes, the person making the rules is the one that the rules best serve.

I'm not saying that this is the case with yourselves, I'm just curious as to how you preserve an unwritten code? "

Looks like an excuse for unwritten mild but "acceptable" sexism to me, sorry but it's just a bit dated imho... Smh

I will and do support anyone who's in shit or being bothered, it's just common humanity innit

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"We all know people like that. I think it's often themselves they're trying to convince, they see others enjoy something and have to shout about how much better their version is.

The really happy people are the quiet ones just getting on with things. "

I agree with you about this.

Generally I keep my things to myself, I don't shout about what I've done, where or with whom unless it to someone I trust.

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

Meh, I can write a better thread than this one...you should have seen the one I started the other day ...blimey you should have seen it...it was so awesome

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

This is a good thread but I did this one once that was HAMAZING!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I went to college with a guy who, no matter what you'd done, he'd done it not once but three times. We used to call him Trio.

When I was in the RAF had a bloke who was the same, called him '2 shits'. If you'd just been for one he'd have had two.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just had a banging shit.

You can’t beat a banging shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is girl code?

Respecting other women. No matter what ..

Including Don't go after friends ex crushes or partners.

Rescue a lady if she is being hassled

Look out for one another

On fab it is a bit more like. If someone was meeting someone regular. I'd ask the other lady if it was okay to meet the guy.

If someone is cheating you would tell them.

There are many parts to it.. It's kinda the unwritten rules of conduct "

Is that only if you're real friends with the woman?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Are you suggesting I don't get swinging?

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I don't claim to be something I'm not. You know nothing about me and I intend it to stay that way.

I've never slated any clubs or their owners so I've no idea what you're banging your gums about there.

I think we both have very different ideas of exactly what swinging is. Enjoy!

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

What is girl code?

Respecting other women. No matter what ..

Including Don't go after friends ex crushes or partners.

Rescue a lady if she is being hassled

Look out for one another

On fab it is a bit more like. If someone was meeting someone regular. I'd ask the other lady if it was okay to meet the guy.

If someone is cheating you would tell them.

There are many parts to it.. It's kinda the unwritten rules of conduct

Sounds OK, in theory.

Can't that lead to people taking advantage though? I've heard of similar 'codes' which end up being the very opposite of the thing that they seek to preserve.

I've found that sometimes, the person making the rules is the one that the rules best serve.

I'm not saying that this is the case with yourselves, I'm just curious as to how you preserve an unwritten code? "

I don't do hidden agendas.. and I think although it's girl code perhaps it should just be called a decency code... For instance I treat others how I wish to be treated myself.

And some can and do take advantage.. to be fair there are more women on here that are out to cause as much mischeif as they can as those that don't do hassle.

For me it is just a case of why do to another woman what I would hate to have done to myself. I've actually stopped meeting guys 121 or regular again partly due to the fact that girl code seems to mean if someone meets someone.. let's be a back stabbing little cow and make up shit about someone. Rather than just meet and have fun and does it really matter if they are meeting you and someone else.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

What is girl code?

Respecting other women. No matter what ..

Including Don't go after friends ex crushes or partners.

Rescue a lady if she is being hassled

Look out for one another

On fab it is a bit more like. If someone was meeting someone regular. I'd ask the other lady if it was okay to meet the guy.

If someone is cheating you would tell them.

There are many parts to it.. It's kinda the unwritten rules of conduct

Sounds OK, in theory.

Can't that lead to people taking advantage though? I've heard of similar 'codes' which end up being the very opposite of the thing that they seek to preserve.

I've found that sometimes, the person making the rules is the one that the rules best serve.

I'm not saying that this is the case with yourselves, I'm just curious as to how you preserve an unwritten code?

I don't do hidden agendas.. and I think although it's girl code perhaps it should just be called a decency code... For instance I treat others how I wish to be treated myself.

And some can and do take advantage.. to be fair there are more women on here that are out to cause as much mischeif as they can as those that don't do hassle.

Ah I see. I agree with you on some of that, although I apply it to everyone.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

Ah I see. I agree with you on some of that, although I apply it to everyone. "

As I said. Mostly it should just be called a decency code but it's for me like a sisterhood .

There are actually a couple of good threads if you search for girl code which are quite good reads.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

" ...I don't do hidden agendas.. and I think although it's girl code perhaps it should just be called a decency code... For instance I treat others how I wish to be treated myself...

Ah I see. I agree with you on some of that, although I apply it to everyone. "

Yep. It's not a girl code, it's a just be a decent human being code. Although respecting other women no matter what? Acchh...

And do you ask the woman who is meeting someone regularly even if you've never interacted with her? I dunno.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah I see. I agree with you on some of that, although I apply it to everyone.

As I said. Mostly it should just be called a decency code but it's for me like a sisterhood .

There are actually a couple of good threads if you search for girl code which are quite good reads.

And if you both want to meet the same person just have a threesome together... Win win

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

Ah I see. I agree with you on some of that, although I apply it to everyone.

As I said. Mostly it should just be called a decency code but it's for me like a sisterhood .

There are actually a couple of good threads if you search for girl code which are quite good reads.

And if you both want to meet the same person just have a threesome together... Win win

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seems to work for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you suggesting I don't get swinging?

I don't claim to be something I'm not. You know nothing about me and I intend it to stay that way.

I've never slated any clubs or their owners so I've no idea what you're banging your gums about there.

I think we both have very different ideas of exactly what swinging is. Enjoy!"

Same to you

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

What is girl code?

Respecting other women. No matter what ..

Including Don't go after friends ex crushes or partners.

Rescue a lady if she is being hassled

Look out for one another

On fab it is a bit more like. If someone was meeting someone regular. I'd ask the other lady if it was okay to meet the guy.

If someone is cheating you would tell them.

There are many parts to it.. It's kinda the unwritten rules of conduct

Is that only if you're real friends with the woman?"
if I checked a guys veries and he has met the same lady numerous times then I would contact her and ask if she was okay.. or I would avoid fullstop just in case of stepping on someone's toes

I've had a guy I've met in a club who was with someone else at the time message me ( went as two singles) but as they had been out together ive asked if it's ok if I meet him.

. Sometimes the lady has been fine.. other times not so. If the lady isn't okay with it I don't go there.

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