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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You know the film where one moment can change your life...

Would you go back and change anything from your past, knowing that your path would alter and not bring you to where you are now?

Or do you accept that everything that's happened, good and bad, has made you the person you are today??

I've had a fair bit of disaster.. but wouldn't change a thing as I think it's given me a view on life that I may not have found had I not lived this life.. maybe that's also due to being on the winning side these days...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The trick is not to look back and regret things you may have changed or think to much about the future

Just be present in the moment

That way leads to spiffingness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Whats happened has happened for a reason. Im happy in life and happy with my surroundings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't change what happened to me (horrific as it was), because it's given me the life and opportunities I'm now having. I cant imagine my life going down a different path.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I could go back I would. Even if I couldn't really change anything to be able to give my mum a hug one last time would be worth it

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I think the temptation to choose different paths would be too great if I had a choice but likely the outcome wouldn’t be any better than where I am now. I’m happy, healthy and surrounded by love. What’s to regret?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had some right fuck up moments .. relationships that ended badly.... things I wish I hadn’t said ... been homeless .. seen something’s i wish I could unsee and wish I never went through that shit but if I hadn’t I wouldn’t be the strong person I am now ... what doesn’t break you makes you.. no longer weak naive gullible .. a princess warrior in the making lol

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

It's a tough one - as it effectively negates anything that happened since that moment, including kids, people you became close to etc so probably on balance I wouldn't - but the one for me would be leaving the Navy when I did (before I completed training) my life would have been very different if I'd stayed in and I think in terms of me as a person I'd have been a better one for it BUT like I said on balance....

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

My life has been and still is full of sliding doors

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The trick is not to look back and regret things you may have changed or think to much about the future

Just be present in the moment

That way leads to spiffingness "

Exactly how I live being present is awesome!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we changed the paths we took we could have easily ended up in worse situations than the ones we were in, if we were even still alive now at all.

Could have had everything I ever dreamed of then got hit by a bus the next day, we just don't know.

So no, I wouldn't change things as I'm here, I'm alive and I'm doing ok.

I might not have the best of everything and I've been through some battles, but I have what I need to scrape through and I'm surrounded by a lot of love, and that's priceless.

P

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No. Whats happened has happened for a reason. Im happy in life and happy with my surroundings."

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I would go back and look after my teeth better when I was kid

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I could go back I would. Even if I couldn't really change anything to be able to give my mum a hug one last time would be worth it "

stuff like that is priceless.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think the temptation to choose different paths would be too great if I had a choice but likely the outcome wouldn’t be any better than where I am now. I’m happy, healthy and surrounded by love. What’s to regret? "

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv learned from my many mistakes as painful as they have been so id change nothing theres 1 niggle but of fate but patience will get me that reward anyway so its win win

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's a tough one - as it effectively negates anything that happened since that moment, including kids, people you became close to etc so probably on balance I wouldn't - but the one for me would be leaving the Navy when I did (before I completed training) my life would have been very different if I'd stayed in and I think in terms of me as a person I'd have been a better one for it BUT like I said on balance...."

True.. we just acheive a different kind of success sometimes..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If we changed the paths we took we could have easily ended up in worse situations than the ones we were in, if we were even still alive now at all.

Could have had everything I ever dreamed of then got hit by a bus the next day, we just don't know.

So no, I wouldn't change things as I'm here, I'm alive and I'm doing ok.

I might not have the best of everything and I've been through some battles, but I have what I need to scrape through and I'm surrounded by a lot of love, and that's priceless.

P"

Totally the battles haven't killed us.. you wouldn't be the person you are today without them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would go back and look after my teeth better when I was kid"

Wish I'd listened to my parents more on stuff like that..

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I’m quite happy with where life has taken me and what I have now

I might go back and change some of the things that wouldn’t affect my life today.... I’d certainly delete the months I spent chasing a pointless relationship - that time of my life needs deleting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This one is really tricky for me, in general I'm always usually of the view that your experiences make you and personally I'm grateful for everything in my past and I've learned from it all like you say and it has all helped to make me the brilliant twat that you see today......

......however, its not all about me and how I feel at the end of the day. I'd love for my little lady to still have a mum so I'd defo have hidden someone's car keys that one time, but apart from that there's not much I'd change. I live with and own my choices and I'm really, really happy right now, especially coz of a particular person who is helping me with winning

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’m quite happy with where life has taken me and what I have now

I might go back and change some of the things that wouldn’t affect my life today.... I’d certainly delete the months I spent chasing a pointless relationship - that time of my life needs deleting "

Think we've all wasted time on stuff like that.. few insignificants I'd happily delete!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I can't see how changing one moment would ensure a happier alternate life. Everyone's had their challenges and trauma and it makes the good moments all the more poignant and valuable. I like who I am now. If things had been different I might be a right twat instead

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This one is really tricky for me, in general I'm always usually of the view that your experiences make you and personally I'm grateful for everything in my past and I've learned from it all like you say and it has all helped to make me the brilliant twat that you see today......

......however, its not all about me and how I feel at the end of the day. I'd love for my little lady to still have a mum so I'd defo have hidden someone's car keys that one time, but apart from that there's not much I'd change. I live with and own my choices and I'm really, really happy right now, especially coz of a particular person who is helping me with winning "

nobody would ever choose that for a child x you're a gooden..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No, I can't see how changing one moment would ensure a happier alternate life. Everyone's had their challenges and trauma and it makes the good moments all the more poignant and valuable. I like who I am now. If things had been different I might be a right twat instead "

So true it's nice to think I'm ok in spite of the crap...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This one is really tricky for me, in general I'm always usually of the view that your experiences make you and personally I'm grateful for everything in my past and I've learned from it all like you say and it has all helped to make me the brilliant twat that you see today......

......however, its not all about me and how I feel at the end of the day. I'd love for my little lady to still have a mum so I'd defo have hidden someone's car keys that one time, but apart from that there's not much I'd change. I live with and own my choices and I'm really, really happy right now, especially coz of a particular person who is helping me with winning

nobody would ever choose that for a child x you're a gooden.. "

Nice tats, you'll have to give me your photographers number....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This one is really tricky for me, in general I'm always usually of the view that your experiences make you and personally I'm grateful for everything in my past and I've learned from it all like you say and it has all helped to make me the brilliant twat that you see today......

......however, its not all about me and how I feel at the end of the day. I'd love for my little lady to still have a mum so I'd defo have hidden someone's car keys that one time, but apart from that there's not much I'd change. I live with and own my choices and I'm really, really happy right now, especially coz of a particular person who is helping me with winning

nobody would ever choose that for a child x you're a gooden..

Nice tats, you'll have to give me your photographers number.... "

You nearly got a thread on worst wake ups!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I changed anything I don't believe I would have met tattooed. So although I (pierced) have been through hell, I woudln't change a thing as it lead me to him

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This one is really tricky for me, in general I'm always usually of the view that your experiences make you and personally I'm grateful for everything in my past and I've learned from it all like you say and it has all helped to make me the brilliant twat that you see today......

......however, its not all about me and how I feel at the end of the day. I'd love for my little lady to still have a mum so I'd defo have hidden someone's car keys that one time, but apart from that there's not much I'd change. I live with and own my choices and I'm really, really happy right now, especially coz of a particular person who is helping me with winning

nobody would ever choose that for a child x you're a gooden..

Nice tats, you'll have to give me your photographers number....

You nearly got a thread on worst wake ups!!! "

Do it! Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I changed anything I don't believe I would have met tattooed. So although I (pierced) have been through hell, I woudln't change a thing as it lead me to him

P"

That's an amazing place to reach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can't change the past, and if we could there are so many other possible paths that we may never be who we are now.

We can't change tomorrow, it's always beyond our reach, a mystery to be discovered every single day.

Today is all we ever have. Each and every today that makes us who we are...its all we can ever be.

I dont want to be anyone different, I'm content to be me.

Yet still, if I could change just one thing in my life in the hope of a better outcome, it may be worth the risk that another path would just be a different journey, but perhaps one shared with.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had a fair few moments of I wish I hadn’t of done that:

I got a large inheritance about ten years ago and while I paid for a lot of debt and bought a nice car with it, I did flittered a lot away, I wasn’t strong enough with my ex husband etc over it and could have done a lot more but that’s life.

When we got married last year we got enough money as wedding ‘gifts’ to buy ourselves a decent car and because my dad was seriously Ill and I needed to get to him I went with the first one I found and a relative said it was sound, after we put fuel in it after buying it lights came on but I was so worried about my dad we didn’t take it back and I wished I did, it broke down after 6 weeks and too expensive to fix, I could have got to my dad in other ways and that’s a moment I wished we took it back there and then but that’s life.

If I hadn’t of had an affair ten years back now (we got back together and had another five good years) my ex husband might not have gone on a going out binge to find himself and never really return home the same person that walked out the door, I might still be with my family but I wouldn’t be where I am now, with a man I’m more suited to and living the best life, the best life I’ve ever had.

So yes sometimes I do but here we are lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't change a thing

Who is to say if I changed just one decision that my whole life might have turned to shite?

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

If I could go way, way back I'd have punched the first older kid who started bullying me in primary school smack in the mouth and saved myself years of anxiety and low self esteem and being an easy target. I'm fine now, but those school years could have been better!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't change anything.

I've made too many mistakes to count and been through my share of bad times. But I'm proud of who I am. I've come through it all, stronger and a much better person! I have an incredible partner, some great friends and exciting plans for the future.

I'll learn from my past and make my future as amazing as possible

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I haven't read the thread, so apologies for repeating something already posted.

It's impossible to work out what the outcome would be for the change in choices. Some things might be better but others, perhaps more important but less tangible things, might be worse.

I can only be who I am now. That comes from the pain and joys I have experienced. Some of the pain has been crippling, physically and mentally, and the joy has been sparse at times. The joy, when it comes, has been appreciated - perhaps in a way that could not have been had it been a regular part of life.

I may not want to be alive but whilst I'm here I will live.

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