FabSwingers.com forum: You plan a meet... but then....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You're chatting to someone and planning a meet with them. But then a new verification appears on their profile and it puts you right off.

What would you do/ say? Would you still meet them?

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I think being streight up is best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're chatting to someone and planning a meet with them. But then a new verification appears on their profile and it puts you right off.

What would you do/ say? Would you still meet them?"

If it put me off I wouldn’t meet them and explain why

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I have done this myself as sometimes meets are like buses and 2 come at once. It can be hard enough to get to the meet stage so if we were there I'd still be up for it. I would like a little time in between though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd emigrate to Botswana

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't meet with people who got lots or weird veries

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We don't meet with people who got lots or weird veries"

How many is lots? What's a weird veri?

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Be honest and talk to them why the veri makes you feel uncomfortable

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Like we said on the other other thread ppl we have verified and been verified and we hadn't planned on meeting any of them as they were from socials so onless they were actually details of the meet then no it wouldn't

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd emigrate to Botswana"

They don't have internet there.

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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago

North of Okehampton, South of Bideford

Nope, once we are put off, we are put off.

Think we are diplomatic enough just to say "one of us is no longer interested" and leave it like that

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

It would have to be something really particular to put me off. I'm trying to imagine it doing so - if it got to the point of meeting someone and discussing a date I don't know if it could. I tend to like seeing veris popping up and make really awful jokes that I find funny about them.

To answer the Op... If I was put off? Probably just explain why and apologise.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'd emigrate to Botswana"

. Wise move

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

If I was put off I wouldn't meet them. But it takes a lot for me to be put off meeting someone once I've decided I want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We don't meet with people who got lots or weird veries

How many is lots? What's a weird veri?"

Well let's say somewhere like 30 to 40 and a writer here is someone had been tied up and left, most odd

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By *ddibleMan
over a year ago

Exeter Bristol Salisbury

Rather than jump to conclusions; speak to them.

I take it the veri was something someone else wrote on their profile? If so then why shut someone down because of another choice in words.

Fab is a fickle place, and so much fun and friendship is missed out on because people jump to the wrong conclusions or misinterpret something.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nope, once we are put off, we are put off.

Think we are diplomatic enough just to say "one of us is no longer interested" and leave it like that"

That's what I miss about being a couple- being able to blame him....

"Sorry he doesn't want to meet you now."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We don't meet with people who got lots or weird veries

How many is lots? What's a weird veri?

Well let's say somewhere like 30 to 40 and a writer here is someone had been tied up and left, most odd"

They'd get cold.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're chatting to someone and planning a meet with them. But then a new verification appears on their profile and it puts you right off.

What would you do/ say? Would you still meet them?"

Be careful, I have been castigated on another thread for mentioning people’s verifications

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

It would have to be something quite specific. But I know people that have not met me as I've met someone else the day before ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would have to be something quite specific. But I know people that have not met me as I've met someone else the day before .. "

Really? And they admitted that was the reason?

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I have cancelled several socials, because of veris.

Either something in the veri, or because of who it was from.

I had valid reasons, and yes I told them exactly why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont normally judge folk by who they meet i take them as i find them and make my own opinion

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Is it the fact that they have a new veri whist planning a meet with you or veri content?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most veris put me off to be honest

That's why I don't display mine.

I can't be arsed with the judgement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have cancelled several socials, because of veris.

Either something in the veri, or because of who it was from.

I had valid reasons, and yes I told them exactly why.

I'd be the same. As yet I've not cancelled any, but it has put me off people I may have interacted with otherwise.

It may sound cuntish to others, but we have our own personal reasons. Some things are best left in the past with no poking of the hornets nest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have cancelled several socials, because of veris.

Either something in the veri, or because of who it was from.

I had valid reasons, and yes I told them exactly why.

I'd be the same. As yet I've not cancelled any, but it has put me off people I may have interacted with otherwise.

It may sound cuntish to others, but we have our own personal reasons. Some things are best left in the past with no poking of the hornets nest

P"
buzz buzz buzz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the circumstances, but I personally wouldn’t meet.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Would like to say we wouldn't cancel as it's not really any of our concern but can't do that. There's definitely one veri popping up that would having us cancelling in a heart beat.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'd be checking out the profile and if she was bi thinking 'ooooooo, maybe we can all get together'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're chatting to someone and planning a meet with them. But then a new verification appears on their profile and it puts you right off.

What would you do/ say? Would you still meet them?

Be careful, I have been castigated on another thread for mentioning people’s verifications

Innit....

Each to their own, just be honest and kind....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure what would make me cancel a meet if we liked each other enough to get to the planning point. A new veri in itself wouldn't stop me. It would have to contain details of something I'm really not into, or show the person to be very different from how they portrayed themselves to me. I'd be honest about it too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

YES! Some veris can really put me off. I finished things with my fwb over a verification, it wasn't jealousy, that person who veri'd him had a bad rep and I didn't want to be associated with it. So I deleted my account so my veris wouldn't appear on his. Lost my veris and my contacts and had to start again but worth it. Don't meet him anymore. Put me right off!

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"Is it the fact that they have a new veri whist planning a meet with you or veri content?"

Someone getting a veri, while already chatting to me.

Would not bother me in the slightest.

Someone cancelling on me, as they suddenly had to work/family issues.

Then posting a veri obviously from that date, that bothers me.

Someone posting a veri, from a person I have knowledge of, that bothers me. I value my health.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This happened to me last week, the woman I was planning a meet with saw the count go up by 1. The veri I got however was unsolicited in that I was asked to verify a woman I’ve met before on her new profile... I didn’t expect or need one in return.

So the woman I was chatting to obviously got the hump and now there’s no recourse as I’m blocked and can’t contact her.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Most of the time I'd say the contents of someone else's veris are none of my business and therefore wouldn't put me off - if there was something that concerned me in one that appeared (and about the only thing I can think of that would, would be if it indicated unsafe sex, or dangerous activities) then I'd ask them about it - anyone that I am planning in meeting I already have a connection and chemistry with to the point of knowing them well enough to be able to talk to them like an adult to get a better understanding and then decide from there whether I still wanted to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rather than jump to conclusions; speak to them.

I take it the veri was something someone else wrote on their profile? If so then why shut someone down because of another choice in words.

Fab is a fickle place, and so much fun and friendship is missed out on because people jump to the wrong conclusions or misinterpret something.

Sometimes veris cannot be misinterpreted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This happened to me last week, the woman I was planning a meet with saw the count go up by 1. The veri I got however was unsolicited in that I was asked to verify a woman I’ve met before on her new profile... I didn’t expect or need one in return.

So the woman I was chatting to obviously got the hump and now there’s no recourse as I’m blocked and can’t contact her.

That's why communication is vital.

Shows how easily things can get misconstrued.

Obviously I don't know the content of your convos but if she was under the impression she was the focus of your immediate attention and you'd no other meets planned, I can almost feel the "fucking liar" falling from her, even though that's not the case at all.

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

"We don't meet with people who got lots or weird veries"

I get none

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're chatting to someone and planning a meet with them. But then a new verification appears on their profile and it puts you right off.

What would you do/ say? Would you still meet them?"

Depends on what it said

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

"You're chatting to someone and planning a meet with them. But then a new verification appears on their profile and it puts you right off.

What would you do/ say? Would you still meet them?"

Just tell them you’ve changed your mind. You’ll get more respect. They can move on. You don’t even need to tell them why just that you’ve decided not to meet after all. Or you could talk about it and see where it goes !

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By *ddibleMan
over a year ago

Exeter Bristol Salisbury

"Rather than jump to conclusions; speak to them.

I take it the veri was something someone else wrote on their profile? If so then why shut someone down because of another choice in words.

Fab is a fickle place, and so much fun and friendship is missed out on because people jump to the wrong conclusions or misinterpret something.

Sometimes veris cannot be misinterpreted

Yes that's true, I have seen some shocking ones proudly displayed on peoples profiles!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So the woman I was chatting to obviously got the hump and now there’s no recourse as I’m blocked and can’t contact her.

That's why communication is vital.

Shows how easily things can get misconstrued.

Fo Shizzle P!!

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"I'd emigrate to Botswana

They don't have internet there. "

With satellite broadband you can pretty much get internet anywhere you can see the sky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would still meet them socially.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would still meet them socially. "

And shag someone else in the ass at the back of Asda

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would still meet them socially.

And shag someone else in the ass at the back of Asda "

Wise dude

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"YES! Some veris can really put me off. I finished things with my fwb over a verification, it wasn't jealousy, that person who veri'd him had a bad rep and I didn't want to be associated with it. So I deleted my account so my veris wouldn't appear on his. Lost my veris and my contacts and had to start again but worth it. Don't meet him anymore. Put me right off! "

If you block them, your veri disappears from their profile and they can't show it. Top tip.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

So the woman I was chatting to obviously got the hump and now there’s no recourse as I’m blocked and can’t contact her.

Madness !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would still meet them socially.

And shag someone else in the ass at the back of Asda "

Welcome back

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You're chatting to someone and planning a meet with them. But then a new verification appears on their profile and it puts you right off.

What would you do/ say? Would you still meet them?

Depends on what it said

What kind of thing would put you off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would still meet them socially.

And shag someone else in the ass at the back of Asda

I'd welcome that

I knew you love a bit of butt sex

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

It can ruin the wonderful feeling of excitement of thinking you are really fancied and someone is super horny for you, that’s fabs dream

Then bam! You are not really as hot as the meet a few hours later or the person is flying around like a insect looking for anything to shoot a load into

I think ultimately we all want to feel wanted special and attractive, if you was in a pub getting chatted up by a bit of hot stuff, you go to the loo return and he or she is getting cosy with someone else it’s not a great feeling

So feelings and a bit of reality hitting home make us naturally step back

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

So the woman I was chatting to obviously got the hump and now there’s no recourse as I’m blocked and can’t contact her.

Just because you got another veri without her knowing what it said is a bit shit like. It might have been a really good one.

Who knows, she might have really missed out there. Her loss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So the woman I was chatting to obviously got the hump and now there’s no recourse as I’m blocked and can’t contact her.

Just because you got another veri without her knowing what it said is a bit shit like. It might have been a really good one.

Who knows, she might have really missed out there. Her loss

Yep - her loss, totally agree

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By *s_bettyboopWoman
over a year ago

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Depends what it said, but I would meet them and make my own mind up.

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over a year ago

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