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By *inkyLondonpair OP   Couple
over a year ago

London

We get quite a few messages from men with no pics and virtually no words in their profile informing us they in a hotel on x date and would we like to join them.

There's literally no point sending such a message as, given, the number of men v couples and women there is zero chance anyone will take them up on the offer.

Do they not realise that?

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

People will always hedge their bets

It's a "don't ask don't get" kind of attitude

You're not the first to mention this sort of thing and sadly won't be the last

Rise above and enjoy Fab for how you want to use it

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I'm sure, on occasions it must work.

Otherwise, they wouldn't carry on doing it.

Well, you'd like to think they'd have the sense to realise & try something different.

Or an I just being over optimistic

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

The "they" isn't always the same person

It is a slight sweeping generalisation by saying "males" ... as not all do it ... and it's not just men that do it

The number of times we get a "hi" message with nothing else expecting a reply ... effort into messages gets more responses

That mantra that seems to recur on here

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

I'd always assume they were either dodgy or looked like Jim off Friday night dinner if I was in your boat!

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

I think often there’s a thrill in just messaging someone to ask whilst you’re lonely wanking and they likely don’t even expect a reply but anything other than delete is a total win, so there’s nothing to lose by messaging and everything to potentially gain - even a chance to be antagonistic if they get a smart alec response from someone saying no.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think many operate on the assumption that it's more efficient to send a thousand crap messages than 20 good ones.

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon


"I think many operate on the assumption that it's more efficient to send a thousand crap messages than 20 good ones. "

Or only capable of sending crap messages?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you not noticed that those men tend to be verified though? It must work at some point!

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By *inkyLondonpair OP   Couple
over a year ago

London


"Have you not noticed that those men tend to be verified though? It must work at some point! "

Not the ones we get messages from!

I literally can't see the point. Surely no one is going to meet someone you know nothing about in a hotel room, when there are any other options.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Have you not noticed that those men tend to be verified though? It must work at some point!

Not the ones we get messages from!

I literally can't see the point. Surely no one is going to meet someone you know nothing about in a hotel room, when there are any other options. "

If you send enough messages, surely someone will respond? I think is the thinking.

It's better than "I know you don't x, but..." no but. I don't x. (usually "you don't meet immediately, but I've got this lovely hotel room and you're very attractive" )

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By *inkyLondonpair OP   Couple
over a year ago

London


"Have you not noticed that those men tend to be verified though? It must work at some point!

Not the ones we get messages from!

I literally can't see the point. Surely no one is going to meet someone you know nothing about in a hotel room, when there are any other options.

If you send enough messages, surely someone will respond? I think is the thinking.

It's better than "I know you don't x, but..." no but. I don't x. (usually "you don't meet immediately, but I've got this lovely hotel room and you're very attractive" ) "

But given couples and women will always have multiple options, if you have no pics and no words, there's zero chance of a response.

The scatter gun approach if you have a decent profile is another matter...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Have you not noticed that those men tend to be verified though? It must work at some point!

Not the ones we get messages from!

I literally can't see the point. Surely no one is going to meet someone you know nothing about in a hotel room, when there are any other options.

If you send enough messages, surely someone will respond? I think is the thinking.

It's better than "I know you don't x, but..." no but. I don't x. (usually "you don't meet immediately, but I've got this lovely hotel room and you're very attractive" )

But given couples and women will always have multiple options, if you have no pics and no words, there's zero chance of a response.

The scatter gun approach if you have a decent profile is another matter... "

You know that and I know that. I don't think they do.

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By *avethefish400Man
over a year ago

Chichester

I used to be a sales rep and no matter how detailed the introduction message it would normally get deleted or just left unread.

The ratio of men to women is so high it’s very hard to even get a response.

I can understand just fishing for a reply before putting time into each message

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"We get quite a few messages from men with no pics and virtually no words in their profile informing us they in a hotel on x date and would we like to join them.

There's literally no point sending such a message as, given, the number of men v couples and women there is zero chance anyone will take them up on the offer.

Do they not realise that? "

I get at least one of these types of messages daily!

Except mine are all 'in hotel now'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually put an update on to say I am in X or at Y but I would never message a lady to ask for a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think often there’s a thrill in just messaging someone to ask whilst you’re lonely wanking and they likely don’t even expect a reply but anything other than delete is a total win, so there’s nothing to lose by messaging and everything to potentially gain - even a chance to be antagonistic if they get a smart alec response from someone saying no. "

(((())))

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've given up trying to ever second guess what "anyone" may or may not do.

Isn't everyone different, not just a stereotype to be put in a box and condemned out of hand by anothers prejudices OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think often there’s a thrill in just messaging someone to ask whilst you’re lonely wanking and they likely don’t even expect a reply but anything other than delete is a total win, so there’s nothing to lose by messaging and everything to potentially gain - even a chance to be antagonistic if they get a smart alec response from someone saying no. "

My thoughts as well

Then if you do play along and answer them they are stumped as to what to say next

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole


"Have you not noticed that those men tend to be verified though? It must work at some point!

Not the ones we get messages from!

I literally can't see the point. Surely no one is going to meet someone you know nothing about in a hotel room, when there are any other options. "

WE quite often meet single men in hotels rooms. we can't accom. They can, so it's a good option for us. Whats the difference meeting them in a hotel room to a club or doggin? You still know very little about the person in either of these places. Unless you get a full bio from them before hand.

we're only there from the lust of a meet. Not strange to us to meet guys in hotels.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside


"Have you not noticed that those men tend to be verified though? It must work at some point!

Not the ones we get messages from!

I literally can't see the point. Surely no one is going to meet someone you know nothing about in a hotel room, when there are any other options.

WE quite often meet single men in hotels rooms. we can't accom. They can, so it's a good option for us. Whats the difference meeting them in a hotel room to a club or doggin? You still know very little about the person in either of these places. Unless you get a full bio from them before hand.

we're only there from the lust of a meet. Not strange to us to meet guys in hotels. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you not noticed that those men tend to be verified though? It must work at some point!

Not the ones we get messages from!

I literally can't see the point. Surely no one is going to meet someone you know nothing about in a hotel room, when there are any other options.

WE quite often meet single men in hotels rooms. we can't accom. They can, so it's a good option for us. Whats the difference meeting them in a hotel room to a club or doggin? You still know very little about the person in either of these places. Unless you get a full bio from them before hand.

we're only there from the lust of a meet. Not strange to us to meet guys in hotels. "

Yeah but do you meet every guy that messages you that has a hotel room? Or just those that take your fancy?

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole


"Have you not noticed that those men tend to be verified though? It must work at some point!

Not the ones we get messages from!

I literally can't see the point. Surely no one is going to meet someone you know nothing about in a hotel room, when there are any other options.

WE quite often meet single men in hotels rooms. we can't accom. They can, so it's a good option for us. Whats the difference meeting them in a hotel room to a club or doggin? You still know very little about the person in either of these places. Unless you get a full bio from them before hand.

we're only there from the lust of a meet. Not strange to us to meet guys in hotels.

Yeah but do you meet every guy that messages you that has a hotel room? Or just those that take your fancy? "

Depends if we have " playtime". We've had a message today, guy in Southampton hotel tomorrow. We delined as male half working in London tomorrow. If we could of fit him in around work / life then maybe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have you not noticed that those men tend to be verified though? It must work at some point!

Not the ones we get messages from!

I literally can't see the point. Surely no one is going to meet someone you know nothing about in a hotel room, when there are any other options.

WE quite often meet single men in hotels rooms. we can't accom. They can, so it's a good option for us. Whats the difference meeting them in a hotel room to a club or doggin? You still know very little about the person in either of these places. Unless you get a full bio from them before hand.

we're only there from the lust of a meet. Not strange to us to meet guys in hotels.

Yeah but do you meet every guy that messages you that has a hotel room? Or just those that take your fancy?

Depends if we have " playtime". We've had a message today, guy in Southampton hotel tomorrow. We delined as male half working in London tomorrow. If we could of fit him in around work / life then maybe. "

And was his profile void of pictures and information? That's what the op is getting at

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think often there’s a thrill in just messaging someone to ask whilst you’re lonely wanking and they likely don’t even expect a reply but anything other than delete is a total win, so there’s nothing to lose by messaging and everything to potentially gain - even a chance to be antagonistic if they get a smart alec response from someone saying no. "

Absolutely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We get quite a few messages from men with no pics and virtually no words in their profile informing us they in a hotel on x date and would we like to join them.

There's literally no point sending such a message as, given, the number of men v couples and women there is zero chance anyone will take them up on the offer.

Do they not realise that? "

Haha or send u just a pic of their dick as that is a sure winner

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"We get quite a few messages from men with no pics and virtually no words in their profile informing us they in a hotel on x date and would we like to join them.

There's literally no point sending such a message as, given, the number of men v couples and women there is zero chance anyone will take them up on the offer.

Do they not realise that?

Haha or send u just a pic of their dick as that is a sure winner"

Is it? Excellent advice... watch you in box

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

I think it depends on how picky the people are that they message!

I go to clubs a lot - and there are many incredibly attractive women and couples there who, in the heat of the moment and for the pure pleasure of it (I assume) - will have sex with a large number of lucky chaps who I definitely don’t find attractive!

I think swingers fit into more than one category - and for those who are drawn to the attraction of the experience rather than the appearance of the individual (only way I can put it - sorry!) - Then a drink in a hotel bar followed by free nookie in a hotel room is probably a great night out - particularly if hotels aren’t normally in your budget?

Tbh I often wish I wasn’t such a fussy fecker - means I miss out on a lot of potential fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has gone from guys sending empty messages with no pics or limited text, to whether hotel meet now is acceptable??

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole


"Have you not noticed that those men tend to be verified though? It must work at some point!

Not the ones we get messages from!

I literally can't see the point. Surely no one is going to meet someone you know nothing about in a hotel room, when there are any other options.

WE quite often meet single men in hotels rooms. we can't accom. They can, so it's a good option for us. Whats the difference meeting them in a hotel room to a club or doggin? You still know very little about the person in either of these places. Unless you get a full bio from them before hand.

we're only there from the lust of a meet. Not strange to us to meet guys in hotels.

Yeah but do you meet every guy that messages you that has a hotel room? Or just those that take your fancy?

Depends if we have " playtime". We've had a message today, guy in Southampton hotel tomorrow. We delined as male half working in London tomorrow. If we could of fit him in around work / life then maybe.

And was his profile void of pictures and information? That's what the op is getting at"

He's been on 3 weeks 2 veris, face pic on message, good message. A bit on profile.

Thats not really a factor in our play. I fem, went to meet a guy in a hotel on my own as a single. Good profile, lots of good veris, good pics, all current and vaild. He was off his face on drugs when I arrived. Due to this I will not meet again as a single lady.

We took a punt on a chap the other night. Year long account, no veris, not many pics, - no face. Basic write up profile. = great evening, want to meet again.

Profiles don't always have a bearing on the person. We don't even go on what others say. As whats right for one. Might not be right for us. And vise versa.

We're old school swingers. To us it's just lust and sex.

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