FabSwingers.com forum: Democracy at stake...because of you?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you've read the BBC website, or listened to the radio today, you may have heard a story about the widening gap between rich and poor, which according to authors is putting the whole ethos of democracy at stake!

But as the rich improve lifestyles; if you're on the lower end, why is that?

If you're unhappy with your lot, are you able to reflect and take responsibility for that position? We're you not studying, or working harder, or made bad choices? Or are you genuinely dealt a lemon in life despite being a grafter?

Why are you in the position in life that you are?

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Because I haven't been ruthless enough , and I'm glad , because that's not me . And because I fucked around at school too much when I could have been a sportsman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I let people dictate to me what I could and couldn't do for far too long and from an early age. Now I've finally realised I'm to a degree in control of my own destiny, well, I'm at an age where career changes/education are gonna be harder, plus I need to keep my current job to keep a roof over my head and it doesn't pay enough for me to enrol in anything I need to pay for.

I can't commit to any courses or taking a second job as my hours at work aren't set shifts, they get changed at short notice etc and if I say I can't do a shift they punish you by taking other shifts off you too and wiping out your income.

So, how did I end up here?

Mother who forced me to take a shit job instead of accepting a place on my dream job course, which is incredibly niche. Job for life.

Moved out as soon as I could and got a job I would have happily done forever, a job I LOVED. Fell pregnant 6 months before I was due to sit my exam and become fully qualified, a very physical job and one I couldn't continue whilst my bump was growing. Boss closed the business after I left to have my son so I never got back into it.

After I had my son, his dad was adamant I should be a stay at home mum. Cause of countless arguments and tension.

I left my sons dad and moved away.

Got a job in the school my lad went to, qualified as a teaching assistant. I enjoyed some of it, but it really wasn't for me. Kids fighting and being told I could do nothing but stand by and watch, and deal with the aftermath was too much. Couple that with my then partner taking the piss out of the qualifications I was getting, telling me they were almost as worthless as I was, well, it was time for change.

Fast forward to my current job. Been there 10 years now, during that time I've got rid of the abusive ex who convinced me I was worthless and now I find myself here, right back at the top of this post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Partly because I refuse to rip people off, stab my employers in the back, sell people what they don't need, lie, cheat or steal.

Partly because I'm never given the opportunity to step up to the plate. When I am it's not noticed or appreciated.

Partly because I'd struggle being self employed.

We don't live in a democracy, we live under the illusion that we're a free society. Liberal capitalism, not a Democracy. Massive Difference in reality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Partly because I refuse to rip people off, stab my employers in the back, sell people what they don't need, lie, cheat or steal.

Partly because I'm never given the opportunity to step up to the plate. When I am it's not noticed or appreciated.

Partly because I'd struggle being self employed.

We don't live in a democracy, we live under the illusion that we're a free society. Liberal capitalism, not a Democracy. Massive Difference in reality. "

Partly because I can't afford to retrain, or take the time off to retrain.

Partly because I don't want to be in debt my entire life.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm where I am because I want to be.

There will always be huge inequalities in life as long as we value celebrity and sportspeople above carers, NHS workers etc

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By *illing2016Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

I am not rich because I do not work for the BBC.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Excuses for not taking action make me sad and this palace is full of them. Time and a mind is all the start you need for change. Anyone spending a significant part of each day on fab has no excuse imho, unless they're happy and it's what they want to be doing and in which case they shouldn't really be complaining about life....

I'm happy, are you happy, sunny outside innit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Excuses for not taking action make me sad and this palace is full of them. Time and a mind is all the start you need for change. Anyone spending a significant part of each day on fab has no excuse imho, unless they're happy and it's what they want to be doing and in which case they shouldn't really be complaining about life....

I'm happy, are you happy, sunny outside innit

Sorry we're not all perfect people pleasers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm where I am because I want to be.

There will always be huge inequalities in life as long as we value celebrity and sportspeople above carers, NHS workers etc"

agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had to leave school to work as my family weren’t well off. Drifted into lots of dead end jobs. Did do some management work but I was young and didn’t focus enough. Met and married my ex had the children and then had the misfortune of both my sons being diagnosed with the same rare illness. Spent years in and out of hospitals and not knowing what that day would bring. I was just existing. Had to devote my time to being a full time carer and because of the way the social care system is I’m stuck in a trap of not being able to get back into work as I need to be at home all but 2 days a week to care for my sons, and the hours I could work wouldn’t pay enough. I’m in a catch 22 situation x

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