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By *oelDorian OP   Man
over a year ago

vanaheim

so I have seen a few threads about it and have experienced it myself why do some men feel that their first message has to be balls to the walls. Like would that even work work at a bar or club and if it does then have to give them a very small amount of respect. So I was wondering what other peoples thoughts on this subject are.

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Because it's social media. And because it's behind a keyboard it doesn't matt r apparently.

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By *oelDorian OP   Man
over a year ago

vanaheim


"Because it's social media. And because it's behind a keyboard it doesn't matt r apparently. "

true but it's the few men that give the rest of us decent men a bad rep because of those sort of messages

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

It's not even just a few men. It's most of the men here.

Lack of imagination, lack of skills talking with women, entitlement.... All playing their parts...

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.


"Because it's social media. And because it's behind a keyboard it doesn't matt r apparently.

true but it's the few men that give the rest of us decent men a bad rep because of those sort of messages "

I feel it helps the man who can send a decent message stand out rather than give them a bad name.

If people can't attach an interesting or attractive picture, it doesn't give a bad name to those who can.

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By *oelDorian OP   Man
over a year ago

vanaheim


" It's not even just a few men. It's most of the men here.

Lack of imagination, lack of skills talking with women, entitlement.... All playing their parts... "

yeah I guess that's true and yeah it is most men on here and yeah it does make those decent men stand out but not that much as they are drowned out by the other lack of imagination guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because it's social media. And because it's behind a keyboard it doesn't matt r apparently.

true but it's the few men that give the rest of us decent men a bad rep because of those sort of messages "
nope wrong im responsible for my own name you are for yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because it's social media. And because it's behind a keyboard it doesn't matt r apparently.

true but it's the few men that give the rest of us decent men a bad rep because of those sort of messages

I feel it helps the man who can send a decent message stand out rather than give them a bad name.

If people can't attach an interesting or attractive picture, it doesn't give a bad name to those who can."

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We're on a site where the main purpose is to meet for sex. Of course some guys are going to go straight in for the kill. If it works for them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" It's not even just a few men. It's most of the men here.

Lack of imagination, lack of skills talking with women, entitlement.... All playing their parts... "

Not in my experience it's not. Maybe they think because you're a man you that kind of message, because it's what they like?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Balls to the Walls is funny.

Cock on the block....

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


" It's not even just a few men. It's most of the men here.

Lack of imagination, lack of skills talking with women, entitlement.... All playing their parts...

yeah I guess that's true and yeah it is most men on here and yeah it does make those decent men stand out but not that much as they are drowned out by the other lack of imagination guys"

Nope, not a bit of it. The whole 'gives decent guys a bad name' argument is a a complete fallacy. Only you can make yourself look good or bad. If people are willing to think that 'all guys are bad' based on the behaviour of a few idiots, then they're not the kind of people that I'd be wanting to meet.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think some of them see "don't send a boring message" and think they have to be extreme.

There's a lot of subtlety lost there, like there's a gaping chasm between (based on but not real messages) "oh please, delightful lady, I hope I'm not disturbing you, could I ask you a question?" and "I'm gonna pin you by the neck to the wall and you're not going to be able to walk for a week".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a straight man on here I have no idea of the percentage of guys who message like that, but those that do are being themselves and representing themselves accordingly. That approach may appeal to some, but it's priceless to those it doesn't, as it alerts them straight away.

Better that than guys with a poor attitude learning to make false respectful messages to deceive women into meeting a fake.

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