FabSwingers.com forum: One for the couples

By *LAndAJ OP Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Hi everyone,

We're new to this as a couple, but we were on here individually before we met and love grew from friendship. We're just thinking about the boundaries/rules we want to have and we were wondering what works for other couples? Em is more cautious and and some of her boundaries are...

1) Our relationship is the priority.

2) Must feel and be safe.

3) No solo meets or separate room.

4) No emotional ties or emotional intimacy with others.

5) Soft-swing is preferable for initial meets with other couples, at least while we test the waters.

6) Threesome scenarios (MFM or FMF) are brilliant providing the focus is on sharing an experience together (i.e. both of us are present and involved).

We're sure that there are other things but we would appreciate some advice from couples who have been doing this successfully.

Em and AJ x

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

I think it really comes down to your rule number 1

Your relationship is priority so you set YOUR rules and boundaries that suit your relationship not anyone else’s.

The only thing I would say is never stop talking to one another. Communication is key.

Whatever you set as your boundaries now, you may feel you want to change later. Are you both flexible? You need to keep talking to do this together.

Lex

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I think it really comes down to your rule number 1

Your relationship is priority so you set YOUR rules and boundaries that suit your relationship not anyone else’s.

The only thing I would say is never stop talking to one another. Communication is key.

Whatever you set as your boundaries now, you may feel you want to change later. Are you both flexible? You need to keep talking to do this together.

Lex"

I agree with this.

One rule that my ex and I had was; stop means stop, if either of us was uncomfortable in any way shape or form they would speak up and that would be that, irrespective of where or what.

Another was; never, ever take one for the team.

Good luck OP, I hope you enjoy yourselves.

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By *LAndAJ OP Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Thanks Lex and Tea Monkey

AJ is probably more flexible than me (Em) but I'm open to sharing new experiences together

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yeah I agree that your relationship is priority. That must be both partners no 1 rule and everything flows from that. We have rules and boundaries that suit us as a couple and some that are in place due to individual requirements. They're probably different to other couples but that doesn't matter, the only thing that does is that they're suitable for us.

what makes you seek advice on your rules and boundaries?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of similar rules to us. Just keep talking and make sure you have time just for you both as well. Have fun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it really comes down to your rule number 1

Your relationship is priority so you set YOUR rules and boundaries that suit your relationship not anyone else’s.

The only thing I would say is never stop talking to one another. Communication is key.

Whatever you set as your boundaries now, you may feel you want to change later. Are you both flexible? You need to keep talking to do this together.

Lex"

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