FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to The Lounge

Does Fab wear you out emotionally?

Jump to newest
 

By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Fabsteroos

Musing again.

How do you cope with Fab when it becomes challenging?

Does it wear you out emotionally? Or are you able to just put it to one side and not get stressed?

Discuss.

Bhubaysi

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not invested in it enough for that to be a worry.

The repetitive crappy messages can be annoying but that's about all

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *carlet_woman_xxWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

It keeps me amused

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I've never found it stressful, but I do worry about how much time I spend on the forums however

I could say goodbye tomorrow if I found it a pain, but I do enjoy being on here and interacting (the majority of time) with some really interesting people.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just turn it off ...

It amuses me on dull days

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smile and wave

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

If it does have a break hide your profile.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wears my eyes out lol.

At first it gave me sleepless nights from thinking about all the fun everyone else is having and what women are searching for in a man.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When it's not fun I don't post.. I tend to do bursts then bore myself and take a break..

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I kill boredom on fab.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 12/05/19 20:22:20]

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just chat shit until it goes

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

If it was becoming challenging then I would hide my profile and take a break. No I don’t find it emotionally tiring.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not invested in it enough for that to be a worry.

The repetitive crappy messages can be annoying but that's about all "

I agree about the shit messages. They're easy to turn off though.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *elsh_naturist_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Newport

For sure to the point we only look at the forums.

Guy's just don't really get the friends with benefits thing. They think that's dropping you a text when they are horny. Don't understand that we are actually looking to build a friendship with goid sex.

So it has driven us away for the time being.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

It doesn’t wear me out emotionally, I’m not that thin skinned but it certainly leaves me mostly bemused, at times astounded and laughing at those void of brain cells and thus verbal diarrhoea!

The amusing people far outweigh the social hand grenades I have to say

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *he Secret Tea PartyCouple
over a year ago

London

"Does Fab wear you out emotionally?"

Only if you let it I'd say

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When it gets like that I just have a break

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Whenever fab just gets too overwhelming or we get frustrated with the whole thing we take a break, it really is that simple. Sometimes we just don't log on or we stop looking and trying to meet either way we tend to come back with energy and vigor.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport


"Fabsteroos

Musing again.

How do you cope with Fab when it becomes challenging?

Does it wear you out emotionally? Or are you able to just put it to one side and not get stressed?

Discuss.

Bhubaysi "

It used to! It’s taken 3+ years to realise ‘you know I’m alright, we’re alright, if people don’t want to get to know us it’s not a problem as we don’t actually need anything more than each other, Fab is an addition to what we have, not the be all and end all’ but it’s taken a while to get to this place (can’t complain either, it’s been fun too)

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

YES IT DOES! Wear me out emotionally I mean, and makes me feel like an awful, pointless human being.

No i won't leave because i'm a decent human being and hsve friends I chat to before anyone suggests I leave

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesnt wear me out no. I dont want to get involved in it sometimes, the forums that is, so I just sort of skate over the surface of it all, looking, but thats about it.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really. I'm not here looking for anything specific. I tend to just float around posting crap on the forums and chatting to those who catch my eye. If anything comes from it then great but if not it's no loss.

The only time I get a bit huffy is when there's a lot of negativity around and I just want to have a laugh. I do tend to be proactive then and try do my bit to get people chatting again.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"Fabsteroos

Musing again.

How do you cope with Fab when it becomes challenging?

Does it wear you out emotionally? Or are you able to just put it to one side and not get stressed?

Discuss.

Bhubaysi "

Yep, it can do. But it’s just the evidence of intransigence and nitwittery that I find draining. I have a break and commune with non-twunts and then I’m good.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I don't live my life through fab. I dip in when I want some time to be filled.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I'm not here for days at a time so on the whole no. My observations are that alot of men don't read your profile and that woman are pretty mean to each other

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all, I think if it's affecting you emotionally then you're doing it wrong. I'm sure it's probably different as a single when you don't have a partner to fall back on, but this is supposed to be fun not make you drained. Once ov had enough I just log off and leave it until I get that itch again.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't think of fab in terms of being emotionally wearing but then I don't get involved with anybody on anything but a superficial level and tend to view it completely separately from "real" life.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *r on the EdgeMan
over a year ago

accrington

I find it does become draining when I’m investing time sending messages and not getting far.

But I try not to let it get me down

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just come here for giggles, friends and the forum with the hope of learning something from the people I interact with. I have skin like a mummified rhino, so I'm usually fine. It has got to me a bit on occasion, not for myself but more if ppl I like or care about are getting a hard time here.... If it's no fun then the best thing to do is log off and talk to a real person who actually gives a fuck and it'll totally resets your sense of reality....

Stay happy all

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you’ve probably invested too much in Fab if you get overly emotional by being here.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Time I have certainly invested but emotion...no.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be wearing, frustrating at times and / or I’m not in the right place for it.

When that happens I don’t login in, simple as that....

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *icetouch83Man
over a year ago

swansea

No even though I don't get much luck here I don't let it get to me unless I get abusive messages then that's what the block button is for

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

I don’t invest my emotions in fab. They belong elsewhere.

Lex

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's only a website, it's only what you make of it.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For sure to the point we only look at the forums.

Guy's just don't really get the friends with benefits thing. They think that's dropping you a text when they are horny. Don't understand that we are actually looking to build a friendship with goid sex.

So it has driven us away for the time being. "

This has been a major issue for us as well. Single guys and couples use it as a booty call or sexting instead.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fabsteroos

Musing again.

How do you cope with Fab when it becomes challenging?

Does it wear you out emotionally? Or are you able to just put it to one side and not get stressed?

Discuss.

Bhubaysi "

I don't find it emotionally wearing, if i did i would either have a break or leave.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not emotionally draining..

Though I do find it a bit concerning that in the three years I've being single I've only met one person whom I had emotional feelings for.. and it ended disastrously. A few nice Fab meets, but not as many as I'd expected, which wasn't a lot if I'm honest.

I put myself out there on dating sites and Fab.

I mean.. how hard is it to get chatting with someone local?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No but real life often does. So fabs a bit of an escape. If it did I’d be gone. It’s just a funnier Facebook for me.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab as a whole doesn't as such, but some of the actions of others from here have done.

I try to avoid threads I've seen them post on, coz my phone has come very close to flying across the room a few times when I've seen them spout complete bollocks and I'm unable to do anything about it without ending up with a time out.

Those occasions are rare though.

P

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

No I don't.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fab as a whole doesn't as such, but some of the actions of others from here have done.

I try to avoid threads I've seen them post on, coz my phone has come very close to flying across the room a few times when I've seen them spout complete bollocks and I'm unable to do anything about it without ending up with a time out.

Those occasions are rare though.

P"

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how engrossed in it all u get its more the people that can grand you down but you can get that in real life too so in truth as people i believe we allow ourselves to be warn down and if its building do something else to change the routine

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *heffmMan
over a year ago

sheffield

it's a chat site, don't take it so serious

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab does not get me stressed or never worn me out emotionally. Does get "challenging" at times, but I can learn/adapt to overcome them. Once you been on here long enough you know the tell tell signs. Some things are predictable because on a repeat cycle so easier to cope with.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say it does me sometimes OP

But that could be influenced by a number of external factors also contributing to my stress levels.

So at times of frustration, I calm myself by talking honestly with my gorgeous hubbie about what’s pissing me off. He usually keeps me sane (subjective to others’ thoughts).

We sometimes hide our profile and ground ourselves in real life

Hope you find your peace x

Mrs P

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a laugh that's all but I can see why it would stress some out with hundreds of messages etc

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all sometimess go through spells of getting no messages or interest but I take it as it is for single guys

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I'm here because it's a fun diversion, if it got tedious I'd do something else.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top