FabSwingers.com forum: Conversational style

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

After another bout of my cringe inducing verbal vomit I've been thinking about how we communicate with people you like/want to fuck/fancy (on here/in the "real world"). I think it's fair to say I'm a talker and fuck knows I wish I could delete a few messages!

Are you a blunt, say it in a few words sort? Do you waffle on copiously about everything and nothing? Do you think before you send/say something or do you just allow it to all come tumbling out?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a bit of everything I reckon, but I do it in my own way

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve got all the conversational direction of Captain Jack Sparrow, out of his face on rum. I don’t think there’s much I won’t or haven’t talked about, but it works for me....I think.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I talk a massive amount of absolute gibberish.. if they can translate that and reply in an equally odd way then they're a keeper!!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

Quite often, once I start I never stop. I’m an excitable conversationalist. I get carried away with shit that I find interesting, go off on tangents. Need taking in hand and keeping on a short rein at times

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv no room to talk

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of the above...I'm very blunt but I don't half waffle on...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve tended to blurt it out. I think it’s probably quite off-putting thereby reducing any chance of anything sexual happening,

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I’ve got all the conversational direction of Captain Jack Sparrow, out of his face on rum. I don’t think there’s much I won’t or haven’t talked about, but it works for me....I think."

I feel like this. Do you never experience the sort of verbal hangover though? You've done one too many words for too long and then you regret it and tell yourself next time you'll only do a couple. Yeaaah maybe just me.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm lazy. So short and too the point.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve got all the conversational direction of Captain Jack Sparrow, out of his face on rum. I don’t think there’s much I won’t or haven’t talked about, but it works for me....I think.

All the time. Why use three words when you can use millions? I’m half Italian so I talk with my hands too....I’ll just shut up now

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm lazy. So short and too the point. "

*to

Damn phone

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I talk a massive amount of absolute gibberish.. if they can translate that and reply in an equally odd way then they're a keeper!! "

Yes! One of my closest friendships from here started because we would only communicate in haikus for a good week or so. Pretension, we are good bedfellows.

I do find it oddly hot if someone can translate my 100 words and succinctly summarise a response though. It's "aww thanks for getting my waffling".

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just talk...ask about every day interests, build up a mental picture.

I'm never quite sure how to transition from discussing recent travels to asking if I can tongue poke their bum hole. Seems a little awkward once I've got to know them!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

On here i’m a waffler. In person you’d be hard pressed to get me to say anything!

I tend to ignore men i fancy in the real world as i can’t look at them. I’m very shy see.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Tend to be very dry which is often misinterpreted, still a good filter.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I can’t for the life of me do small talk, and I rarely waffle unless they mention something we both have a great interest in then I talk about a million words a minute

I am more the sort of person that asks leading questions then will sit back and let you do all the talking instead

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im both, depending on what im saying.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not a talker until I know the other person is interested too

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I talk a massive amount of absolute gibberish.. if they can translate that and reply in an equally odd way then they're a keeper!!

Yes! One of my closest friendships from here started because we would only communicate in haikus for a good week or so. Pretension, we are good bedfellows.

I do find it oddly hot if someone can translate my 100 words and succinctly summarise a response though. It's "aww thanks for getting my waffling"."

Totally!! It's like a special skill. I bloody love it!!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Quite often, once I start I never stop. I’m an excitable conversationalist. I get carried away with shit that I find interesting, go off on tangents. Need taking in hand and keeping on a short rein at times

I'm taking this - excitable conversationalist. Yes. The more energy I get the more tangents I can find of nonsense.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"Iv no room to talk

You're always so quiet. A man of few words PMF.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I waffle on about utter nonsense in pms and in real life. I get easily distracted and talk with my hands as well x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I waffle about all sorts of nothingness

I love a good chinwag.

I can be direct though if that is required. Rarely am I like that though.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"After another bout of my cringe inducing verbal vomit I've been thinking about how we communicate with people you like/want to fuck/fancy (on here/in the "real world"). I think it's fair to say I'm a talker and fuck knows I wish I could delete a few messages!

Are you a blunt, say it in a few words sort? Do you waffle on copiously about everything and nothing? Do you think before you send/say something or do you just allow it to all come tumbling out?

On those rare occasions when I'm bold enough to tell someone I'm physically attracted to them, I'm as clumsy as fuck.

This happened recently.

I really wish I hadn't said anything.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how tired I am, what the conversation is about and if they are turning me on.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I’ve tended to blurt it out. I think it’s probably quite off-putting thereby reducing any chance of anything sexual happening,"

Oh don't type that. I'm a blurter too and I think sometimes it must be like an icebath for an erection.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you a blunt, say it in a few words sort? Do you waffle on copiously about everything and nothing? Do you think before you send/say something or do you just allow it to all come tumbling out?

On those rare occasions when I'm bold enough to tell someone I'm physically attracted to them, I'm as clumsy as fuck.

This happened recently.

I really wish I hadn't said anything.

I know what you mean at think I am more overly verbose than clumsy and a bit too much. It has the same effect by the sounds of it though

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On occasion, when I've been really attracted to someone and we're meeting for the first time in a bar, I've become a gibbering idiot.

It's usually when I can tell they are attracted too and probably want me naked.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve tended to blurt it out. I think it’s probably quite off-putting thereby reducing any chance of anything sexual happening,

Oh don't type that. I'm a blurter too and I think sometimes it must be like an icebath for an erection.

I’m one of the single biggest causes of vaginal dryness

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I’ve got all the conversational direction of Captain Jack Sparrow, out of his face on rum. I don’t think there’s much I won’t or haven’t talked about, but it works for me....I think."

Captain Jack Sparrow on rum...love that..giggling here.

I'm like Pasty ab fab...never know what's going to come out of my mouth. I found I filter myself less and less.

I was pretty guarded at first which is unlike me. I'm pretty open in the real world.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh by the way. I’ve enjoyed the conversations with all of you that I’ve had one with that have posted on this thread and actually don’t recognise the self-critical impression you have of your style.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I try and make conversations interesting, going off on a tangent is a good thing.

It’s the only way I can get laid, relying on my looks is hardly going to get me far

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *andonmessMan
over a year ago

A world all of his own

It has been known for me to have a bad case of verbal diahreaa at times, but that's mostly down to initial nerves, once I'm beyond that I'll talk about anything and everything

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I try and make conversations interesting, going off on a tangent is a good thing.

It’s the only way I can get laid, relying on my looks is hardly going to get me far

Perhaps I should go off on a tangent or sine or cosine. In fact I could just talk mathematical nonsense, maybe I can get laid that way

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once I get going I talk about everything and anything until I bore them into silence. Little rest and go again with a new hook

There are many messages I wish I could have maybe deleted at times too

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Are you a blunt, say it in a few words sort? Do you waffle on copiously about everything and nothing? Do you think before you send/say something or do you just allow it to all come tumbling out?

Yes.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

Sometimes blunt and straight to the point, waffling on happens on the odd occasion, sarcasm can come out too but then over thinking of what I'm saying more often than not, especially when it's through messages

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a chat and not just about sex.. but finding a woman who will engage in conversation is much easier said than done.

I sometimes feel I'm being rude messaging women, because I am only adding to all the other messages that they haven't got the time to get through.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually natter utter nonsense before making any sort of move.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the other person and how they make me feel.

Sometimes I'm quite confident and take control of the chat and can be a bit cheeky and flirty.

Sometimes we just click with our sense of humour and end up just talking louds and laughing

Sometimes there's just something about them that turns me into a shy and mumbling mess.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Iv no room to talk

You're always so quiet. A man of few words PMF.

"
im the fab monk

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

Are you a blunt, say it in a few words sort? Do you waffle on copiously about everything and nothing? Do you think before you send/say something or do you just allow it to all come tumbling out?

On those rare occasions when I'm bold enough to tell someone I'm physically attracted to them, I'm as clumsy as fuck.

This happened recently.

I really wish I hadn't said anything.

I know what you mean at think I am more overly verbose than clumsy and a bit too much. It has the same effect by the sounds of it though

In fairness my profile gives enough clues that I'm a gibbering idiot......

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you a blunt, say it in a few words sort? Do you waffle on copiously about everything and nothing? Do you think before you send/say something or do you just allow it to all come tumbling out?

On those rare occasions when I'm bold enough to tell someone I'm physically attracted to them, I'm as clumsy as fuck.

This happened recently.

I really wish I hadn't said anything.

I know what you mean at think I am more overly verbose than clumsy and a bit too much. It has the same effect by the sounds of it though

In fairness my profile gives enough clues that I'm a gibbering idiot......

Indeed it does. It did make me chortle though

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

I waffle on but I don’t blurt out whatever I think...not unless I am really annoyed at someone. And I tend to waffle usually after a few drinks when I loosen up.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I know what you mean at think I am more overly verbose than clumsy and a bit too much. It has the same effect by the sounds of it though

In fairness my profile gives enough clues that I'm a gibbering idiot......

Being a gibbering idiot is an endearing trait. At least that's what I tell myself. I quite like it when people gibber away at me. It makes me think they like me and can't wait to tell me everything.

The more I fancy someone the worse it gets - I'm thinking I should put a disclaimer on my thread so people know what they are getting in to. I do the regret sending something thing as well. Luckily my good friend laughs a lot and tells me to breathe and bullet point my verbal spaff. I'm better at not gibbering in person.

You'll find someone who understands and finds it endearing soon SB.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hunderstruckMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I’m usually good with the chat and banter away from here. Happy to talk to ladies in pubs and clubs . Even in everyday life I’m happy to chat with people from all walks of life .

I have to in my job as a callout engineer.

To expect a response from someone on here with a few lines of text seems impossible sometimes.

Maybe my age

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

It depends who I am conversing with ...and how animated said person is.

I tend to look for leads of where the conversation is going, either I go with the flow or bail out

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

That said, in real life I’m a confident talker! See an opportunity and go for it

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally waffle, about everything...

can’t change a habit of a lifetime!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just flirt like crazy

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I waffle on but I don’t blurt out whatever I think...not unless I am really annoyed at someone. And I tend to waffle usually after a few drinks when I loosen up."

Ah alcohol,the brilliant social lubricator that it is.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use a dog whistle to encourage the other person to say it for me, like it was their idea...... ......no seriously, I just say whats on my mind, and mostly that's the load of bollocks you see me type in here.....

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm probably quite awkward initially if I'm honest, I'm not the easiest person to converse with by any means!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"It depends who I am conversing with ...and how animated said person is.

I tend to look for leads of where the conversation is going, either I go with the flow or bail out

That's the sensible thing to do - follow social cues and not just steam roll in with your words. Sensible is too logical.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *_MariusMan
over a year ago

Currently Faraway

"I waffle on but I don’t blurt out whatever I think...not unless I am really annoyed at someone. And I tend to waffle usually after a few drinks when I loosen up.

Ah alcohol,the brilliant social lubricator that it is.

Too much for my own good sometimes; need it in order to start getting more sexually confident or chatty or even get in the mood to dance. I strive for civilised though, not d*unk.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just look them in the eye flutter my lashes,i don't think its polite to talk with your mouth full

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I just flirt like crazy

I hadn't noticed at all.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go with the flow. And if it goes tits up... Move on.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *corpio67Man
over a year ago

hillingdon

I love Repartee!

It's a skill!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago

"I use a dog whistle to encourage the other person to say it for me, like it was their idea...... ......no seriously, I just say whats on my mind, and mostly that's the load of bollocks you see me type in here.....

Yes but don't you ever think "ah shitting hell, mebbe they don't want to read/hear that stream of consciousness"? I do want to find one of those dog whistles.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I know what you mean at think I am more overly verbose than clumsy and a bit too much. It has the same effect by the sounds of it though

In fairness my profile gives enough clues that I'm a gibbering idiot......

Being a gibbering idiot is an endearing trait. At least that's what I tell myself. I quite like it when people gibber away at me. It makes me think they like me and can't wait to tell me everything.

You'll find someone who understands and finds it endearing soon SB.

I live in hope......

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I can struggle to think of things to say so conversations can be stilted. Other times I can just click with someone and the conversation just flows easily. If I fancy someone I can struggle to hold a conversation where I don’t come across as a bumbling idiot x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but don't you ever think "ah shitting hell, mebbe they don't want to read/hear that stream of consciousness"? I do want to find one of those dog whistles.

Absolutely! Usually too late.....

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if in doubt,,,,just pout

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Sometimes I can struggle to think of things to say so conversations can be stilted. Other times I can just click with someone and the conversation just flows easily. If I fancy someone I can struggle to hold a conversation where I don’t come across as a bumbling idiot x "

Same. Exactly what I explain on my profile.

People think I'm joking.

Then they meet me and realise it's quite true.

Usually after they're wearing a glass of Red....

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can most definitely waffle on!! Lol.... However it does depend on who I'm talking to. If I'm not getting much back from the other person and the conversation doesn't flow, then I'll just give up as it then becomes too much like hard work!! I do also have a tendency to blurt stuff off but that's usually after too much prosecco!!!

PT x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread