FabSwingers.com forum: Ladies do you compare?

By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Fabsteroos

Particularly ladies,

When going on a date with a new Fab man do you compare him to previous meets you have been on?

Is this normal or just me?

Discuss.

Chaps your input would be appreciated too.

Bhubaysi x

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Compare in what way?

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

No I took everyone on their own merit, different personalities attracted me in the past so I could never really compare them

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Compare in what way? "

Compare new Fab man to previous ones, for example ‘this one is nicer than the last’ or ‘worse’. Better behaved etc. Better looking etc.

Does previous meets effect new meets or is it just me?

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

No comparisons. I just apply the Mac gold star rating system.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I give them all marks out of 10 in different categories. Based on their final score will determine whether I want to meet them again or not.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I suspect all Fab ladies keep a tally of who they’ve been out with and what score they got.

All the scores are compiled at the end of the week and read out on a Sunday night by Bruno Brookes

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"No comparisons. I just apply the Mac gold star rating system. "

Oooh tell me about that....

Maybe I’ve just met all the Dingbats then.....

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Compare in what way?

Compare new Fab man to previous ones, for example ‘this one is nicer than the last’ or ‘worse’. Better behaved etc. Better looking etc.

Does previous meets effect new meets or is it just me? "

If you've had a meet that has set the bar unusually high it makes subsequent meets a bit more challenging as you'd expect as good or better I would think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. If I did that I might also compare myself to their last meet too!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I try not to, and I do find different pleasure in different people, but it's a little inevitable.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I don't compare, though some I back more fondly on.

Each new meet is just that a whole new experience.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Compare in what way?

Compare new Fab man to previous ones, for example ‘this one is nicer than the last’ or ‘worse’. Better behaved etc. Better looking etc.

Does previous meets effect new meets or is it just me? "

No, I never have. I don't compare people like that, interaction is a two way thing. To me that seems a little impersonal.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

No not at all, they're all so different I don't think I could realistically compare them.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Spreadsheet them. If you're going to compare, compare them properly.

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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Spreadsheet them. If you're going to compare, compare them properly."

I’m the spreadsheet Queen lol...

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Compare in what way?

Compare new Fab man to previous ones, for example ‘this one is nicer than the last’ or ‘worse’. Better behaved etc. Better looking etc.

Does previous meets effect new meets or is it just me?

If you've had a meet that has set the bar unusually high it makes subsequent meets a bit more challenging as you'd expect as good or better I would think?"

Hmmm. No. Well not for me anyway. I can rationalise that really high bar and think well, that was just us and our particular chemistry, future meets might not be as incredible but they can still be really enjoyable. I don't know if that makes any sense.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Yes. I give them all marks out of 10 in different categories. Based on their final score will determine whether I want to meet them again or not. "

That's quite the system!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i donyt but i find myself thinking that they might be comparing me to those they have met and meet

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By *uxomBloomsWoman
over a year ago

Near Tunbridge Wells

I think it's impossible not to compare, I think it's human nature. This one was better with his mouth, that one was more Dominant, the other was really sensual.... In the end I try to take a balanced view but can't help but compare.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Compare in what way?

Compare new Fab man to previous ones, for example ‘this one is nicer than the last’ or ‘worse’. Better behaved etc. Better looking etc.

Does previous meets effect new meets or is it just me?

If you've had a meet that has set the bar unusually high it makes subsequent meets a bit more challenging as you'd expect as good or better I would think?

I see those sorts of thoughts as comparison? I don't give people ratings like this, but I will be aware that one meet might be a 10 while another is a 7. I don't expect anything from either, as such, but it's hard not to be aware that you had a fantastic time with person A but Jesus person B made you weak at the knees, sort of thing.

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By *xelf787Man
over a year ago

Chorlton, Manchester

"Spreadsheet them. If you're going to compare, compare them properly."

Well hopefully if the meet goes well they are going spread on a sheet at the end!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Hmmm. No. Well not for me anyway. I can rationalise that really high bar and think well, that was just us and our particular chemistry, future meets might not be as incredible but they can still be really enjoyable. I don't know if that makes any sense.

Ah, Person B *drifts off reminiscing*.

You're right Swing. I'd never really thought of it as being comparative but essentially it is. That's not to say I expect certain things from meets following Person B or will think less if they didn't happen but yes, there can be a difference and yes, one I'll be aware of after. I don't think it means they are negative (not that you implied anywhere that to be the case!).

You've actually made me question how I think I view sex and how I actually do, Swing. Brilliant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never have. I am able to compartmentalise. When i was meeting, the ones i met were so far and few between as i like to take my time getting to know them, that when i eventually met, the last one was more or less forgotten

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I think about the best bits of people, how someone was the perfect kisser, someone else had a body to die for... that kind of thing.

But I enjoy every meet and every person for what they are and I wouldn’t want them to be any different

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

No I didn't compare them,I just either liked them or didn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t meet that many and when I do I don’t compare as such

I guess I compare what kind of people they are , such as non dickheads and dickheads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We take each person as they are, no comparisons. Everyone is different. We're here to have fun and that's what we have!

Jenny x

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I used to but I don't anymore, no point it just leads to frustration!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah...can't be arsed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a separate folder for each fabber. Username written in capitals. I collect their face pictures, piece of hair (pubic as well), condoms used and I write down what we did all night. Once a week a read them all and compare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have a separate folder for each fabber. Username written in capitals. I collect their face pictures, piece of hair (pubic as well), condoms used and I write down what we did all night. Once a week a read them all and compare.

What do you collect if they're bald (all over)?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you collect if they're bald (all over)? "

Nail clippings.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Not in the slightest - different people tick different boxes in different ways there is no comparison or competition between them all in any way.

I might individually choose not to meet someone again but that wouldn't be as a result of comparison with others, just a realisation that we weren't as well matched as it might have seemed before we met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you collect if they're bald (all over)?

Nail clippings."

Eeeeewwwwwwwww

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you collect if they're bald (all over)?

Nail clippings.

Eeeeewwwwwwwww

You've asked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. Each man is there on his own merit and brings something different to the bedroom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.. everyone is completely different and there's very little I could compare. Most people I've only met socially and the things that make me want to take things further are unique to that one person.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

What do you collect if they're bald (all over)?

Nail clippings.

Eeeeewwwwwwwww

You've asked

No fingerprints dusted from a glass they drank from? You're slacking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you collect if they're bald (all over)?

Nail clippings.

Eeeeewwwwwwwww

You've asked

No fingerprints dusted from a glass they drank from? You're slacking

I can see you're a similar comparer, too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t compare him to others I’ve met but I do think about the type of women he’s met before and where I fit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lied. I do compare kissing, but the men who aren't as compatible in the kissing department have other attractions.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I don’t compare him to others I’ve met but I do think about the type of women he’s met before and where I fit.

Do you think you have to fit in with women he's met before?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont compare no. I do know who I fit better with though and why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t compare him to others I’ve met but I do think about the type of women he’s met before and where I fit.

Do you think you have to fit in with women he's met before? "

Not as such, I guess if there’s a definite type and I’m the complete opposite, I’d be wondering if he’d be comparing.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I don’t compare him to others I’ve met but I do think about the type of women he’s met before and where I fit.

You don't think that that's a little assumptive and takes away his ability to choose?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t compare him to others I’ve met but I do think about the type of women he’s met before and where I fit.

You don't think that that's a little assumptive and takes away his ability to choose? "

No, I think it says more about me than him.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I guess to a degree I do compare in terms of "I enjoyed that meet for x, y and z, reasons" but not in an empirical sense and only in the context of the meet as a whole. Not them as people.

I'd hate to imagine someone sitting there after a meet appraising it. We're all people with different likes, dislikes and tastes, some people you naturally connect with more and enjoy the time more, I wouldn't sit there after and think "hmmmm, I'm not sure about their oral performance..."

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I don’t compare him to others I’ve met but I do think about the type of women he’s met before and where I fit.

You don't think that that's a little assumptive and takes away his ability to choose? "

I do this as you well know TM. It's normally my own doubts etc coming in to play - not removing his choice and agency in that decision but more me having a wobble and being "ach shit, look at those hotties, where do I fit in?" nonsense. Not that that's what Roxi is doing but meh.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I don’t compare him to others I’ve met but I do think about the type of women he’s met before and where I fit.

You don't think that that's a little assumptive and takes away his ability to choose?

No, I think it says more about me than him."

I guess, a little.

Personally, if someone has said in the past that they like me, I just go with it, I'm not going to second guess their choice, irrespective of who they've met.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will click more with some than others, but wouldn't exactly compare as I appreciate everyone's uniqueness

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I don’t compare him to others I’ve met but I do think about the type of women he’s met before and where I fit.

You don't think that that's a little assumptive and takes away his ability to choose?

I do know this, funnily enough it was you I was thinking about

Not that I spend my afternoons thinking about you mind...

I'm grumpy enough as it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't because the guys I've met are incomparable because their atttibutes are unique to them

There have been one or two guys where I've considered their reasons for meeting me, as they've seemed way out of my league.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I do know this, funnily enough it was you I was thinking about

Not that I spend my afternoons thinking about you mind...

I'm grumpy enough as it is

Gosh darn it. I knew it. Some men meet absolute stunners who are intelligent and beautiful and wonderful and I can't for the life of me see where I fit in. But I'm going with it now and enjoying it a lot.

Also f you. Thinking about me is a delight. F you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t compare him to others I’ve met but I do think about the type of women he’s met before and where I fit.

You don't think that that's a little assumptive and takes away his ability to choose?

No, I think it says more about me than him.

I guess, a little.

Personally, if someone has said in the past that they like me, I just go with it, I'm not going to second guess their choice, irrespective of who they've met. "

I totally go for it, it wouldn’t stop me meeting them or make me doubt myself.

It’s more wondering / pondering I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I’ve only met two women sexually in 9 years on here so not much to compare. I enjoy the memories though. Perhaps they are more special because it happens so infrequently.

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