FabSwingers.com forum: Do they owe you?

By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

Fuck buddies. This just came up on another thread.

If you have one, is it an open 'relationship' ?

Are you or they upfront about shagging other people?

Do you feel you have a right to know or it's non of your business?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own

Depends on what you’ve decided on I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think it's my business at all.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

No I don't think if it's just fuck buddies they owe me anything but out of respect I would probably tell them if I was planning something..

I guess it would depend at what level. I know some fb that go bare with each other... and I am guessing that is something they both assume is just between them. Not that I'd do that with just a fb but I would expect to know if that wasn't the case.

To be fair I don't really have any luck with th or fwb do not even sure why I'm relying.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

None of my business, don't need or want to know. Though I'd expect as a matter of courtesy they would avoid anyone I'm close to.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Depends on the definition of the relationship/ arrangement.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Couldn’t care less

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck buddies. This just came up on another thread.

If you have one, is it an open 'relationship' ?

Are you or they upfront about shagging other people?

Do you feel you have a right to know or it's non of your business?"

When I had one, we used to be pretty open about it. Not to the point where every different person we slept with we would tell the other, but when he was over we would chat and just talk about random shit.

Not any of my business, neither of us asked the other what was going on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m upfront with it for health reasons if your shagging around that’s purely the reason I’d want to know if my health is at risk

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

I have had a fb and we shared our antics. We became friends and were pretty open with each other. I liked the openness and honsty of it all.

So I suppose for me it depends how casual the fb is.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

It's not really any of my business and he doesn't have to tell me.

However I get really turned on hearing about any experiences he may have had.

If I tell him about mine, he just fucks me harder lol.

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"It's not really any of my business and he doesn't have to tell me.

However I get really turned on hearing about any experiences he may have had.

If I tell him about mine, he just fucks me harder lol. "

I an relate to this

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I would be open and honest about meeting other people, you set your own dynamics out and hope the others respect that

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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

I guess it would depend on the nature of your relationship. How close you were, what sort of stuff you shared, why you shared stuff. Some people don’t like to know, there’s an element of jealousy, others like to know there’s an element of excitement, others couldn’t give a shit.

Every relationship is going to be different and possibly even change over time.

Lex

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I guess it would depend on the nature of your relationship. How close you were, what sort of stuff you shared, why you shared stuff. Some people don’t like to know, there’s an element of jealousy, others like to know there’s an element of excitement, others couldn’t give a shit.

Every relationship is going to be different and possibly even change over time.

Lex"

Theres a thread in itself jealousy and fb's. I am not a jealous soul and if I found my head leaning that way I'd rein it back in.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

Every relationship is going to be different and possibly even change over time.

Lex"
this is why I say I'm not good with fb. Tried a few recently and all but two regular guys started getting all jealous when I was meeting other people. And basically was like why not just me.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

If i have a FWB then i would hope i would be the only friend they are fucking.

If they want to date or see others then fair enough, tell me, and i’ll take my pussy off the table.

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

Every relationship is going to be different and possibly even change over time.

Lex this is why I say I'm not good with fb. Tried a few recently and all but two regular guys started getting all jealous when I was meeting other people. And basically was like why not just me. "

I've been there and I didn't like it. I backed off and that was the end of that.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Every relationship is going to be different and possibly even change over time.

Lex"

Yep. I don't feel like I am *owed* any particular information from them but out of a combination of things - respect, understanding, mutual sheer nosiness, the sexiness of it and I'd go so far as to say compersion with one, we do. It depends on the third person as well though. Some people don't discuss me with others so I'd feel odd doing so to them.

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"If i have a FWB then i would hope i would be the only friend they are fucking.

If they want to date or see others then fair enough, tell me, and i’ll take my pussy off the table."

Yes...that's why I like to be honest so that others can make an informed choice.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I don’t have a FB but those I meet (or plan to) I’m open about my other planned meets. Honesty the only way for me

There are some I have ended up not meeting after being open about plans as they, shall I say, throw their toys out of the pram.

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"No I don't think if it's just fuck buddies they owe me anything but out of respect I would probably tell them if I was planning something..

To be fair I don't really have any luck with th or fwb do not even sure why I'm relying. "

You might have one but you sound like you know how you would handle it.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"If i have a FWB then i would hope i would be the only friend they are fucking.

If they want to date or see others then fair enough, tell me, and i’ll take my pussy off the table."
that's a relationship not a fwb though

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

Does having an FWB, fuck buddy make the arrangement exclusive?

Or would that be being in a relationship ?

It depends on what understandings you have between you, you have no "right" to know, but honesty should always prevail

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"If i have a FWB then i would hope i would be the only friend they are fucking.

If they want to date or see others then fair enough, tell me, and i’ll take my pussy off the table.

Yes...that's why I like to be honest so that others can make an informed choice."

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Life is too short for jealousy on a site like this.

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"Life is too short for jealousy on a site like this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rather interesting replies

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Does having an FWB, fuck buddy make the arrangement exclusive?

Or would that be being in a relationship ?

It depends on what understandings you have between you, you have no "right" to know, but honesty should always prevail

Good question...if you have an exclusive fb does that in itself make a relationship. I dont think so. Unless discussed I'd say a fb 'relationship' is not exclusive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If i have a FWB then i would hope i would be the only friend they are fucking.

If they want to date or see others then fair enough, tell me, and i’ll take my pussy off the table."

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

I have a few fb’s who are good friends and I’m very fond of all of them!

Like me, they’re 100% reliable and when we say we’re meeting - we meet! Don’t see them often due to distance though sadly!

One of them I bareback with! We trust each other to know that we’re ‘safe sex’ with others and sand each other the results when we have our regular check ups!

I fully expect them all to sleep with other people! I’m not exclusive so it would be most unfair to expect that from them!

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I have a few fb’s who are good friends and I’m very fond of all of them!

Like me, they’re 100% reliable and when we say we’re meeting - we meet! Don’t see them often due to distance though sadly!

One of them I bareback with! We trust each other to know that we’re ‘safe sex’ with others and sand each other the results when we have our regular check ups!

I fully expect them all to sleep with other people! I’m not exclusive so it would be most unfair to expect that from them!

This is where I'd like to be at.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"I have a few fb’s who are good friends and I’m very fond of all of them!

Like me, they’re 100% reliable and when we say we’re meeting - we meet! Don’t see them often due to distance though sadly!

One of them I bareback with! We trust each other to know that we’re ‘safe sex’ with others and sand each other the results when we have our regular check ups!

I fully expect them all to sleep with other people! I’m not exclusive so it would be most unfair to expect that from them!

This is where I'd like to be at."

It takes a while but it’s worth it when you get there!

Good luck with it!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

My FWB positively encourages me to go get laid

He's a friend (with benefits), not a monogamous partner. That's how we do things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's none of my business!

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"My FWB positively encourages me to go get laid

He's a friend (with benefits), not a monogamous partner. That's how we do things. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OK for me and my fwb it kind of happened with out either of us expecting it but enjoying the ride. Anyway so I choose not to meet other at the moment however he still meets. He informs me of those meets but I don't know who those people are or any details it's purely a curtosy of letting me know he's busy that night.

No he doesn't owe me that but I respect that he is concerned enough about me to be open and let me know

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I have one. I’m very luck (sorry if that sounds smug). We are both on here. We live an hour away. She’s very busy with her family. We see each other every five or six weeks or so. We see other people. We both know of those others but we don’t rub each other’s noses in it. I’ve met members of her family and her mine. That’s about it in a nutshell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If i have a FWB then i would hope i would be the only friend they are fucking.

If they want to date or see others then fair enough, tell me, and i’ll take my pussy off the table."
most women keep it in their knickers

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

My fuck buddies are simply just that. We don’t tend to chat other than arranging the next hook up. The only thing we owe each other is a really good time. It’s taken a while to get the right fit and it works. I’m a lucky lass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With my previous we had the understanding we only seen one another... I was quite open about this at the beginning. I want to them to want me as much as I want them (until we get bored with one another that is and I search for the next one and only... For now

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

We started off both seeing others but things progress and relationships develop, eventually we decided we would only meet others together and are both happy with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m upfront with it for health reasons if your shagging around that’s purely the reason I’d want to know if my health is at risk "

That's my only reason for knowing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as we talk about contraception or lack of, I accept I have no real right to know. I'd like to know for kinky reasons I think, and its one way of me not getting to clingy ( I can still howl into my pillow secretly)

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By *arly StagesCouple
over a year ago

Penwortham

Prior to meeting Mrs E I had a number of FWB's they were all aware I was not monogamous, some liked to know if and when I was meeting someone else, others preferred not to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To owe you, they'd have had to agree to owe you, in which case they'd owe you. No agreement, nothing owing....

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By *wansfeetCouple
over a year ago

Guisborough

I think that it depends on how you set the rules in the first place. Surely there are different levels and types of fb’s/fwb’s and open relationships. Best to discuss your intentions beforehand or early doors.

Kiki x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To owe you, they'd have had to agree to owe you, in which case they'd owe you. No agreement, nothing owing.... "

Exactly, its about honestly from the beginning. I'm demanding and greedy, I do not share. If its poly rather than mono then I am not for you no point wasting time and move along

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To owe you, they'd have had to agree to owe you, in which case they'd owe you. No agreement, nothing owing....

Exactly, its about honestly from the beginning. I'm demanding and greedy, I do not share. If its poly rather than mono then I am not for you no point wasting time and move along "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think there’s the automatic right to know so I’d have the talk of what our mutual expectations are.

If I was really into someone I’m not sure I’d like them to be meeting others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They don't have to tell me anything, but I like hearing about the other women they have sex with. I don't need to know names though

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Nothing is owed. I make my expectations clear and continue on this basis, with us generally free to live as we wish to.

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