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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Aright guys and girls am new on this kinda dipping my toes in the water lol seen to be messaging females and not getting much replies lmao harder than I thought lol am I doing anything wrong the only thing I can think of is not putting much in the message just here for sex obviously lol anybody any tips lol ?x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you sent me a message I’d delete it OP. Effort in = results out. You’ve just admitted you don’t make much effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have nothing. I’ve been here for 9 years and managed to meet two women for sex in that time. I’m fucking rubbish at it.

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

" just here for sex" that turns me off and would get deleted. Your profile dosnt really tell us much about you other than your chubby and looking for someone the same..

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

OP...I would look at your profile first. I mean, really properly.

And as has already been said, effort in = results out. Did you think you would be knee-deep by now?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

It's not always the message that is the problem, although it can be - often when guys find they're not getting replies it's their profile that is letting them down - so take a look at yours and ask yourself honestly if you'd be tempted to reply if you read it - if the answer is no then you need to make changes, viewing the many profile advice threads will give you some good tips on how to improve your profile.

Remember too it takes time to establish yourself on here and not everyone will find others that match what they're looking for but it pays to present a positive attitude.

As for messages always keep them polite and respectful, tell the person a little about you and shy you think they'd be someone you'd like to talk to and invite them to take a look at your profile and reply if interested - if they're not, accept it graciously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have nothing. I’ve been here for 9 years and managed to meet two women for sex in that time. I’m fucking rubbish at it."

Rubbish at sex, or rubbish at writing messages?

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By *xperimentalistMan
over a year ago

East Yorkshire


"I have nothing. I’ve been here for 9 years and managed to meet two women for sex in that time. I’m fucking rubbish at it."

Rubbish at meetings or rubbish at sex? lol

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

The majority of people are here for more than just sex.

This is a swingers site, if you expected instashag, you'd be better off picking cards in phone boxes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need good photos and a good profile text. See it as a shop window and you want people to buy. The message is the clincher. But the profile is what really matters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aright guys and girls am new on this kinda dipping my toes in the water lol seen to be messaging females and not getting much replies lmao harder than I thought lol am I doing anything wrong the only thing I can think of is not putting much in the message just here for sex obviously lol anybody any tips lol ?x"

Oh and if you are looking for a quick easy lay, you really are on the wrong site. You have more chance of pulling in the pub than on here. We are not raging nymphos looking for anybody to fill a hole. This is a swinging site, not a sex site. If you don't want to put effort in, then you really won't get much (if any)luck

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Take on board what's been said and tbh scrap your pictures except you face one maybe as the others will do nothing for you. An untidy/messy room is a big turn off for many and can be reflective on a persons attitude.

Have a look at some Male profiles, there are some really good ones out there and see if you can pick any tips up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile text attracts men and women. Take some notes op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aright guys and girls am new on this kinda dipping my toes in the water lol seen to be messaging females and not getting much replies lmao harder than I thought lol am I doing anything wrong the only thing I can think of is not putting much in the message just here for sex obviously lol anybody any tips lol ?x

Oh and if you are looking for a quick easy lay, you really are on the wrong site. You have more chance of pulling in the pub than on here. We are not raging nymphos looking for anybody to fill a hole. This is a swinging site, not a sex site. If you don't want to put effort in, then you really won't get much (if any)luck"

As I said in another post.

Women here have there head screwed on more than any other dating site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have nothing. I’ve been here for 9 years and managed to meet two women for sex in that time. I’m fucking rubbish at it.

Rubbish at sex, or rubbish at writing messages?"

Both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have nothing. I’ve been here for 9 years and managed to meet two women for sex in that time. I’m fucking rubbish at it.

Rubbish at sex, or rubbish at writing messages?

Both"

I won't ask if you fancy a fuck then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have nothing. I’ve been here for 9 years and managed to meet two women for sex in that time. I’m fucking rubbish at it.

Rubbish at sex, or rubbish at writing messages?

Both

I won't ask if you fancy a fuck then."

I wouldn’t bother Jim, no-one else does well except Clem and Ace. There’s no accounting for taste eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have nothing. I’ve been here for 9 years and managed to meet two women for sex in that time. I’m fucking rubbish at it.

Rubbish at sex, or rubbish at writing messages?

Both

I won't ask if you fancy a fuck then.

I wouldn’t bother Jim, no-one else does well except Clem and Ace. There’s no accounting for taste eh?"

Private parts has a few under his belt too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aright guys and girls am new on this kinda dipping my toes in the water lol seen to be messaging females and not getting much replies lmao harder than I thought lol am I doing anything wrong the only thing I can think of is not putting much in the message just here for sex obviously lol anybody any tips lol ?x

Oh and if you are looking for a quick easy lay, you really are on the wrong site. You have more chance of pulling in the pub than on here. We are not raging nymphos looking for anybody to fill a hole. This is a swinging site, not a sex site. If you don't want to put effort in, then you really won't get much (if any)luck

As I said in another post.

Women here have there head screwed on more than any other dating site "

Sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have nothing. I’ve been here for 9 years and managed to meet two women for sex in that time. I’m fucking rubbish at it.

Rubbish at sex, or rubbish at writing messages?

Both

I won't ask if you fancy a fuck then.

I wouldn’t bother Jim, no-one else does well except Clem and Ace. There’s no accounting for taste eh?"

You can say that again!

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By *ohn321300Man
over a year ago

M

Don't worry O.P. there are plenty of us in the same boat. It can be frustrating for us, but it is naturally the other persons prerogative to ignore/delete.

As said I don't have much luck, but I think effort, patience and persistence (although not with the same person) are key.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have nothing. I’ve been here for 9 years and managed to meet two women for sex in that time. I’m fucking rubbish at it.

Rubbish at sex, or rubbish at writing messages?

Both

I won't ask if you fancy a fuck then.

I wouldn’t bother Jim, no-one else does well except Clem and Ace. There’s no accounting for taste eh?

Private parts has a few under his belt too "

a few what?

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Take on board what's been said and tbh scrap your pictures except you face one maybe as the others will do nothing for you. An untidy/messy room is a big turn off for many and can be reflective on a persons attitude.

Have a look at some Male profiles, there are some really good ones out there and see if you can pick any tips up."

It wasn't just me that spotted the pile of dirty washing on the floor then? He definitely needs to get rid, there's not many women I know that get turned on by the laundry pile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't worry O.P. there are plenty of us in the same boat. It can be frustrating for us, but it is naturally the other persons prerogative to ignore/delete.

As said I don't have much luck, but I think effort, patience and persistence (although not with the same person) are key. "

It’s just a case of not being attached to anything and expecting nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have nothing. I’ve been here for 9 years and managed to meet two women for sex in that time. I’m fucking rubbish at it.

Rubbish at sex, or rubbish at writing messages?

Both

I won't ask if you fancy a fuck then.

I wouldn’t bother Jim, no-one else does well except Clem and Ace. There’s no accounting for taste eh?

Private parts has a few under his belt too a few what?"

Lovely meets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have nothing. I’ve been here for 9 years and managed to meet two women for sex in that time. I’m fucking rubbish at it.

Rubbish at sex, or rubbish at writing messages?

Both

I won't ask if you fancy a fuck then.

I wouldn’t bother Jim, no-one else does well except Clem and Ace. There’s no accounting for taste eh?

You can say that again!"

There’s no accounting for taste

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Take on board what's been said and tbh scrap your pictures except you face one maybe as the others will do nothing for you. An untidy/messy room is a big turn off for many and can be reflective on a persons attitude.

Have a look at some Male profiles, there are some really good ones out there and see if you can pick any tips up.

It wasn't just me that spotted the pile of dirty washing on the floor then? He definitely needs to get rid, there's not many women I know that get turned on by the laundry pile "

Definitely not just you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have nothing. I’ve been here for 9 years and managed to meet two women for sex in that time. I’m fucking rubbish at it.

Rubbish at sex, or rubbish at writing messages?

Both

I won't ask if you fancy a fuck then.

I wouldn’t bother Jim, no-one else does well except Clem and Ace. There’s no accounting for taste eh?

Private parts has a few under his belt too a few what?

Lovely meets? "

Yep but he’s a hottie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have nothing. I’ve been here for 9 years and managed to meet two women for sex in that time. I’m fucking rubbish at it.

Rubbish at sex, or rubbish at writing messages?

Both

I won't ask if you fancy a fuck then.

I wouldn’t bother Jim, no-one else does well except Clem and Ace. There’s no accounting for taste eh?

Private parts has a few under his belt too a few what?

Lovely meets?

Yep but he’s a hottie"

and straight and single

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

The OP hasn't asked for profile advice, so I can't offer it. But start there..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have nothing. I’ve been here for 9 years and managed to meet two women for sex in that time. I’m fucking rubbish at it.

Rubbish at sex, or rubbish at writing messages?

Both

I won't ask if you fancy a fuck then.

I wouldn’t bother Jim, no-one else does well except Clem and Ace. There’s no accounting for taste eh?

Private parts has a few under his belt too a few what?

Lovely meets? "

I might ask if PP fancies a fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have nothing. I’ve been here for 9 years and managed to meet two women for sex in that time. I’m fucking rubbish at it.

Rubbish at sex, or rubbish at writing messages?

Both

I won't ask if you fancy a fuck then.

I wouldn’t bother Jim, no-one else does well except Clem and Ace. There’s no accounting for taste eh?

Private parts has a few under his belt too a few what?

Lovely meets?

Yep but he’s a hottie and straight and single"

True. He is that. Well you have one out of 3

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have nothing. I’ve been here for 9 years and managed to meet two women for sex in that time. I’m fucking rubbish at it.

Rubbish at sex, or rubbish at writing messages?

Both

I won't ask if you fancy a fuck then.

I wouldn’t bother Jim, no-one else does well except Clem and Ace. There’s no accounting for taste eh?

Private parts has a few under his belt too a few what?

Lovely meets?

I might ask if PP fancies a fuck."

Hes a fussy bugger mind. You may need to bribe him

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By *ohn321300Man
over a year ago

M


"The OP hasn't asked for profile advice, so I can't offer it. But start there.."

***quickly reads profile to see if that is putting people off ***

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"I have nothing. I’ve been here for 9 years and managed to meet two women for sex in that time. I’m fucking rubbish at it.

Rubbish at sex, or rubbish at writing messages?

Both

I won't ask if you fancy a fuck then.

I wouldn’t bother Jim, no-one else does well except Clem and Ace. There’s no accounting for taste eh?

Private parts has a few under his belt too a few what?

Lovely meets?

I might ask if PP fancies a fuck.

Hes a fussy bugger mind. You may need to bribe him "

Chocolate will always work...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aright guys and girls am new on this kinda dipping my toes in the water lol seen to be messaging females and not getting much replies lmao harder than I thought lol am I doing anything wrong the only thing I can think of is not putting much in the message just here for sex obviously lol anybody any tips lol ?x"

I would like tips too xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have nothing. I’ve been here for 9 years and managed to meet two women for sex in that time. I’m fucking rubbish at it.

Rubbish at sex, or rubbish at writing messages?

Both

I won't ask if you fancy a fuck then.

I wouldn’t bother Jim, no-one else does well except Clem and Ace. There’s no accounting for taste eh?

Private parts has a few under his belt too a few what?

Lovely meets?

Yep but he’s a hottie and straight and single

True. He is that. Well you have one out of 3 "

I’ve heard two out of three ain’t bad .....but one is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have nothing. I’ve been here for 9 years and managed to meet two women for sex in that time. I’m fucking rubbish at it.

Rubbish at sex, or rubbish at writing messages?

Both

I won't ask if you fancy a fuck then.

I wouldn’t bother Jim, no-one else does well except Clem and Ace. There’s no accounting for taste eh?

Private parts has a few under his belt too a few what?

Lovely meets?

I might ask if PP fancies a fuck.

Hes a fussy bugger mind. You may need to bribe him "

Thanks for the advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have nothing. I’ve been here for 9 years and managed to meet two women for sex in that time. I’m fucking rubbish at it.

Rubbish at sex, or rubbish at writing messages?

Both

I won't ask if you fancy a fuck then.

I wouldn’t bother Jim, no-one else does well except Clem and Ace. There’s no accounting for taste eh?

Private parts has a few under his belt too a few what?

Lovely meets?

Yep but he’s a hottie and straight and single

True. He is that. Well you have one out of 3

I’ve heard two out of three ain’t bad .....but one is"

0 out of 3 is worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have nothing. I’ve been here for 9 years and managed to meet two women for sex in that time. I’m fucking rubbish at it.

Rubbish at sex, or rubbish at writing messages?

Both

I won't ask if you fancy a fuck then.

I wouldn’t bother Jim, no-one else does well except Clem and Ace. There’s no accounting for taste eh?

Private parts has a few under his belt too a few what?

Lovely meets?

I might ask if PP fancies a fuck.

Hes a fussy bugger mind. You may need to bribe him

Thanks for the advice."

Just call me Mistique meg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have nothing. I’ve been here for 9 years and managed to meet two women for sex in that time. I’m fucking rubbish at it.

Rubbish at sex, or rubbish at writing messages?

Both

I won't ask if you fancy a fuck then.

I wouldn’t bother Jim, no-one else does well except Clem and Ace. There’s no accounting for taste eh?

Private parts has a few under his belt too a few what?

Lovely meets?

I might ask if PP fancies a fuck.

Hes a fussy bugger mind. You may need to bribe him

Thanks for the advice.

Just call me Mistique meg "

Hey, Mistique Meg.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Aright guys and girls am new on this kinda dipping my toes in the water lol seen to be messaging females and not getting much replies lmao harder than I thought lol am I doing anything wrong the only thing I can think of is not putting much in the message just here for sex obviously lol anybody any tips lol ?x

I would like tips too xx"

I have never contacted ladies so I've no clue..sorry I cant help you there. Although it has got me wondering myself on how I would approach it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aright guys and girls am new on this kinda dipping my toes in the water lol seen to be messaging females and not getting much replies lmao harder than I thought lol am I doing anything wrong the only thing I can think of is not putting much in the message just here for sex obviously lol anybody any tips lol ?x"

Firstly. Change your pic. Put something a bit more appealing. That photo is scarey. Just saying. Also women want a man to lead not here to teach anyone so be assertive in a nice polite way.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Never ceases to amaze how many people create an account and expect to be knee deep in minge in no time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never ceases to amaze how many people create an account and expect to be knee deep in minge in no time "

9 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never ceases to amaze how many people create an account and expect to be knee deep in minge in no time

9 years "

Patience is key

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have nothing. I’ve been here for 9 years and managed to meet two women for sex in that time. I’m fucking rubbish at it.

Rubbish at sex, or rubbish at writing messages?

Both

I won't ask if you fancy a fuck then.

I wouldn’t bother Jim, no-one else does well except Clem and Ace. There’s no accounting for taste eh?

Private parts has a few under his belt too a few what?

Lovely meets?

I might ask if PP fancies a fuck.

Hes a fussy bugger mind. You may need to bribe him

Chocolate will always work... "

He is a sucker for chocolate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have nothing. I’ve been here for 9 years and managed to meet two women for sex in that time. I’m fucking rubbish at it.

Rubbish at sex, or rubbish at writing messages?

Both

I won't ask if you fancy a fuck then.

I wouldn’t bother Jim, no-one else does well except Clem and Ace. There’s no accounting for taste eh?

Private parts has a few under his belt too a few what?

Lovely meets?

I might ask if PP fancies a fuck.

Hes a fussy bugger mind. You may need to bribe him

Chocolate will always work...

He is a cocksucker for chocolate "

FTFY

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Re done my profie thanks for Al lol the constructive criticism lol Al keep working at the profie and keep chipling away at it rome wasn't built in a day and Al lol that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have nothing. I’ve been here for 9 years and managed to meet two women for sex in that time. I’m fucking rubbish at it.

Rubbish at sex, or rubbish at writing messages?

Both

I won't ask if you fancy a fuck then.

I wouldn’t bother Jim, no-one else does well except Clem and Ace. There’s no accounting for taste eh?

Private parts has a few under his belt too a few what?

Lovely meets?

I might ask if PP fancies a fuck.

Hes a fussy bugger mind. You may need to bribe him

Chocolate will always work...

He is a cocksucker for chocolate FTFY "

He's going to give me a row, if he sees this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have nothing. I’ve been here for 9 years and managed to meet two women for sex in that time. I’m fucking rubbish at it.

Rubbish at sex, or rubbish at writing messages?

Both

I won't ask if you fancy a fuck then.

I wouldn’t bother Jim, no-one else does well except Clem and Ace. There’s no accounting for taste eh?

Private parts has a few under his belt too a few what?

Lovely meets?

I might ask if PP fancies a fuck.

Hes a fussy bugger mind. You may need to bribe him

Chocolate will always work...

He is a cocksucker for chocolate FTFY

He's going to give me a row, if he sees this "

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