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What is a gentleman?

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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Fabsteroos,

Been musing again!

I had a discussion with a non fab member this week about their idea of what a gentleman is......we could not agree!

My idea of one is when they open doors for a lady, use manners, no swearing, ensure they put us in a taxi home....that kind of thing!

My friend says why do women need looking after like that...?

Thoughts please ?

Bhubaysi

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

A gentleman always gets out of the bath to pee

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By *hyscouseMan
over a year ago

liverpool

I’m all ears

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By *heBirminghamWeekendMan
over a year ago

here

Polite and respectful .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A gentleman is someone who gets you a towel to help you clean up and is happy to sleep in the wet patch

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"Fabsteroos,

Been musing again!

I had a discussion with a non fab member this week about their idea of what a gentleman is......we could not agree!

My idea of one is when they open doors for a lady, use manners, no swearing, ensure they put us in a taxi home....that kind of thing!

My friend says why do women need looking after like that...?

Thoughts please ?

Bhubaysi "

A gentleman would do all those things with respect to any sex

And a gentleman can most definitely fucking swear when its appropriate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There seem to be many definitions and criteria that can determine a gentleman, but what makes a woman a "lady"?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Someone who checks I'm ok after he's facefucked me/spaffed.

Being slightly more serious; I'd agree with your friend. I like men swearing, I find it shows they are relaxed and comfortable around me. Not putting a facade on. A gentleman to me would be someone who demonstrates respect. But that's really bloody wishy washy. I don't know. I can easily explain actions some have done that show me they are but it's such a personal, subjective term.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

my partner is a perfect gentlemen.

Puts my coat on for me

stands up when i leave the table and when i come back.

Doesnt finish his meal before me takes his pace from me so we finish at the same time.

Lots of other stuff he does as well

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I think both a gentleman and a lady are people who are respectful and well mannered as the situation dictates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think both a gentleman and a lady are people who are respectful and well mannered as the situation dictates. "
agreed

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

I don't think there is a definitive list. There is always gentlemanly behaviour.

A gentleman always deals with a lady as an ideal paragon, rather than someone with flaws. He is not necessarily protecting her, he is just trying to prove himself worthy of her affections.

For gentlemanly behaviour I would add the following:

Always takes the side of the pavement nearest the road.

Saying a thing equates to doing the same.

Integrity.

Not requiring obfuscation in their language and dealings. A compliment is a compliment..

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"There seem to be many definitions and criteria that can determine a gentleman, but what makes a woman a "lady"? "

A lady never chews gum in the street

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fabsteroos,

Been musing again!

I had a discussion with a non fab member this week about their idea of what a gentleman is......we could not agree!

My idea of one is when they open doors for a lady, use manners, no swearing, ensure they put us in a taxi home....that kind of thing!

My friend says why do women need looking after like that...?

Thoughts please ?

I think the above and been treated with some respect. Although I do like a gentleman who opens the door but smacks my bum on the way through x

Bhubaysi "

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Polite and well mannered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A gentleman is clean, well mannered, well dressed and well spoken. Probably over 40, he'd also be would be well travelled and had spent at least one night in a brothel.

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By *adtaffladMan
over a year ago

Rhyl


"I think both a gentleman and a lady are people who are respectful and well mannered as the situation dictates. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Polite and respectful

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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth

A man that is truly Respectful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fabsteroos,

Been musing again!

I had a discussion with a non fab member this week about their idea of what a gentleman is......we could not agree!

My idea of one is when they open doors for a lady, use manners, no swearing, ensure they put us in a taxi home....that kind of thing!

My friend says why do women need looking after like that...?

Thoughts please ?

Bhubaysi "

It's not exclusive a gesture towards ladies, it's good manners and a pleasant demeanor.

Gentleman? Polite, kind, considerate, compassionate and willing to help and be there.

That whole door opening thing fir women? Crikey, I know someone who held a door open for a lady who berated him for being old fashioned and a dinosaur. I hold doors open for people to be polite, not because I think women can't manage without me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Considerate, polite and respectful to everyone. Helpful to everyone. Regardless of gender.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I can find the door thing annoying, but I'm well mannered enough to keep it to myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A human with a dick

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By *opite 5Man
over a year ago

Bangor


"my partner is a perfect gentlemen.

Puts my coat on for me

stands up when i leave the table and when i come back.

Doesnt finish his meal before me takes his pace from me so we finish at the same time.

Lots of other stuff he does as well"

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"...Not requiring obfuscation in their language and dealings."

I quite like this part and would agree with that.

Perhaps I'm being really quite stupid (incredibly likely) but do you actually mean a gentleman treats a lady as a flawless, perfect being? Regardless of flaws?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can find the door thing annoying, but I'm well mannered enough to keep it to myself. "

Can I ask why? I hold doors open for anyone and everyone, it's nothing to do with gender.

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By *opite 5Man
over a year ago

Bangor


"my partner is a perfect gentlemen.

Puts my coat on for me

stands up when i leave the table and when i come back.

Doesnt finish his meal before me takes his pace from me so we finish at the same time.

Lots of other stuff he does as well"
Who puts your coat on for you and who doesn't finish dinner before you????? Wot difference does that make.....wot aload a fuckin nonsins.

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By *elaxed life saverMan
over a year ago

Solihull....

Gents just do nice stuff generally

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I can find the door thing annoying, but I'm well mannered enough to keep it to myself.

Can I ask why? I hold doors open for anyone and everyone, it's nothing to do with gender."

Where it's done for everyone, it's fine. When it's only done to women (particularly when a big fuss is made), it does feel either sexist or like some sort "good guy" performance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm still waiting for gentlemen to contact me on here ..

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"my partner is a perfect gentlemen.

Puts my coat on for me

stands up when i leave the table and when i come back.

Doesnt finish his meal before me takes his pace from me so we finish at the same time.

Lots of other stuff he does as well Who puts your coat on for you and who doesn't finish dinner before you????? Wot difference does that make.....wot aload a fuckin nonsins."
and your a perfect example of what a gentleman isnt. By the way that is etiquette something you obviously know nothing about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fabsteroos,

Been musing again!

I had a discussion with a non fab member this week about their idea of what a gentleman is......we could not agree!

My idea of one is when they open doors for a lady, use manners, no swearing, ensure they put us in a taxi home....that kind of thing!

My friend says why do women need looking after like that...?

Thoughts please ?

Bhubaysi

It's not exclusive a gesture towards ladies, it's good manners and a pleasant demeanor.

Gentleman? Polite, kind, considerate, compassionate and willing to help and be there.

That whole door opening thing fir women? Crikey, I know someone who held a door open for a lady who berated him for being old fashioned and a dinosaur. I hold doors open for people to be polite, not because I think women can't manage without me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A gent

A man who can tell the truth , respects you and treats you how you should be treated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Polite and respectful .

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This.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

We as a society should be striving to achieve total equality between the sexes, the term gentleman should be considered outdated; it enforces the belief that men are different than ladies, better even and how grateful a woman should feel if this superior being pays for their meal or opens a door for them or, even stands up when they enter a room. This term should be replaced with Gentle Person and we can all show respect and towards each other.

Every time I hear a woman on First Dates complaining that her male date didn't offer to pay for them when they didn't offer to pay for him, I think it's no wonder full equality between the sexes in this country hasn't been achieved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not using snapchat filters and checking yourself into A&E on Facebook.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We as a society should be striving to achieve total equality between the sexes, the term gentleman should be considered outdated; it enforces the belief that men are different than ladies, better even and how grateful a woman should feel if this superior being pays for their meal or opens a door for them or, even stands up when they enter a room. This term should be replaced with Gentle Person and we can all show respect and towards each other.

Every time I hear a woman on First Dates complaining that her male date didn't offer to pay for them when they didn't offer to pay for him, I think it's no wonder full equality between the sexes in this country hasn't been achieved."

Fair points.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a traditionalist as a gentleman, always hold doors, give up my seat ect. Most woman like this, ive had one girl recently snap at me saying i can open the door myself. She was 20ish facial pearcings and looked like a corbyn loving protester. I said suit yourself and carried on with my day... unscathed

What bugs me is when people dont say thankyou.

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By *astyEricMan
over a year ago

Hull


"We as a society should be striving to achieve total equality between the sexes, the term gentleman should be considered outdated; it enforces the belief that men are different than ladies, better even and how grateful a woman should feel if this superior being pays for their meal or opens a door for them or, even stands up when they enter a room. This term should be replaced with Gentle Person and we can all show respect and towards each other.

Every time I hear a woman on First Dates complaining that her male date didn't offer to pay for them when they didn't offer to pay for him, I think it's no wonder full equality between the sexes in this country hasn't been achieved."

Fair point but if you look at that from perspective

Man rules the world but woman rules the man

Therefore who accualy rules the world?

Don't get me wrong I think for the same job or task both sexes should be rewarded equally but there are some jobs or tasks more suitable for one sex or the other, obviously there are exceptions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thomas Crown Affair,

Steve McQueen gives a very good performance of a gentleman in the popular sense of the term

Also it’s something that you are taught, it’s not something that just happen over night

Hence the term...manners maketh the man!

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I am obviously old fashioned in my thinking....

I find it a huge turn on when guys hold a door open for me.

One guy I met rushed around the side of his car to open the door for me. He wouldn't let me pay for any of my drinks either and even held his arm out for me to walk with him.

I was taught that manners cost nothing.

I enjoy being treated like a lady. In the words of Aretha Franklin.... R. E. S. P. E. C. T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is definitely about respect and if a guy was to treat me like that I would feel really special and would treat him in the same way

Of course every gentleman should have a little deviance inside too

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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I am obviously old fashioned in my thinking....

I find it a huge turn on when guys hold a door open for me.

One guy I met rushed around the side of his car to open the door for me. He wouldn't let me pay for any of my drinks either and even held his arm out for me to walk with him.

I was taught that manners cost nothing.

I enjoy being treated like a lady. In the words of Aretha Franklin.... R. E. S. P. E. C. T"

Can I have this guy’s profile name, PM me....lol.

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

Good evening Bhubaysi, you called?...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good evening ...

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

I was brought up to be polite and respectful and treat people the way you expect to be treated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am obviously old fashioned in my thinking....

I find it a huge turn on when guys hold a door open for me.

One guy I met rushed around the side of his car to open the door for me. He wouldn't let me pay for any of my drinks either and even held his arm out for me to walk with him.

I was taught that manners cost nothing.

I enjoy being treated like a lady. In the words of Aretha Franklin.... R. E. S. P. E. C. T"

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I think a certain element of gentleness and care for the others around him is one of the key aspects of gentleman.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"Fabsteroos,

Been musing again!

I had a discussion with a non fab member this week about their idea of what a gentleman is......we could not agree!

My idea of one is when they open doors for a lady, use manners, no swearing, ensure they put us in a taxi home....that kind of thing!

My friend says why do women need looking after like that...?

Thoughts please ?

Bhubaysi "

And walks to the outside of the pavement!

Jeez guess your friend has never experienced ‘gentleman’ morals, manners and principles

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Being a gentleman is an attitude towards others that usually involved a charismatic individual so polite, responsibility, a charmer, respect and tactile person.

Also someone with a good social cue, opening doors is just being polite regardless of gender but can also be romantic depending on the relationship. Being a gentleman is having a characteristic that is appreciated by others like myself

So what does being a lady entail? You need a courtesy lady in other to be a true gentleman. Ying and Yang thing affectionate, loving, knowing when to let the man be a man...

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I have absolutely no idea lol

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