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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

After a little brain detangling it got me thinking about how many people truly don't believe their own self worth on here.

Sometimes life damages us in a multitude of ways and there are things that you can move past, but change you as a person. Realising that this isn't a negative thing can be truly eye opening.

Years of work have helped me put things into boxes and file those things away that no longer serve me.

When challenged on the amount of boxes and their relevance to life I now see that they don't sit on my shoulders, but have led me to a better place.

Where are you on this scale.. do you see what life has done to you or how much you've achieved???

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I see it that all the good things, as well as the not so good things, that have happened to me have made me the person I am today. A person I quite like. I think I'm too guarded and cautious to be in another relationship but never say never is the attitude I take. My friends and family love me and that's enough x

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

We are all worthy of love some don't get it, some settle for the fake kind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see it that all the good things, as well as the not so good things, that have happened to me have made me the person I am today. A person I quite like. I think I'm too guarded and cautious to be in another relationship but never say never is the attitude I take. My friends and family love me and that's enough x"

You shouldn't question why someone loves you just accept they have this feeling towards you and embrace it

Xx

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

This is an interesting thread OP.

In general I think that it's important that we remember that the past doesn't have to define us and that we are wonderful and complex creatures. We're capable of such a capacity for strength and love that we do deserve to be loved, whether we hold true to those standards of expectation and 'demand' that is a different matter.

Its a truism that we accept the love we feel that we deserve, which is a very sad state of affairs on the whole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One word, Nope.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Life for me has been like a journey. Sometimes I've been stuck in traffic, not being able to move no matter how much I nudge forward. Other times I have had a clear road.

There have been times I have had to stop to refuel, change my route. All roads have led me here to a place of accepting myself for the good and the bad. I tend not to dwell on those stops en route that weren't scenic.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I'm quite satisfied with how i've lived my life and what i've achieved...and am in the process of achieving. I think we all need to be kind to ourselves and have a little self love before we project that onto others.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"We are all worthy of love some don't get it, some settle for the fake kind."

I'd choose indepence over fake love.

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

Am I worthy of love? - hell yeah

Is love worthy of me?...

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I've had some difficult times over the last few years..(haven't we all) My heart has been ripped and shreaded into a thousand pieces. It would be so easy to let those times make me cynical and harsh but that's not me. I refuse to let the past define who I am but instead try and learn from it.

Especially as a singleton and I dip in and out of dating... Sometimes wanting too and other times not because I'm happy as I am.. Deep down it would be lovely to meet someone who was just crazy about me and me them.. But so far it seems to be eluding me.. I like to think that he's out there somewhere.. But if not then I will just carry on as I am trying to make the most of this sort brief life we have.. And of course there's always fab....

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By *eplicant JoWoman
over a year ago

Sussex countryside

Tough question ...

Not sure I can answer it really, without a bit of soul searching. I dont feel worthy of love at the

present time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I see it that all the good things, as well as the not so good things, that have happened to me have made me the person I am today. A person I quite like. I think I'm too guarded and cautious to be in another relationship but never say never is the attitude I take. My friends and family love me and that's enough x"

They totally do.. do you think you truly realise how much you've achieved or do you still see some of the past damage as current?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the whole I’ve dealt with most of my baggage from the past and I’m very pleased with what I’ve achieved in life. I have one area that I’m working on that help me to feel even more fulfilled

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is an interesting thread OP.

In general I think that it's important that we remember that the past doesn't have to define us and that we are wonderful and complex creatures. We're capable of such a capacity for strength and love that we do deserve to be loved, whether we hold true to those standards of expectation and 'demand' that is a different matter.

Its a truism that we accept the love we feel that we deserve, which is a very sad state of affairs on the whole. "

Very much so. This was my discussion this week.. that the part of us that's damaged then gives out a misleading value to our level of worth. It very much made me wake up and realise that I'm different, but in a positive way.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I see it that all the good things, as well as the not so good things, that have happened to me have made me the person I am today. A person I quite like. I think I'm too guarded and cautious to be in another relationship but never say never is the attitude I take. My friends and family love me and that's enough x

They totally do.. do you think you truly realise how much you've achieved or do you still see some of the past damage as current? "

The past damage is still very much here. Because of it I wont let anyone close x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think Im a closet romantic, I think Im worthy of love (probably) but are a little reluctant to accept it or believe it. I like giving love out more, I feel happier showing love to people, making them feel loved. But then I guess I do hope that they love me back.

Its easier just to be a frozen heart sometimes though

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Tough question ...

Not sure I can answer it really, without a bit of soul searching. I dont feel worthy of love at the

present time. "

It's taken me a week to fully process.. I wasn't seeing the bumps as an achievement that's passed.. I was seeing them as something that caused damage, but they're no longer relevant. Sorry you feel that way x it's a tough place to get to.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"I've had some difficult times over the last few years..(haven't we all) My heart has been ripped and shreaded into a thousand pieces. It would be so easy to let those times make me cynical and harsh but that's not me. I refuse to let the past define who I am but instead try and learn from it.

Especially as a singleton and I dip in and out of dating... Sometimes wanting too and other times not because I'm happy as I am.. Deep down it would be lovely to meet someone who was just crazy about me and me them.. But so far it seems to be eluding me.. I like to think that he's out there somewhere.. But if not then I will just carry on as I am trying to make the most of this sort brief life we have.. And of course there's always fab....

"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I see it that all the good things, as well as the not so good things, that have happened to me have made me the person I am today. A person I quite like. I think I'm too guarded and cautious to be in another relationship but never say never is the attitude I take. My friends and family love me and that's enough x

They totally do.. do you think you truly realise how much you've achieved or do you still see some of the past damage as current?

The past damage is still very much here. Because of it I wont let anyone close x"

That's sad to hear... x maybe no one worthy has knocked on your door just yet!

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

"Love the life you live and you will live a life of love"

If you do not love yourself, surely no-one else can either.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've had some difficult times over the last few years..(haven't we all) My heart has been ripped and shreaded into a thousand pieces. It would be so easy to let those times make me cynical and harsh but that's not me. I refuse to let the past define who I am but instead try and learn from it.

Especially as a singleton and I dip in and out of dating... Sometimes wanting too and other times not because I'm happy as I am.. Deep down it would be lovely to meet someone who was just crazy about me and me them.. But so far it seems to be eluding me.. I like to think that he's out there somewhere.. But if not then I will just carry on as I am trying to make the most of this sort brief life we have.. And of course there's always fab....

"

Sounds like you're in a strong place! It'll come x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm quite satisfied with how i've lived my life and what i've achieved...and am in the process of achieving. I think we all need to be kind to ourselves and have a little self love before we project that onto others."

Very much so. Nothing works fully if you don't truly know yourself!

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I see all the shit life has thrown at me, and I'm still here.

Those things have made me the person I am today.

I wouldn't change anything that has happened, because without wanting to sound vain.

I'm bloody awesome. I'm loving life, and loving the person I am now.

Am I worthy of love? Hell yeah!

Do I want it? The jury is still out on that one

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I see all the shit life has thrown at me, and I'm still here.

Those things have made me the person I am today.

I wouldn't change anything that has happened, because without wanting to sound vain.

I'm bloody awesome. I'm loving life, and loving the person I am now.

Am I worthy of love? Hell yeah!

Do I want it? The jury is still out on that one "

Totally this!!! you never know.. it may sneak up and bite you on the arse!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


""Love the life you live and you will live a life of love"

If you do not love yourself, surely no-one else can either."

And so true x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"One word, Nope. "

Do you look at what makes you you? Things you've achieved.. things that you thought would beat you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Life for me has been like a journey. Sometimes I've been stuck in traffic, not being able to move no matter how much I nudge forward. Other times I have had a clear road.

There have been times I have had to stop to refuel, change my route. All roads have led me here to a place of accepting myself for the good and the bad. I tend not to dwell on those stops en route that weren't scenic."

But they took you to the place you are now so have had their uses.. x

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"This is an interesting thread OP.

In general I think that it's important that we remember that the past doesn't have to define us and that we are wonderful and complex creatures. We're capable of such a capacity for strength and love that we do deserve to be loved, whether we hold true to those standards of expectation and 'demand' that is a different matter.

Its a truism that we accept the love we feel that we deserve, which is a very sad state of affairs on the whole.

Very much so. This was my discussion this week.. that the part of us that's damaged then gives out a misleading value to our level of worth. It very much made me wake up and realise that I'm different, but in a positive way. "

That's wonderful to hear, it's a bit of a light bulb moment when you realise that sort of thing.

Personally I believe that I'm deserving of love, I'm brittle if pressed in the wrong places and a 'work in progress' but I also know that I'm worth more than what I've accepted in the past.

I refused to let my hurt make me hard or to close off when it would be easy to. I think it takes more strength to make yourself vulnerable and to be willing to be open to accepting love. In that way I surprise myself daily.

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By *iffler 2019Woman
over a year ago

Saltash aka Fraggle Rock

I am not worthy of love as far too many issues

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is an interesting thread OP.

In general I think that it's important that we remember that the past doesn't have to define us and that we are wonderful and complex creatures. We're capable of such a capacity for strength and love that we do deserve to be loved, whether we hold true to those standards of expectation and 'demand' that is a different matter.

Its a truism that we accept the love we feel that we deserve, which is a very sad state of affairs on the whole.

Very much so. This was my discussion this week.. that the part of us that's damaged then gives out a misleading value to our level of worth. It very much made me wake up and realise that I'm different, but in a positive way.

That's wonderful to hear, it's a bit of a light bulb moment when you realise that sort of thing.

Personally I believe that I'm deserving of love, I'm brittle if pressed in the wrong places and a 'work in progress' but I also know that I'm worth more than what I've accepted in the past.

I refused to let my hurt make me hard or to close off when it would be easy to. I think it takes more strength to make yourself vulnerable and to be willing to be open to accepting love. In that way I surprise myself daily. "

That's the hardest part..putting your emotion in someone else's hands.. takes a lot of strength to do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm worthy of love, we all are I think. Some of us dwell on past mistakes or regrets, loves had and lost, others can box up all their past shit and drop it in the ocean without skipping a beat and move right along to the next one. I don't dwell on the past but I do use it as a guide, to keep me from making the same mistakes and to gauge my comfort zone. I've never properly been in love and I don't think I ever will, I'm happily single and enjoy my own time and space and am currently not looking for love. If I found the right woman though who sparked those type of feelings it might scare me at first but I'm sure I have it in me to love and to be loved

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

In all honesty I really don’t know!

I sometimes I think I’m a nice/good person and deserve someone nice - but whenever it looks like I might have found that person something goes tits up!

I’m beginning to think that, on some kind of cosmic level, I don’t deserve that kind of love (I have lots of love from friends, kids and family and am grateful for that!) and that’s why it eludes me!

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

My Mum loves me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am not worthy of love as far too many issues "

Thats really sad do you ever look at what you've achieved? The stuff that's not broken you? X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My Mum loves me"

Jims mum?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I continuously put things in boxes.

I am quirkily confident with crippling anxiety and self doubt. Ehen I connect with someone, they see the real me. The rest of the time I'm too wrapped up in people's opinions, trying to avoid failure or letting people down. Those who have known me a very very long time, know what a mess I am and can be.

But I dust myself down and put on the happy face. I know people say they like me, I believe I have good friends in real life, but the black dog perches on my shoulder at all times.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm worthy of love, we all are I think. Some of us dwell on past mistakes or regrets, loves had and lost, others can box up all their past shit and drop it in the ocean without skipping a beat and move right along to the next one. I don't dwell on the past but I do use it as a guide, to keep me from making the same mistakes and to gauge my comfort zone. I've never properly been in love and I don't think I ever will, I'm happily single and enjoy my own time and space and am currently not looking for love. If I found the right woman though who sparked those type of feelings it might scare me at first but I'm sure I have it in me to love and to be loved "

Ah That's a lovely post! Always best to never say never.. you just don't know what's round the corner x

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)


"My Mum loves me

Jims mum?"

She loves it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In all honesty I really don’t know!

I sometimes I think I’m a nice/good person and deserve someone nice - but whenever it looks like I might have found that person something goes tits up!

I’m beginning to think that, on some kind of cosmic level, I don’t deserve that kind of love (I have lots of love from friends, kids and family and am grateful for that!) and that’s why it eludes me! "

Definately not Peachy! You've just not found one strong enough just yet x

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By *iffler 2019Woman
over a year ago

Saltash aka Fraggle Rock


"I am not worthy of love as far too many issues

Thats really sad do you ever look at what you've achieved? The stuff that's not broken you? X"

Yeah but still feel a failure. A lot of bad stuff has happened over the years and I find it hard to move on plus I suffer from severe depression and anxiety and also PTSD so trying to find someone who loves me for me is really difficult x

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

I would like to think so. But this I want it, I have it, I throw it away attitude has and is changing me not for the better either. I dont trust anything people say anymore. I'm not sure fab has done me any favours.

It's the simple things I miss about being in love maybe I'll find that again in my life time but I'm not sure I will. I've been single for 11 years and not even dated anyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I continuously put things in boxes.

I am quirkily confident with crippling anxiety and self doubt. Ehen I connect with someone, they see the real me. The rest of the time I'm too wrapped up in people's opinions, trying to avoid failure or letting people down. Those who have known me a very very long time, know what a mess I am and can be.

But I dust myself down and put on the happy face. I know people say they like me, I believe I have good friends in real life, but the black dog perches on my shoulder at all times.

"

Nothing wrong in keeping your circle small.. that way you truly know who gets you and who you can be open with! Not just anyone deserves to see our darker parts.. but it's lovely when you do find those you can be yourself with x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am not worthy of love as far too many issues

Thats really sad do you ever look at what you've achieved? The stuff that's not broken you? X

Yeah but still feel a failure. A lot of bad stuff has happened over the years and I find it hard to move on plus I suffer from severe depression and anxiety and also PTSD so trying to find someone who loves me for me is really difficult x"

I have all of the above and for too long seen it as a fault and weakness... I now see that I survived and am capable of feeling happy again and that dark days won't kill me because I've come through much worse x

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

I think i am worthy of love but i think various knockbacks have severely depleted how that radiates from me.

I do feel ive failed in life in as much as i have never had that traditional family unit or had a relationship with a man who loved me enough to want me as his wife.

I just want what eveyone else has, a loving relationship.

Then i come on here and see that half of those loving relationships are a crock of shit since the loving hubbies are here cheating and risking their relationships!

Its all very conflicting!

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By *iffler 2019Woman
over a year ago

Saltash aka Fraggle Rock


"I am not worthy of love as far too many issues

Thats really sad do you ever look at what you've achieved? The stuff that's not broken you? X

Yeah but still feel a failure. A lot of bad stuff has happened over the years and I find it hard to move on plus I suffer from severe depression and anxiety and also PTSD so trying to find someone who loves me for me is really difficult x

I have all of the above and for too long seen it as a fault and weakness... I now see that I survived and am capable of feeling happy again and that dark days won't kill me because I've come through much worse x"

I have survived and that but I struggle with my mental health and not many people accept this x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I am not worthy of love as far too many issues

Thats really sad do you ever look at what you've achieved? The stuff that's not broken you? X

Yeah but still feel a failure. A lot of bad stuff has happened over the years and I find it hard to move on plus I suffer from severe depression and anxiety and also PTSD so trying to find someone who loves me for me is really difficult x

I have all of the above and for too long seen it as a fault and weakness... I now see that I survived and am capable of feeling happy again and that dark days won't kill me because I've come through much worse x

I have survived and that but I struggle with my mental health and not many people accept this x"

The right people will x I nearly lost my own family over mental health understanding.. it's something many struggle to understand unless they've experienced it. But everyone deserves happiness.. you have to believe that too x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would like to think so. But this I want it, I have it, I throw it away attitude has and is changing me not for the better either. I dont trust anything people say anymore. I'm not sure fab has done me any favours.

It's the simple things I miss about being in love maybe I'll find that again in my life time but I'm not sure I will. I've been single for 11 years and not even dated anyone "

I'm 8 years.. made myself too independent to suffer any fools. I don't need, I want.. there's a huge difference. Many people are scared off by that. I think this place just confirms what we already know.. many people lie.. just here it's a little more open. Still very possible to find a beautiful soul amongst the masses though! He might have just joined.. you never know x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think i am worthy of love but i think various knockbacks have severely depleted how that radiates from me.

I do feel ive failed in life in as much as i have never had that traditional family unit or had a relationship with a man who loved me enough to want me as his wife.

I just want what eveyone else has, a loving relationship.

Then i come on here and see that half of those loving relationships are a crock of shit since the loving hubbies are here cheating and risking their relationships!

Its all very conflicting!"

Very much so I don't have that traditional family unit and I'm divorced.. but I've never assumed that that was my one shot.. more a stepping stone to a different picture. At least on here you know who to avoid.. for every wrongen there will be a lovely one trying to get noticed in a sea of avatars.. just because we see a side we don't necessarily like doesn't mean it stands for the majority. Keep the faith x

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By *iffler 2019Woman
over a year ago

Saltash aka Fraggle Rock


"I would like to think so. But this I want it, I have it, I throw it away attitude has and is changing me not for the better either. I dont trust anything people say anymore. I'm not sure fab has done me any favours.

It's the simple things I miss about being in love maybe I'll find that again in my life time but I'm not sure I will. I've been single for 11 years and not even dated anyone

I'm 8 years.. made myself too independent to suffer any fools. I don't need, I want.. there's a huge difference. Many people are scared off by that. I think this place just confirms what we already know.. many people lie.. just here it's a little more open. Still very possible to find a beautiful soul amongst the masses though! He might have just joined.. you never know x"

I have suffered practically all my life due to being in care etc everyone I have ever known has taken advantage of me and said they love me but they have left me. Mr right may be round the corner I hope so x

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I would like to think so. But this I want it, I have it, I throw it away attitude has and is changing me not for the better either. I dont trust anything people say anymore. I'm not sure fab has done me any favours.

It's the simple things I miss about being in love maybe I'll find that again in my life time but I'm not sure I will. I've been single for 11 years and not even dated anyone "

I do wonder sometimes if fab teaches a degree of cynicism over time that is very hard to shake on a personal level. Once you've seen the casual lying and hypocrisy on a daily basis it's hard not to expect that from people. I've found myself doing that increasingly of late.

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By *ollipop77Couple
over a year ago

Sunny Manchester

Life has not yet broken me but left me very scarred and bruised. Yes I deserve love but I am not ready to accept it. It takes a very strong person to let someone into their life and I am Just not there x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

‘Tis time this heart should be unmoved,

Since others it has ceased to move:

Yet, though I cannot be beloved,

Still let me love!’

My lifetime has worn me down prematurely, though until I’m ground to dust: it’s not won.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure how to answer this question...

I'm a loner - I always have been.

I'm terrible at having romantic relationships with people - I turn into a lunatic!

I get along with friends and work collegues etc.. just fine and love company - but after a few hours I'm people'd out and need some respite.

Maybe its because I dont have any family - and most of my friends are far away I've learned to be OK with my own company.

I don't feel like I need love.

Whether I deserve it or not is for someone else to judge x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Absolutely I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are all worthy of love some don't get it, some settle for the fake kind."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Life has not yet broken me but left me very scarred and bruised. Yes I deserve love but I am not ready to accept it. It takes a very strong person to let someone into their life and I am Just not there x"

Sounds like you're on the right path

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is deserving of love. However there are many people out there who abuse that word, which leaves those of us who have been mistreated, lied to, used, played, physically and emotionally wounded. Wounds can heal, but we are still damaged goods.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not sure how to answer this question...

I'm a loner - I always have been.

I'm terrible at having romantic relationships with people - I turn into a lunatic!

I get along with friends and work collegues etc.. just fine and love company - but after a few hours I'm people'd out and need some respite.

Maybe its because I dont have any family - and most of my friends are far away I've learned to be OK with my own company.

I don't feel like I need love.

Whether I deserve it or not is for someone else to judge x "

Sometimes it's more about the right kind of company. Those you can be silent with x

I need lots of quiet time to recharge. I'm not very sociable.. but the right company is good for the soul

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all honesty I really don’t know!

I sometimes I think I’m a nice/good person and deserve someone nice - but whenever it looks like I might have found that person something goes tits up!

I’m beginning to think that, on some kind of cosmic level, I don’t deserve that kind of love (I have lots of love from friends, kids and family and am grateful for that!) and that’s why it eludes me! "

You already have love (kids etc). Perhaps the universe is saving you from people who aren't worthy of your love. It goes tits up because to carry on would be worse. See it as a positive. What will be, will be.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"‘Tis time this heart should be unmoved,

Since others it has ceased to move:

Yet, though I cannot be beloved,

Still let me love!’

My lifetime has worn me down prematurely, though until I’m ground to dust: it’s not won. "

Beautiful quote x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know if I questioned my worth because of my past but I didn't think I'd be able to love again and feel that exposed and vulnerable. I didn't let people in because I didn't think I would be able to give them enough because I was too scared to get my heart broken again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Absolutely I am. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Everyone is deserving of love. However there are many people out there who abuse that word, which leaves those of us who have been mistreated, lied to, used, played, physically and emotionally wounded. Wounds can heal, but we are still damaged goods."

I see it as we are life experience achievers.. still here and smiling despite the past. Not everyone is out to hurt others.. it's just finding the right ones x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, but sadly we don't always get what we deserve

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't know if I questioned my worth because of my past but I didn't think I'd be able to love again and feel that exposed and vulnerable. I didn't let people in because I didn't think I would be able to give them enough because I was too scared to get my heart broken again."

I think it's natural to close up for a while and rebuild.. I did it for 8 years! If you've given it to someone not deserving you know deep down that you have more to give to the right person.. you'll know when you see it x

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over a year ago

Not any more. I'm not able to give it back, which is unfair.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes, but sadly we don't always get what we deserve "

So true.. but maybe the best is yet to come.. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not any more. I'm not able to give it back, which is unfair.

"

Never? Or not just yet?

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"I don't know if I questioned my worth because of my past but I didn't think I'd be able to love again and feel that exposed and vulnerable. I didn't let people in because I didn't think I would be able to give them enough because I was too scared to get my heart broken again.

I think it's natural to close up for a while and rebuild.. I did it for 8 years! If you've given it to someone not deserving you know deep down that you have more to give to the right person.. you'll know when you see it x "

That’s true, you’ll know when you can

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I would like to think so. But this I want it, I have it, I throw it away attitude has and is changing me not for the better either. I dont trust anything people say anymore. I'm not sure fab has done me any favours.

It's the simple things I miss about being in love maybe I'll find that again in my life time but I'm not sure I will. I've been single for 11 years and not even dated anyone

I'm 8 years.. made myself too independent to suffer any fools. I don't need, I want.. there's a huge difference. Many people are scared off by that. I think this place just confirms what we already know.. many people lie.. just here it's a little more open. Still very possible to find a beautiful soul amongst the masses though! He might have just joined.. you never know x"

For me I value my independence and work hard for it. I would never give it away for fake love. I am lucky to have known love in my life. And I to want rather than need it.

That's the beauty of life..you just never know x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would like to think so. But this I want it, I have it, I throw it away attitude has and is changing me not for the better either. I dont trust anything people say anymore. I'm not sure fab has done me any favours.

It's the simple things I miss about being in love maybe I'll find that again in my life time but I'm not sure I will. I've been single for 11 years and not even dated anyone

I'm 8 years.. made myself too independent to suffer any fools. I don't need, I want.. there's a huge difference. Many people are scared off by that. I think this place just confirms what we already know.. many people lie.. just here it's a little more open. Still very possible to find a beautiful soul amongst the masses though! He might have just joined.. you never know x

For me I value my independence and work hard for it. I would never give it away for fake love. I am lucky to have known love in my life. And I to want rather than need it.

That's the beauty of life..you just never know x"

Totally and that's a nice place to be!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In all honesty I really don’t know!

I sometimes I think I’m a nice/good person and deserve someone nice - but whenever it looks like I might have found that person something goes tits up!

I’m beginning to think that, on some kind of cosmic level, I don’t deserve that kind of love (I have lots of love from friends, kids and family and am grateful for that!) and that’s why it eludes me!

You already have love (kids etc). Perhaps the universe is saving you from people who aren't worthy of your love. It goes tits up because to carry on would be worse. See it as a positive. What will be, will be. "

I like that. Xx

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