FabSwingers.com forum: Catching someone cheating

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyone ever caught somebody on here that they know shouldnt be if so who was it and what did /would you do about it ......especially for the ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep

It was people I don’t really care about so I did nothing.

If it was someone I really cared about, I’d do something.

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

Snitches get stitches

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By *rkeb3Man
over a year ago

east Lancashire road

"Snitches get stitches

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am with u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Christ on a bike.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seen several people but it's none of my business.

Block and crack on with my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen several people but it's none of my business.

Block and crack on with my life

100 % agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone ever caught somebody on here that they know shouldnt be if so who was it and what did /would you do about it ......especially for the ladies "

Why shouldn't they be on here? They're not breaking any laws or site rules.

Here comes the cheating police again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leave well alone in my opinion.

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By *rkeb3Man
over a year ago

east Lancashire road

My neighbor shes married but still have fun on the side I didn't do nothing why ? Cose shes cheating with me mfaakkkkkkkkkkkrrrrrrrrr

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"I've seen several people but it's none of my business.

Block and crack on with my life

Exactly that. I’m not judge and jury.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not my circus.

Not my monkeys.

I don't get involved.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

None of my business, plus how do you know they're cheating? They may have permission and it's a very private part of their relationship for example. Point is you don't know someone else's relationship entirely so probably best to stay out of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"None of my business, plus how do you know they're cheating? They may have permission and it's a very private part of their relationship for example. Point is you don't know someone else's relationship entirely so probably best to stay out of it."

Nicely put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone ever caught somebody on here that they know shouldnt be if so who was it and what did /would you do about it ......especially for the ladies

Why shouldn't they be on here? They're not breaking any laws or site rules.

Here comes the cheating police again

Hands behind your back madam then in the back of van.

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By *icegentglosMan
over a year ago

Gloucester

It’s not mine or anyone else’s concern.

Leave it be .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maintain the rule of “Whats goes on in FAB stays on FAB” non of my business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of local men with profiles on here but their wife is unaware. I see them out together, all smiles.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I wouldn't meet them in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of local men with profiles on here but their wife is unaware. I see them out together, all smiles.

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do you check for local women on here too?

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

No. I’m not very good at identifying people by genitalia alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I’m not very good at identifying people by genitalia alone. "
I call bs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of local men with profiles on here but their wife is unaware. I see them out together, all smiles.

do you check for local women on here too?"

I'm not a cheater hunter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No and its not my business if i did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exactly this ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has there been a sea change in opinion on Fab recently?

It used to be that any cheating thread would attract hordes of people arguing against it. Now not so much and an acceptance that cheating happens.

As to answer the question. I wouldn’t get involved.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

"No. I’m not very good at identifying people by genitalia alone. I call bs.

Well that’s rude.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"Has there been a sea change in opinion on Fab recently?

It used to be that any cheating thread would attract hordes of people arguing against it. Now not so much and an acceptance that cheating happens.

As to answer the question. I wouldn’t get involved."

I think the ‘hunt the cheaters down’ folk are still in bed. Give it time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maintain the rule of “Whats goes on in FAB stays on FAB” non of my business. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't meet them in the first place. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Christ on a bike.

I think I saw that this morning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best to not get involved

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

As long as they aren't cheating with me I couldn't care less

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maintain the rule of “Whats goes on in FAB stays on FAB” non of my business. "

Totally agree with this!

I've had 2 guys message me with face pics on my single profile, both of them being husbands of friends of mine!! After my initial shock I very quickly blocked them!

I would never tell their wives....it does make it tricky though when I'm out with them and their start chatting about their wonderful husband or moaning about their crap sex life!!

PT x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maintain the rule of “Whats goes on in FAB stays on FAB” non of my business.

Totally agree with this!

I've had 2 guys message me with face pics on my single profile, both of them being husbands of friends of mine!! After my initial shock I very quickly blocked them!

I would never tell their wives....it does make it tricky though when I'm out with them and their start chatting about their wonderful husband or moaning about their crap sex life!!

PT x"

I would like to think if my friends knew something if I was married or in a relationship that they would tell me. I would be so angry if I found out and they knew.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maintain the rule of “Whats goes on in FAB stays on FAB” non of my business.

Totally agree with this!

I've had 2 guys message me with face pics on my single profile, both of them being husbands of friends of mine!! After my initial shock I very quickly blocked them!

I would never tell their wives....it does make it tricky though when I'm out with them and their start chatting about their wonderful husband or moaning about their crap sex life!!

PT x

I would like to think if my friends knew something if I was married or in a relationship that they would tell me. I would be so angry if I found out and they knew. "

I’d want to know

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By *urved HunnyWoman
over a year ago

Essex

It's absolutely none of our business what other people do, we are not people police, half the people on here are possibly spoken for but their lives are their own. There'd be a lot less trouble in the world if people minded their own business

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

Imagine the awkwardness if you outed someone to their partner when they had agreed between them that it was ok to be on here.

You are absolutely right. People should concern themselves with their own actions rather than others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Karma is a bitch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has there been a sea change in opinion on Fab recently?

It used to be that any cheating thread would attract hordes of people arguing against it. Now not so much and an acceptance that cheating happens.

As to answer the question. I wouldn’t get involved.

I think the ‘hunt the cheaters down’ folk are still in bed. Give it time

They need time for their halos to rest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maintain the rule of “Whats goes on in FAB stays on FAB” non of my business.

Totally agree with this!

I've had 2 guys message me with face pics on my single profile, both of them being husbands of friends of mine!! After my initial shock I very quickly blocked them!

I would never tell their wives....it does make it tricky though when I'm out with them and their start chatting about their wonderful husband or moaning about their crap sex life!!

PT x

I would like to think if my friends knew something if I was married or in a relationship that they would tell me. I would be so angry if I found out and they knew. "

This for me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maintain the rule of “Whats goes on in FAB stays on FAB” non of my business.

Totally agree with this!

I've had 2 guys message me with face pics on my single profile, both of them being husbands of friends of mine!! After my initial shock I very quickly blocked them!

I would never tell their wives....it does make it tricky though when I'm out with them and their start chatting about their wonderful husband or moaning about their crap sex life!!

PT x

I would like to think if my friends knew something if I was married or in a relationship that they would tell me. I would be so angry if I found out and they knew.

This for me too. "

But surely this is a difference between friends and acquaintances?

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

It’s none of your business OP. I’d stay well away in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maintain the rule of “Whats goes on in FAB stays on FAB” non of my business.

Totally agree with this!

I've had 2 guys message me with face pics on my single profile, both of them being husbands of friends of mine!! After my initial shock I very quickly blocked them!

I would never tell their wives....it does make it tricky though when I'm out with them and their start chatting about their wonderful husband or moaning about their crap sex life!!

PT x

I would like to think if my friends knew something if I was married or in a relationship that they would tell me. I would be so angry if I found out and they knew.

This for me too.

But surely this is a difference between friends and acquaintances? "

Of course. The other poster said friends.

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By *ustyLeRouxWoman
over a year ago

Brecon

"Karma is a bitch. "

Very much agree with this !

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"Anyone ever caught somebody on here that they know shouldnt be if so who was it and what did /would you do about it ......especially for the ladies "
I saw one of my then best friends partners at a club with someone not her.... I didn't have to ask if he was meant to be or she knew... as he grabbed me aside begged me not to tell her as she would never accept it. I told him to tell her or I would.

I would hope someone would tell me but seems most on here are happy to laugh about the poor partner who hasn't got a clue about the cheating partner... as I found our when my partner cheated. Those that knee and didn't say anything where nearly as bad as those they knew that then actively assisted.

Watching me tear myself apart when I was sure he was and letting him make me feel bad for thinking it.. some that helped him actually covered it up are worse than those he cheated with in my mind.

So yes if I knew it wasn't with permission and I knew the person well enough I would tell them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone ever caught somebody on here that they know shouldnt be if so who was it and what did /would you do about it ......especially for the ladies

Why shouldn't they be on here? They're not breaking any laws or site rules.

Here comes the cheating police again

Hands behind your back madam then in the back of van.

Yes please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’d best believe that I’d say something! That behaviour is down right despicable! I’d be all over them like a rash........until they give in and hand over the hush money

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maintain the rule of “Whats goes on in FAB stays on FAB” non of my business.

Totally agree with this!

I've had 2 guys message me with face pics on my single profile, both of them being husbands of friends of mine!! After my initial shock I very quickly blocked them!

I would never tell their wives....it does make it tricky though when I'm out with them and their start chatting about their wonderful husband or moaning about their crap sex life!!

PT x

I would like to think if my friends knew something if I was married or in a relationship that they would tell me. I would be so angry if I found out and they knew. "

Trust me I've struggled with whether I should tell them, one in particular, but it's such a difficult one. I sometimes think she must know that all is not as it seems, but they have a good comfortable life, she's happy not having much sex, they've got 2 young children.... I can't be the one to destroy all that. I've also thought about telling him I know and for him to sort it and stop but again he's a grown man making his own decisions, whether I approve or not is neither here nor there. Its not a great situation to be in but I can't be the cause of her/their kids' world coming crashing down.....he is the cause of that and its his choices so it has to be his decision to tell her or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maintain the rule of “Whats goes on in FAB stays on FAB” non of my business.

Totally agree with this!

I've had 2 guys message me with face pics on my single profile, both of them being husbands of friends of mine!! After my initial shock I very quickly blocked them!

I would never tell their wives....it does make it tricky though when I'm out with them and their start chatting about their wonderful husband or moaning about their crap sex life!!

PT x

I would like to think if my friends knew something if I was married or in a relationship that they would tell me. I would be so angry if I found out and they knew.

I think it depends on how close a friend it is. I didn’t tell someone something years ago and I lost that friendship as the trust was gone. She was upset that I didn’t tell her. I would never do that again. If in that situation again, I would speak to the guy first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maintain the rule of “Whats goes on in FAB stays on FAB” non of my business.

Totally agree with this!

I've had 2 guys message me with face pics on my single profile, both of them being husbands of friends of mine!! After my initial shock I very quickly blocked them!

I would never tell their wives....it does make it tricky though when I'm out with them and their start chatting about their wonderful husband or moaning about their crap sex life!!

PT x

I would like to think if my friends knew something if I was married or in a relationship that they would tell me. I would be so angry if I found out and they knew.

Which is perhaps what I should do! It is so hard though because I think there is a risk of losing the friendship either way....it could be that she wouldn't even believe me....although I would hope she knows I wouldn't tell her something like that to just cause them trouble!! I don't know....it's just a bloody tricky situation all round!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why especially for ladies ???

Do females seem more equipped to answer?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just nice to hear a ladies perspective compared to a guys x

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I've seen quite a few.

Men, and women on here as singles, but I know are married in real life.

Their partners may know, they may also have a profile I've just not spotted.

They have their reasons to be here, some of which I actually can understand and relate too.

It's not my place to judge how others live their lives

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't interfere in other people's private lives.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That seems a sensible way to go ...some guys pm me with a real sick response women seem so much more sensible about things x ...i just wanted to see the difference in opinions x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't interfere in other people's private lives. "

Very wise i reckon

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Has there been a sea change in opinion on Fab recently?

It used to be that any cheating thread would attract hordes of people arguing against it. Now not so much and an acceptance that cheating happens.

As to answer the question. I wouldn’t get involved."

I suspect that if this was phrased differently and was a woman who had seen her friends husband on here the replies would be very different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Snitches get stitches

Witch tv program u seen that on lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Snitches get stitches

Witch tv program u seen that on lol"

Probably Sabrina.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of local men with profiles on here but their wife is unaware. I see them out together, all smiles.

How do you know their wife is unaware?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Would you fuck them ...if you knew there wife ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you fuck them ...if you knew there wife ? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you fuck them ...if you knew there wife ? "

No. I don't meet anyone local. I prefer discretion and staying away from drama.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll be honest. Im very much of the mindset that what happens and is seen on fab, stays on fab. If i saw a very close friend's partner on here however or a close family member's partner, i would struggle with that knowledge, so i can't promise that my motto would stay like that. If it were me, i would want to be told. I'd be mortified and feel like a fool if i were the last to know I'd been cheated on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. And I did nothing. Why would I? Not my business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of local men with profiles on here but their wife is unaware. I see them out together, all smiles.

How do you know their wife is unaware? "

Because their husbands have a meltdown when they think they'll be found out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well said. Totaly agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of local men with profiles on here but their wife is unaware. I see them out together, all smiles.

How do you know their wife is unaware?

Because their husbands have a meltdown when they think they'll be found out. "

How do make a married man blush?

Ask his mistress

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Snitches get stitches

Witch tv program u seen that on lol

Probably Sabrina. "

Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would you fuck them ...if you knew there wife ? "

No.

I was in a situation where I had to lie for a man who was terrified his girlfriend would find out what a cheat he is, but I got a load of shit. If she asks me again I'll tell her everything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've seen several people but it's none of my business.

Block and crack on with my life

Bob on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Snitches get stitches

Witch tv program u seen that on lol

Probably Sabrina.

Haha

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of local men with profiles on here but their wife is unaware. I see them out together, all smiles.

How do you know their wife is unaware?

Because their husbands have a meltdown when they think they'll be found out. "

You know lots like this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's absolutely none of our business what other people do, we are not people police, half the people on here are possibly spoken for but their lives are their own. There'd be a lot less trouble in the world if people minded their own business

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By *Marvel-Man
over a year ago

In The Gym

"Anyone ever caught somebody on here that they know shouldnt be if so who was it and what did /would you do about it ......especially for the ladies "

Came across one recently. Even says on her profile she's got a bf and doesn't want to stop swinging because of it and he doesn't know either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is like a cheaters website these days, i met a guy years ago turned out he was cheating.

Had his wife phoning me up with abuse i only got rid of her when i said i was going to call the police.

They are the scum to me and people who meet them are usually cheating as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of local men with profiles on here but their wife is unaware. I see them out together, all smiles.

How do you know their wife is unaware?

Because their husbands have a meltdown when they think they'll be found out.

You know lots like this?"

6. That's what I call a lot.

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By *evinnorfolkMan
over a year ago

attleborough

In an ideal world people would be honest and say who they are and what they are looking for. The reality is that they don't and that's their problem, there are no morality rules and nobody to enforce them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lots of local men with profiles on here but their wife is unaware. I see them out together, all smiles.

How do you know their wife is unaware?

Because their husbands have a meltdown when they think they'll be found out.

You know lots like this?

6. That's what I call a lot. "

That is a lot. Seems I'm right not to be interested in local people. I could end up finding out all sorts of shit I don't want to!

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

My husband.

Sly bastard.

Least I didn’t have to travel far for the meet.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Ever thought they are on here to get something that’s missing at home but by doing so they stay married? Would you rather have them splitting up and joining the statistics of divorcees?

I’m not saying what happens is right or wrong I’m only saying that I know how it is for some people I know on here.

If I saw anyone I knew I’d leave well alone.

No one is here to stir up trouble.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"Ever thought they are on here to get something that’s missing at home but by doing so they stay married? Would you rather have them splitting up and joining the statistics of divorcees?

I’m not saying what happens is right or wrong I’m only saying that I know how it is for some people I know on here.

If I saw anyone I knew I’d leave well alone.

No one is here to stir up trouble. "
when people took the stance of just letting my partner have his fun and not telling me .. it included the fact many knew he was not playing safe with these other partners.... so they were quiet happy to let him carry on and turn a blind eye. How would you feel if it was you everyone was laughing at?? As I can assure you that's what it feels like

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