FabSwingers.com forum: Is it just me?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That finds themselves most physically attracted to stereotypically good looking guys that make zero effort to chat, and don't seem to have a lot between the ears.

I know looks are personal preference but quite often the guys i find most attractive are people That seem to meet a certain type of women who looks nothing like me. Fake tan, hair extensions, enhanced boobs and in the gym all the time etc

There are men who send me lovely messages, but quite often the physical attraction isn't there. Personality is very important to me, but given the nature of this site there needs to be physical attraction roo or I don't want more than a social.

Is it a case of wanting the unattainable? Being really shallow and sad?

As i said personality is important so i won't meet anyone without getting to know them and seeing if we click.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality and the ability to laugh together are important

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

I'm the same from a male point of view, I'm mainly drawn to the stereotypically attractive women, slim/athletic, long hair, takes care of herself, although they do have to be able to have a decent conversation too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty but dim girls don't do anything at all for me. A smart girl is an absolute must for me. I'm definitely not saying I'm particularly smart myself, just I find intelligence to be super attractive and it rubs off a little too and gives you inspiration. If you're surrounded by stupid ppl then it might make you feel powerful, but your own intelligence will be rubbing off and become diluted as you all reach equilibrium. I'd rather have a wank....

Peace and love

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I might be attracted to stereotypically good looking guys, but my interest disappears if the conversation doesn't keep my attention.

On the flip side someone I might not be 100% sure on at first can swing it with good chat.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"I might be attracted to stereotypically good looking guys, but my interest disappears if the conversation doesn't keep my attention.

On the flip side someone I might not be 100% sure on at first can swing it with good chat. "

Also bear in mind that good looking does not automatically mean stupid or boring, as that's where these threads tend to go!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like personality rather than looks, I really dislike the ones that love themselves and are very overly needy

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By *edmark07Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Surely its the combination of looks and personality that wins. You might be attracted initially by one but without the other it would really work for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I might be attracted to stereotypically good looking guys, but my interest disappears if the conversation doesn't keep my attention.

On the flip side someone I might not be 100% sure on at first can swing it with good chat.

Also bear in mind that good looking does not automatically mean stupid or boring, as that's where these threads tend to go! "

That's very true!

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I chat to the eccentric men who live sodding miles away

Sarky gits they are too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of the women who I like online hardly see my messages or just ignore them.. And if they do reply its usually a one or two word sentence like "lol" or "thank you" and that's as far as the conversation goes

I think I try to punch above my weight.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I might be attracted to stereotypically good looking guys, but my interest disappears if the conversation doesn't keep my attention.

On the flip side someone I might not be 100% sure on at first can swing it with good chat. "

I agree with this. Some guys who would probably be considered stereotypically attractive have messaged, but they end up showing they just want instant sex and can't hold a decent conversation. One guy gave me his number, read my message but hasn't replied to me, yet is on here a lot. It leaves me feeling cold and turned off.

There are people i'm attracted to who might not be considered as attractive but they have a personality and that turns me on a lot.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I might be attracted to stereotypically good looking guys, but my interest disappears if the conversation doesn't keep my attention.

On the flip side someone I might not be 100% sure on at first can swing it with good chat.

Also bear in mind that good looking does not automatically mean stupid or boring, as that's where these threads tend to go! "

Very true.

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By *ily Con CarneTV/TS
over a year ago

Cornwall

I'm attracted to similarly eccentric people as me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I might be attracted to stereotypically good looking guys, but my interest disappears if the conversation doesn't keep my attention.

On the flip side someone I might not be 100% sure on at first can swing it with good chat. "

No chance for me then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That finds themselves most physically attracted to stereotypically good looking guys that make zero effort to chat, and don't seem to have a lot between the ears.

Is it a case of wanting the unattainable? Being really shallow and sad?

As i said personality is important so i won't meet anyone without getting to know them and seeing if we click.

No it’s most certainly not shallow or sad. I need both which is why I don’t meet many people at all, unless I get that click I’m not interested. Stick to what you’re looking for. What you want is the most important thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm an ugly Bastard with a crap personality...

No wonder I can't get a bonk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really have a "type" physically. I tend to find different things attractive in different people and they tend to be a bit quirky, if anything a classically good looking man doesn't have anything to catch my eye.

But personality is the biggest attraction. If I see someone physically attractive but there's no spark I would lose interest and not be bothered by it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personality and the ability to laugh together are important

at and with too without getting the hump

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm an ugly Bastard with a crap personality...

No wonder I can't get a bonk

. There you are! Nah you’re just as much as a fussy arse as me you are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well just so happens im the full package of beauty humour personality and humble with it too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't ever need to justify what you find attractive.. it's just about finding the ones that match with personality too.

I like slightly eccentric, odd men and rarely find anyone really attractive. But it'd be no fun if we all liked the same thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You don't ever need to justify what you find attractive.. it's just about finding the ones that match with personality too.

I like slightly eccentric, odd men and rarely find anyone really attractive. But it'd be no fun if we all liked the same thing. "

Backhander again....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You don't ever need to justify what you find attractive.. it's just about finding the ones that match with personality too.

I like slightly eccentric, odd men and rarely find anyone really attractive. But it'd be no fun if we all liked the same thing. "

Odd for sure!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a great personality and I’d like to think I have a great sense of humour but as I’m not good looking or great physique I don’t get a look in

I try to be engaging in messages but get missed due to the high volume of messages or just very short non-engaging replies.

It does suck the fun and interest out of this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You don't ever need to justify what you find attractive.. it's just about finding the ones that match with personality too.

I like slightly eccentric, odd men and rarely find anyone really attractive. But it'd be no fun if we all liked the same thing.

Odd for sure!!

It's a good job I like you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You don't ever need to justify what you find attractive.. it's just about finding the ones that match with personality too.

I like slightly eccentric, odd men and rarely find anyone really attractive. But it'd be no fun if we all liked the same thing.

Odd for sure!!

It's a good job I like you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You don't ever need to justify what you find attractive.. it's just about finding the ones that match with personality too.

I like slightly eccentric, odd men and rarely find anyone really attractive. But it'd be no fun if we all liked the same thing.

Odd for sure!!

It's a good job I like you!

True though..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You don't ever need to justify what you find attractive.. it's just about finding the ones that match with personality too.

I like slightly eccentric, odd men and rarely find anyone really attractive. But it'd be no fun if we all liked the same thing.

Odd for sure!!

It's a good job I like you!

True though..

I fucking love you too....

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"I chat to the eccentric men who live sodding miles away

Sarky gits they are too."

*waves*

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By *illingVicMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks

Everyone has an aesthetic “type” and that is perfectly fine. It’s finding the right iteration of said type that can be problematic. The appearance preference and the cerebral preference together are the rarity - so often times it comes down to which you favour or require more.

For instance, my aesthetic preference is for full figured women, and personality wise I’m drawn to strong, assertive personalities.

Faced with a weak-willed Reuben-esque beauty or a slim/athletic Amazon... well, it depends on the day - and that’s something that only each of us can decide upon on a case-by-case basis!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find a good personality very attractive and it can sway me towards them.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I don't find myself being attracted to stereotypically good looking guys but I don't think it's shallow if you do.

I can appreciate a pretty boy but if they don't have 'it' then I'm not interested.

Don't ask me what 'it' is!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You don't ever need to justify what you find attractive.. it's just about finding the ones that match with personality too.

I like slightly eccentric, odd men and rarely find anyone really attractive. But it'd be no fun if we all liked the same thing.

Odd for sure!!

It's a good job I like you!

True though..

I fucking love you too....

I'm pining for you clearly..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You don't ever need to justify what you find attractive.. it's just about finding the ones that match with personality too.

I like slightly eccentric, odd men and rarely find anyone really attractive. But it'd be no fun if we all liked the same thing.

Odd for sure!!

It's a good job I like you!

True though..

I fucking love you too....

I'm pining for you clearly.. "

Yeah, I saw your status update

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right, sorry OP, normal thread service has resumed, answer OP's question bitches....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my teens i was simliar in what i found attactive but as i have got older my preferances have changes with me prefering women with naturual curves. I agree that your preferances are key and you shouldnt meet with someone you are not attracted to if you meet someone who has no personality then it could be filled with alot of awkward silences.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I can appreciate those who are generally viewed as very good looking and find a few of them attractive. I also find huge attraction to people who aren't or wouldn't ever be selected as models, just because of my peculiar tastes: they'll have some inkling of being attractive but not conceited or ego inflated about it. But if their personality is wrong, it can turn me off: but this highlights the opportunity for gob stoppers or gags to be put into good use. I wouldn't be able to date someone who was attractive and totally wrong personality-wise for me: it would turn me off and repulse me (unless it was a light relationship, where they were always 100% sub, gagged etc). It's mainly going to be for sex that I'd meet people I'm attrated to but there's not a good personality match. If someone is repulsive, as a person, it's 99.9% not likely to be a sex meet.

It's disconcerting when someone tells you that you're the most attractive person in a busy venue, if you don't generally get this, nor have an inflated ego - but this is possible, when our unique sense of attraction to others is in play and in reverse. Finding those who completely do it for you is great - and likely great for them too, as they'll enjoy how you're responding to them.

Occasionally I find myself in the company of a man who is mesmerising, with a strong magnetic draw and it must be similar for other people. Sometimes it's a je ne sais quoi, they're just riveting and my animalistic senses and needs turn completely on. Maybe they could have almost anybody that they wanted but there's a lot going for 'average' people, who can do a huge amount for others, as they hold the right keys for us.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"I don't find myself being attracted to stereotypically good looking guys but I don't think it's shallow if you do.

I can appreciate a pretty boy but if they don't have 'it' then I'm not interested.

Don't ask me what 'it' is!!!"

You know it when you see it?

Usual signs are feeling flushed, the pupils dilating and handing him the remote control to your love eggs

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I try to judge each case by it's own merits, or maybe I just have low standards. But I guess when you are spoilt for choice you can be more picky.

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By *s 2 for kinky bi funCouple
over a year ago

Have u read the profile?

You should spend more time looking for a woman.... I think you look lovely and be better sex just us girls with the right toys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I don't think you are being shallow looking for what you want and sticking to it. Physical attraction is important to me also, but if I don't click with someone, it goes nowhere for me and I don't care how physically attractive they are too me. I hardly meet due to this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personality and the ability to laugh together are important

Agreed!!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"I don't find myself being attracted to stereotypically good looking guys but I don't think it's shallow if you do.

I can appreciate a pretty boy but if they don't have 'it' then I'm not interested.

Don't ask me what 'it' is!!!

You know it when you see it?

Usual signs are feeling flushed, the pupils dilating and handing him the remote control to your love eggs

Something like that

One of the first guys I met on here for a coffee brushed a bit of hair off my face that was irritating me. That sealed it, in a good way

So it's not just what you look like, it's the way you are, the way you act. Lots of little things making up the full package.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't find myself being attracted to stereotypically good looking guys but I don't think it's shallow if you do.

I can appreciate a pretty boy but if they don't have 'it' then I'm not interested.

Don't ask me what 'it' is!!!

You know it when you see it?

Usual signs are feeling flushed, the pupils dilating and handing him the remote control to your love eggs

Something like that

One of the first guys I met on here for a coffee brushed a bit of hair off my face that was irritating me. That sealed it, in a good way

So it's not just what you look like, it's the way you are, the way you act. Lots of little things making up the full package."

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"I don't find myself being attracted to stereotypically good looking guys but I don't think it's shallow if you do.

I can appreciate a pretty boy but if they don't have 'it' then I'm not interested.

Don't ask me what 'it' is!!!

You know it when you see it?

Usual signs are feeling flushed, the pupils dilating and handing him the remote control to your love eggs

Something like that

One of the first guys I met on here for a coffee brushed a bit of hair off my face that was irritating me. That sealed it, in a good way

So it's not just what you look like, it's the way you are, the way you act. Lots of little things making up the full package."

*Gets lint removal roller ready*

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

You're not being shallow or sad Op for wanting to find someone physically attractive as well as their personality. I can't say I've ever experienced such a dichotomy though - generally the people I fuck tend to be desirable in both ways and I've never struggled to find them when I want to. Keep true to what you want and hopefully you'll find it soon.

Also, as an aside of sorts, just because someone's usual meet type is different from you, it doesn't mean that you don't do it for them. A good friend of mine met women who were very different from me but he likes me for me. Don't discount yourself out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That finds themselves most physically attracted to stereotypically good looking guys that make zero effort to chat, and don't seem to have a lot between the ears.

Is it a case of wanting the unattainable? Being really shallow and sad?

As i said personality is important so i won't meet anyone without getting to know them and seeing if we click.

I have zero interest in guys that have low intelligence. They could be the most gorgeous looking guy ever but I would find them unattractive once they opened their mouth.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"That finds themselves most physically attracted to stereotypically good looking guys that make zero effort to chat, and don't seem to have a lot between the ears.

Is it a case of wanting the unattainable? Being really shallow and sad?

As i said personality is important so i won't meet anyone without getting to know them and seeing if we click.

I genuinely dont understand this post are you suggesting all attractive men have nothing between their ears ?

I'm sure you once said you found me attractive

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"I chat to the eccentric men who live sodding miles away

Sarky gits they are too.

*waves*

Yep, here’s one

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Find lack of fun and imagination kind of replicates in physical contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You like what you like. There’s nothing shallow about that.

I tend to mostly desire what I can’t have or highly unlikely to maintain sufficient interest for anything to happen. I’m an acquired taste that very few acquire and those that do tend to go off the taste pretty soon. But hey ho that’s life on Fab.

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

"I chat to the eccentric men who live sodding miles away

Sarky gits they are too."

This is my issue too, all the people I find fun to engage with on here seem to be a bloody long way away.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I don't get all this, I will only meet gym fit, well endowed bronzed Adonis/slim, fake tanned, big boobed model types. If that is what you seek, then good luck to you, but surely you are narrowing down your target audience.

As someone who is probably past their prime, I'm happy to be in the company of anyone who at least doesn't have a face like a bulldog chewing a wasp, and has a half decent sense of humour

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