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"I’m actually in awe of couples that fully trust and swing together But it has crossed my mind, what if one fell for a sex partner, how can you stop that from happening ?" You can't.... | |||
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"I’m actually in awe of couples that fully trust and swing together But it has crossed my mind, what if one fell for a sex partner, how can you stop that from happening ?" I don’t think you could stop in from happening but in the same breath you have to have complete trust in your partner and I trust Doughnut implicitly. | |||
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"I’m actually in awe of couples that fully trust and swing together But it has crossed my mind, what if one fell for a sex partner, how can you stop that from happening ? You can't.... " what he said, you can't. The thing is though if you've been together for a long time, have a strong relationship and stuff...you still can't | |||
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"Possibly try not to make it a regular meet. I'm not sure. I think the more successful swinging couples are able to compartmentalise. They swing for fun but their intimacy and love is for each other. It would more likely happen in those swinging couples where there are cracks and someone could get their heads and hearts turned... i would have thought so anyway. Not being part of a swinging couple, I'm only guessing here "Well said! | |||
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"Had it happen to me but I walked away and left the couple to it and never saw the man again " Sorry to hear that | |||
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"You can't stop that from happening - it happens outside of swinging every day. Couples doing this need to be secure in themselves and their relationship. I have met many that are and know they communicate with each other all the time, stick to the agreements they have made and trust each other. " I agree with everything you said. Doughnut and I talk about everything, nothing goes unsaid. We’ve got our rules and limits and both are respectful of them x | |||
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"Possibly try not to make it a regular meet. I'm not sure. I think the more successful swinging couples are able to compartmentalise. They swing for fun but their intimacy and love is for each other. It would more likely happen in those swinging couples where there are cracks and someone could get their heads and hearts turned... i would have thought so anyway. Not being part of a swinging couple, I'm only guessing here "I don’t know the dynamics but I was thinking the couples might not do regular meets | |||
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"Possibly try not to make it a regular meet. I'm not sure. I think the more successful swinging couples are able to compartmentalise. They swing for fun but their intimacy and love is for each other. It would more likely happen in those swinging couples where there are cracks and someone could get their heads and hearts turned... i would have thought so anyway. Not being part of a swinging couple, I'm only guessing here
I don’t know the dynamics but I was thinking the couples might not do regular meets "I know of some who meet regular. I even used to meet the male half of a couple regularly. We were meeting for around 6 months. They had a solid marriage though and i was good friends with the wife. I was never a threat to them or what they had. We all understood the rules and respected them. Everything was open | |||
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"Possibly try not to make it a regular meet. I'm not sure. I think the more successful swinging couples are able to compartmentalise. They swing for fun but their intimacy and love is for each other. It would more likely happen in those swinging couples where there are cracks and someone could get their heads and hearts turned... i would have thought so anyway. Not being part of a swinging couple, I'm only guessing here
I don’t know the dynamics but I was thinking the couples might not do regular meets "nobody can ever say never however successful swinging couples have a certain attitude I think. Their dynamic might vary but they're usually able to separate sex and love | |||
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"Possibly try not to make it a regular meet. I'm not sure. I think the more successful swinging couples are able to compartmentalise. They swing for fun but their intimacy and love is for each other. It would more likely happen in those swinging couples where there are cracks and someone could get their heads and hearts turned... i would have thought so anyway. Not being part of a swinging couple, I'm only guessing here
I don’t know the dynamics but I was thinking the couples might not do regular meets
nobody can ever say never however successful swinging couples have a certain attitude I think. Their dynamic might vary but they're usually able to separate sex and love"I’ve never been able too | |||
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"Possibly try not to make it a regular meet. I'm not sure. I think the more successful swinging couples are able to compartmentalise. They swing for fun but their intimacy and love is for each other. It would more likely happen in those swinging couples where there are cracks and someone could get their heads and hearts turned... i would have thought so anyway. Not being part of a swinging couple, I'm only guessing here
I don’t know the dynamics but I was thinking the couples might not do regular meets
nobody can ever say never however successful swinging couples have a certain attitude I think. Their dynamic might vary but they're usually able to separate sex and love
I’ve never been able too"quite a few people can't you're not alone. | |||
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"I don't think you can stop that happening if both parties are allowing themselves to get caught up in it.. I couldn't do it, which is why I don't. I know couples who seem to manage the balance so well but they don't allow themselves to become complacent in the fact that it happens to lots of people, so could be a risk in the future. It's very much a chance you take but lots that can be done to limit the possibility." well we've been together an awfully long time, about 38 years. I think it would be difficult to fall in proper love with someone else just by having sex with them. | |||
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"I don't think you can stop that happening if both parties are allowing themselves to get caught up in it.. I couldn't do it, which is why I don't. I know couples who seem to manage the balance so well but they don't allow themselves to become complacent in the fact that it happens to lots of people, so could be a risk in the future. It's very much a chance you take but lots that can be done to limit the possibility. well we've been together an awfully long time, about 38 years. I think it would be difficult to fall in proper love with someone else just by having sex with them." That's a long time! I think many confuse lust for love too.. had friends that got a bit too caught up in the excitement and forgot about them.. the foundations of the couple need to be really strong.. seen a few that don't really appear to like each other too much! | |||
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"I don't think you can stop that happening if both parties are allowing themselves to get caught up in it.. I couldn't do it, which is why I don't. I know couples who seem to manage the balance so well but they don't allow themselves to become complacent in the fact that it happens to lots of people, so could be a risk in the future. It's very much a chance you take but lots that can be done to limit the possibility. well we've been together an awfully long time, about 38 years. I think it would be difficult to fall in proper love with someone else just by having sex with them. That's a long time! I think many confuse lust for love too.. had friends that got a bit too caught up in the excitement and forgot about them.. the foundations of the couple need to be really strong.. seen a few that don't really appear to like each other too much! "I think that a really strong relationship almost exists of its own accord outside of the two (or however many) people in it. They work to maintain it and protect it and while stuff might go on that's potentially damaging to it they know that it'll survive it. I haven't explained that very well but I know what I mean  | |||
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"I don't think you can stop that happening if both parties are allowing themselves to get caught up in it.. I couldn't do it, which is why I don't. I know couples who seem to manage the balance so well but they don't allow themselves to become complacent in the fact that it happens to lots of people, so could be a risk in the future. It's very much a chance you take but lots that can be done to limit the possibility. well we've been together an awfully long time, about 38 years. I think it would be difficult to fall in proper love with someone else just by having sex with them. That's a long time! I think many confuse lust for love too.. had friends that got a bit too caught up in the excitement and forgot about them.. the foundations of the couple need to be really strong.. seen a few that don't really appear to like each other too much!
I think that a really strong relationship almost exists of its own accord outside of the two (or however many) people in it. They work to maintain it and protect it and while stuff might go on that's potentially damaging to it they know that it'll survive it. I haven't explained that very well but I know what I mean "Ha ha I think I get it.. it's too late for my brain to process too much tonight! | |||
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"I don't think you can stop that happening if both parties are allowing themselves to get caught up in it.. I couldn't do it, which is why I don't. I know couples who seem to manage the balance so well but they don't allow themselves to become complacent in the fact that it happens to lots of people, so could be a risk in the future. It's very much a chance you take but lots that can be done to limit the possibility. well we've been together an awfully long time, about 38 years. I think it would be difficult to fall in proper love with someone else just by having sex with them. That's a long time! I think many confuse lust for love too.. had friends that got a bit too caught up in the excitement and forgot about them.. the foundations of the couple need to be really strong.. seen a few that don't really appear to like each other too much! "I agree you defiantly don’t fall in love just by having sex, but if you really fancy the person and can’t stop thinking about them it does put a solid relationship in a dangerous place | |||
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"Is it possible to fall for both people in the couple? Doubly dangerous?" I’ve know of it, before fab neighbours did just that and swooped places, both went on to have a good second marriage too | |||
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"I’m actually in awe of couples that fully trust and swing together But it has crossed my mind, what if one fell for a sex partner, how can you stop that from happening ?" I just be the most amazing partner I can be my to my fella. If the day were to come when that's not enough for him, then I don't think our swinging would have any bearing on that. | |||
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"We don’t look to get emotionally involved with the other couples we swap with. And try to keep a distance from them with our normal lives. I think if ever either of us started to develop feelings for anyone then it would be time to look at our relationship and stop x " I actually think that it’s a chance any relationship might face given the circumstances, because if never been a swinging couple I’ve not really any idea but I’m so amazed to see couple having that amount of trust and it’s lovely to see people having long term swinging experiences together, imagine being in your 80s feeling the years and having a laugh reminiscing about what you did together | |||
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"Possibly try not to make it a regular meet. I'm not sure. I think the more successful swinging couples are able to compartmentalise. They swing for fun but their intimacy and love is for each other. It would more likely happen in those swinging couples where there are cracks and someone could get their heads and hearts turned... i would have thought so anyway. Not being part of a swinging couple, I'm only guessing here "Great analysis of it, I have sex with someone regular probably once a week but it is literally just sex | |||
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"I don't think you can stop that happening if both parties are allowing themselves to get caught up in it.. I couldn't do it, which is why I don't. I know couples who seem to manage the balance so well but they don't allow themselves to become complacent in the fact that it happens to lots of people, so could be a risk in the future. It's very much a chance you take but lots that can be done to limit the possibility. well we've been together an awfully long time, about 38 years. I think it would be difficult to fall in proper love with someone else just by having sex with them. That's a long time! I think many confuse lust for love too.. had friends that got a bit too caught up in the excitement and forgot about them.. the foundations of the couple need to be really strong.. seen a few that don't really appear to like each other too much!
I agree you defiantly don’t fall in love just by having sex, but if you really fancy the person and can’t stop thinking about them it does put a solid relationship in a dangerous place "Possibly because your focus is moved away from your partner temporarily. It depends on the individual relationship I guess. Speaking only for myself I can't imagine seriously considering starting a relationship with another person. It's taken us 38 years to get where we are how can you build a bond like that with someone in hours or even months? Superficial lust and physical attraction is no substitute. | |||
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