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"So you get chatting to someone and find yours on the same page. Lots to like but veris and summary both hidden. You ask to view as you're interested in knowing more about her. 1. If she just ignores the question what would you do? 2. If she no longer replies after couple days what would you do?" Nothing Nothing I don’t care about people’s verifications anyway. If someone asked me to show them, I probably wouldn’t reply either  | |||
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"So you get chatting to someone and find yours on the same page. Lots to like but veris and summary both hidden. You ask to view as you're interested in knowing more about her. 1. If she just ignores the question what would you do? 2. If she no longer replies after couple days what would you do? Nothing Nothing I don’t care about people’s verifications anyway. If someone asked me to show them, I probably wouldn’t reply either "I take it they've something to hide and wouldn't meet either. | |||
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"Assume they are not interested  "Would you not let them know, or just leave them hanging? | |||
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"So you get chatting to someone and find yours on the same page. Lots to like but veris and summary both hidden. You ask to view as you're interested in knowing more about her. 1. If she just ignores the question what would you do? 2. If she no longer replies after couple days what would you do? Nothing Nothing I don’t care about people’s verifications anyway. If someone asked me to show them, I probably wouldn’t reply either
I take it they've something to hide and wouldn't meet either."I have nothing to hide, just find it an odd question and would find it a bit intrusive. Maybe if I had been meeting them for a while, but to begin with, no. It’s absolutely none of their business. In what other situation would you get a layout/feedback form to read of people someone has slept with? | |||
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"I wouldn't ask to see veris or a summary in order to get to know someone. Playing along with the hypothetical, after a couple of days of no response I'd stop interacting. " Least that's sorted then lol | |||
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"So you get chatting to someone and find yours on the same page. Lots to like but veris and summary both hidden. You ask to view as you're interested in knowing more about her. 1. If she just ignores the question what would you do? 2. If she no longer replies after couple days what would you do? Nothing Nothing I don’t care about people’s verifications anyway. If someone asked me to show them, I probably wouldn’t reply either
I take it they've something to hide and wouldn't meet either.
I have nothing to hide, just find it an odd question and would find it a bit intrusive. Maybe if I had been meeting them for a while, but to begin with, no. It’s absolutely none of their business.
In what other situation would you get a layout/feedback form to read of people someone has slept with?"I use it as a filter. Much like any filter, if you don't like who there met then id simply move on. Much the same as one decides to meet someone based upon different things they bring. You chose to not meet because you don't like something they're in to or maybe certain people they meet regular with. | |||
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"I guess it depends how much faith you place in the content of verifications - personally if I liked the content of the profile, and through chatting had discovered we were on the same page and the conversation was flowing well, the fact they had their veris hidden wouldn't bother me one bit. There are also ways and ways of asking - a direct "can I see your veris?" might come across as trying to vet them and give the impression the connection formed wasn't enough. Asking in a more roundabout way, without actually asking to see them, might receive a much different response." Some are straight to the point others are round about and can cause misunderstanding too. I'd say we all vet everyone here in simply looking at their profile and photos then making a yes, possible or no response. | |||
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"I guess it depends how much faith you place in the content of verifications - personally if I liked the content of the profile, and through chatting had discovered we were on the same page and the conversation was flowing well, the fact they had their veris hidden wouldn't bother me one bit. There are also ways and ways of asking - a direct "can I see your veris?" might come across as trying to vet them and give the impression the connection formed wasn't enough. Asking in a more roundabout way, without actually asking to see them, might receive a much different response. Some are straight to the point others are round about and can cause misunderstanding too. I'd say we all vet everyone here in simply looking at their profile and photos then making a yes, possible or no response." Yes we do, and it's a given that we do in the ways you suggest, but there's a difference between "vetting" someone in those ways and directly asking to see something they haven't shown. It doesn't necessarily mean they're hiding something either - could be any number of reasons they have veris hidden - like I said personally if someone chooses to hide theirs, but I like their profile and pics and have a good rapport with them - not being able to see their veris wouldn't bother me. | |||
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"OP, do you show your veries and summary when asked? " I was about you ask the same question | |||
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"So you get chatting to someone and find yours on the same page. Lots to like but veris and summary both hidden. You ask to view as you're interested in knowing more about her. 1. If she just ignores the question what would you do? 2. If she no longer replies after couple days what would you do?" Be a grown up In my experience 99% of men can't tell the difference between polite replies to avoid abusive messages and genuine interest. Ms Icebreaker | |||
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"OP, do you show your veries and summary when asked? " Always. And my 3 most recent checks from gum clinic too. Nothing to hide. | |||
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"Who i meet is my business, my verifications are my business. If some fella came along asking to see me them i’d tell him they were none of his business and probably go off and chat to someone else. If a fella wants to find out more about me and my sexual ability, he can chat to me and find out for himself. I show my verifications when i want to, not when a man asks me to. " I did ask and hoped we could chat, she's taken the huff and guess gone. NI is quite a different scene to much of the UK as here is a very small community and everyone know everyone. There are other ways of finding out about her, but asking direct is in my mind always the best way. The other way is to ask around and find out. Here we know that's what happens all the time for good or bad. Anyway anyone who wants to hide something from me isn't someone I'd like to meet, you never know what other things they're hiding. As most women say if he's lying about his age what else is he lying about. | |||
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"Why look at verifications no point there won't be anything negative in them anyway" True! | |||
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"Hmmmmmm, I do what you've done, make a thread about it ...make said person feel urhhhh.....well played .. " Never the intention, and shes never been on forums and few over here go outside the Irish ones if they do look. If I felt at all that she had then I'd not have asked. And why would she feel bad, everyone has vindicated her actions as apparently right, no one has condemned or questioned right or wrong just advice asked, so no issues imo. If anything most would seem I've acted inappropriately by asking. | |||
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"Why look at verifications no point there won't be anything negative in them anyway True!" Total rubbish, just one example "treat her with respect" is not a flattering comment to have in a veri....but that not the issue being asked about viewing her veris. | |||
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"So you get chatting to someone and find yours on the same page. Lots to like but veris and summary both hidden. You ask to view as you're interested in knowing more about her. 1. If she just ignores the question what would you do? 2. If she no longer replies after couple days what would you do?" All the time. It could be you’ve served their purpose for getting off or as other posters have said they lost interest. I hate it when you put in the effort to chat and you get one word replies and nothing more. So I get bored and stop chatting to them. | |||
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"I know it so well- assume no longer interested" Oh I never ask for verifications though - I’m not interested in them | |||
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"Who i meet is my business, my verifications are my business. If some fella came along asking to see me them i’d tell him they were none of his business and probably go off and chat to someone else. If a fella wants to find out more about me and my sexual ability, he can chat to me and find out for himself. I show my verifications when i want to, not when a man asks me to. I did ask and hoped we could chat, she's taken the huff and guess gone. NI is quite a different scene to much of the UK as here is a very small community and everyone know everyone. There are other ways of finding out about her, but asking direct is in my mind always the best way. The other way is to ask around and find out. Here we know that's what happens all the time for good or bad. Anyway anyone who wants to hide something from me isn't someone I'd like to meet, you never know what other things they're hiding. As most women say if he's lying about his age what else is he lying about." I think it’s a privacy thing more than a hiding thing to be honest. My verifications are lovely but i still don’t always display them, as i like to be chatted to for myself, not because DirtyTrev has said i’m a belter at sucking cock and some guy fancies his chances. However, i take your point about the swinging scene being small over there and appreciate that can change things. | |||
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"Hmmmmmm, I do what you've done, make a thread about it ...make said person feel urhhhh.....well played .. Never the intention, and shes never been on forums and few over here go outside the Irish ones if they do look. If I felt at all that she had then I'd not have asked. And why would she feel bad, everyone has vindicated her actions as apparently right, no one has condemned or questioned right or wrong just advice asked, so no issues imo. If anything most would seem I've acted inappropriately by asking." And how would you know she,s never or doesn't view the forum's......to many fabbers seem to be using threads to vent about other fabbers that have *done them wrong*......suck it up move on....plenty more fish and all that .... | |||
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"Who i meet is my business, my verifications are my business. If some fella came along asking to see me them i’d tell him they were none of his business and probably go off and chat to someone else. If a fella wants to find out more about me and my sexual ability, he can chat to me and find out for himself. I show my verifications when i want to, not when a man asks me to. I did ask and hoped we could chat, she's taken the huff and guess gone. NI is quite a different scene to much of the UK as here is a very small community and everyone know everyone. There are other ways of finding out about her, but asking direct is in my mind always the best way. The other way is to ask around and find out. Here we know that's what happens all the time for good or bad. Anyway anyone who wants to hide something from me isn't someone I'd like to meet, you never know what other things they're hiding. As most women say if he's lying about his age what else is he lying about. I think it’s a privacy thing more than a hiding thing to be honest. My verifications are lovely but i still don’t always display them, as i like to be chatted to for myself, not because DirtyTrev has said i’m a belter at sucking cock and some guy fancies his chances. However, i take your point about the swinging scene being small over there and appreciate that can change things." Very small world over here, go 70 miles and you'll meet a fabber who knows a family member or both have a mutual friend. It's like living in a small town over here. | |||
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"Hmmmmmm, I do what you've done, make a thread about it ...make said person feel urhhhh.....well played .. Never the intention, and shes never been on forums and few over here go outside the Irish ones if they do look. If I felt at all that she had then I'd not have asked. And why would she feel bad, everyone has vindicated her actions as apparently right, no one has condemned or questioned right or wrong just advice asked, so no issues imo. If anything most would seem I've acted inappropriately by asking. And how would you know she,s never or doesn't view the forum's......to many fabbers seem to be using threads to vent about other fabbers that have *done them wrong*......suck it up move on....plenty more fish and all that ...." Nothing is certain. If I've been accusative or demeaning or put her her down in anything I've said I'd like you or anyone to point this out please. | |||
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"OP, do you show your veries and summary when asked? Always. And my 3 most recent checks from gum clinic too. Nothing to hide." So, out of interest and absolutely no judgement, if you're happy to show yours and the summary if asked, why do you keep them hidden normally? To take your earlier point do you have something to hide? After all you could choose to reveal only the veris you want to reveal when asked. | |||
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"OP, do you show your veries and summary when asked? Always. And my 3 most recent checks from gum clinic too. Nothing to hide. So, out of interest and absolutely no judgement, if you're happy to show yours and the summary if asked, why do you keep them hidden normally? To take your earlier point do you have something to hide? After all you could choose to reveal only the veris you want to reveal when asked." I've one on display, I'll rotate periodically. I've my summary on display. I've only a couple repeat veris as often no need to have 10 or more off same person from each meet. Anyone can ask and I'd have no issue with showing anyone mine. | |||
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"OP, do you show your veries and summary when asked? Always. And my 3 most recent checks from gum clinic too. Nothing to hide. So, out of interest and absolutely no judgement, if you're happy to show yours and the summary if asked, why do you keep them hidden normally? To take your earlier point do you have something to hide? After all you could choose to reveal only the veris you want to reveal when asked." And why won’t you show them all?  | |||
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"Hmmmmmm, I do what you've done, make a thread about it ...make said person feel urhhhh.....well played .. Never the intention, and shes never been on forums and few over here go outside the Irish ones if they do look. If I felt at all that she had then I'd not have asked. And why would she feel bad, everyone has vindicated her actions as apparently right, no one has condemned or questioned right or wrong just advice asked, so no issues imo. If anything most would seem I've acted inappropriately by asking. And how would you know she,s never or doesn't view the forum's......to many fabbers seem to be using threads to vent about other fabbers that have *done them wrong*......suck it up move on....plenty more fish and all that .... Nothing is certain. If I've been accusative or demeaning or put her her down in anything I've said I'd like you or anyone to point this out please." Not the point is it, obviously said person can read and would recognise your tooshy.....and anyone with half a brain cell would know the thread was about them as you've given alot of information.......my point is threads pointing out ppls flaws or faux Pas are bang out.....my opinion... | |||
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"OP, do you show your veries and summary when asked? Always. And my 3 most recent checks from gum clinic too. Nothing to hide. So, out of interest and absolutely no judgement, if you're happy to show yours and the summary if asked, why do you keep them hidden normally? To take your earlier point do you have something to hide? After all you could choose to reveal only the veris you want to reveal when asked. I've one on display, I'll rotate periodically. I've my summary on display. I've only a couple repeat veris as often no need to have 10 or more off same person from each meet. Anyone can ask and I'd have no issue with showing anyone mine. " Actually you don't have one on display nor your summary, which was the reason for my question - again not being accusatory or judgemental, just curious, especially as it potentially indicates double standards if you're questioning why someone else doesn't display theirs. And if you never display them all, again, in the same way as you suggested someone might have something to hide - could that same thing not be suggested of you? | |||
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"OP, do you show your veries and summary when asked? Always. And my 3 most recent checks from gum clinic too. Nothing to hide. So, out of interest and absolutely no judgement, if you're happy to show yours and the summary if asked, why do you keep them hidden normally? To take your earlier point do you have something to hide? After all you could choose to reveal only the veris you want to reveal when asked. And why won’t you show them all? "no one asked but here you go. Bet you don't follow  | |||
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"OP, do you show your veries and summary when asked? Always. And my 3 most recent checks from gum clinic too. Nothing to hide. So, out of interest and absolutely no judgement, if you're happy to show yours and the summary if asked, why do you keep them hidden normally? To take your earlier point do you have something to hide? After all you could choose to reveal only the veris you want to reveal when asked. I've one on display, I'll rotate periodically. I've my summary on display. I've only a couple repeat veris as often no need to have 10 or more off same person from each meet. Anyone can ask and I'd have no issue with showing anyone mine. Actually you don't have one on display nor your summary, which was the reason for my question - again not being accusatory or judgemental, just curious, especially as it potentially indicates double standards if you're questioning why someone else doesn't display theirs. And if you never display them all, again, in the same way as you suggested someone might have something to hide - could that same thing not be suggested of you?" They could if they asked and I ignored or refused. I'd hidden mine 2 days ago but you can all view them now  | |||
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"Hmmmmmm, I do what you've done, make a thread about it ...make said person feel urhhhh.....well played .. Never the intention, and shes never been on forums and few over here go outside the Irish ones if they do look. If I felt at all that she had then I'd not have asked. And why would she feel bad, everyone has vindicated her actions as apparently right, no one has condemned or questioned right or wrong just advice asked, so no issues imo. If anything most would seem I've acted inappropriately by asking. And how would you know she,s never or doesn't view the forum's......to many fabbers seem to be using threads to vent about other fabbers that have *done them wrong*......suck it up move on....plenty more fish and all that ...." He's not venting or ranting, he's just asked a question. If someone thinks the thread is about them surely that's quite vain.  | |||
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"It is possible to make a malicious or vindictive verification, e.g. if a particular woman won't meet a particular man and that man gives a negative verification out of spite. I can't see any justification for hiding any genuine verifications. I would be suspicious of anyone who doesn't show all their veris." When people start messaging anyone who's verified you as a way around blocks and filters, then you might consider hiding them. | |||
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"It is possible to make a malicious or vindictive verification, e.g. if a particular woman won't meet a particular man and that man gives a negative verification out of spite. I can't see any justification for hiding any genuine verifications. I would be suspicious of anyone who doesn't show all their veris. When people start messaging anyone who's verified you as a way around blocks and filters, then you might consider hiding them. " That's a good point. | |||
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"A veri doesn't tell you about the person. How many start "this gorgeous, sexy, cute etc etc" treat with respect or can't wait for round 2 can you read . They're subjective at best and unless someone wows you the veri will be pretty much standard across the board. If you want to get to know someone get to know the person not the online persona "  | |||
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"It is possible to make a malicious or vindictive verification, e.g. if a particular woman won't meet a particular man and that man gives a negative verification out of spite. I can't see any justification for hiding any genuine verifications. I would be suspicious of anyone who doesn't show all their veris." I hide some of my verifications because men read them and make assumptions. | |||
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"I wouldn't have asked to see the veris in the first place, as they don't give much away about the person. In your situation I would assume you went one step too far for her, and leave her alone. " I’m the same, I wouldn’t dream of asking to see something so personal. I’m not that nosey and would prefer to make my own mind up of someone. | |||
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"A veri doesn't tell you about the person. How many start "this gorgeous, sexy, cute etc etc" treat with respect or can't wait for round 2 can you read . They're subjective at best and unless someone wows you the veri will be pretty much standard across the board. If you want to get to know someone get to know the person not the online persona "Sometimes with veri's it's not about the words but more the person writing them, and it's like a trail of breadcrumbs innit.... | |||
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"It is possible to make a malicious or vindictive verification, e.g. if a particular woman won't meet a particular man and that man gives a negative verification out of spite. I can't see any justification for hiding any genuine verifications. I would be suspicious of anyone who doesn't show all their veris." Remember that the summary and and veris shown may not always match. Some leave the site, but the number stays on the summary. Some people are private and don't want to announce who they've met or the contents of that meet, if they played. There Could also be jealousy or bitchy issues in regards ro another member seeing it, etc. I wouldn't be supicious. I've even had fake veris used as a tool to try and get me to chat. You can report and block, but it really is a headache to fight to get it removed from your summary. | |||
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"A veri doesn't tell you about the person. How many start "this gorgeous, sexy, cute etc etc" treat with respect or can't wait for round 2 can you read . They're subjective at best and unless someone wows you the veri will be pretty much standard across the board. If you want to get to know someone get to know the person not the online persona
Sometimes with veri's it's not about the words but more the person writing them, and it's like a trail of breadcrumbs innit....
", or what's not said, or if there's a consistent pattern, a million veris, the type of veris all socials, mainly club meets, gangbangs the list goes on. For some there's little to see, for others it's in the details.
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"A veri doesn't tell you about the person. How many start "this gorgeous, sexy, cute etc etc" treat with respect or can't wait for round 2 can you read . They're subjective at best and unless someone wows you the veri will be pretty much standard across the board. If you want to get to know someone get to know the person not the online persona
Sometimes with veri's it's not about the words but more the person writing them, and it's like a trail of breadcrumbs innit....
, or what's not said, or if there's a consistent pattern, a million veris, the type of veris all socials, mainly club meets, gangbangs the list goes on. For some there's little to see, for others it's in the details.
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"A veri doesn't tell you about the person. How many start "this gorgeous, sexy, cute etc etc" treat with respect or can't wait for round 2 can you read . They're subjective at best and unless someone wows you the veri will be pretty much standard across the board. If you want to get to know someone get to know the person not the online persona
Sometimes with veri's it's not about the words but more the person writing them, and it's like a trail of breadcrumbs innit....
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"Anyway all sorted, given time but moved on. I'd considered breaking one of my rules of meeting someone who can't accommodate as she said it could easily be sorted without explanation. Reel my self in back to my rules again." Some rules are meant to be broken. | |||
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" A veri doesn't tell you about the person. How many start "this gorgeous, sexy, cute etc etc" treat with respect or can't wait for round 2 can you read . They're subjective at best and unless someone wows you the veri will be pretty much standard across the board. If you want to get to know someone get to know the person not the online persona
Sometimes with veri's it's not about the words but more the person writing them, and it's like a trail of breadcrumbs innit....
, or what's not said, or if there's a consistent pattern, a million veris, the type of veris all socials, mainly club meets, gangbangs the list goes on. For some there's little to see, for others it's in the details.
Are you trying to find out if she's into gang bangs or has had a lot of sexual partners?"I just gave a load of examaples why some might want to see veris and there are more. You've picked out two for a particular reason which I think I know why reading many of your past posts. And no I wouldnt meet someone who been around the clock a few times.... That doesn't give me the confidence that they're looking a regular for frequent meets which is clearly in my profile. | |||
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"A veri doesn't tell you about the person. How many start "this gorgeous, sexy, cute etc etc" treat with respect or can't wait for round 2 can you read . They're subjective at best and unless someone wows you the veri will be pretty much standard across the board. If you want to get to know someone get to know the person not the online persona
Sometimes with veri's it's not about the words but more the person writing them, and it's like a trail of breadcrumbs innit....
Like 6 degrees of separation?"Not here in NI.... It's like bed fellows  | |||
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"Anyway all sorted, given time but moved on. I'd considered breaking one of my rules of meeting someone who can't accommodate as she said it could easily be sorted without explanation. Reel my self in back to my rules again. Some rules are meant to be broken. " If they're meant to be broken then they shouldn't even have been considered . | |||
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"Anyway all sorted, given time but moved on. I'd considered breaking one of my rules of meeting someone who can't accommodate as she said it could easily be sorted without explanation. Reel my self in back to my rules again. Some rules are meant to be broken. If they're meant to be broken then they shouldn't even have been considered ."I break rules all the time. Then again, they are never really set in stone. | |||
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" A veri doesn't tell you about the person. How many start "this gorgeous, sexy, cute etc etc" treat with respect or can't wait for round 2 can you read . They're subjective at best and unless someone wows you the veri will be pretty much standard across the board. If you want to get to know someone get to know the person not the online persona
Sometimes with veri's it's not about the words but more the person writing them, and it's like a trail of breadcrumbs innit....
, or what's not said, or if there's a consistent pattern, a million veris, the type of veris all socials, mainly club meets, gangbangs the list goes on. For some there's little to see, for others it's in the details.
Are you trying to find out if she's into gang bangs or has had a lot of sexual partners?
I just gave a load of examaples why some might want to see veris and there are more. You've picked out two for a particular reason which I think I know why reading many of your past posts.
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" A veri doesn't tell you about the person. How many start "this gorgeous, sexy, cute etc etc" treat with respect or can't wait for round 2 can you read . They're subjective at best and unless someone wows you the veri will be pretty much standard across the board. If you want to get to know someone get to know the person not the online persona
Sometimes with veri's it's not about the words but more the person writing them, and it's like a trail of breadcrumbs innit....
, or what's not said, or if there's a consistent pattern, a million veris, the type of veris all socials, mainly club meets, gangbangs the list goes on. For some there's little to see, for others it's in the details.
Are you trying to find out if she's into gang bangs or has had a lot of sexual partners?
I just gave a load of examaples why some might want to see veris and there are more. You've picked out two for a particular reason which I think I know why reading many of your past posts.
And no I wouldnt meet someone who been around the clock a few times.... That doesn't give me the confidence that they're looking a regular for frequent meets which is clearly in my profile.
Some people’s pictures tell a very different story. "Would you clarify that? | |||
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" A veri doesn't tell you about the person. How many start "this gorgeous, sexy, cute etc etc" treat with respect or can't wait for round 2 can you read . They're subjective at best and unless someone wows you the veri will be pretty much standard across the board. If you want to get to know someone get to know the person not the online persona
Sometimes with veri's it's not about the words but more the person writing them, and it's like a trail of breadcrumbs innit....
, or what's not said, or if there's a consistent pattern, a million veris, the type of veris all socials, mainly club meets, gangbangs the list goes on. For some there's little to see, for others it's in the details.
Are you trying to find out if she's into gang bangs or has had a lot of sexual partners?
I just gave a load of examaples why some might want to see veris and there are more. You've picked out two for a particular reason which I think I know why reading many of your past posts.
And no I wouldnt meet someone who been around the clock a few times.... That doesn't give me the confidence that they're looking a regular for frequent meets which is clearly in my profile.
Some people’s pictures tell a very different story.
Would you clarify that?"Some people have lots of Veris and some have lots of action shots with lots of different people. That would put me off for sure. | |||
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"So you get chatting to someone and find yours on the same page. Lots to like but veris and summary both hidden. You ask to view as you're interested in knowing more about her. 1. If she just ignores the question what would you do? 2. If she no longer replies after couple days what would you do?" If they ignored the question then id stop messaging them, if they have veris then id want to see them, if they wont show them then im not interested in meeting them. If they dont reply after a few days then i block and move on. | |||
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" A veri doesn't tell you about the person. How many start "this gorgeous, sexy, cute etc etc" treat with respect or can't wait for round 2 can you read . They're subjective at best and unless someone wows you the veri will be pretty much standard across the board. If you want to get to know someone get to know the person not the online persona
Sometimes with veri's it's not about the words but more the person writing them, and it's like a trail of breadcrumbs innit....
, or what's not said, or if there's a consistent pattern, a million veris, the type of veris all socials, mainly club meets, gangbangs the list goes on. For some there's little to see, for others it's in the details.
Are you trying to find out if she's into gang bangs or has had a lot of sexual partners?
I just gave a load of examaples why some might want to see veris and there are more. You've picked out two for a particular reason which I think I know why reading many of your past posts.
And no I wouldnt meet someone who been around the clock a few times.... That doesn't give me the confidence that they're looking a regular for frequent meets which is clearly in my profile.
Some people’s pictures tell a very different story.
Would you clarify that?
Some people have lots of Veris and some have lots of action shots with lots of different people. That would put me off for sure. "Yeah, how does it tell a different story though? So lots of veris or lots of action shots or both put you off? | |||
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" A veri doesn't tell you about the person. How many start "this gorgeous, sexy, cute etc etc" treat with respect or can't wait for round 2 can you read . They're subjective at best and unless someone wows you the veri will be pretty much standard across the board. If you want to get to know someone get to know the person not the online persona
Sometimes with veri's it's not about the words but more the person writing them, and it's like a trail of breadcrumbs innit....
, or what's not said, or if there's a consistent pattern, a million veris, the type of veris all socials, mainly club meets, gangbangs the list goes on. For some there's little to see, for others it's in the details.
Are you trying to find out if she's into gang bangs or has had a lot of sexual partners?
I just gave a load of examaples why some might want to see veris and there are more. You've picked out two for a particular reason which I think I know why reading many of your past posts.
And no I wouldnt meet someone who been around the clock a few times.... That doesn't give me the confidence that they're looking a regular for frequent meets which is clearly in my profile.
Some people’s pictures tell a very different story.
Would you clarify that?
Some people have lots of Veris and some have lots of action shots with lots of different people. That would put me off for sure.
Yeah, how does it tell a different story though? So lots of veris or lots of action shots or both put you off?"I think I was referring to your comment about what puts you off with people that’s been around the block. I’m saying i feel the same with lots of action shots with multiple people. | |||
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" A veri doesn't tell you about the person. How many start "this gorgeous, sexy, cute etc etc" treat with respect or can't wait for round 2 can you read . They're subjective at best and unless someone wows you the veri will be pretty much standard across the board. If you want to get to know someone get to know the person not the online persona
I try not to read Veris tbh, they can paint a very different picture. There were a few I met and was nearly put off by what was written and they were lovely. I don’t like graphic sexual Veris or sexual act pictures.
Sometimes with veri's it's not about the words but more the person writing them, and it's like a trail of breadcrumbs innit....
, or what's not said, or if there's a consistent pattern, a million veris, the type of veris all socials, mainly club meets, gangbangs the list goes on. For some there's little to see, for others it's in the details.
Are you trying to find out if she's into gang bangs or has had a lot of sexual partners?
I just gave a load of examaples why some might want to see veris and there are more. You've picked out two for a particular reason which I think I know why reading many of your past posts.
And no I wouldnt meet someone who been around the clock a few times.... That doesn't give me the confidence that they're looking a regular for frequent meets which is clearly in my profile.
Some people’s pictures tell a very different story.
Would you clarify that?
Some people have lots of Veris and some have lots of action shots with lots of different people. That would put me off for sure.
Yeah, how does it tell a different story though? So lots of veris or lots of action shots or both put you off?" | |||
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"My veris are the business of two people only. Me and the writer. If someone asks to see all of them or makes it a pre-requisite to meeting them, I'm not going to be meeting them. They're either nosey or judgemental. As someone who's had a fair bit of shit over who I've met, as have the people I've met, I'll be the one who decides what to show and who sees it thank you very much. Back to the questions, if someone I've been chatting to about meeting up doesn't answer my last message I leave it be. The balls in their court. " That reminds me, I owe you a Veri. Sorry for taking me time. | |||
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" A veri doesn't tell you about the person. How many start "this gorgeous, sexy, cute etc etc" treat with respect or can't wait for round 2 can you read . They're subjective at best and unless someone wows you the veri will be pretty much standard across the board. If you want to get to know someone get to know the person not the online persona
Sometimes with veri's it's not about the words but more the person writing them, and it's like a trail of breadcrumbs innit....
, or what's not said, or if there's a consistent pattern, a million veris, the type of veris all socials, mainly club meets, gangbangs the list goes on. For some there's little to see, for others it's in the details.
Are you trying to find out if she's into gang bangs or has had a lot of sexual partners?
I just gave a load of examaples why some might want to see veris and there are more. You've picked out two for a particular reason which I think I know why reading many of your past posts.
And no I wouldnt meet someone who been around the clock a few times.... That doesn't give me the confidence that they're looking a regular for frequent meets which is clearly in my profile."Fill me in on it then, as I don't have a clue what you're on about. | |||
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" A veri doesn't tell you about the person. How many start "this gorgeous, sexy, cute etc etc" treat with respect or can't wait for round 2 can you read . They're subjective at best and unless someone wows you the veri will be pretty much standard across the board. If you want to get to know someone get to know the person not the online persona
Sometimes with veri's it's not about the words but more the person writing them, and it's like a trail of breadcrumbs innit....
, or what's not said, or if there's a consistent pattern, a million veris, the type of veris all socials, mainly club meets, gangbangs the list goes on. For some there's little to see, for others it's in the details.
Are you trying to find out if she's into gang bangs or has had a lot of sexual partners?
I just gave a load of examaples why some might want to see veris and there are more. You've picked out two for a particular reason which I think I know why reading many of your past posts.
And no I wouldnt meet someone who been around the clock a few times.... That doesn't give me the confidence that they're looking a regular for frequent meets which is clearly in my profile."I have regular partners who I've been seeing for years, along with the ones I'm racking up on the clock. You can do both. | |||
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"My veris are the business of two people only. Me and the writer. If someone asks to see all of them or makes it a pre-requisite to meeting them, I'm not going to be meeting them. They're either nosey or judgemental. As someone who's had a fair bit of shit over who I've met, as have the people I've met, I'll be the one who decides what to show and who sees it thank you very much. Back to the questions, if someone I've been chatting to about meeting up doesn't answer my last message I leave it be. The balls in their court. That reminds me, I owe you a Veri. Sorry for taking me time. "Slacker. | |||
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"My veris are the business of two people only. Me and the writer. If someone asks to see all of them or makes it a pre-requisite to meeting them, I'm not going to be meeting them. They're either nosey or judgemental. As someone who's had a fair bit of shit over who I've met, as have the people I've met, I'll be the one who decides what to show and who sees it thank you very much. Back to the questions, if someone I've been chatting to about meeting up doesn't answer my last message I leave it be. The balls in their court. That reminds me, I owe you a Veri. Sorry for taking me time.
Slacker. "Don't forget to mention about being a great shag, best you've had and treating me with respect. Feel free to lamp post. | |||
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"A veri doesn't tell you about the person. How many start "this gorgeous, sexy, cute etc etc" treat with respect or can't wait for round 2 can you read . They're subjective at best and unless someone wows you the veri will be pretty much standard across the board. If you want to get to know someone get to know the person not the online persona
Sometimes with veri's it's not about the words but more the person writing them, and it's like a trail of breadcrumbs innit....
, or what's not said, or if there's a consistent pattern, a million veris, the type of veris all socials, mainly club meets, gangbangs the list goes on. For some there's little to see, for others it's in the details.
"What does it matter tho? You've said similar interests. I've met plenty socially and sexually I've not verified. I don't have to after each time i see someone either. If you're just hung up on a veri it speaks more for you than her | |||
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"My veris are the business of two people only. Me and the writer. If someone asks to see all of them or makes it a pre-requisite to meeting them, I'm not going to be meeting them. They're either nosey or judgemental. As someone who's had a fair bit of shit over who I've met, as have the people I've met, I'll be the one who decides what to show and who sees it thank you very much. Back to the questions, if someone I've been chatting to about meeting up doesn't answer my last message I leave it be. The balls in their court. That reminds me, I owe you a Veri. Sorry for taking me time.
Slacker.
Don't forget to mention about being a great shag, best you've had and treating me with respect.
Feel free to lamp post. "Only if you promise not to show it or I will block you. | |||
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" A veri doesn't tell you about the person. How many start "this gorgeous, sexy, cute etc etc" treat with respect or can't wait for round 2 can you read . They're subjective at best and unless someone wows you the veri will be pretty much standard across the board. If you want to get to know someone get to know the person not the online persona
Sometimes with veri's it's not about the words but more the person writing them, and it's like a trail of breadcrumbs innit....
, or what's not said, or if there's a consistent pattern, a million veris, the type of veris all socials, mainly club meets, gangbangs the list goes on. For some there's little to see, for others it's in the details.
Are you trying to find out if she's into gang bangs or has had a lot of sexual partners?
I just gave a load of examaples why some might want to see veris and there are more. You've picked out two for a particular reason which I think I know why reading many of your past posts.
And no I wouldnt meet someone who been around the clock a few times.... That doesn't give me the confidence that they're looking a regular for frequent meets which is clearly in my profile.
I have regular partners who I've been seeing for years, along with the ones I'm racking up on the clock.
You can do both."One can indeed, and they wouldn't tick my box. We all use fab differently, have different filters. One person's way isn't for everyone and neither should they imply that it's the way it should be done either. It's only right or wrong for that individual. It will always effect how others view you and that's their right, your voices but their right to view you accordingly, you can't force them to view you how you want to be viewed. A profile name might turn you off and another thinks it's cool, a particular vivid photo can have same effect, someone might be into the club scene and that can put some off, some only do repeat meets and again will put some off. No one can tell another it's right or wrong how they choose to filter people. | |||
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" A veri doesn't tell you about the person. How many start "this gorgeous, sexy, cute etc etc" treat with respect or can't wait for round 2 can you read . They're subjective at best and unless someone wows you the veri will be pretty much standard across the board. If you want to get to know someone get to know the person not the online persona
Sometimes with veri's it's not about the words but more the person writing them, and it's like a trail of breadcrumbs innit....
, or what's not said, or if there's a consistent pattern, a million veris, the type of veris all socials, mainly club meets, gangbangs the list goes on. For some there's little to see, for others it's in the details.
Are you trying to find out if she's into gang bangs or has had a lot of sexual partners?
I just gave a load of examaples why some might want to see veris and there are more. You've picked out two for a particular reason which I think I know why reading many of your past posts.
And no I wouldnt meet someone who been around the clock a few times.... That doesn't give me the confidence that they're looking a regular for frequent meets which is clearly in my profile.
I have regular partners who I've been seeing for years, along with the ones I'm racking up on the clock.
You can do both. One can indeed, and they wouldn't tick my box.
We all use fab differently, have different filters. One person's way isn't for everyone and neither should they imply that it's the way it should be done either. It's only right or wrong for that individual. It will always effect how others view you and that's their right, your voices but their right to view you accordingly, you can't force them to view you how you want to be viewed.
A profile name might turn you off and another thinks it's cool, a particular vivid photo can have same effect, someone might be into the club scene and that can put some off, some only do repeat meets and again will put some off.
No one can tell another it's right or wrong how they choose to filter people."True. No one has to show verifications to prove to someone they have had the right amount of sexual partners. Verifications don't show that anyway, not if you don't get verified every time you meet someone new. You might be misled into believing a woman has only had a few men from here, because the rest didn't verify. The only way you'll know is if you ask her, and she tells the truth. | |||
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" A veri doesn't tell you about the person. How many start "this gorgeous, sexy, cute etc etc" treat with respect or can't wait for round 2 can you read . They're subjective at best and unless someone wows you the veri will be pretty much standard across the board. If you want to get to know someone get to know the person not the online persona
Sometimes with veri's it's not about the words but more the person writing them, and it's like a trail of breadcrumbs innit....
, or what's not said, or if there's a consistent pattern, a million veris, the type of veris all socials, mainly club meets, gangbangs the list goes on. For some there's little to see, for others it's in the details.
Are you trying to find out if she's into gang bangs or has had a lot of sexual partners?
I just gave a load of examaples why some might want to see veris and there are more. You've picked out two for a particular reason which I think I know why reading many of your past posts.
And no I wouldnt meet someone who been around the clock a few times.... That doesn't give me the confidence that they're looking a regular for frequent meets which is clearly in my profile.
I have regular partners who I've been seeing for years, along with the ones I'm racking up on the clock.
You can do both. One can indeed, and they wouldn't tick my box.
We all use fab differently, have different filters. One person's way isn't for everyone and neither should they imply that it's the way it should be done either. It's only right or wrong for that individual. It will always effect how others view you and that's their right, your voices but their right to view you accordingly, you can't force them to view you how you want to be viewed.
A profile name might turn you off and another thinks it's cool, a particular vivid photo can have same effect, someone might be into the club scene and that can put some off, some only do repeat meets and again will put some off.
No one can tell another it's right or wrong how they choose to filter people.
True. No one has to show verifications to prove to someone they have had the right amount of sexual partners.
Verifications don't show that anyway, not if you don't get verified every time you meet someone new.
You might be misled into believing a woman has only had a few men from here, because the rest didn't verify. The only way you'll know is if you ask her, and she tells the truth. "And if she doesn't want to reply... nuff said. | |||
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" A veri doesn't tell you about the person. How many start "this gorgeous, sexy, cute etc etc" treat with respect or can't wait for round 2 can you read . They're subjective at best and unless someone wows you the veri will be pretty much standard across the board. If you want to get to know someone get to know the person not the online persona
Sometimes with veri's it's not about the words but more the person writing them, and it's like a trail of breadcrumbs innit....
, or what's not said, or if there's a consistent pattern, a million veris, the type of veris all socials, mainly club meets, gangbangs the list goes on. For some there's little to see, for others it's in the details.
Are you trying to find out if she's into gang bangs or has had a lot of sexual partners?
I just gave a load of examaples why some might want to see veris and there are more. You've picked out two for a particular reason which I think I know why reading many of your past posts.
And no I wouldnt meet someone who been around the clock a few times.... That doesn't give me the confidence that they're looking a regular for frequent meets which is clearly in my profile.
I have regular partners who I've been seeing for years, along with the ones I'm racking up on the clock.
You can do both. One can indeed, and they wouldn't tick my box.
We all use fab differently, have different filters. One person's way isn't for everyone and neither should they imply that it's the way it should be done either. It's only right or wrong for that individual. It will always effect how others view you and that's their right, your voices but their right to view you accordingly, you can't force them to view you how you want to be viewed.
A profile name might turn you off and another thinks it's cool, a particular vivid photo can have same effect, someone might be into the club scene and that can put some off, some only do repeat meets and again will put some off.
No one can tell another it's right or wrong how they choose to filter people.
True. No one has to show verifications to prove to someone they have had the right amount of sexual partners.
Verifications don't show that anyway, not if you don't get verified every time you meet someone new.
You might be misled into believing a woman has only had a few men from here, because the rest didn't verify. The only way you'll know is if you ask her, and she tells the truth.
And if she doesn't want to reply... nuff said. "Yes, she might be thinking you're one of those men who joins a swingers site and judges women for having sex and she doesn't want anything to do with you, even though she's only met a couple of men in the years she's been on here | |||
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"My veris are the business of two people only. Me and the writer. If someone asks to see all of them or makes it a pre-requisite to meeting them, I'm not going to be meeting them. They're either nosey or judgemental. As someone who's had a fair bit of shit over who I've met, as have the people I've met, I'll be the one who decides what to show and who sees it thank you very much. Back to the questions, if someone I've been chatting to about meeting up doesn't answer my last message I leave it be. The balls in their court. That reminds me, I owe you a Veri. Sorry for taking me time.
Slacker.
Don't forget to mention about being a great shag, best you've had and treating me with respect.
Feel free to lamp post.
Only if you promise not to show it or I will block you. "OK, I promise. *crosses fingers behind back | |||
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" A veri doesn't tell you about the person. How many start "this gorgeous, sexy, cute etc etc" treat with respect or can't wait for round 2 can you read . They're subjective at best and unless someone wows you the veri will be pretty much standard across the board. If you want to get to know someone get to know the person not the online persona
Sometimes with veri's it's not about the words but more the person writing them, and it's like a trail of breadcrumbs innit....
, or what's not said, or if there's a consistent pattern, a million veris, the type of veris all socials, mainly club meets, gangbangs the list goes on. For some there's little to see, for others it's in the details.
Are you trying to find out if she's into gang bangs or has had a lot of sexual partners?
I just gave a load of examaples why some might want to see veris and there are more. You've picked out two for a particular reason which I think I know why reading many of your past posts.
And no I wouldnt meet someone who been around the clock a few times.... That doesn't give me the confidence that they're looking a regular for frequent meets which is clearly in my profile.
I have regular partners who I've been seeing for years, along with the ones I'm racking up on the clock.
You can do both. One can indeed, and they wouldn't tick my box.
We all use fab differently, have different filters. One person's way isn't for everyone and neither should they imply that it's the way it should be done either. It's only right or wrong for that individual. It will always effect how others view you and that's their right, your voices but their right to view you accordingly, you can't force them to view you how you want to be viewed.
A profile name might turn you off and another thinks it's cool, a particular vivid photo can have same effect, someone might be into the club scene and that can put some off, some only do repeat meets and again will put some off.
No one can tell another it's right or wrong how they choose to filter people.
True. No one has to show verifications to prove to someone they have had the right amount of sexual partners.
Verifications don't show that anyway, not if you don't get verified every time you meet someone new.
You might be misled into believing a woman has only had a few men from here, because the rest didn't verify. The only way you'll know is if you ask her, and she tells the truth.
And if she doesn't want to reply... nuff said.
Yes, she might be thinking you're one of those men who joins a swingers site and judges women for having sex and she doesn't want anything to do with you, even though she's only met a couple of men in the years she's been on here " | |||
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Would you not let them know, or just leave them hanging?"If they’ve broken off contact your not leaving them hanging their not interested | |||
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" A veri doesn't tell you about the person. How many start "this gorgeous, sexy, cute etc etc" treat with respect or can't wait for round 2 can you read . They're subjective at best and unless someone wows you the veri will be pretty much standard across the board. If you want to get to know someone get to know the person not the online persona
Sometimes with veri's it's not about the words but more the person writing them, and it's like a trail of breadcrumbs innit....
, or what's not said, or if there's a consistent pattern, a million veris, the type of veris all socials, mainly club meets, gangbangs the list goes on. For some there's little to see, for others it's in the details.
Are you trying to find out if she's into gang bangs or has had a lot of sexual partners?
I just gave a load of examaples why some might want to see veris and there are more. You've picked out two for a particular reason which I think I know why reading many of your past posts.
And no I wouldnt meet someone who been around the clock a few times.... That doesn't give me the confidence that they're looking a regular for frequent meets which is clearly in my profile.
I have regular partners who I've been seeing for years, along with the ones I'm racking up on the clock.
You can do both. One can indeed, and they wouldn't tick my box.
We all use fab differently, have different filters. One person's way isn't for everyone and neither should they imply that it's the way it should be done either. It's only right or wrong for that individual. It will always effect how others view you and that's their right, your voices but their right to view you accordingly, you can't force them to view you how you want to be viewed.
A profile name might turn you off and another thinks it's cool, a particular vivid photo can have same effect, someone might be into the club scene and that can put some off, some only do repeat meets and again will put some off.
No one can tell another it's right or wrong how they choose to filter people.
True. No one has to show verifications to prove to someone they have had the right amount of sexual partners.
Verifications don't show that anyway, not if you don't get verified every time you meet someone new.
You might be misled into believing a woman has only had a few men from here, because the rest didn't verify. The only way you'll know is if you ask her, and she tells the truth.
And if she doesn't want to reply... nuff said. "Or....... Contraversial........ she doesn't think it's any of your business and respects the privacy of those she's met. The narrow mindedness and judgemental attitudes on here beggar belief sometimes. People join Fab to have lots of sex. People have lots of sex. People judge them poorly for having sex. Why don't you just come out with it and say you don't want to meet slags? | |||
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" A veri doesn't tell you about the person. How many start "this gorgeous, sexy, cute etc etc" treat with respect or can't wait for round 2 can you read . They're subjective at best and unless someone wows you the veri will be pretty much standard across the board. If you want to get to know someone get to know the person not the online persona
Sometimes with veri's it's not about the words but more the person writing them, and it's like a trail of breadcrumbs innit....
, or what's not said, or if there's a consistent pattern, a million veris, the type of veris all socials, mainly club meets, gangbangs the list goes on. For some there's little to see, for others it's in the details.
Are you trying to find out if she's into gang bangs or has had a lot of sexual partners?
I just gave a load of examaples why some might want to see veris and there are more. You've picked out two for a particular reason which I think I know why reading many of your past posts.
And no I wouldnt meet someone who been around the clock a few times.... That doesn't give me the confidence that they're looking a regular for frequent meets which is clearly in my profile.
I have regular partners who I've been seeing for years, along with the ones I'm racking up on the clock.
You can do both. One can indeed, and they wouldn't tick my box.
We all use fab differently, have different filters. One person's way isn't for everyone and neither should they imply that it's the way it should be done either. It's only right or wrong for that individual. It will always effect how others view you and that's their right, your voices but their right to view you accordingly, you can't force them to view you how you want to be viewed.
A profile name might turn you off and another thinks it's cool, a particular vivid photo can have same effect, someone might be into the club scene and that can put some off, some only do repeat meets and again will put some off.
No one can tell another it's right or wrong how they choose to filter people.
True. No one has to show verifications to prove to someone they have had the right amount of sexual partners.
Verifications don't show that anyway, not if you don't get verified every time you meet someone new.
You might be misled into believing a woman has only had a few men from here, because the rest didn't verify. The only way you'll know is if you ask her, and she tells the truth.
And if she doesn't want to reply... nuff said.
Yes, she might be thinking you're one of those men who joins a swingers site and judges women for having sex and she doesn't want anything to do with you, even though she's only met a couple of men in the years she's been on here "Indeed. And that's her choice. She could see my veris and I'm very sure has viewed their profiles to check. | |||
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" A veri doesn't tell you about the person. How many start "this gorgeous, sexy, cute etc etc" treat with respect or can't wait for round 2 can you read . They're subjective at best and unless someone wows you the veri will be pretty much standard across the board. If you want to get to know someone get to know the person not the online persona
Sometimes with veri's it's not about the words but more the person writing them, and it's like a trail of breadcrumbs innit....
, or what's not said, or if there's a consistent pattern, a million veris, the type of veris all socials, mainly club meets, gangbangs the list goes on. For some there's little to see, for others it's in the details.
Are you trying to find out if she's into gang bangs or has had a lot of sexual partners?
I just gave a load of examaples why some might want to see veris and there are more. You've picked out two for a particular reason which I think I know why reading many of your past posts.
And no I wouldnt meet someone who been around the clock a few times.... That doesn't give me the confidence that they're looking a regular for frequent meets which is clearly in my profile.
I have regular partners who I've been seeing for years, along with the ones I'm racking up on the clock.
You can do both. One can indeed, and they wouldn't tick my box.
We all use fab differently, have different filters. One person's way isn't for everyone and neither should they imply that it's the way it should be done either. It's only right or wrong for that individual. It will always effect how others view you and that's their right, your voices but their right to view you accordingly, you can't force them to view you how you want to be viewed.
A profile name might turn you off and another thinks it's cool, a particular vivid photo can have same effect, someone might be into the club scene and that can put some off, some only do repeat meets and again will put some off.
No one can tell another it's right or wrong how they choose to filter people.
True. No one has to show verifications to prove to someone they have had the right amount of sexual partners.
Verifications don't show that anyway, not if you don't get verified every time you meet someone new.
You might be misled into believing a woman has only had a few men from here, because the rest didn't verify. The only way you'll know is if you ask her, and she tells the truth.
And if she doesn't want to reply... nuff said.
Or.......
Contraversial........ she doesn't think it's any of your business and respects the privacy of those she's met.
The narrow mindedness and judgemental attitudes on here beggar belief sometimes.
People join Fab to have lots of sex.
People have lots of sex.
People judge them poorly for having sex.
Why don't you just come out with it and say you don't want to meet slags? "So by your own admission you're saying the list you've just quoted are slags in you're opinion? I think what you have just said a tried to do certainly sets you apart from a more discerning types. I've never said that , not implied that not would I say such a thing. | |||
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" A veri doesn't tell you about the person. How many start "this gorgeous, sexy, cute etc etc" treat with respect or can't wait for round 2 can you read . They're subjective at best and unless someone wows you the veri will be pretty much standard across the board. If you want to get to know someone get to know the person not the online persona
Sometimes with veri's it's not about the words but more the person writing them, and it's like a trail of breadcrumbs innit....
, or what's not said, or if there's a consistent pattern, a million veris, the type of veris all socials, mainly club meets, gangbangs the list goes on. For some there's little to see, for others it's in the details.
Are you trying to find out if she's into gang bangs or has had a lot of sexual partners?
I just gave a load of examaples why some might want to see veris and there are more. You've picked out two for a particular reason which I think I know why reading many of your past posts.
And no I wouldnt meet someone who been around the clock a few times.... That doesn't give me the confidence that they're looking a regular for frequent meets which is clearly in my profile.
I have regular partners who I've been seeing for years, along with the ones I'm racking up on the clock.
You can do both. One can indeed, and they wouldn't tick my box.
We all use fab differently, have different filters. One person's way isn't for everyone and neither should they imply that it's the way it should be done either. It's only right or wrong for that individual. It will always effect how others view you and that's their right, your voices but their right to view you accordingly, you can't force them to view you how you want to be viewed.
A profile name might turn you off and another thinks it's cool, a particular vivid photo can have same effect, someone might be into the club scene and that can put some off, some only do repeat meets and again will put some off.
No one can tell another it's right or wrong how they choose to filter people.
True. No one has to show verifications to prove to someone they have had the right amount of sexual partners.
Verifications don't show that anyway, not if you don't get verified every time you meet someone new.
You might be misled into believing a woman has only had a few men from here, because the rest didn't verify. The only way you'll know is if you ask her, and she tells the truth.
And if she doesn't want to reply... nuff said.
Or.......
Contraversial........ she doesn't think it's any of your business and respects the privacy of those she's met.
The narrow mindedness and judgemental attitudes on here beggar belief sometimes.
People join Fab to have lots of sex.
People have lots of sex.
People judge them poorly for having sex.
Why don't you just come out with it and say you don't want to meet slags?
So by your own admission you're saying the list you've just quoted are slags in you're opinion? I think what you have just said a tried to do certainly sets you apart from a more discerning types.
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"Maybe she was turned off by the judgemental tone of your question and took you off her to do list. Hey ho. So to summarize...you wanted her to show you her veries (or lack of them) so you could judge if she was worthy of your golden cock. She decided she wasn't interested in your cock, golden or otherwise. The end "I just spat my tea out.
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"Maybe she was turned off by the judgemental tone of your question and took you off her to do list. Hey ho. So to summarize...you wanted her to show you her veries (or lack of them) so you could judge if she was worthy of your golden cock. She decided she wasn't interested in your cock, golden or otherwise. The end "I think your tone and what you're implying is more derogatory than most. It's easy to laugh at others but doesn't show much respect now much thought. Im not sure how you came to the conclusion of if one asks to view veris , photos, face pic, summary that one is automatically being judgemental, but if you come to that conclusion then it may say more about you than the one you're aiming it at. One could say your response is quite judgemental I'm sure you're not intending it to be a dig in any way. I don't have a golden cock, no one is worthy of it and no one is entitled to anyone on here either. Interesting not one person here has met me yet you and a few others seem so confident in telling me what I'm like. I bet if I was a female most of your responses would have been different. ........... | |||
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" A veri doesn't tell you about the person. How many start "this gorgeous, sexy, cute etc etc" treat with respect or can't wait for round 2 can you read . They're subjective at best and unless someone wows you the veri will be pretty much standard across the board. If you want to get to know someone get to know the person not the online persona
Sometimes with veri's it's not about the words but more the person writing them, and it's like a trail of breadcrumbs innit....
, or what's not said, or if there's a consistent pattern, a million veris, the type of veris all socials, mainly club meets, gangbangs the list goes on. For some there's little to see, for others it's in the details.
Are you trying to find out if she's into gang bangs or has had a lot of sexual partners?
I just gave a load of examaples why some might want to see veris and there are more. You've picked out two for a particular reason which I think I know why reading many of your past posts.
And no I wouldnt meet someone who been around the clock a few times.... That doesn't give me the confidence that they're looking a regular for frequent meets which is clearly in my profile.
I have regular partners who I've been seeing for years, along with the ones I'm racking up on the clock.
You can do both. One can indeed, and they wouldn't tick my box.
We all use fab differently, have different filters. One person's way isn't for everyone and neither should they imply that it's the way it should be done either. It's only right or wrong for that individual. It will always effect how others view you and that's their right, your voices but their right to view you accordingly, you can't force them to view you how you want to be viewed.
A profile name might turn you off and another thinks it's cool, a particular vivid photo can have same effect, someone might be into the club scene and that can put some off, some only do repeat meets and again will put some off.
No one can tell another it's right or wrong how they choose to filter people.
True. No one has to show verifications to prove to someone they have had the right amount of sexual partners.
Verifications don't show that anyway, not if you don't get verified every time you meet someone new.
You might be misled into believing a woman has only had a few men from here, because the rest didn't verify. The only way you'll know is if you ask her, and she tells the truth.
And if she doesn't want to reply... nuff said.
Or.......
Contraversial........ she doesn't think it's any of your business and respects the privacy of those she's met.
The narrow mindedness and judgemental attitudes on here beggar belief sometimes.
People join Fab to have lots of sex.
People have lots of sex.
People judge them poorly for having sex.
Why don't you just come out with it and say you don't want to meet slags?
So by your own admission you're saying the list you've just quoted are slags in you're opinion? I think what you have just said a tried to do certainly sets you apart from a more discerning types.
I've never said that , not implied that not would I say such a thing.
I don't think that's what I said at all. "Reread your comments and wipe up the tea up. As you said, "People join Fab to have lots of sex. People have lots of sex. People judge them poorly for having sex. Why don't you just come out with it and say you don't want to meet slags? "
I think we've all read that clearly. Nice list and then imply they are slags. Not very cool reall | |||
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"Maybe she was turned off by the judgemental tone of your question and took you off her to do list. Hey ho. So to summarize...you wanted her to show you her veries (or lack of them) so you could judge if she was worthy of your golden cock. She decided she wasn't interested in your cock, golden or otherwise. The end
I think your tone and what you're implying is more derogatory than most. It's easy to laugh at others but doesn't show much respect now much thought.
Im not sure how you came to the conclusion of if one asks to view veris , photos, face pic, summary that one is automatically being judgemental, but if you come to that conclusion then it may say more about you than the one you're aiming it at.
One could say your response is quite judgemental I'm sure you're not intending it to be a dig in any way.
I don't have a golden cock, no one is worthy of it and no one is entitled to anyone on here either.
Interesting not one person here has met me yet you and a few others seem so confident in telling me what I'm like.
I bet if I was a female most of your responses would have been different.
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"So you get chatting to someone and find yours on the same page. Lots to like but veris and summary both hidden. You ask to view as you're interested in knowing more about her. 1. If she just ignores the question what would you do? 2. If she no longer replies after couple days what would you do?" Move along, don't waste your time with people that are not serious | |||
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"If someone asked to see my verifications when they werent on show id tell them to mind their own business and block them" I would too if it was straight out. If however we had been chatting a while had talked of meeting then I'd see that as reasonable, much like many ask for a face pic before meeting. | |||
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"Maybe she was turned off by the judgemental tone of your question and took you off her to do list. Hey ho. So to summarize...you wanted her to show you her veries (or lack of them) so you could judge if she was worthy of your golden cock. She decided she wasn't interested in your cock, golden or otherwise. The end
I think your tone and what you're implying is more derogatory than most. It's easy to laugh at others but doesn't show much respect now much thought.
Im not sure how you came to the conclusion of if one asks to view veris , photos, face pic, summary that one is automatically being judgemental, but if you come to that conclusion then it may say more about you than the one you're aiming it at.
One could say your response is quite judgemental I'm sure you're not intending it to be a dig in any way.
I don't have a golden cock, no one is worthy of it and no one is entitled to anyone on here either.
Interesting not one person here has met me yet you and a few others seem so confident in telling me what I'm like.
I bet if I was a female most of your responses would have been different.
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In which case, question; why do you want to see their verifictions? "What's it to you? You'll only twist what's said. | |||
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"If someone asked to see my verifications when they werent on show id tell them to mind their own business and block them I would too if it was straight out. If however we had been chatting a while had talked of meeting then I'd see that as reasonable, much like many ask for a face pic before meeting." I think there's a difference between wanting to know if you find someone attractive through a face pic and wanting to interogate their verifications. | |||
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"If someone asked to see my verifications when they werent on show id tell them to mind their own business and block them I would too if it was straight out. If however we had been chatting a while had talked of meeting then I'd see that as reasonable, much like many ask for a face pic before meeting." but my verifications have nothing to do with someone im planning to mèet. They would only want to see them to pass judgement | |||
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"If someone asked to see my verifications when they werent on show id tell them to mind their own business and block them I would too if it was straight out. If however we had been chatting a while had talked of meeting then I'd see that as reasonable, much like many ask for a face pic before meeting. I think there's a difference between wanting to know if you find someone attractive through a face pic and wanting to interogate their verifications." Interogate? Love how you interpret, twist and imply most incorrectly without listening to why. But hey ho, says more about you than you realise. Think I'm finished with this now. I've answered every comment, question, judgement and accusation leveled and few have replied or answered back without trying to have another dig. Thanks for those who genuinely and intelligently contributed. | |||
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"If someone asked to see my verifications when they werent on show id tell them to mind their own business and block them I would too if it was straight out. If however we had been chatting a while had talked of meeting then I'd see that as reasonable, much like many ask for a face pic before meeting." Seriously...if you had been chatting a while then surely you would have known if that person was to your taste or not. A connection would have formed. Why would seeing her verifications change anything? I really don’t get it tbh. What were you looking for really? Did you want to know if she sucked like a Dyson? | |||
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"I wouldn't ask to see someone's veries as they're nothing to do with me and my experience with them may be completely different to theirs." An intelligent person would think like this. | |||
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"If someone asked to see my verifications when they werent on show id tell them to mind their own business and block them I would too if it was straight out. If however we had been chatting a while had talked of meeting then I'd see that as reasonable, much like many ask for a face pic before meeting. I think there's a difference between wanting to know if you find someone attractive through a face pic and wanting to interogate their verifications. Interogate? Love how you interpret, twist and imply most incorrectly without listening to why. But hey ho, says more about you than you realise. Think I'm finished with this now. I've answered every comment, question, judgement and accusation leveled and few have replied or answered back without trying to have another dig. Thanks for those who genuinely and intelligently contributed. " What word would you use if interface is inappropriate? You didn't actually answer my question, I'll ask again; why do you want to see someone's verifications? | |||
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"If someone asked to see my verifications when they werent on show id tell them to mind their own business and block them I would too if it was straight out. If however we had been chatting a while had talked of meeting then I'd see that as reasonable, much like many ask for a face pic before meeting. I think there's a difference between wanting to know if you find someone attractive through a face pic and wanting to interogate their verifications. Interogate? Love how you interpret, twist and imply most incorrectly without listening to why. But hey ho, says more about you than you realise. Think I'm finished with this now. I've answered every comment, question, judgement and accusation leveled and few have replied or answered back without trying to have another dig. Thanks for those who genuinely and intelligently contributed. What word would you use if *interogate is inappropriate? You didn't actually answer my question, I'll ask again; why do you want to see someone's verifications?" *autocarrot | |||
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"OP, do you show your veries and summary when asked? Always. And my 3 most recent checks from gum clinic too. Nothing to hide." I can vouch for this 100% You’re a good man asking a simple question. You know how I feel on it... I believe what’s gone on before or after is our own business. Much love x | |||
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"If someone asked to see my verifications when they werent on show id tell them to mind their own business and block them I would too if it was straight out. If however we had been chatting a while had talked of meeting then I'd see that as reasonable, much like many ask for a face pic before meeting. I think there's a difference between wanting to know if you find someone attractive through a face pic and wanting to interogate their verifications. Interogate? Love how you interpret, twist and imply most incorrectly without listening to why. But hey ho, says more about you than you realise. Think I'm finished with this now. I've answered every comment, question, judgement and accusation leveled and few have replied or answered back without trying to have another dig. Thanks for those who genuinely and intelligently contributed. " Easy tiger, not everyone is attacking and not everyone can read tone in a text God bless x | |||
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"If someone asked to see my verifications when they werent on show id tell them to mind their own business and block them I would too if it was straight out. If however we had been chatting a while had talked of meeting then I'd see that as reasonable, much like many ask for a face pic before meeting. I think there's a difference between wanting to know if you find someone attractive through a face pic and wanting to interogate their verifications. Interogate? Love how you interpret, twist and imply most incorrectly without listening to why. But hey ho, says more about you than you realise. Think I'm finished with this now. I've answered every comment, question, judgement and accusation leveled and few have replied or answered back without trying to have another dig. Thanks for those who genuinely and intelligently contributed. " You're welcome. | |||
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"If someone asked to see my verifications when they werent on show id tell them to mind their own business and block them I would too if it was straight out. If however we had been chatting a while had talked of meeting then I'd see that as reasonable, much like many ask for a face pic before meeting. I think there's a difference between wanting to know if you find someone attractive through a face pic and wanting to interogate their verifications. Interogate? Love how you interpret, twist and imply most incorrectly without listening to why. But hey ho, says more about you than you realise. Think I'm finished with this now. I've answered every comment, question, judgement and accusation leveled and few have replied or answered back without trying to have another dig. Thanks for those who genuinely and intelligently contributed. " Not a problem OP, you're very welcome. | |||
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