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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What are the deciding factors to prompt you to reply to a mesage

And how do I get YOU to message me first x

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

A well thought out and written profile backed up with a decent and alluring set of teasing and tasteful pics together with an introductory message that shows they've read my profile and/or is off the back of a forum thread usually grabs my attention.

I'd look for similar in anyone I was thinking about messaging too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What are the deciding factors to prompt you to reply to a mesage

And how do I get YOU to message me first x "

If I think you’re attractive and what I’m looking for and you’ve obviously read my profile and sent a well thought out message, I’d reply.

And I wouldn’t message you first - you’re not my type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nicely thought out some humour in it and something to show they have read my profile is a bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Boobs usually do it for me. I see a nip and I hit that "message" button

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nicely thought out some humour in it and something to show they have read my profile is a bonus"

That makes sense fin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a battle for most of the men here it seem only 10% of the men get a reply on here and the rest are filling in the void here loll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never get a message online from a woman who is my type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it really all about first messages? I reckon you need to maybe demonstrate some intelligence either in public, maybe forum or chat room or have something unique about your profile. Or just terrific tits or a pretty penis. Luckily I'm well out of that shit now...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I check their profile. If it doesn't appeal then their message would need to be funny and catch my attention. Either that or pics that make my girl bits flutter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t message anyone first which is probably why I never get anywhere lol.

Mind you I have bitten the bullet on the odd occasion and told people I think their hot, they either go unlos quite soon after (I don’t think it’s strictly my fault!) or I get ignored so I don’t bother now x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don’t message anyone first which is probably why I never get anywhere lol.

Mind you I have bitten the bullet on the odd occasion and told people I think their hot, they either go unlos quite soon after (I don’t think it’s strictly my fault!) or I get ignored so I don’t bother now x"

Lucky bullet if you’re biting it

And god knows I’d reply to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never get a message online from a woman who is my type

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your not the only one who does not get message there loads of other men in the same boat on here which is sinking fast

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By *ischiefmanagedWoman
over a year ago

Norfolk/Suffolk border


"And how do I get YOU to message me first x "

Send chocolate.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I never get a message online from a woman who is my type

your not the only one who does not get message there loads of other men in the same boat on here which is sinking fast "

If you're not getting messages you have a couple of choices:

Change things so you do (and there are plenty of things that can help achieve this, including changing your approach, revamping your profile, adopting a more positive attitude etc).

Accept that it's the way it is and carry on not getting messages.

I know which I'd choose

And yes that is a simplistic view but it's also a realistic one and far better than bemoaning a lack of messages/meets and generally adopting a negative attitude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply to all first messages. Most people don't reply so most don't make any effort in a first message as it's likely to be a waste of time. The second message is therefore more interesting.

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I’m more likely to respond if;

1. You’ve read my profile and mentioned stuff from it, I like chatty messages and common ground.

2. No willy photos in message.

3. Not taking about how you intend on fucking me etc etc.

4. Not suggesting a meet.

5. Tell me something interesting about you.

6. Localish

7. (Not looked on your profile) but your profile has stuff on it that’s interesting, tasteful photos and if a singles account no other women in the photos.

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