FabSwingers.com forum: Why are some men so anxious about other guys perving their profile?

By *ablo minibar123 OP Woman
over a year ago

Am i the only one that thinks this is odd, so many threads started by men wanting to block other guys from looking, as long as they cant message you then what real difference does it make if they look?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get loads of offers from cross dressing men over 50. I simply say no thanks .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If other guys want to look then so what?.. I don’t want messages from single guys so just have that set.

I personally don’t mind anyone having a look at my bum!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people feel violated in some way when people they wouldn't want sex with look at their profile.

Couples complain about it too, and women block people who look frequently, even though it isn't doing any harm.

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By *iking 777Man
over a year ago

wick

Always free to say no thanks l say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perv away dont bother me i put my penis in sally

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By *ablo minibar123 OP Woman
over a year ago

You dont often see women on here complain about other women looking though do you, if other women want to look at me, so be it, no harm done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You dont often see women on here complain about other women looking though do you, if other women want to look at me, so be it, no harm done

A lot of women are probably looking in stealth though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even though I'm Bi, I don't really want to be the subject of other men's amorous attention. I find it a little offputting, if I'm brutally honest. Especially when men tend to ignore profile text all together, or worse, read it and message anyway. So cock sure of themselves that they think it doesn't apply to them. I don't like getting crude messages from men, don't particularly want to be seen as an object of desire.. unless it's on my terms. End of.

So I can totally empathise with other men on this issue, Bi or Straight.

It's partially why I struggle with labelling my sexuality on here. I am bi, so I'm honest. I don't want the bi-centric attention that comes with the label though.

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By *ablo minibar123 OP Woman
over a year ago

"You dont often see women on here complain about other women looking though do you, if other women want to look at me, so be it, no harm done

A lot of women are probably looking in stealth though"

Most definitely yes, i know i do, but im just a nosey bugger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive blocked males messaging as had 30 odd aday messaging but not bothered about viewing me. Majority of my fabs are blokes.

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By *ablo minibar123 OP Woman
over a year ago

"Even though I'm Bi, I don't really want to be the subject of other men's amorous attention. I find it a little offputting, if I'm brutally honest. Especially when men tend to ignore profile text all together, or worse, read it and message anyway. So cock sure of themselves that they think it doesn't apply to them. I don't like getting crude messages from men, don't particularly want to be seen as an object of desire.. unless it's on my terms. End of.

So I can totally empathise with other men on this issue, Bi or Straight.

It's partially why I struggle with labelling my sexuality on here. I am bi, so I'm honest. I don't want the bi-centric attention that comes with the label though."

If they dont message though, does it actually bother you knowing that they look at the profile. I mean straight men can easily block guys from messaging them.

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By *xperimentalistMan
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Don't mind anyone perving me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am i the only one that thinks this is odd, so many threads started by men wanting to block other guys from looking, as long as they cant message you then what real difference does it make if they look?"
....penis size difference,haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So I can totally empathise with other men on this issue, Bi or Straight.

It's partially why I struggle with labelling my sexuality on here. I am bi, so I'm honest. I don't want the bi-centric attention that comes with the label though.

If they dont message though, does it actually bother you knowing that they look at the profile. I mean straight men can easily block guys from messaging them."

This!

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Does not bother me...... Can even send me a message if they are so minded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So I can totally empathise with other men on this issue, Bi or Straight.

It's partially why I struggle with labelling my sexuality on here. I am bi, so I'm honest. I don't want the bi-centric attention that comes with the label though.

If they dont message though, does it actually bother you knowing that they look at the profile. I mean straight men can easily block guys from messaging them."

Sometimes. A fab AND a wink is irritating as that's trying to get my attention regardless. A solitary fab.. maybe not. Though if I had the option of being able to block all men from seeing my profile, bar the ones I invited in.. I would.

If men behaved more like women do on here, I'd be less bothered by it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Majority of my fabs are blokes."

This. Men are far more complimentary haha

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Doesn't bother me in the slightest who looks at me - in fact I often suggest that guys who are looking for profile advice look at other well verified guys profiles for inspiration, likewise those who don't know what pictures to post

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By *mstillere2Man
over a year ago

middleport

I dont mind anyone viewing ive viewed males occasionally to try and get ideas what to put on my profile but now i dont care

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I equate it to real life. I think a straight guy would feel uncomfortable if men looked at him a lot in the street or in a club.

It's understandable and people are entitled to feel discomfort without their discomfort being dismissed in my opinion. This happens to women a lot when they express discomfort about the way some men behave around them and it's wrong it shouldn't be happening to men either.

That said it's not possible to tell if someone is straight or otherwise until you look.

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

"That said it's not possible to tell if someone is straight or otherwise until you look."

Even then, do you really know? I could not tell a persons sexuality just by looking at them. Might have a good guess in some cases but would often get it wrong, I suspect...!!

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Personally I don't care one bit. In fact it's kind of flattering, because deep down inside we all want to feel attractive don't we?

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

"I get loads of offers from cross dressing men over 50. I simply say no thanks ."

Yet you say your looking for tvs up to 60!! strange?

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Sometimes its down to insecurity with their masculinity..

I find most 'sorted'guys like the attention and state their case with clarity..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes its down to insecurity with their masculinity..

I find most 'sorted'guys like the attention and state their case with clarity..

Are you suggesting I'm insecure and not 'sorted' then?

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"You dont often see women on here complain about other women looking though do you, if other women want to look at me, so be it, no harm done

A lot of women are probably looking in stealth though"

Have to love stealth mode ... a perv's paradise ... erm ... cough ... so I've heard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some bloke clearly read what I wrote and took it upon himself to irritate on purpose by fabbing everything he could. Timings match perfectly. I don't get people like that, something not quite right about them. You know who you are.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

My wife tells me to look at guys profiles. We normally meet guys at the club. But she said she may do house meets if she finds someone who can accom and who ticks all the right boxes

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

"Sometimes its down to insecurity with their masculinity..

I find most 'sorted'guys like the attention and state their case with clarity..

Are you suggesting I'm insecure and not 'sorted' then? "

I said sometimes, only you know how you feel.

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By *mc83Man
over a year ago

bridgend

With a bum like that, it’s criminal that you don’t let men pound you. Made fir fucking!!9

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbf i dont care who looks. The repeat messages-

'full balls?'

'Wana empty discreetly'

Ect ect get annoying

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By *heslimoneMan
over a year ago

Deeside

Couldn't care less who looks at my profile, if a guy likes what he sees then good for them it costs me nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tbf i dont care who looks. The repeat messages-

'full balls?'

'Wana empty discreetly'

Ect ect get annoying"

For both of us

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

You see it in real life too.

Men perv on women, oh, it's just a compliment, don't be so uppity.

Gay man glances at that same man who thinks women should get over themselves. Omg call the police! The violation! The outrage! Omg!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want them looking because I don't want them stealing my profile text. It took me minutes to write.

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By *uHorny1Man
over a year ago

Cannock

I have no issues about who looks at me or messages me as long as they are respectful.

What does get me is ones who look at you often couples) and when you go to message them and they have blocked single men. Ah well.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I have no issues about who looks at me or messages me as long as they are respectful.

What does get me is ones who look at you often couples) and when you go to message them and they have blocked single men. Ah well."

They're looking to see if they want to message you?

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By *ictor SpongeMan
over a year ago

Stokesley

I'm not anxious at all, anyone is happy to look and I reply to all messages. I take it purely as a complement

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By *uHorny1Man
over a year ago

Cannock

"I have no issues about who looks at me or messages me as long as they are respectful.

What does get me is ones who look at you often couples) and when you go to message them and they have blocked single men. Ah well.

They're looking to see if they want to message you? "

But if they state they are not looking for single men? And none of their veris are from single men? I dont think I'm going to be the exception that proves the rule...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I have no issues about who looks at me or messages me as long as they are respectful.

What does get me is ones who look at you often couples) and when you go to message them and they have blocked single men. Ah well.

They're looking to see if they want to message you?

But if they state they are not looking for single men? And none of their veris are from single men? I dont think I'm going to be the exception that proves the rule..."

Views mean absolutely nothing. Don't dwell.

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By *atcherwankerMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"You see it in real life too.

Men perv on women, oh, it's just a compliment, don't be so uppity.

Gay man glances at that same man who thinks women should get over themselves. Omg call the police! The violation! The outrage! Omg!

This.

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By *uHorny1Man
over a year ago

Cannock

"I have no issues about who looks at me or messages me as long as they are respectful.

What does get me is ones who look at you often couples) and when you go to message them and they have blocked single men. Ah well.

They're looking to see if they want to message you?

But if they state they are not looking for single men? And none of their veris are from single men? I dont think I'm going to be the exception that proves the rule...

Views mean absolutely nothing. Don't dwell. "

I'm not, but to be fair you are looking at it from the point of view of someone who gets literally hundreds of view in a day, as opposed to my single figure count.

I'm not moaning- just making an observervation

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I have no issues about who looks at me or messages me as long as they are respectful.

What does get me is ones who look at you often couples) and when you go to message them and they have blocked single men. Ah well.

They're looking to see if they want to message you?

But if they state they are not looking for single men? And none of their veris are from single men? I dont think I'm going to be the exception that proves the rule...

Views mean absolutely nothing. Don't dwell.

I'm not, but to be fair you are looking at it from the point of view of someone who gets literally hundreds of view in a day, as opposed to my single figure count.

I'm not moaning- just making an observervation"

Yes, but I still see patterns. That guy who looks at me 20 times a day, at least. Will he ever message? What's his deal? It's weird. But, whatever.

It applies no matter how many messages or views you get. Control what you can, don't sweat the rest.

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By *atcherwankerMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"I have no issues about who looks at me or messages me as long as they are respectful.

What does get me is ones who look at you often couples) and when you go to message them and they have blocked single men. Ah well.

They're looking to see if they want to message you?

But if they state they are not looking for single men? And none of their veris are from single men? I dont think I'm going to be the exception that proves the rule..."

I'm not looking interested in couples, but I might have a a nose at a profile. Say, look through their pictures if the lady half looks attractive, or if they've said something interesting in the forum I might be curious to see who they are and what they're about. It doesn't mean I want to Eiffel Tower, it means I'm nosey.

You'll drive yourself mental reading too much into everything.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

I'm always curious as why people obsess about who's viewed them..

If people have viewed and are interested they'll be in touch otherwise, no harm no foul.

Don't even start me on the "how many views threads"

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By *hangerMan
over a year ago

brighton

I believe that guys blocking all other guys looking at their profile do it primarily for two reasons:

1) They feel it is an affront to their masculinity and somehow makes them gay, possibly due to insecurities that they may not even realise they have!

2) They get loads of messages from guys and are fed up answering them when they have no interest sexually in guys.

Personally, I am fine with other guys looking at my pics and messaging me if they wish. Being bi helps! Probably about 90% of my messages are from guys, so it would get a bit lonely if I blocked them all! lol

Of course, blocking age ranges, or individuals is quite different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't want them looking because I don't want them stealing my profile text. It took me minutes to write."

Love it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You see it in real life too.

Men perv on women, oh, it's just a compliment, don't be so uppity.

Gay man glances at that same man who thinks women should get over themselves. Omg call the police! The violation! The outrage! Omg!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What harm can looking do if your not interested in the person looking just say no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest when I first joined, I sort of felt the same about other guys viewing me as time has gone on it doesn't bother me in the slightest it's not as though I'm going to switch sides

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By *ickDastardlyMan
over a year ago

North East

Toxic masculinity plays a part sometimes.

I don't care who looks at my profile and/or who messages me.

But I do draw the line when a guy messages something sexual, to which I will tell them I'm not interested and they completely ignore me.

I would say 80% of my profile views are from men.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

Couples and ladies have and do ask about this as well.. its not a gender specific topic.

There will be things that you may prefer not to happen that others may think 'odde' ..its what makes us individuals.

You'd need to ask the originators of the thread to find out why it bothers them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What harm can looking do if your not interested in the person looking just say no thanks "

But it when it flashes up you have 2 new messages I get all excited about someone replying or even maybe an out of the blue mesaage from woman....then open them to find its men again- like thinking tour lottery ticket has come in but it hasn't!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I didn’t have guys looking at my profile I wouldn’t have any views

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By *ickDastardlyMan
over a year ago

North East

"If I didn’t have guys looking at my profile I wouldn’t have any views

ditto fella

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Toxic masculinity plays a part sometimes.

I don't care who looks at my profile and/or who messages me.

But I do draw the line when a guy messages something sexual, to which I will tell them I'm not interested and they completely ignore me.

I would say 80% of my profile views are from men. "

Completely agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I didn’t have guys looking at my profile I wouldn’t have any views

Most women use the privacy option of not showing on people's 'looked at me' list. You'd never know if 1 or 1,000 women had looked.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"If I didn’t have guys looking at my profile I wouldn’t have any views

Most women use the privacy option of not showing on people's 'looked at me' list. You'd never know if 1 or 1,000 women had looked.

And because most women won’t ‘Fab’ your pics for fear of it being assumed a ‘come on’, again, the blokes looking for female attention are left in the dark

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"If I didn’t have guys looking at my profile I wouldn’t have any views

Most women use the privacy option of not showing on people's 'looked at me' list. You'd never know if 1 or 1,000 women had looked.

This

I view in Stealth mode with some guys who viewed me, if you don't that's when they message. However if I show up on your views it's probably because I'm interested but seen that you haven't put a Tgirl as a potential meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldn't care less, but I don't want messages from men..

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By *AVEWHOLOVESITMan
over a year ago

Bristol

I say feel free guys!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I didn’t have guys looking at my profile I wouldn’t have any views

Most women use the privacy option of not showing on people's 'looked at me' list. You'd never know if 1 or 1,000 women had looked.

Well true but if there was a 1000 I’d hope at least one would find me attractive enough to make contact of some kind lol

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By *uHorny1Man
over a year ago

Cannock

"I have no issues about who looks at me or messages me as long as they are respectful.

What does get me is ones who look at you often couples) and when you go to message them and they have blocked single men. Ah well.

They're looking to see if they want to message you?

But if they state they are not looking for single men? And none of their veris are from single men? I dont think I'm going to be the exception that proves the rule...

You'll drive yourself mental reading too much into everything. "

Thanks for the advice, but I'm not reading anything into it and it's a long way from driving me mental. I am more more than happy with my Fab experience. It's just a minor irritant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get loads of offers from men lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fill your boots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I didn’t have guys looking at my profile I wouldn’t have any views

Most women use the privacy option of not showing on people's 'looked at me' list. You'd never know if 1 or 1,000 women had looked.

Well true but if there was a 1000 I’d hope at least one would find me attractive enough to make contact of some kind lol"

Yeah sorry, I did think I should have said 1 or 10. If 1000 looked and didn't mail that would be crap. X

I'll put my spade away now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I didn’t have guys looking at my profile I wouldn’t have any views

Most women use the privacy option of not showing on people's 'looked at me' list. You'd never know if 1 or 1,000 women had looked.

This

Not sure if you know, but if you go out of stealth mode, everyone you've looked at (ever) can see you on their looked at me list. Not just the one you're currently viewing.

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By *ouis CyphreMan
over a year ago

The Midlands

If you want look then look.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"If I didn’t have guys looking at my profile I wouldn’t have any views

Most women use the privacy option of not showing on people's 'looked at me' list. You'd never know if 1 or 1,000 women had looked.

This

Not sure if you know, but if you go out of stealth mode, everyone you've looked at (ever) can see you on their looked at me list. Not just the one you're currently viewing.

Doh !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are so confident in their sexuality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The problem is so many guys on here set their profile to straight. And they are not. I’ve had so many “straight “ guys message me asking me to just their dick. So as a gay guy it’s hard to know who is rally straight and who is fab straight.

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