FabSwingers.com forum: Trans post op, fresh start

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm thinking of leaving (need a break) but when I invariably return, I am considering just being listed as female & adding a bit about being trans in my profile text. Any thoughts on this would be appreciated. Would people consider this catfishing? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer if you listed at TV/TS but its upto you really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not catfishing, its true.

Hope you have a good break.

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

I know of quite a few post op trans girls had thier description changed to woman

And rightly so !

Good luck and do what feels right for you

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London

"I'm thinking of leaving (need a break) but when I invariably return, I am considering just being listed as female & adding a bit about being trans in my profile text. Any thoughts on this would be appreciated. Would people consider this catfishing? X "

It's not catfishing. How you identify is up to you but definitely be honest in your profile x

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By *illing2016Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

Do as you wish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, not catfishing.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope not catfishing! It’s your profile and you can do it how you wish!! It’s down to see if people read your profile or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So long as it clear. Men can get quite aggressive if they feel like they've been duped.

First line or two on your bio should state that you're post-op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you wish to identify as a woman and explain on your profile that is perfectly legitimate. Because you already explain that your post-op on your current profile, which is different to the vast majority of the TV/TS population on Fab, who still retain male genitalia. Do what you feel is right for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So long as it clear. Men can get quite aggressive if they feel like they've been duped.

First line or two on your bio should state that you're post-op"

It doesn’t matter if it’s the first line or not!! As long as it’s there!! Then the men need to sort themselves out if they’ve not read it!! Any form of aggression like that there is no place for!!

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Not catfishing at all.

A line in your profile will more than suffice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not catfishing at all!

Good luck with everything

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

I would suggest keeping yoir profile in the TS section. A lot of people don't read profiles and it would save having to have the discussion ad infinitum. Unless you put "post-op" in bold as your profile strapline, and probably every other line of your profile. I think it would save a lot of negativity towards you. It would stop you receiving attention from a lot of males who only meet CIS females, and may get upset (even if by their own lack of reading).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your post op. You are female. Nothing catfishing about it.

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

"I would suggest keeping yoir profile in the TS section. A lot of people don't read profiles and it would save having to have the discussion ad infinitum. Unless you put "post-op" in bold as your profile strapline, and probably every other line of your profile. I think it would save a lot of negativity towards you. It would stop you receiving attention from a lot of males who only meet CIS females, and may get upset (even if by their own lack of reading).

As stated above, it's not catfishing as the intent isn't there to dupe. My post is purely based on making things as clear as possible and you getting the most positive experience from the site.

Good luck with the surgery btw

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

As a trans lady you have as much right to call yourself a woman as every cis lady does! You are not catfishing, you are a woman who has fought very hard to become the woman you always knew you were

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it just me, but the responsibility of the person sending the message to read the profile and if they like it to decide if they want to send a message or not!! It is Just to be clear and honest on the profile is all you need!!

If someone gets aggressive because they haven’t read a profile you wouldn’t want to be meeting them anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So long as it clear. Men can get quite aggressive if they feel like they've been duped.

First line or two on your bio should state that you're post-op"

Fair point. The aggressive types don't usually read though, so no need to worry about them.

Just 'remind' them when a meet is planned in case their cock was covering the profile text and they didn't see it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me, but the responsibility of the person sending the message to read the profile and if they like it to decide if they want to send a message or not!! It is Just to be clear and honest on the profile is all you need!!

If someone gets aggressive because they haven’t read a profile you wouldn’t want to be meeting them anyway "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a trans lady you have as much right to call yourself a woman as every cis lady does! You are not catfishing, you are a woman who has fought very hard to become the woman you always knew you were"

Perfectly wrote

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Surely its just a case of choosing the right profile for who you are. If your a woman your a woman. I think as long as your honest about your biological history (because that is important to many) then it's not cat fishing, it's if any thing the opposite. You are being true and accurate to who you are and the changes and life you've lived through. Wish you all the best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone gets aggressive because they haven’t read a profile you wouldn’t want to be meeting them anyway

Steel best profile I’ve seen in ages love it proper chuckled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have thought if you were post op, that would make you a woman? If you put it in your text about being post op, i would think that would be enough. You wouldnt be catfishing at all. You are a woman

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

You wouldn't be the first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Aww thanks everyone, I'm over a year post op & am very clear about it that already. It's nice to see so much positive feedback xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Aww thanks everyone, I'm over a year post op & am very clear about it that already. It's nice to see so much positive feedback xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Aww thanks everyone, I'm over a year post op & am very clear about it that already. It's nice to see so much positive feedback xx"

Good luck.

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By *alking HeadMan
over a year ago

Bolton

I don't think you really need to mention it on your profile at all. I think you yourself are probably a good judge of character and would know who would be be ok with it anyway.

Would a lot of guys really even realise?

Your history is yours, you don't owe anyone an explanation as to how you arrived at where you are now. You don't demand a full history of other people do you?

Hope you enjoy yourself!

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

It's your profile do as you like.

Your very pretty may I add.

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By *greygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

not really sure about how gender change works [not being cheeky] but would think if you put on your profile the details then that is not misleading in any way .good luck op.and if you ever want a girlie night out drink .i would join you .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should absolutely be down as female. Good luck with it all xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"not really sure about how gender change works [not being cheeky] but would think if you put on your profile the details then that is not misleading in any way .good luck op.and if you ever want a girlie night out drink .i would join you ."

Aww thanks & I'd love that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As a trans lady you have as much right to call yourself a woman as every cis lady does! You are not catfishing, you are a woman who has fought very hard to become the woman you always knew you were

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Not in my eyes if your born a man your still a man even after having your nuts cut off."

Wow, how lovely of you lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a trans lady you have as much right to call yourself a woman as every cis lady does! You are not catfishing, you are a woman who has fought very hard to become the woman you always knew you were

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Not in my eyes if your born a man your still a man even after having your nuts cut off."

I think that you’re wrong! This is not something that is done lightly!! It takes time and a lot of support to go through!! I have worked closely with people who have transitioned! It not a choice it is about how they feel and who they are!!

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"As a trans lady you have as much right to call yourself a woman as every cis lady does! You are not catfishing, you are a woman who has fought very hard to become the woman you always knew you were

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Not in my eyes if your born a man your still a man even after having your nuts cut off."

Luckily that's an outdated view nowadays.

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By *entle giraffeMan
over a year ago

Minehead

You are definitely the woman that you have ALWAYS been. My understanding of gender dysphoria is that you've always been a woman, just in the wrong body (sorry for any clumsy language). So don't feel pressured to be anything other than the woman you are.

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By *greygorCouple
over a year ago

birmingham

Aww thanks & I'd love that

x"
hey when dogging van comes your way later on this year to east coast will do it .dont take notice of negative comment folks have a right to air their opinion in an open forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is absolutely not catfishing.

If you choose to put something on your profile then that is up to you.

Do what is right for you xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Aww thanks & I'd love that

xhey when dogging van comes your way later on this year to east coast will do it .dont take notice of negative comment folks have a right to air their opinion in an open forum "

Aww thanks I'd like that! And no worries, believe me I've heard worse over the years

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"As a trans lady you have as much right to call yourself a woman as every cis lady does! You are not catfishing, you are a woman who has fought very hard to become the woman you always knew you were

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Not in my eyes if your born a man your still a man even after having your nuts cut off."
No she's not a man she's a woman.

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

"As a trans lady you have as much right to call yourself a woman as every cis lady does! You are not catfishing, you are a woman who has fought very hard to become the woman you always knew you were

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Not in my eyes if your born a man your still a man even after having your nuts cut off."

While we’re all entitled to our opinions, fortunately most people have evolved past the bigotry that used to exist in this country. Sadly, as this post demonstrates, some have not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty wins my vote

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By *100Man
over a year ago

Essex

You look gorgeous hun and 99% of people on fab would say the same the other 1% can go **** themselves, why not try 2 accounts and see how it goes and if you feel comfortable with someone you can tell them.

You do look gorgeous xxxx

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

OP along with most other posters, I think a profile as a woman is the way to go, as that is what you are.

It probably is best to note that you are post op trans, just to be on the safe side.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

Definitely not catfishing, I think listing as a woman and mentioning you're post op is exactly what you are, nothing sneaky or false about it at all.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"As a trans lady you have as much right to call yourself a woman as every cis lady does! You are not catfishing, you are a woman who has fought very hard to become the woman you always knew you were

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Not in my eyes if your born a man your still a man even after having your nuts cut off."

Good grief

Telephone call from the 70's for you.

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

"As a trans lady you have as much right to call yourself a woman as every cis lady does! You are not catfishing, you are a woman who has fought very hard to become the woman you always knew you were

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Not in my eyes if your born a man your still a man even after having your nuts cut off."
this is the mind set of a true biggot , shameful comments , there's no place for you in this century

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By *arex2Couple
over a year ago

Bradford

"Aww thanks everyone, I'm over a year post op & am very clear about it that already. It's nice to see so much positive feedback xx"

Go girl!

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP if you need a break you don't have to leave, you can just hide your profile and come back whenever you're ready.

I suggest you contact admin and ask them to change you profile to single lady as that is exactly what you are. It definitely isn't catfishing because you're not hiding anything or trying to be something that you're not. For avoidance of doubt I would leave in your profile the bit about being a post op trans lady as then nobody can claim you aren't being honest about your past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's catfishing?

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London

"OP if you need a break you don't have to leave, you can just hide your profile and come back whenever you're ready.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP if you need a break you don't have to leave, you can just hide your profile and come back whenever you're ready.

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London

What's catfishing? "

Google is your friend... Also, looking at the numerous threads on the forums will help educate you.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

As many has posted, it is OK for you to choose F for your profile as long as you make it clear that you are a post op.

But as in real life, there are people who will be supportive as well as those who are against it.

I personally, would love if you keep in the TV/TS group - it shows that you accept who you are.

I know, many will say who we really are is a woman...but born in a man's body (I do too). But is that who we really are? We are "a woman in a man's body" - that is slightly different from a cis woman.

If people like us, they will have to like us for who we really are.

Having said all those, I am totally supportive of whatever you going to choose OP. It is your profile and do what you think will make you happier and more fulfilled.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just an update, I contacted admin & they changed my profile

Again, thanks everyone for the support & happy fabbing xx

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Great news OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just an update, I contacted admin & they changed my profile

Again, thanks everyone for the support & happy fabbing xx "

Brilliant

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

"Just an update, I contacted admin & they changed my profile

Again, thanks everyone for the support & happy fabbing xx "

It’s lovely to see you’ve had your profile changed

Well done admin!

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

If you’re post op then you’re a woman and have lived for some time as a woman. I don’t believe anyone should go through all that and be denied or made to feel wrong for putting woman on your profile. Worth including post op trans in the text though or first message as some only wish to meet cis ladies.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"Just an update, I contacted admin & they changed my profile

Again, thanks everyone for the support & happy fabbing xx "

Awesome

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By *sontopMan
over a year ago

Colchester

Women if that’s what you want to be but what ever you decide don’t let anybody else try and influence you. Have a good break.

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