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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you know if there's potential?

Can you tell by someone's profile if you're likely to get on?

Does it take a few messages? Weeks of chat?

How quickly do you decide whether it's worth arranging to meet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It varies, sometimes there's an instant attraction, other times it takes some chatting and getting to know someone.

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I'd say I know when the other person is willing to swap contact details.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to base it on forum interactions can they make me laugh then go to pm can we flow humour once im laughing via pm its meet time if close once i seduce them its sex time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me a picture paints a thousand words. The 'attraction' has to be there for me, although I'm not oil painting it still matters

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Varies for me - some people there's an instant connection and messages flow effortlessly - others it may take a little longer.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

With you Rubi, it was lust at first sight.

Some I've got to like by learning about their qualities from what they post on the forums and some I've had an instant attraction to only to lose it after reading their forums posts or status updates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know pretty quickly that I might like to meet someone and they quickly work out they don’t really want to meet me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Weeks of chat and no, I can’t tell just from a profile. I have to find out if they have a sense of humour too.

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

Get a good idea from the profile and a conversation but you can't really tell until you meet in person

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By *andyladMan
over a year ago

Hereorthere

I'm oblivious most of the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually get a good idea from profile text and the sort of pics they have. I always chat for a while first though and even then I only meet for a social. That’s when I know if there’s potential.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to exchange a couple of messages, I normally know if I'm going to enjoy them

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Second message. If they don’t get my humour/sass then it’s a no go.

Suprisingly some of the bare profiles with nothing on them have hilarious men behind them.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

If they meet my preferences 'on paper' I'll arrange to meet them for a coffee pretty quickly. I'll know whether I want to meet them again for sex within minutes. Although that can often change, depends on how they are, what they say etc. Poor buggers!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Second message. If they don’t get my humour/sass then it’s a no go.

Suprisingly some of the bare profiles with nothing on them have hilarious men behind them. "

Yep it’s the ones with funny profiles you have to watch, they’ll bore you silly once you start getting to know them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Proile texts. The way someone is on the forums. And sometimes a message that appears in your inbox that makes you want to know them more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to have some conversation, but if I don't feel attraction quite soon it never happens.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't try to attract men from the forums, so I talk crap.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Generally know by the second message. My swinger sense is finely honed..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

takes me a while to warm up. Even then, whenever I think I'm getting on well with someone, I stray into the friendzone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can only judge (Yes,contrary to fabled fab law,we all judge) someone on meeting in person.

The smell ,the eye contact,those teeth,that unscripted humour,that breath....none of that you get on breathing in selfies and copy and paste compliments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes i can tell straight away if its a no ....it takes me longer to know if its a yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not usually, no. I just wander the threads bemused, and messages, well cave men are a bit slow.You may have to club me before I get the message...

Strangely though with some I just know, from the first message, or even before. They never quite seem to happen though.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you can tell far better, a few days after the initial euphoria of the first message.

Conversations a little brief. Generic responses. Probably speaking to several people saying the same thing.

The chase is over, they need to test someone else's appetite!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know pretty quickly that I might like to meet someone and they quickly work out they don’t really want to meet me."

Snap!

Today has been so strange, I’ve exchanged messages with a few people then as soon as I ask for a face pic I get blocked!

Surely it helps to see what someone looks like or is that just me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How bout you rubi

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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"I usually get a good idea from profile text and the sort of pics they have. I always chat for a while first though and even then I only meet for a social. That’s when I know if there’s potential. "

This is the same for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know pretty quickly that I might like to meet someone and they quickly work out they don’t really want to meet me.

Snap!

Today has been so strange, I’ve exchanged messages with a few people then as soon as I ask for a face pic I get blocked!

Surely it helps to see what someone looks like or is that just me? "

No it’s pretty much par for the course. I’m going back to not being arsed about meeting, it takes much less effort and the rewards are just the same

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Really depends on how fast the money goes into my bank account.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How bout you rubi "

Initially their profile, if I like their pics and the text makes me laugh then that's a good starting point but I think probably within a few messages I know if we could click. I can be a bit obscure with my humour and they either get it or they don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How bout you rubi

Initially their profile, if I like their pics and the text makes me laugh then that's a good starting point but I think probably within a few messages I know if we could click. I can be a bit obscure with my humour and they either get it or they don't.

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the ones who dont have funny bones missing lass your a funny broad see im even going chicago town pizza on ya

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Do you know if there's potential?

Can you tell by someone's profile if you're likely to get on?

Does it take a few messages? Weeks of chat?

How quickly do you decide whether it's worth arranging to meet? "

Two messages

Actually, I've sometimes made a decision before the first message...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll already find them attractive from their pics and profile. I'll know if we'll be compatible after chatting a while. I'll know if I'll meet them whenever I've sussed them out. That could happen quickly but with some it takes a while. Those I can't suss out over messaging I'll never meet. I don't meet for socials so I have to be sure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone that responds

But in all seriousness, within 2/3 messages I usually decide if I'd be comfortable and want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really depends on how fast the money goes into my bank account."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you know if there's potential?

Can you tell by someone's profile if you're likely to get on?

Does it take a few messages? Weeks of chat?

How quickly do you decide whether it's worth arranging to meet?

Two messages

Actually, I've sometimes made a decision before the first message..."

Decision: "noooooo way!!"

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Do you know if there's potential?

Can you tell by someone's profile if you're likely to get on?

Does it take a few messages? Weeks of chat?

How quickly do you decide whether it's worth arranging to meet?

Two messages

Actually, I've sometimes made a decision before the first message...

Decision: "noooooo way!!""

Lololololololol!

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