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Forgiveness - Are you able to?

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By *UNCHBOX OP   Man
over a year ago

folkestone

I watched a programme a while back that interviewed a mother whose son was stabbed to death, and how she had learnt to forgive her son's killer. I found that to be pretty powerful, as I'm not sure I could have done the same in her situation.

Obviously most of us won't be in her position, but you able to forgive stuff that has happened to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some stuff yes

Other stuff, no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what it is. But generally no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've forgiven a lot in my life.

I don't know if I could forgive someone who intentionally killed one of my close family or friends though.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

All depends on what they've done and how important they are in my life. Also if being angry at them does me more harm than good. I'm good at forgiving but not always at forgetting x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if someone drank the last of ghe milk proberbly if someone hurt my child no hell dimension on earth would be worse than the vengeance i inflict

So depends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I remember hearing or reading somewhere that forgiving helps you a lot more than it does anyone else and I tend to agree.

The person you have something against may be out there living their life Carefree of what you think about them while you are holding on to a lot of bad feelings.

Therefore I often try to forgive but rarely forget..

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Again , it depends what for , if someone intentionally hurt my Pooch for example, I'd fuckin beat the living shit out of them .

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

If it involves our kids then I don't think I could no. The thought of something happening to any if my girls wife, daughters, mother and sisters gets me so protective it's beyond rediculous to the point of anger so no I don't think I could forgive someone breaking my world apart like that

But like someone said forgiveness is supposed to be a good healer

Petty things can be looked over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Somethings yes I can, but big things that leave their mark be it physically or emotionally I can’t x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always forgive but sometimes it’s for my sake not theirs and in that case i never forget what they have done.

Carrying around anger and resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die!!

LJ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always forgive but sometimes it’s for my sake not theirs and in that case i never forget what they have done.

Carrying around anger and resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die!!

LJ"

This for me too.

There are things I wish I could forget though. I don't always like my brain having an "evidence folder" for bloody everything!

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always forgive but sometimes it’s for my sake not theirs and in that case i never forget what they have done.

Carrying around anger and resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die!!

LJ"
so thats why i turn green

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I forgive but some things I’ll n very forget

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think it depends if the thing needing to be forgiven is affecting your ability to live. I think it's possible to not forgive but to continue your life without letting the incident affect you. Certain people are dead to me, I will never forgive or forget their actions but I rarely even think about them or what they did.

Indifference is a good alternative to forgiveness if you're like me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are two people that I can't forgive but no longer need to. Took a long time to realise that apathy was enough to not let them affect my life.

Minor things yes forgiveness is easy. Very little truly gets to me anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on what has happened for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think to truly move on you have to forgive, i lost someone that was a lifelong friend & dear to me to a drug overdose 18 years ago. I built up so much anger caught up with him and did something perhaps i shouldnt have which led him to addiction rather than dealing it ruined his life. Did i feel good... no i beat myself up for years over it. I eventually came face to face with him at a homeless centre i volunteered at hed become clean and was helping others. He burst into tears and thanked me, i forgave him... but didnt apologise- the 15 years of anger id carried just lifted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do forgive I think yes. I have a habit of going back and looking at the reasons someone may have done something. It doesn't mean I'll like you for it, but there is no point in hating if at some point the person who has done you wrong if they have been wronged at some point themselves. It would make me into a person I didn't like so easier to forgive, move on and not think on it.

Not saying it would be that easy though, ie for murders etc but that is generàlly where I end up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely depends what they've done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on whether the person shows genuine remorse.

Personally I don't think forgiveness is as important for me to give. I tend to live in the moment and am able to leave the past behind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hate hurt anger resentment and all those things that we may sometimes hold onto because we feel we may have been wronged in some way....

The only person they ever hurt is ourselves.

Lifes too short and precious to hang onto all that negativity.

Forgiveness, maybe we have to, if only for our own benefit....

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

I can and have many times

You can’t carry about too much pain in this life, for personal growth you need to learn what feelings are good for you

I’ve never had a child killed so I don’t know know how I would manage forgiveness for a heinous act, I would need a lot of help to find a way to cope with that

Whilst I’ve never done anything terrible in my life I am sure I’ve hurt people and they have forgiven me so I do similar and I’m sure many others are the same

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I forgive but I never forget. I just want to get on with people mostly.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

Obviously it depends on what the situation is exactly but generally yes I can forgive. I don’t forget though and it makes me be more cautious in the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always forgive but sometimes it’s for my sake not theirs and in that case i never forget what they have done.

Carrying around anger and resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die!!

LJso thats why i turn green "

Anger makes Hulk stronger

There are exceptions to every rule

LJ

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