FabSwingers.com forum: Couples

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How many of you have meet via fab?

Have gone on to play as a couple? Continue to meet as a single? Or not at all?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt do the swap thing its not for me tried it before

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We met when we was 15 and been together since not sure we even knew what swingers were back then,23 years now lol wouldnt change a thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We met when we was 15 and been together since not sure we even knew what swingers were back then,23 years now lol wouldnt change a thing

I say the same. I wouldn’t change a thing. Having just blown up the hoover again, I’m not so sure she says the same though!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldnt do the swap thing its not for me tried it before "

Just to clarify, you swapped as a couple but didn't enjoy the experience? Was it watching the other half play that put you off or you didn't enjoy your own play?

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

We met via fab, have played as a couple before serious illness stopped play. We’re looking at getting back into the swing later in the year. Won’t play solo though

J x

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

Found out recently someone who I used to work with was on here and he met a woman and now there engaged

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We met when we was 15 and been together since not sure we even knew what swingers were back then,23 years now lol wouldnt change a thing

Pretty much the same as us, Jo was 16 when we got together so we are into our 23rd year, my perception of swinging then was car keys in a bowl

and I didn’t have a car at that point

then we had kids and careers to concentrate on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We met via fab, have played as a couple before serious illness stopped play. We’re looking at getting back into the swing later in the year. Won’t play solo though

J x"

Can I ask when you met & decided to become a couple did you have a 'cooling off' period so to speak.. A phase where it was just you guys before you went into the swringing scene?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldnt do the swap thing its not for me tried it before

Just to clarify, you swapped as a couple but didn't enjoy the experience? Was it watching the other half play that put you off or you didn't enjoy your own play? "
yes about a year ago i tried it but im too competitive to share whoever im withs orgasms with other people so it put me off and it just felt a little mechanical rather than natural also felt a little excluded but i tried it you learn more from losing than winning

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Research purposes guys so your opinions and experiences are appreciated

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldnt do the swap thing its not for me tried it before

Just to clarify, you swapped as a couple but didn't enjoy the experience? Was it watching the other half play that put you off or you didn't enjoy your own play? yes about a year ago i tried it but im too competitive to share whoever im withs orgasms with other people so it put me off and it just felt a little mechanical rather than natural also felt a little excluded but i tried it you learn more from losing than winning "

I really like that last sentence, and a good way of looking at life it's all reflective

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

We met on here 6 years ago, it’s our 4th wedding anniversary on Friday.

I wouldn’t say we really swing in the traditional sense of the word. We enjoy clubs, both like to watch others play. We play in the same room as others but prefer to just play with each other rather than include other people. We don’t arrange meets outside of going to clubs. Many times we have gone to clubs or parties, watched others play and then come home and shagged each other senseless

It works for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We met on here 6 years ago, it’s our 4th wedding anniversary on Friday.

It works for us"

Happy anniversary for Friday!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldnt do the swap thing its not for me tried it before

I really like that last sentence, and a good way of looking at life it's all reflective "

mirror sex it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been together three and a half years today after Doughnut messaged me via a dating thread, married end of March last year. Life’s pretty amazing! We fit in every way possible and can’t thank fab and the lady who did the thread enough x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and we meet women as part of a couple and he meets women on his own, it turns me on so much, I don’t meet men yet, it might change it might not, it’s not because he doesn’t want me to, to us swinging is about everyone’s enjoyment and as he doesn’t get turn on by the thought of another man with me, I’m respectful of that, it’s something we are slowly talking about.

I have this profile as i’d like to meet some ladies but actually is rather hard lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Been together three and a half years today after Doughnut messaged me via a dating thread, married end of March last year. Life’s pretty amazing! We fit in every way possible and can’t thank fab and the lady who did the thread enough x"

Did you both know thatyou were on here as singles? If so how long was it before you played with another person?

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By *evilandTheBeastCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough and Bedford

We met on Fab, and it was actually me who messaged him first, as I liked the look of his profile and how he was presenting himself on the forum. Unfortunately, a day or two later I slipped on wet bathroom floor at home and ended up in hospital with a smashed knee. As I had no idea how long I was going to be recuperating for, I told him to just forget about me and move on to someone else. He didn't, he was a great online support when I was in hospital, and then, eventually, he earned himself an invitation to mine. That was just before Halloween 2018, and we have spent nearly every weekend together since. He was not put off by my serious mobility issues, and has supported me on my way to recovery, pushing me out of my comfort zone. I never imagined I'd meet my soulmate not only through a swingers site, but also at a very difficult time in my life.

Swinging- we have been to clubs and I played with some guys with him watching. It hasn't happened yet for us to have a woman or couple join us for both of us to play, but hopefully soon, once my confidence gets better.

I meet on my own (only men I have met before), but he hasn't been lucky enough to meet another woman on his own (single man on Fab...). I think I'd be ok with it, as he is fine with me meeting others. But until it happens, I won't know for sure.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We met on Fab, and it was actually me who messaged him first, as I liked the look of his profile and how he was presenting himself on the forum. Unfortunately, a day or two later I slipped on wet bathroom floor at home and ended up in hospital with a smashed knee. As I had no idea how long I was going to be recuperating for, I told him to just forget about me and move on to someone else. He didn't, he was a great online support when I was in hospital, and then, eventually, he earned himself an invitation to mine. That was just before Halloween 2018, and we have spent nearly every weekend together since. He was not put off by my serious mobility issues, and has supported me on my way to recovery, pushing me out of my comfort zone. I never imagined I'd meet my soulmate not only through a swingers site, but also at a very difficult time in my life.

Really lovely story (minus the pain you endured but sounds to me it was a bonding experience for you both)

What I'm wondering is if a timescale for couples meeting on here is required before they play with others. If so I'm wondering how long it is for each couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you both know thatyou were on here as singles? If so how long was it before you played with another person? "

Both single when we met, I remember when we had been together a month, we had just spent our first weekend together at his and on the way to the train station and I said I didn’t want to play with anyone else and he was relieved because he didn’t.

Fast forward a couple of years, we got chatting after many hot sessions of imagining him wit another woman and talking about it, so decided to start looking for a bi single female to join us, took a few months and wasn’t getting anywhere here, we met up with someone Doughnut used to know and had our first threesome, we met her twice and that was it, we were hooked.

Then at the start of this year we began talking again about him meeting a woman alone as again turned me on majorly and while he would never say to me he wanted to as he wouldn’t want to hurt my feelings, I think if something that turned him on too, so again we spoke and made sure it was 100% what we wanted and he went off. She’s now one of my best friends lol, weird situation but everyone is happy.

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By *evilandTheBeastCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough and Bedford

The ti_eline for meets as couples will be different for every single couple, I think. Obviously with us, my mobility issues and the fact that my confidence is not fully back yet are stopping us.

Also, it's actually not that easy to find a woman or couple to play with as you have more people who need to be attracted to each other.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

"We met via fab, have played as a couple before serious illness stopped play. We’re looking at getting back into the swing later in the year. Won’t play solo though

J x

Can I ask when you met & decided to become a couple did you have a 'cooling off' period so to speak.. A phase where it was just you guys before you went into the swringing scene? "

We met again a few weeks after our 1st meet & got on really well so decided to keep meeting & naturally became “fuck buddies” but still saw other people for a while. About 4 months later we both realised we’d stopped looking for meets with others. He took me to the local clubs to get a feel for them & we went to some socials until we found a couple we clicked with. We then went to Swingfields 3 years ago with friends but he was really poorly & have only had socials whilst he’s been recovering

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we met here. Neither of us were looking for anything other than friendship, laughter and damn fine sex!

We spoke in depth about anything, everything and then some. Before we even met for the first time it felt like we knew each other inside out and back to front. Our first video call lasted almost 4 hours and felt like 5 mins! We video called almost every day for hours a day for a fair few weeks before we met, and it just felt so natural and easy.

We met and it was just "right".

We weren't officially together for a few months after our first meeting in the flesh and B continued to meet with others, I admit I felt pangs of uncertainty when he did.

I think it stems from the fact neither of us were looking for a relationship yet it happened naturally, yet we're all aware there are people who get off on causing trouble between others, or who's intentions are to prove to themselves they're so wonderful and desirable they can have any man they want and it's even more fun and ego inflating for them to get the man who's partner can see right through them, yet the object of their desire seems blissfully unaware.

Neither of us have met alone for 5 months, it's just fallen naturally that way. I do think time should be taken out for new couples to build their relationship out of solid foundations, so if you do stumble across one of those sneaky ones who get a kick out of troublemaking there will be less doubts about the truth.

I'm more than comfortable swinging together, that is no issue for me, but I do have trepidation about meeting alone. I haven't wanted to meet alone as yet, however I'd happily go to a party or club alone where the main focus was to have a sociable time and if sex happened so be it, but I've no desire (as yet) to meet alone with the focus/purpose being a sex meet.

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By *mm and HerCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

We met on fab. We quickly met again after our first meet. Then again. Then again. Then went to clubs. Then set up a couples profile. And all at the same time, feelings developed and we became a "proper" couple - living together and bickering about what colour duvet we should buy

It works for us, though life means we don't do as much as we'd like, though we definitely see this as the cherry on top rather the key thing we do. We tend to meet women most as that gives and extra dynamic, but do meet couples.

Hmm x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met on Fab but have an exclusive relationship so neither us meet others or want to swing with another couple.

We are more than happy in our sex life.

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By *eandHim2019Couple
over a year ago

preston

We met on fab, I was on as couple profile it was a fab, he was single. He message me when we were both on holiday in same place. I was on holiday I thought let's av some fun he thought let's hope she's on her own and I was lol. We met had a great night, but then kept talking next day and have never looked bk, I moved 200 miles to be with him and we get married end of this year. We not looking to swap yet just explore and maybe we will but for now just looking for a lovely lady to join us my fantasy

I wouldn't change a thing xx

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I started as a single on FAB and then met My Girl on FAB. Before when I was single I would meet through fab, some other well know dating sites (seeking NSA adventures which I was very clear about with an openness to dating), women I'd bumped into out and about and I'd just branched out into the club scene. As a couple me and My Girl have only physically hooked up people we've bumped into on the club scene. But we do talk to other on FAB and not opposed to finding other on FAB.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met my fella through fab, 3 and a half years ago.

We now play as a couple at clubs, I occasionally meet women alone, he is open to meeting men alone. We don't meet very often, and soon will meet even less due to being overseas. But I think we'll continue to swing for a while yet...until it's not fun anymore.

He is without a doubt, the best thing that's come from 12 years of fab for me. And I was adamant I didn't want anything serious. Love changes things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We met via fab, have played as a couple before serious illness stopped play. We’re looking at getting back into the swing later in the year. Won’t play solo though

J x

Can I ask when you met & decided to become a couple did you have a 'cooling off' period so to speak.. A phase where it was just you guys before you went into the swringing scene? "

I think I'd want that if I met someone on Fab that I was developing feelings for. Make sure it's me she wants, not the lurid lifestyle. I've waited this long, I can wait a little longer for the right woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We met via fab, have played as a couple before serious illness stopped play. We’re looking at getting back into the swing later in the year. Won’t play solo though

J x

Can I ask when you met & decided to become a couple did you have a 'cooling off' period so to speak.. A phase where it was just you guys before you went into the swringing scene?

Nail on the head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We met via fab, have played as a couple before serious illness stopped play. We’re looking at getting back into the swing later in the year. Won’t play solo though

J x

Can I ask when you met & decided to become a couple did you have a 'cooling off' period so to speak.. A phase where it was just you guys before you went into the swringing scene?

Nail on the head.

Good job I'm not in a rush eh

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"How many of you have meet via fab?

Have gone on to play as a couple? Continue to meet as a single? Or not at all?

Ooo I have wondered this. Interested to see the results.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Yes we met here. Neither of us were looking for anything other than friendship, laughter and damn fine sex!

We met and it was just "right".

This is really adorable. Aww you two still make me feel all gooey and happy inside for you both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We met via fab, have played as a couple before serious illness stopped play. We’re looking at getting back into the swing later in the year. Won’t play solo though

J x

Can I ask when you met & decided to become a couple did you have a 'cooling off' period so to speak.. A phase where it was just you guys before you went into the swringing scene?

Nail on the head.

Good job I'm not in a rush eh

No egg timers needed

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

We met via fab. I was adamant I didn't want anything more - he was enjoying bachelordom. After a few months of casually fucking and clubs and dungeons and road trips I realised I quite liked him; he's still so different and wonderful from anyone I've met before. He puts up with my bollocks for one.

We took some time out from it all while we figured things out - even now I don't meet often at all. He no longer has any desire to. Our relationship is ever changing and getting stronger; maybe he'll decide one day he does want to again and if so, we'll work that out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes we met here. Neither of us were looking for anything other than friendship, laughter and damn fine sex!

We met and it was just "right".

This is really adorable. Aww you two still make me feel all gooey and happy inside for you both. "

And luckily he still makes my insides all gooey

You're totally coming to the pretend wedding in my head

It really makes me glow to know there are people like you that share our joy. It's wonderful. Thank you, you beautiful beeeyatch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We met via fab. I was adamant I didn't want anything more - he was enjoying bachelordom. After a few months of casually fucking and clubs and dungeons and road trips I realised I quite liked him; he's still so different and wonderful from anyone I've met before. He puts up with my bollocks for one.

this is lush.

Sometimes life puts us in touch with people who are meant to be huge parts of our lives.... and it's fucking awesome

I sooooo wish you two everything you could ever hope for... and more

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How many of you have meet via fab?

Have gone on to play as a couple? Continue to meet as a single? Or not at all?

Ooo I have wondered this. Interested to see the results."

I was only saying the other day that couples who decide to swring much have an incredible bond. But then I wondered about people who have met up here. Do they need time away from the lifestyle to allow such a bond to strengthen?

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By *itvclaireTV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

We both had single profiles. When we met via friends. Decided to start as we meant to go on. Our first date out was to a swingers club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldnt do the swap thing its not for me tried it before

Same here I haven't done it and I don't think it's for me. I don't like the idea of watching the love of my life with another man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this is lush.

Sometimes life puts us in touch with people who are meant to be huge parts of our lives.... and it's fucking awesome

I sooooo wish you two everything you could ever hope for... and more

My eyes are leaking reading these

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this is lush.

Sometimes life puts us in touch with people who are meant to be huge parts of our lives.... and it's fucking awesome

I sooooo wish you two everything you could ever hope for... and more

My eyes are leaking reading these

Beautiful isn't it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldnt do the swap thing its not for me tried it before

Same here I haven't done it and I don't think it's for me. I don't like the idea of watching the love of my life with another man. "

Thank you for your input. I'm interested the couples experiences of srwinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We met when we was 15 and been together since not sure we even knew what swingers were back then,23 years now lol wouldnt change a thing

I say the same. I wouldn’t change a thing. Having just blown up the hoover again, I’m not so sure she says the same though!"

"Sucks like a Dyson"

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Funny how so many of us have found our match on fab. The irony is when I was looking to seriously try dating I did not find what I was looking for on dating sites. Met some great women but there was always something missing however good they were on paper. I came back to FAB after giving up on love and reverting back to idea being going it alone and enjoying casual no strings sex. Then I met My Girl. Was only ment to be a quick social over a pot of tea to see if we'd make good play mates, I didn't want any more (neither did she). Over a year now and going strong. Funny how I found love on fab but not on line dating.

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By *ikingCoolMan
over a year ago

carmarthen

We done the car keys in the bowl

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"We done the car keys in the bowl "

I've only got a day saver

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I am also part of a couple on here. We have been together over 19 years and swinging together 6 years.

We meet, couples, ladies and men as a couple.

As a single I only meet women. That's because I wouldn't be comfortable meeting single ment or couples alone. That could change.

Hubby only meets with me, that is his choice. I would have no objection to him meeting alone.

Love and sex are very different.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Funny how so many of us have found our match on fab. The irony is when I was looking to seriously try dating I did not find what I was looking for on dating sites. Met some great women but there was always something missing however good they were on paper. I came back to FAB after giving up on love and reverting back to idea being going it alone and enjoying casual no strings sex. Then I met My Girl. Was only ment to be a quick social over a pot of tea to see if we'd make good play mates, I didn't want any more (neither did she). Over a year now and going strong. Funny how I found love on fab but not on line dating."

Natural evolution rather than beginning a date with maybe a certain set of expectations sounds far nicer... Going with the flow

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