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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Are you a sufferer and if so, how do you manage it?

I was diagnosed with anxiety a little over a year ago, up until that point I had spent 6 months sliding into an awful mental mess of negativity and self criticism. I couldn't understand what was wrong with me. I cut myself off from others, I stopped doing the things that I wanted, then the things that I needed. Eventually I hit a crisis point and sought the help that was vital and probably saved my life.

I deal with it on a daily basis but I've learnt to manage it. As a result I'm far more attuned to the signs in others and I make pains to open the discussion up as much as possible about mental health in general. Which is the reason for this thread.

I'm aware that many forumites also suffer with this and as much as there may be a stigma attached to it, it's only through awareness and discussion that it will improve. So please, if you're comfortable to, share your stories and experiences, how you manage it and live your lives. If this helps just one person to recognise their own anxiety then that will be a huge positive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have for years. I don’t really know how I ‘mange’ it, I’m a big ball of mess most of the time.

I’ve been in and out of therapy since I was about 15, been on antidepressants, tried most things...nah. Nothing really helps.

My anxiety is sky high at the moment

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I have for years. I don’t really know how I ‘mange’ it, I’m a big ball of mess most of the time.

I’ve been in and out of therapy since I was about 15, been on antidepressants, tried most things...nah. Nothing really helps.

My anxiety is sky high at the moment "

Do you have specific triggers or coping mechanisms to use when it gets really bad?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was diagnosed several years ago after a severe back injury and prescription drug withdrawal. I didn't see it coming, but I lost all sense of self and reality. At my worst I didn't leave the house for 9 months.

The last year has been focussed on relearning how to deal with social situations and fingers crossed I'm virtually back..

Daily medication, cbt and lots of mindfulness reading and practise have helped get this under control.

It's not easy, but it's certainly manageable. Takes bloody good friends and time to really get a hold on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes something I have struggled with since I was about 15 I obsess over things even the tiniest little things and due too a recent break up it’s been at its worst constantly going over what if I had done this what if I hadn’t done that at it’s worst I thought the only option was too kill myself and took an overdose of morphine luckily didn’t do me in good friends and positive thinking have helped me suppress the symptoms of anxiety but it is a constant presence in my life my mind goes in overdrive and I can’t tell my arse from my elbow and am currently reaching out to the doctors to explore the options available to me as I really don’t want to be taking anti depressants but think it might be the only option to me

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I was diagnosed several years ago after a severe back injury and prescription drug withdrawal. I didn't see it coming, but I lost all sense of self and reality. At my worst I didn't leave the house for 9 months.

The last year has been focussed on relearning how to deal with social situations and fingers crossed I'm virtually back..

Daily medication, cbt and lots of mindfulness reading and practise have helped get this under control.

It's not easy, but it's certainly manageable. Takes bloody good friends and time to really get a hold on it. "

That's great to read. I think the thing that kind of shocked me was that it was going to be an ongoing fight, not a cure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was diagnosed several years ago after a severe back injury and prescription drug withdrawal. I didn't see it coming, but I lost all sense of self and reality. At my worst I didn't leave the house for 9 months.

The last year has been focussed on relearning how to deal with social situations and fingers crossed I'm virtually back..

Daily medication, cbt and lots of mindfulness reading and practise have helped get this under control.

It's not easy, but it's certainly manageable. Takes bloody good friends and time to really get a hold on it.

That's great to read. I think the thing that kind of shocked me was that it was going to be an ongoing fight, not a cure. "

Yeah it's terrifying when you're in the midst of it. But bloody amazing when you realise you've now stepped out of the warzone and can see it for what it is.. just getting ahead of it that's exhausting!!

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By *hatterbox 2Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

ive suffered on and off with it for a few years now it got to the point where i wouldnt even go out of the house and then one day i told hubby i needed serious help and got reffered to a phsyciatrist who prescribed me meds im so much better now but still have a wobble every now and then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also a sufferer. Been about 12 years now and I’ve had lots of different types of help and occasionally medication. Happy to receive PM’s about it if anyone want to chat about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find high vibration music and positive affirmations work for me when my mind starts riding me too hard x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup, since I was about 18 - 29 now.

I do a lot of colouring and it helps a hell of a lot.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Yes something I have struggled with since I was about 15 I obsess over things even the tiniest little things and due too a recent break up it’s been at its worst constantly going over what if I had done this what if I hadn’t done that at it’s worst I thought the only option was too kill myself and took an overdose of morphine luckily didn’t do me in good friends and positive thinking have helped me suppress the symptoms of anxiety but it is a constant presence in my life my mind goes in overdrive and I can’t tell my arse from my elbow and am currently reaching out to the doctors to explore the options available to me as I really don’t want to be taking anti depressants but think it might be the only option to me "

I hope that you get the help that you need. Times of emotional stress, especially coupled with self doubt would definitely be a huge trigger.

Getting help is a huge step, well done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find high vibration music and positive affirmations work for me when my mind starts riding me too hard x"

I wish I was your mind!

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I was diagnosed several years ago after a severe back injury and prescription drug withdrawal. I didn't see it coming, but I lost all sense of self and reality. At my worst I didn't leave the house for 9 months.

The last year has been focussed on relearning how to deal with social situations and fingers crossed I'm virtually back..

Daily medication, cbt and lots of mindfulness reading and practise have helped get this under control.

It's not easy, but it's certainly manageable. Takes bloody good friends and time to really get a hold on it.

That's great to read. I think the thing that kind of shocked me was that it was going to be an ongoing fight, not a cure.

Yeah it's terrifying when you're in the midst of it. But bloody amazing when you realise you've now stepped out of the warzone and can see it for what it is.. just getting ahead of it that's exhausting!! "

Yes, absolutely. I like that phrase 'warzone' that's what it can feel like sometimes!

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"ive suffered on and off with it for a few years now it got to the point where i wouldnt even go out of the house and then one day i told hubby i needed serious help and got reffered to a phsyciatrist who prescribed me meds im so much better now but still have a wobble every now and then"

Well done! It sounds like it's a big positive for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some are aware I had a complete breakdown 2 years ago now. I was off work 9 months. Had to totally rebuild my confidence from the ground up.

It was proper strange though, I could go to clubs etc and fear nothing, no panic attacks, no anxiety. Well, it wasn't actually that strange when you look closely at it. People in clubs had nothing to prove to me, no reason to try to trick me or manipulate me. If they want a fuck they'll ask, and in my experience people have taken rejection gracefully. They owed me nothing and I owed them nothing.

I have anxiety attacks if something doesn't quite add up, if I sense I'm being lied to, if someone is trying to take advantage or take me for a cunt. I have anxiety attacks if I think someone isn't being honest with me or themselves, or if someones intentions don't appear to be what they say they are.

How do I manage it? Sometimes not very well at all. I haven't worked out yet how to "be kind to myself"

I'm still my own worst critic, but I've learned it's ok for me to not be perfect, it's ok for me to get things wrong, I'm human not fucking superwoman.

It's ok for me to cry and have emotion, as long as I recognise it for what it is.

I over analyse, I know I do.

But I'm me, I'm still here and I'm loved for being me, not for pretending to be someone I'm not, or hiding behind a mask of perfection. I'm far from perfect but I'm perfectly me.

P

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I find high vibration music and positive affirmations work for me when my mind starts riding me too hard x"

That's a new one for me! It's all about finding what works for you though.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Some are aware I had a complete breakdown 2 years ago now. I was off work 9 months. Had to totally rebuild my confidence from the ground up.

It was proper strange though, I could go to clubs etc and fear nothing, no panic attacks, no anxiety. Well, it wasn't actually that strange when you look closely at it. People in clubs had nothing to prove to me, no reason to try to trick me or manipulate me. If they want a fuck they'll ask, and in my experience people have taken rejection gracefully. They owed me nothing and I owed them nothing.

I have anxiety attacks if something doesn't quite add up, if I sense I'm being lied to, if someone is trying to take advantage or take me for a cunt. I have anxiety attacks if I think someone isn't being honest with me or themselves, or if someones intentions don't appear to be what they say they are.

How do I manage it? Sometimes not very well at all. I haven't worked out yet how to "be kind to myself"

I'm still my own worst critic, but I've learned it's ok for me to not be perfect, it's ok for me to get things wrong, I'm human not fucking superwoman.

It's ok for me to cry and have emotion, as long as I recognise it for what it is.

I over analyse, I know I do.

But I'm me, I'm still here and I'm loved for being me, not for pretending to be someone I'm not, or hiding behind a mask of perfection. I'm far from perfect but I'm perfectly me.

P"

Thanks for sharing that Peach, it sounds brutal but also a positive that you know your triggers and it sounds like you have a management plan. Past trauma can be an absolute bitch!

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By *s_bettyboopWoman
over a year ago

-3

I do and was put on the medication propranolol for it a few months ago,as it got really bad and was having huge panic attacks. It's helped me and I should of got help sooner.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Posting this via PM from another user with their permission.

I've had anxiety since childhood. Being on the spectrum it kind of comes with the territory. Fortunately, after lots of therapy and finding the right medication I've learned to manage it. A huge breakthrough was realising that I would never eradicate it, there would never be any curing it'once and for all'. I have felt much more at peace since then.

Mindfulness, eating well and getting outside are essential for me to stay balanced.

Also life changing was learning to recognise that:

My thoughts and opinions are not facts,

if I'm ruminating or worrying then I'm not in the present,

Avoiding triggers reinforces the power they have to cause anxiety. Gentle exposure is necessary.

That's just me and I'm sure everyone is different, but the journey I've made over the last three years has literally saved my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not technically been diagnosed with anxiety, but i was told by doctors that I worry too much about my children and worry too much about the future and all the possible outcomes of situations. Then i get this self referral website for counselling and never really go any further it.

But live with anxiety every day. I don't want to leave my house on my own unless I have a purpose like somewhere i have to be such as work, school runs, etc but if it's just food shopping and I'm on my own I really struggle to do this.

And it is effecting the swinging side as I'm severely self conscious and worried how i look to others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some are aware I had a complete breakdown 2 years ago now. I was off work 9 months. Had to totally rebuild my confidence from the ground up.

It was proper strange though, I could go to clubs etc and fear nothing, no panic attacks, no anxiety. Well, it wasn't actually that strange when you look closely at it. People in clubs had nothing to prove to me, no reason to try to trick me or manipulate me. If they want a fuck they'll ask, and in my experience people have taken rejection gracefully. They owed me nothing and I owed them nothing.

I have anxiety attacks if something doesn't quite add up, if I sense I'm being lied to, if someone is trying to take advantage or take me for a cunt. I have anxiety attacks if I think someone isn't being honest with me or themselves, or if someones intentions don't appear to be what they say they are.

How do I manage it? Sometimes not very well at all. I haven't worked out yet how to "be kind to myself"

I'm still my own worst critic, but I've learned it's ok for me to not be perfect, it's ok for me to get things wrong, I'm human not fucking superwoman.

It's ok for me to cry and have emotion, as long as I recognise it for what it is.

I over analyse, I know I do.

But I'm me, I'm still here and I'm loved for being me, not for pretending to be someone I'm not, or hiding behind a mask of perfection. I'm far from perfect but I'm perfectly me.

P

Thanks for sharing that Peach, it sounds brutal but also a positive that you know your triggers and it sounds like you have a management plan. Past trauma can be an absolute bitch! "

My management plan was never to let anyone in again, not REALLY in. Fucked that one right up didn't I?

It's scary, but I'm not prepared to let the past rule the rest of my life. I have scars yes, but I'm a fucking warrior.

P

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

As you know, OP, I have a number of coping strategies - one being avoiding public transport and taking my “chariot” (taxi) when I’m struggling.

I often struggle to talk to people about what I really need from them though; it gravitates back into how they’d like support from me and sometimes I just can’t cope with hearing it at a time when I need someone to really *hear* me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and an extreme anxiety disorder went along with it.

I didn't really deal with it at all until about 6 years ago.

At first I simply took the meds prescribed to me and though it helped dull my symptoms, it dulled everything else too.

I'm not medicated now, except for cbd and with the help of a few people close to me I'm doing better than ever.

Anxiety still hits in a big way at times, but I've learnt how to cope with it. Distraction is a big help for me, whether it be art, music, movies or chatting shit on here (or somewhere else). I remind myself that it won't last forever, it never does and that my track record of getting through tough times is 100%.

Mental illness is a tricky thing to navigate for anyone, and honestly, reading about other people's experiences has helped me so much, so now I share things in a blog in the hope I can help someone else who's struggling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Almost 12 years ago I was thrown into a sea of despair at the loss of a child - I tried to support the mum (now my ex) and failed to see that I was falling apart. I threw myself into work and gin, refusing all offers of assistance with the consequences that i crashed. My manager was brilliant and said, "we were waiting for you to realise" but in a very supportive way. I had CBT and the penny dropped very quickly.

I went from there to doing loads of courses and qualifications, I'm not a counsellor but am Mental Health First Aid and suicide awareness trained, have put together mental health awareness training programmes for various companies and taken 2 organisations through the Time to Change accreditation.

So last year when it hit me again I was surprised, this time it was different, it crept up with no real trigger and was more about self doubt and worrying about little things. I knew the signs and had my coping mechanisms but the "background noise" in my head just drowned everything logical out.

Another course of therapy and using a worry diary, making time and space to worry and talking about my fears had really helped.

I guess my message to anyone is that no one size fits all when it comes to mental wellbeing management. And what once fitted you might not in the future - the same as clothes, sometimes we want a sturdy pair of Jean's and sometimes the comfortable joggers.

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By *ustyLeRouxWoman
over a year ago

Brecon

Had anxiety and depression "officially" since 2011. Though probably earlier maybe even as early as 13. I am on the right meds that work for me when I first joined here I had 0 worries and was probably a bit too casual about it. Also possibly have EUPD which doesn't help! Hey ho.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I've not technically been diagnosed with anxiety, but i was told by doctors that I worry too much about my children and worry too much about the future and all the possible outcomes of situations. Then i get this self referral website for counselling and never really go any further it.

But live with anxiety every day. I don't want to leave my house on my own unless I have a purpose like somewhere i have to be such as work, school runs, etc but if it's just food shopping and I'm on my own I really struggle to do this.

And it is effecting the swinging side as I'm severely self conscious and worried how i look to others."

I think that the worst thing about suffering is the way that you tell yourself that you're less than you are, living with that daily can be and is crippling. I would urge you to refer yourself, get the help that you need.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I had it no I have it and always will on and off. I have done meds (off them now) Cbt few times but one day I realize d that fuck it this is not going to beat me I spent two years in hell crying all the time not leaving the house much finding the smallest things to do so so hard (eg getting hair cut going to a shop thinking people could see I had it. Then one day after I came so close to ending my life it scared me and I decided to ACCEPT it and decided to learn from it. For me once I accepted It and stopped trying to fight it. It really did lose its power over me. More I fought it worse it got. Yeah are not alone xxxx hug god bless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suffer but have never been on medication. I guess I just don't feel the need for it... Yet. Some days I struggle to leave the house. My partner is my rock and such a support. I do however take magnesium daily which someone recommended to me and I feel like it does help.

L. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep I had it no I have it and always will on and off. I have done meds (off them now) Cbt few times but one day I realize d that fuck it this is not going to beat me I spent two years in hell crying all the time not leaving the house much finding the smallest things to do so so hard (eg getting hair cut going to a shop thinking people could see I had it. Then one day after I came so close to ending my life it scared me and I decided to ACCEPT it and decided to learn from it. For me once I accepted It and stopped trying to fight it. It really did lose its power over me. More I fought it worse it got. Yeah are not alone xxxx hug god bless "

Fuck I totally hear you on the thinking people can see it. I was thinking people could see it, and would then either be laughing at me for "being weak" or use that knowledge to take advantage of the fact I was in a vulnerable mental state.

P

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Yep I had it no I have it and always will on and off. I have done meds (off them now) Cbt few times but one day I realize d that fuck it this is not going to beat me I spent two years in hell crying all the time not leaving the house much finding the smallest things to do so so hard (eg getting hair cut going to a shop thinking people could see I had it. Then one day after I came so close to ending my life it scared me and I decided to ACCEPT it and decided to learn from it. For me once I accepted It and stopped trying to fight it. It really did lose its power over me. More I fought it worse it got. Yeah are not alone xxxx hug god bless

Fuck I totally hear you on the thinking people can see it. I was thinking people could see it, and would then either be laughing at me for "being weak" or use that knowledge to take advantage of the fact I was in a vulnerable mental state.

P"

This is part of it as well I think. There is a sense of shame (wrongly) associated with it and the feeling that it somehow shows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep I had it no I have it and always will on and off. I have done meds (off them now) Cbt few times but one day I realize d that fuck it this is not going to beat me I spent two years in hell crying all the time not leaving the house much finding the smallest things to do so so hard (eg getting hair cut going to a shop thinking people could see I had it. Then one day after I came so close to ending my life it scared me and I decided to ACCEPT it and decided to learn from it. For me once I accepted It and stopped trying to fight it. It really did lose its power over me. More I fought it worse it got. Yeah are not alone xxxx hug god bless

Fuck I totally hear you on the thinking people can see it. I was thinking people could see it, and would then either be laughing at me for "being weak" or use that knowledge to take advantage of the fact I was in a vulnerable mental state.

Trust me anyone going threw it is not weak there the strongest. Accepting was the key for me

P"

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I do apologise to people if I've missed responding to their stories on this thread. I am reading every one and I'm sure others are too. Thank you for your contributions.

It takes a huge amount of courage to speak up about this, so for that I sincerely thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep I had it no I have it and always will on and off. I have done meds (off them now) Cbt few times but one day I realize d that fuck it this is not going to beat me I spent two years in hell crying all the time not leaving the house much finding the smallest things to do so so hard (eg getting hair cut going to a shop thinking people could see I had it. Then one day after I came so close to ending my life it scared me and I decided to ACCEPT it and decided to learn from it. For me once I accepted It and stopped trying to fight it. It really did lose its power over me. More I fought it worse it got. Yeah are not alone xxxx hug god bless

Fuck I totally hear you on the thinking people can see it. I was thinking people could see it, and would then either be laughing at me for "being weak" or use that knowledge to take advantage of the fact I was in a vulnerable mental state.

Trust me anyone going threw it is not weak there the strongest. Accepting was the key for me

P"

Having come out the other side I worked out how strong I am. I have the highest respect for those who find themselves in the darkness. It's a truly frightening, deflating, place. The worst thing about it for me was not knowing the timescale it was going to last. If you break a bone or have other medical all stuff going on then you're given a recovery timescale, the not knowing when or if I was ever gonna see the sunshine I was longing to witness was so so difficult

P

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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Proper man hug's with my mates.

With this in mind, anyone (male or female) in the Stockport area want to meet for hugs and a chat about life, feel free to drop a message and lets get this sorted.

Mental health is a big thing we can deal with together.

I am a very confident and competitive person, so having anxiety is a bit of a shock for me and has proper hit me hard, shook me to the core, but you know what, mates and chatting about it, being honest with people, helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Beautiful and brave post TM, well done buddy

My story is too complicated for the forum, but yeah, I've always been an anxious one, triggered by some trauma seven years ago. I'm a little unconventional in my thinking, I overthink a fuck load if I don't keep myself in check, most of my help ultimately comes from within, with a little external input, learning and self analysis.

Good to raise this issue though, I've noticed the forum collects a lot of like minds, even if they often won't admit it....

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Proper man hug's with my mates.

With this in mind, anyone (male or female) in the Stockport area want to meet for hugs and a chat about life, feel free to drop a message and lets get this sorted.

Mental health is a big thing we can deal with together.

I am a very confident and competitive person, so having anxiety is a bit of a shock for me and has proper hit me hard, shook me to the core, but you know what, mates and chatting about it, being honest with people, helps.

"

I think it's great that you have friends that you can connect with about it, for me that's been one of the hardest things.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Beautiful and brave post TM, well done buddy

My story is too complicated for the forum, but yeah, I've always been an anxious one, triggered by some trauma seven years ago. I'm a little unconventional in my thinking, I overthink a fuck load if I don't keep myself in check, most of my help ultimately comes from within, with a little external input, learning and self analysis.

Good to raise this issue though, I've noticed the forum collects a lot of like minds, even if they often won't admit it.... "

I agree with you about like minded folks on the forums. There is a degree of 'you shouldn't be here if you feel like that' around, I'd say quite the opposite really, this site can be a huge source of comfort and the forums a fantastic resource if put to use.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As you know, OP, I have a number of coping strategies - one being avoiding public transport and taking my “chariot” (taxi) when I’m struggling.

I often struggle to talk to people about what I really need from them though; it gravitates back into how they’d like support from me and sometimes I just can’t cope with hearing it at a time when I need someone to really *hear* me. "

How would be the best way to ask you what help you needed. I have times when people are struggling and I offer company or a listening ear but dont know if that is enough to really let them know I mean it. I know when I get offered the same I always think its nice of them but never take up the offer either. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amongst other things I suffer from anxiety. Combined with paranoia it can make for interesting times bit theres more than paranoia amd anxiety i have to contend with bu they are the most debilitating. At its worst it very nearly killed me, not because I'd rather be dead (I really wouldn't I fucking love being alive!) but because at it's worst it becomes all consuming and so overwhelming I can't switch it off and I just want it to stop. I suspect that won't make sense to many people.

How do I cope, I just do. I recognise triggers and warning signs, I avoid getting overwhelmed, I exercise a lot, I say no to a lot of things socially and I got sober. And I have a very supportive partner. They all help in their own way, it's a balancing act. I know balance is important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have ptsd which can manifest itself as anxiety.. I ve always self managed.. Mother nature, dance and music.. It does work for me though it is a hard discipline installed by military many moons ago

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By *anni and RicCouple
over a year ago

York

Gotta follow this xxx #beenthere

Ric x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had my moments. Not something I think I wish to share on here.

I've had a massive learning curve from sharing via this site.

There are some awful people on here who prey on people they perceive to be vulnerable!!

Lesson learned and barriers well and truly up.

It's difficult to watch when they hop from one to the next and so on. Trying to manipulate because it makes them feel better about themselves.

Air on the side of caution

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had my moments. Not something I think I wish to share on here.

I've had a massive learning curve from sharing via this site.

There are some awful people on here who prey on people they perceive to be vulnerable!!

Lesson learned and barriers well and truly up.

It's difficult to watch when they hop from one to the next and so on. Trying to manipulate because it makes them feel better about themselves.

Air on the side of caution "

It's almost as if you have a problem with a specific individual on here......

Hope you find some happiness soon my love, it's great when it happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have it and I hope by using grounding methods they seem to work for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have it, alongside depression, which is a joy.

For me mindfulness has helped immensely, although I find it works best in a creative form - sewing, art, drawing.

And diazepam, lovely diazepam....

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"Are you a sufferer and if so, how do you manage it?

I was diagnosed with anxiety a little over a year ago, up until that point I had spent 6 months sliding into an awful mental mess of negativity and self criticism. I couldn't understand what was wrong with me. I cut myself off from others, I stopped doing the things that I wanted, then the things that I needed. Eventually I hit a crisis point and sought the help that was vital and probably saved my life.

I deal with it on a daily basis but I've learnt to manage it. As a result I'm far more attuned to the signs in others and I make pains to open the discussion up as much as possible about mental health in general. Which is the reason for this thread.

I'm aware that many forumites also suffer with this and as much as there may be a stigma attached to it, it's only through awareness and discussion that it will improve. So please, if you're comfortable to, share your stories and experiences, how you manage it and live your lives. If this helps just one person to recognise their own anxiety then that will be a huge positive.

"

I had my first anxiety attack on the eve of my 2nd year (university) maths exam. As you could imagine, I did not do well.

It's my anxiety which drives my depression which then drives my anxiety to create a feedback loop.

I first try to manage my anxiety before it escalates, usually by taking control of my breathing. If that doesn't work and the feelings persist I will try to distract myself the best I can and just generally try to ignore it. It doesn't always work but it's the best I have.

I saw thos thread last night but was unable to respond. I hope this might help somebody.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Early to bed, early to rise. Plenty of fresh air and nature. Give yourself a month.

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Before i joined fab i wos wors than a hermit crab.

But thanks to fab ans sum friends ive made on fab I'm now no longer in a shell.

Wot got me out ?

We'll a fab social in short.

Yes i wos terrified of the thought of going to London but in the end i just took a deep breath and went.

My advice to you op wood be just go and do it.

Take a big berth.

Choo on a snikers

And just do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's gotten worse as I've got older

The last 3 years have been a struggle

Mine manifests itself in a kind of agoraphobia way

I am rarely comfortable when travelling or away from home

It's a weird feeling. I feel like I don't belong there, that something bad is going happen, sometimes like I can't breathe or that the world is too small, like I'm being crushed by it - this is even more the case if the sky is grey

If I travel by plane, the panic attacks can be controlled, just, but only on short flights

The end result is that I am never more than 3 or 4 hours from home at any one time (including check in time if a plane is involved)

I need to know I can get back & quickly

It's a damn shame. I hate it. I feel paralysed by it. I love travelling, but I now feel like I can't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only thing that keeps my anxiety at bay is Sertraline. 150mg every morning.

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By *inn2000Woman
over a year ago

belfast

This thread is fantastic - thank you OP.

There is a tendency to think that if we are on fab we must be joyfully upbeat at all times. But as mentioned, one of the things about this site is that its a collection of like minded people and I would think mental health problems might be a recurring theme among people who are sensual beings?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have for years. I don’t really know how I ‘mange’ it, I’m a big ball of mess most of the time.

I’ve been in and out of therapy since I was about 15, been on antidepressants, tried most things...nah. Nothing really helps.

My anxiety is sky high at the moment

Do you have specific triggers or coping mechanisms to use when it gets really bad? "

I wish I did have specific triggers, it’s random as fuck and I hate it. I can be having a lovely time out with friends and just crash. I can be at home and just start crying because I feel so anxious. I hate it

Coping mechanisms when I’m at home is cuddling my dogs, it sounds so ‘meh’ but when I start crying they’ll run over with toys and jump on me to try make me feel better, it’s so adorable that it works. But when I’m in full panic attack mode I just need to be on my own, with my husband and he will just try talk me down.

Listening to Harry Potter audio books makes me feel calmer as well

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"I've had my moments. Not something I think I wish to share on here.

I've had a massive learning curve from sharing via this site.

There are some awful people on here who prey on people they perceive to be vulnerable!!

Lesson learned and barriers well and truly up.

It's difficult to watch when they hop from one to the next and so on. Trying to manipulate because it makes them feel better about themselves.

Air on the side of caution

It's almost as if you have a problem with a specific individual on here......

Hope you find some happiness soon my love, it's great when it happens

"

If someone posts a post that has nothing to do with the OP and is just an obvious dig then report rather than answer so it can be dealt with.

You both need to stop this please as asked on another thread. If you don't you are likely to be banned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Back in 2017 I was off work for seven months, I miscarried and needed surgery within those seven months and that obviously didn’t help.

I eventually never went back to that job, it made me an anxious wreck and my manager was a cold hearted bitch. I used to work with all age ranges but when I came back she wanted me to work solely with babies. I had been asking for this for about a year and was told no. Only when I miscarried would she try and make me. I quit and got a new job and felt better.

Last year I ended up being off for two months due to work again, but anyone who knows the situation can see why I was off.

It’s just shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fellow sufferer here, been suffering with anxiety and depression since my late teens. It comes and goes in phases throughout my life and i hate it. The last 3 years of my life have been a nightmare, having a massive impact on my life and relationships. Over the years ive become a master of hiding it with people saying im confident but inside im a mess.. ive finally found a decent type of nedication and have been coping with meditation and yoga. It all helps, chin up, tomorrows another day

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By *angerous123Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Yeah developed it in recent years...pretty much on self destruct the last 2 or 3 until things came to a head and I went to the doctors. Still...those meds sat in my drawer until they came for my house, i decided enough was enough and I got over the fear and popped one. I'm about 5 weeks into meds now feeling far better. Urge anyone to seek help. Don't let things slip like I did, I'll suffer the consequences for years to come unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brilliant thread OP hopefully the advice and the sharing of triggers and coping skills etc can help whether posting in the thread or just reading it.

Please if this thread gets to big then defo start another one.

Some great information on here guys xxxx

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By *ancersCouple
over a year ago

Lurking in the forums

I got hit with anxiety about 7 years ago, totally out of the blue, and it crippled me. I was prescribed propanalol which dulled everything, but helped somewhat. I couldn't work, go out, or deal with other people at all. Fast forward a couple of very miserable years, and on top of the anxiety my back had gotten to a point where I could barely walk. Taking the dog for a walk wasn't just an incredibly anxious, stressful activity, it was now impossible.

One evening, while channel hopping on the TV, I stumbled upon my 'cure', although I didn't realise it at the time. We have a large mixed breed, adult-rescue, dog aggressive dog. Walks were a nightmare. The guy on TV was called Cesar Milan, and he was called The Dog Whisperer. He went to the home of some poor soul with a very dog aggressive dog, and watched them trying to walk this dog in the vicinity of other dogs, and all hell was breaking loose. 'That looks familiar', I thought. Within 5 minutes, Cesar was walking the same dog, passing other dogs, without any problem. My jaw hit the floor! After watching every episode, buying and reading every book, and doing everything in my power to follow his methods, we were making good progress.

It took months of hard work, but as any dog owner knows, you'll do anything to help your dog. My back was improving, through posture, and by becoming the person I needed to be to help my dog out, I was dealing with situations I couldn't have faced before. I needed to become calm, assertive, and a 'pack leader' for my dog. As the months rolled on, being that person for my dog when we were out became easier, and it just became a more natural state to be in. The anxiety had faded, my confidence had grown, and my back was fine. I could deal with daily life, and anything tricky just needs a thought of 'I can just Dog Whisper the fuck out of that!' and in I go and deal with it.

I owe my sanity to Cesar Milan, and if I ever get the chance to meet him, I'll happily drop to my knees and give him a sloppy blow-job!

M. (male)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had anxiety since I was a teen. Cbd oil is working for me.

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By *eandHim2019Couple
over a year ago

preston

I have times where I'm so chilled and can do anything and I beat myself up when my anxiety is sky hi and I struggled to write a reply to a message on here. I hate it I don't know what triggers it, I listen to everything that is said to me and I can spend a few weeks in a good place, mood plummets and every word that wasn't meant as negatively said to me wraps round me and rockets my anxiety and then I'm a mess. Been on meds etc now I just ride the good weeks and handle the bad as much as I can xxx

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

I know it sounds stupid but I've had a lot of medical issues recently , it made me paranoid and anxious. But one thing always helped me, and it even makes me well up typing this .

I used to worry all day about it , until I got home, the second I open the door and I get my little furball jumping all over me , my worries seem to melt away . Stupid , I know , but I truly believe that without Pooch I would worry myself to death!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have suffered on and off since my teens with both anxiety and depression. I don’t know what my triggers are but I know it made me very vulnerable and my ex used it to his full advantage. I’ve been on these new meds for a few months now and don’t feel like I can sit and cry all day. I don’t panic at the thought of having to go out alone no more. I’ve also got two disabled sons who suffer as well so I’m strong for them. I’m not sure what the long term answer is for me, I’m just doing the best I can each day x

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"Have suffered on and off since my teens with both anxiety and depression. I don’t know what my triggers are but I know it made me very vulnerable and my ex used it to his full advantage. I’ve been on these new meds for a few months now and don’t feel like I can sit and cry all day. I don’t panic at the thought of having to go out alone no more. I’ve also got two disabled sons who suffer as well so I’m strong for them. I’m not sure what the long term answer is for me, I’m just doing the best I can each day x "
That's all anyone can do . You are a strong, and wonderful lady

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have suffered on and off since my teens with both anxiety and depression. I don’t know what my triggers are but I know it made me very vulnerable and my ex used it to his full advantage. I’ve been on these new meds for a few months now and don’t feel like I can sit and cry all day. I don’t panic at the thought of having to go out alone no more. I’ve also got two disabled sons who suffer as well so I’m strong for them. I’m not sure what the long term answer is for me, I’m just doing the best I can each day x That's all anyone can do . You are a strong, and wonderful lady "

Thanks slim x

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"Have suffered on and off since my teens with both anxiety and depression. I don’t know what my triggers are but I know it made me very vulnerable and my ex used it to his full advantage. I’ve been on these new meds for a few months now and don’t feel like I can sit and cry all day. I don’t panic at the thought of having to go out alone no more. I’ve also got two disabled sons who suffer as well so I’m strong for them. I’m not sure what the long term answer is for me, I’m just doing the best I can each day x That's all anyone can do . You are a strong, and wonderful lady

Thanks slim x "
My pleasure xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know it sounds stupid but I've had a lot of medical issues recently , it made me paranoid and anxious. But one thing always helped me, and it even makes me well up typing this .

I used to worry all day about it , until I got home, the second I open the door and I get my little furball jumping all over me , my worries seem to melt away . Stupid , I know , but I truly believe that without Pooch I would worry myself to death!!"

Dogs are pure magic

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"I know it sounds stupid but I've had a lot of medical issues recently , it made me paranoid and anxious. But one thing always helped me, and it even makes me well up typing this .

I used to worry all day about it , until I got home, the second I open the door and I get my little furball jumping all over me , my worries seem to melt away . Stupid , I know , but I truly believe that without Pooch I would worry myself to death!!

Dogs are pure magic "
Hes my life

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Again thank you to those that have posted, I know just how hard it can be to discuss at times, especially as anxiety makes you believe that your words don't matter.

I will respond fully in due course.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Anxiety is for wimps and pussies.

Until it happened to me. Years and years of feelings I had pushed down and ignored from my past regarding my employment and past all came out after one confidence knocking trigger.

It was extremely humbling and scary to go from someone I was clearly not to a scared insecure lump of a bloke.

Good friends, time therapy and a brief course of sertraline put me back together a better person.

Saying things like “man up” is the worst when the shoe was on the other foot.

Brave stories on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got tinnitus from it, I kinda got it under control but its surfacing again and I don't know why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Posting this via PM from another user with their permission.

I've had anxiety since childhood. Being on the spectrum it kind of comes with the territory. Fortunately, after lots of therapy and finding the right medication I've learned to manage it. A huge breakthrough was realising that I would never eradicate it, there would never be any curing it'once and for all'. I have felt much more at peace since then.

Mindfulness, eating well and getting outside are essential for me to stay balanced.

Also life changing was learning to recognise that:

My thoughts and opinions are not facts,

if I'm ruminating or worrying then I'm not in the present,

Avoiding triggers reinforces the power they have to cause anxiety. Gentle exposure is necessary.

That's just me and I'm sure everyone is different, but the journey I've made over the last three years has literally saved my life."

I know it's a massive cliché but feel the fear and do it anyway.

Avoiding situations that cause anxiety doesn't help in the long run. It's not keeping you safe, it's holding you back.

Gentle exposure is necessary (in my opinion) to move forward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anyone needs to chat or just wants to chat pm me xxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only thing that keeps my anxiety at bay is Sertraline. 150mg every morning. "
no it’s helping you your the one doing it

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I get really anxious in new situations and meeting new people. Millions of reasons go around my head as to why I should just stay in and avoid doing anything that makes me feel that way. I talk with nerves and this comes across as confidence and it's so far from what I feel inside. I've been pushing myself to get out of my comfort zone, sometimes it works and I relax, other times it doesn't and I leave and go home early. I try to take each day and moment as it comes and try not to stress about what I can't control x

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Anxiety is for wimps and pussies.

Until it happened to me. Years and years of feelings I had pushed down and ignored from my past regarding my employment and past all came out after one confidence knocking trigger.

It was extremely humbling and scary to go from someone I was clearly not to a scared insecure lump of a bloke.

Good friends, time therapy and a brief course of sertraline put me back together a better person.

Saying things like “man up” is the worst when the shoe was on the other foot.

Brave stories on here. "

Personally I hate that phrase and sums up, in a nutshell, the popular opinion towards mental health and towards men too!

I'm glad that you're doing better now.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I got tinnitus from it, I kinda got it under control but its surfacing again and I don't know why"

Do you mean the anxiety or the tinnitus?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only thing that keeps my anxiety at bay is Sertraline. 150mg every morning.

no it’s helping you your the one doing it "

Aww love that.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Yeah developed it in recent years...pretty much on self destruct the last 2 or 3 until things came to a head and I went to the doctors. Still...those meds sat in my drawer until they came for my house, i decided enough was enough and I got over the fear and popped one. I'm about 5 weeks into meds now feeling far better. Urge anyone to seek help. Don't let things slip like I did, I'll suffer the consequences for years to come unfortunately "

Don't kick yourself for what happened, deal with the consequences as best you can but be gentle and kind with yourself. Anxiety makes us behave in strange ways at times.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I have for years. I don’t really know how I ‘mange’ it, I’m a big ball of mess most of the time.

I’ve been in and out of therapy since I was about 15, been on antidepressants, tried most things...nah. Nothing really helps.

My anxiety is sky high at the moment

Do you have specific triggers or coping mechanisms to use when it gets really bad?

I wish I did have specific triggers, it’s random as fuck and I hate it. I can be having a lovely time out with friends and just crash. I can be at home and just start crying because I feel so anxious. I hate it

Coping mechanisms when I’m at home is cuddling my dogs, it sounds so ‘meh’ but when I start crying they’ll run over with toys and jump on me to try make me feel better, it’s so adorable that it works. But when I’m in full panic attack mode I just need to be on my own, with my husband and he will just try talk me down.

Listening to Harry Potter audio books makes me feel calmer as well "

That sounds really tough, reacting to it rather than preventing is a kind of anxiety in itself.

It's good that you know what helps to alleviate it though and it's great that you have your husband to help.

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By *imandHerNottsCouple
over a year ago

North Notts

I soldiered on with it for a decade but when the panic attacks started and then became more frequent I sought some help.

I had about 8 months on beta blockers. After 3 weeks or so I felt much more of the inner calm, after 6 months I began to wonder if a needed them any more. So I dropped the dosage by 50% and after 4 weeks halved it again and then stopped entirely.

I’ve now managed to live 2 years without them. I do at least 3 hours of exercise per day 5-7 days per week. I avoid caffeine and remain mindful of consuming too much alcohol.

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By *imandHerNottsCouple
over a year ago

North Notts

Oh and since I regained my equilibrium I have barely experienced the insomnia which was such a big and draining part of my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have mental health issues and have been fully focused at mind for last 2 years and they have literally changed my life and my outlook. They are a God send have you tried mindfulness and meditation I can recommend headspace x

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

I used always use school, college, work as excuses to not do or try new things. Right up to my late twenties. Right up until I was made redundant and had nothing to hid behind anymore. Started my own business and the added stress just became too much. One day I had just had enough and went to see my GP who referred me for counselling. At the start I wasn’t taking it too seriously, secretly waiting for the counseller to give me the quick fix. Then one night o was out with friends and something triggered. Mentally I shut down, could barely speak to anyone. After this I started doing the exercises and using the tools the counseller was trying to teach me.

Still get bouts of anxiety today but I’m better able to deal with them and can spots the signs earlier.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"This thread is fantastic - thank you OP.

There is a tendency to think that if we are on fab we must be joyfully upbeat at all times. But as mentioned, one of the things about this site is that its a collection of like minded people and I would think mental health problems might be a recurring theme among people who are sensual beings? "

Quite possibly, I do think though that mental health problems are far more prevalent than many people would believe and so many suffer in silence.

I've often thought that the very nature of anxiety is insidious and stops us from doing the very things that would actually help, even expressing about it can help but many are afraid to speak up. Talking, sharing and listening can help so many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go out walking with head phones taking in nature. Colour therapy and slowly weaning my medication down to a lower dosage x

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I have mental health issues and have been fully focused at mind for last 2 years and they have literally changed my life and my outlook. They are a God send have you tried mindfulness and meditation I can recommend headspace x"

Mind are fantastic, literal lifesavers. They're my charity of choice and I plan on running for them later this year (hopefully!)

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Therapy, medication, sleep hygiene, exercise/ weight lifting in particular, facing my fears, finding people who accept me. And more therapy.

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By *eldomVanillaMan
over a year ago

London

Talk to someone. Use an annoymanous helpline.

Or find your space find a quiet room and speak to yourself. Say your feelings out loud. Share your fears and your wants with yourself. Let you hear your own words in your own place where you feel comfortable. Let your internal dialogue explode, cry breakdown and let the emotion release.

Hearing yourself out loud is louder than keeping it inside

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

The thing that I've found more than anything is that there isn't a magical 'cure all' for anxiety. It affects people in different ways and triggers can vary massively from person to person, just as the management and treatment does.

The one thing that I do know though is that suffering alone isn't the answer. If you're struggling, then please, seek help, there are people and organisations out there that can and will help. Counselling was great for me, for others it may be CBT or other cognitive based therapies. There are medications that can and will help too.

It's not a weakness to seek help, it takes courage and real strength.

To anyone reading this now or in the future, I'm always available for a chat, PM me, I'll always be happy to help in any way shape or form that I can.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"The thing that I've found more than anything is that there isn't a magical 'cure all' for anxiety. It affects people in different ways and triggers can vary massively from person to person, just as the management and treatment does.

The one thing that I do know though is that suffering alone isn't the answer. If you're struggling, then please, seek help, there are people and organisations out there that can and will help. Counselling was great for me, for others it may be CBT or other cognitive based therapies. There are medications that can and will help too.

It's not a weakness to seek help, it takes courage and real strength.

To anyone reading this now or in the future, I'm always available for a chat, PM me, I'll always be happy to help in any way shape or form that I can. "

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By *essons in LustCouple
over a year ago

huddersfield

Cbd oil has been like a godsend

I studied it for years to help with my eldest child’s bad epilepsy and during that time I used it myself because she can’t tell me what it feels like .

I couldn’t believe the amazing positive effect it has had on me !

I was extremely stressed before and now I take it every day

Everything is helped from anxiety to depression and sleep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got tinnitus from it, I kinda got it under control but its surfacing again and I don't know why

Do you mean the anxiety or the tinnitus? "

The tinnitus is 24/7 and still relentless in my head, the anxiety has been showing itself lately and I don't know why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More you fight it the worse it will get 1 accept you have it 2 welcome it say hello to it acknowledge it. Give it a name if you wish have a little chat with it. 3 get going and do your daily business every little thing you do will be an achievement you will feel better for it. More you do these things the more it will deminish the power it has over you. This is what I learnt after a lot of doctors and now I am good after years of hell fighting with my own brain. Odd belt of it but I can deal with it.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"More you fight it the worse it will get 1 accept you have it 2 welcome it say hello to it acknowledge it. Give it a name if you wish have a little chat with it. 3 get going and do your daily business every little thing you do will be an achievement you will feel better for it. More you do these things the more it will deminish the power it has over you. This is what I learnt after a lot of doctors and now I am good after years of hell fighting with my own brain. Odd belt of it but I can deal with it. "

That's great that that works for you, I would hasten to add though that for some, getting up and about, either isn't possible or it isn't an option.

Learning what works for each individual case is part of the treatment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"More you fight it the worse it will get 1 accept you have it 2 welcome it say hello to it acknowledge it. Give it a name if you wish have a little chat with it. 3 get going and do your daily business every little thing you do will be an achievement you will feel better for it. More you do these things the more it will deminish the power it has over you. This is what I learnt after a lot of doctors and now I am good after years of hell fighting with my own brain. Odd belt of it but I can deal with it.

That's great that that works for you, I would hasten to add though that for some, getting up and about, either isn't possible or it isn't an option.

Learning what works for each individual case is part of the treatment. "
100% agree. We are all different and will find our own ways. Guess I was trying to show you can get past it. Hugs to yeah all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thing that I've found more than anything is that there isn't a magical 'cure all' for anxiety. It affects people in different ways and triggers can vary massively from person to person, just as the management and treatment does.

The one thing that I do know though is that suffering alone isn't the answer. If you're struggling, then please, seek help, there are people and organisations out there that can and will help. Counselling was great for me, for others it may be CBT or other cognitive based therapies. There are medications that can and will help too.

It's not a weakness to seek help, it takes courage and real strength.

To anyone reading this now or in the future, I'm always available for a chat, PM me, I'll always be happy to help in any way shape or form that I can. "

My inbox is also open. I'm happy to just listen or to share what has worked for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The key is that the individual needs to be ready to accept help. Need to bring anxiety and mental health into the healing light x

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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Seem's we have a fair few of us willing to talk via the message system if people want.

I (given time) am more than happy to meet over a hot chocolate and chat if that will help.

Sometime's I am really busy, but will always try to help in any way that I can.

We all have those "days", so if you want, have a natter with someone on here via the message system.

I have no training etc, but more than happy to just be "someone" for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Diagnosed with depression 22 years ago, had various times when I've been on medication and times when I've been "fine".

Saw my dad's (horrific) accident (which I blame myself for, as does he and the rest of my family - it's a corker of an elephant in the room and omnipresent) 3 years ago, which came hot on the heels of nearly losing him to encephalitis.

Had ptsd and anxiety (about every damn thing) since then.

I, too, believe that I have nothing to hide, mental illness isn't catching ffs!!!! And if more people talk about it then more people will be helped and more people will be saved.

To those who've never been there - none of what I (and others) live with is pretty - it's debilitating, robs us of so much and is not understood or mandated for in day to day life.

An example, I've been on benefits since my ex left. Initially as I would not put my daughter into daycare and work all hours (can't rely on family help - mothers attitude is my kid my problem and I don't see my dad (who couldn't care for a child in any event now). Now I want to get back to being a productive member of society and show my daughter how things "should" be done. Cue endless judgement by dwp - I get to my appointments every fortnight, er go there's fuck all wrong with me.

I don't sleep, eat shockingly, mostly have zero interest in sex (or anything else), worry about everything, second (and more) guess every decision, am absolutely convinced I'm a shite mother and on and on and on. I can't "pull myself together" because I don't know "why" I have all the conflicts I have about everything I have. Believe you me, id MUCH rather live my life being a good mummy to the Small person, a decent girlfriend/partner to some (not so) lucky chap and work like "normal" folk and I'd LOVE to be able to sleep at night. I'd also love to not take medication in order to get through most days. Above everything else I'd love to not see that day ever again xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seem's we have a fair few of us willing to talk via the message system if people want.

I (given time) am more than happy to meet over a hot chocolate and chat if that will help.

Sometime's I am really busy, but will always try to help in any way that I can.

We all have those "days", so if you want, have a natter with someone on here via the message system.

I have no training etc, but more than happy to just be "someone" for you. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suffered it really badly at one point and it was tied to PTSD. Personally for me I found that learning about what anxiety was really helped.

Once I understood what all of the symptoms and feelings were then I was able to think more rationally and identify what was happening. The next step was to regain control. Then make sure I have myself an hr a day to worry, but then I had to make sure the rest of the day was productive, or at the least distracting. It really helped until eventually it went away.

I believe they call it developing “hardiness” in psychology

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By *thena123Woman
over a year ago

Swansea


"Are you a sufferer and if so, how do you manage it?

I was diagnosed with anxiety a little over a year ago, up until that point I had spent 6 months sliding into an awful mental mess of negativity and self criticism. I couldn't understand what was wrong with me. I cut myself off from others, I stopped doing the things that I wanted, then the things that I needed. Eventually I hit a crisis point and sought the help that was vital and probably saved my life.

I deal with it on a daily basis but I've learnt to manage it. As a result I'm far more attuned to the signs in others and I make pains to open the discussion up as much as possible about mental health in general. Which is the reason for this thread.

I'm aware that many forumites also suffer with this and as much as there may be a stigma attached to it, it's only through awareness and discussion that it will improve. So please, if you're comfortable to, share your stories and experiences, how you manage it and live your lives. If this helps just one person to recognise their own anxiety then that will be a huge positive.

"

I've had it for yrs myself, I also suffer with A/f (atrial fibrillation) so this makes my anxiety so much more harder to control....i get the palpitations,sweaty hands,dizzyness and when I'm really bad I shake from head to toe,feel sick and I sometime pass out....its taken me yrs to recognise my triggers and a while lot of anxiety attacks to find them out...the best advice I can give you is...if you feel like you have one coming on go somewhere quiet, go thro what you've done that day setting or someone may have upset you or said something that you maybe didn't take much notice of at the time but your brain has stored it and it's playing on your mind, once you notice the signs for your triggers you'll manage your anxiety a lot better..but you need to be very in tune with your body listen to it believe me it does give you signs of your triggers.xxx good luck. Xxxx

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Are you a sufferer and if so, how do you manage it?

I was diagnosed with anxiety a little over a year ago, up until that point I had spent 6 months sliding into an awful mental mess of negativity and self criticism. I couldn't understand what was wrong with me. I cut myself off from others, I stopped doing the things that I wanted, then the things that I needed. Eventually I hit a crisis point and sought the help that was vital and probably saved my life.

I deal with it on a daily basis but I've learnt to manage it. As a result I'm far more attuned to the signs in others and I make pains to open the discussion up as much as possible about mental health in general. Which is the reason for this thread.

I'm aware that many forumites also suffer with this and as much as there may be a stigma attached to it, it's only through awareness and discussion that it will improve. So please, if you're comfortable to, share your stories and experiences, how you manage it and live your lives. If this helps just one person to recognise their own anxiety then that will be a huge positive.

I've had it for yrs myself, I also suffer with A/f (atrial fibrillation) so this makes my anxiety so much more harder to control....i get the palpitations,sweaty hands,dizzyness and when I'm really bad I shake from head to toe,feel sick and I sometime pass out....its taken me yrs to recognise my triggers and a while lot of anxiety attacks to find them out...the best advice I can give you is...if you feel like you have one coming on go somewhere quiet, go thro what you've done that day setting or someone may have upset you or said something that you maybe didn't take much notice of at the time but your brain has stored it and it's playing on your mind, once you notice the signs for your triggers you'll manage your anxiety a lot better..but you need to be very in tune with your body listen to it believe me it does give you signs of your triggers.xxx good luck. Xxxx"

I agree with you about triggers, it's hard to work them out at times and unfortunately it takes a few times to pinpoint them but once you know them, it makes dealing and managing so much easier, not fool proof (as yesterday for me proved) but easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of good info

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