FabSwingers.com forum: Swingers...are you one?

By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

It recently dawned on me that the true definition of swingers are those who are in a couple. Husband and wife...partners that kind of thing.

If so then what does that make me I wonder or you?

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Maybe, some time soon. Depends on if I get the mrs interested or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just an attention hungry time waster

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By *adeiteWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Yes. We have a couple's profile on here too

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I'm just an attention hungry time waster"

More like a hungry lioness observing her prey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not lol it's just me, no swaps here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’re just picture hoe’s that occasionally stumble on women to have our wicked kinky ways with.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"I'm just an attention hungry time waster"

some men get off on that too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm just an attention hungry time waster

More like a hungry lioness observing her prey

Well that's the official line

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

I am absolutely vanilla. Shame on me!

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I'm just an attention hungry time waster

More like a hungry lioness observing her prey

Well that's the official line

I'm buying it x

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

No.......sexual release hunter

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I'm just an attention hungry time waster"

Sister!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure what it makes me but I'd like to be an otter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes but the wife is on a time out through illness.

I stay in touch with the scene ready for when she returns.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I'm just a loiterer..

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I'm not sure what it makes me but I'd like to be an otter. "

If I had a magic wand your wish would be my command

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I am not. I just shag around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm just an attention hungry time waster

Sister! "

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"No I'm just a loiterer.. "

Is that with intent

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"No I am not. I just shag around

Nowt wrong with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We share pleasure with others, we don’t swap so I would say no, we aren’t swingers

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

Yes but the wife is on a time out through illness.

I stay in touch with the scene ready for when she returns."

I wish her a speedy recovery x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I'm just a loiterer..

Is that with intent

Ha ha not even that anymore.. I have all I need so I'm just here to ask random questions...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not sure what it makes me but I'd like to be an otter. "

You’re otter than most

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"No I am not. I just shag around

Nowt wrong with that

Some would say he’s a man hoe

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"No.......sexual release hunter

I'm kinda liking that myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the definition of swinging has evolved from ‘Swinging away from a partner and then back to them’.

I see it as more of a mindset that an individual possesses, meaning they enjoy consensual sexual activities with multiple partners, in both one to one and group settings.

I would say that if you are really only interested in one-to-one sex then that’s more NSA sex than swinging per se.

But that’s just my definition

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I'm not sure what it makes me but I'd like to be an otter.

You’re otter than most "

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not sure what it makes me but I'd like to be an otter.

You’re otter than most "

I want to be an otter so I can scurry into places and say 'is it me or has it just got a little otter in here?'

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I'm not sure what it makes me but I'd like to be an otter. "

You know that an 'otter' is a body type description used by gay men?

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I think the definition of swinging has evolved from ‘Swinging away from a partner and then back to them’.

I see it as more of a mindset that an individual possesses, meaning they enjoy consensual sexual activities with multiple partners, in both one to one and group settings.

I would say that if you are really only interested in one-to-one sex then that’s more NSA sex than swinging per se.

But that’s just my definition "

Thanks Doc...I teresting x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not sure what it makes me but I'd like to be an otter.

You know that an 'otter' is a body type description used by gay men? "

I did not. Everyday is a school day.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Personally I'd consider myself a swinger, I think it's a mindset as much as the act.

Multiple partners with no jealousy or possessiveness towards each other is a large part of it, also I've met couples for MMF's, if they're swingers then why am I not also?

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I'm not sure what it makes me but I'd like to be an otter.

You know that an 'otter' is a body type description used by gay men?

I did not. Everyday is a school day. "

Yep, its actually my body type, have a Google, it's worth a chuckle.

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Personally I'd consider myself a swinger, I think it's a mindset as much as the act.

Multiple partners with no jealousy or possessiveness towards each other is a large part of it, also I've met couples for MMF's, if they're swingers then why am I not also? "

I get this

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

"Personally I'd consider myself a swinger, I think it's a mindset as much as the act.

Multiple partners with no jealousy or possessiveness towards each other is a large part of it, also I've met couples for MMF's, if they're swingers then why am I not also? "

Always as deep as the ocean...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It recently dawned on me that the true definition of swingers are those who are in a couple. Husband and wife...partners that kind of thing.

If so then what does that make me I wonder or you?"

Well the swinging community hierarchy is dictated in the following order I believe:

1. Couples (MF)

2. Single women

3. Couples (FF)

4. TVs/TSs

5. Single Guys

If it was for the first two in the hierarchy then the community wouldn’t exist and this would just be another PoF like of community

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we’re swingers, but traditionally it was a case of they went off with the other partner for solo fun whereas we only do same room. So we don’t truly fit into the original definition x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are whatever we define ourselves to be.

We can be what ever we want to be

When we are labelled or label ourselves we do not become that label.

We are human after all, aren't we?

Call me what you will it does not change who we might be....

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By *rK MrsJCouple
over a year ago

Kidderminster

"It recently dawned on me that the true definition of swingers are those who are in a couple. Husband and wife...partners that kind of thing.

If so then what does that make me I wonder or you?"

Very sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not a swinger im just having fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It recently dawned on me that the true definition of swingers are those who are in a couple. Husband and wife...partners that kind of thing.

If so then what does that make me I wonder or you?"

I know, are couples who meet singles genuine swingers, or just on those occasions they're not?

I've just got used to ignoring the lable as this site is a mixed bag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, have considered myself as such since I first started attending clubs and engaging in group sex, even as a single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We most certainly are x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope not me I don’t share

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we’re all just bonkers

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

No I'm definitely not a swinger nor would I want to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are whatever we define ourselves to be.

We can be what ever we want to be

When we are labelled or label ourselves we do not become that label.

We are human after all, aren't we?

Call me what you will it does not change who we might be....

Calling ourselves human surely is a label. Identification is part of who we are and is defined by who we are. If as many today try to loose identification there is a wandering lostness which soon engulfs them. A chicken and egg situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are whatever we define ourselves to be.

We can be what ever we want to be

When we are labelled or label ourselves we do not become that label.

We are human after all, aren't we?

Call me what you will it does not change who we might be....

I agree, how can anything or anyone be described without using so called ‘labels’ this is a sec site not a guessing game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, but to be honest I never spend time wondering.

I think if you do, you'll convince yourself you're an imposter here, when in fact who cares what others think.

Sure theres a small percentage of couples who look in disdain at single profiles, particularly Male, but the sites here to be used in the way you choose?

It's a term that needs to evolve I guess.

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By *inn2000Woman
over a year ago

belfast

"We are whatever we define ourselves to be.

We can be what ever we want to be

When we are labelled or label ourselves we do not become that label.

We are human after all, aren't we?

Call me what you will it does not change who we might be....

This xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It recently dawned on me that the true definition of swingers are those who are in a couple. Husband and wife...partners that kind of thing.

If so then what does that make me I wonder or you?"

That's not my definition of a swinger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are whatever we define ourselves to be.

We can be what ever we want to be

When we are labelled or label ourselves we do not become that label.

We are human after all, aren't we?

Call me what you will it does not change who we might be....

Many words are labels, it's true. And often how we are labelled by others is a shorthand, not necessarily a bad thing, that they may use to identify or describe another. Once applied that shorthand can simply become a means to reinforce how others see us, and therefore a means of either opening or closing ourselves to others based on a shorthand that rarely defines the whole person.

I dont think it necessarily leads to a wandering lostness, more a recognition perhaps that we are all human, all unique, despite labels, and if we are content in our own situations then labels imposed by others, perhaps are less important than our own view of ourself, even if we also use labels to describe that position.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I said similar on another thread - I don't think there is a single definition of what a swinger is any more - it originated in the "swinging" 60s as a result of the start of a move away from traditional family values monogomous relationships to a more "free love" approach for some - it then got taken over in the 70s by the car keys in a bowl wife swapping brigade beloved of the News Of The World.

Nowadays as Doc and _ea monkey have said above I think it's as much a state of mind as anything and as a result it's defined by the individual and therefore can mean many things to many people - the only "constant" being a view that involves potentially multiple sexual partners.

Either way I don't think it really matters how it's defined if we, as individuals, are happy with who we are and what we are doing

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I said similar on another thread - I don't think there is a single definition of what a swinger is any more - it originated in the "swinging" 60s as a result of the start of a move away from traditional family values monogomous relationships to a more "free love" approach for some - it then got taken over in the 70s by the car keys in a bowl wife swapping brigade beloved of the News Of The World.

Either way I don't think it really matters how it's defined if we, as individuals, are happy with who we are and what we are doing

But... But, but, if we dont have strict definitions then how will the couples ring-fence the terms and use it to beat singles over the head with and dismiss them?!

Your way is madness!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is all getting very deep xx

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

I am just a simple cock sucking tart...

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Either way I don't think it really matters how it's defined if we, as individuals, are happy with who we are and what we are doing

But... But, but, if we dont have strict definitions then how will the couples ring-fence the terms and use it to beat singles over the head with and dismiss them?!

Your way is madness!

And my love of Madness is well documented...oh you didn't mean Suggs and co?

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I joined for nsa - I was on dating sites & realised most the men on there were only after the same. At least here you know what people are after rather than going on false dates. Didn’t plan on finding a husband though

J x

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By *xelf787Man
over a year ago

Chorlton, Manchester

It depends which definition you look at.

Swinger- a person who dates/sleeps with multiple people at the same time.

Swingers can be couples (married or not) or singles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I am not. I just shag around

Nowt wrong with that

Some would say he’s a man hoe

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That is right nothing wrong with that, some might say that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a swinger.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Guess we are but it's not a lifestyle it's more of a selected choice at the appropriate time...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not sure what it makes me but I'd like to be an otter.

You’re otter than most

I want to be an otter so I can scurry into places and say 'is it me or has it just got a little otter in here?'"

Have you ever tried a Tarka curry?

It's like a korma but a little otter

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I'm not sure what it makes me but I'd like to be an otter.

You’re otter than most

I want to be an otter so I can scurry into places and say 'is it me or has it just got a little otter in here?'

Have you ever tried a Tarka curry?

It's like a korma but a little otter

Does it give you a ring of bright water?

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

No, I just like looking at pics and casually hoping that one day a hot lady and I will catch each others eyes

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By *itandhotCouple
over a year ago

citywest

We both are at this stage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just me. Hanging out, doing my thing.

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By *lloverkisserMan
over a year ago

preston

I am just a sexual deviant at the mo apparently

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I am not one, shall I get my coat?

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I'm a single woman and yet I do feel part of the swinging community and a swinger.

I attend lots of clubs, socialise, help people find their way in the lifestyle, and occasionally get involved intimately if and when the moment is right. I feel that I am a swinger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It recently dawned on me that the true definition of swingers are those who are in a couple. Husband and wife...partners that kind of thing.

If so then what does that make me I wonder or you?"

Yep defo we are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am not one, shall I get my coat?

I’ll come with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not a swinger but I love the people on this site

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"I am not one, shall I get my coat?

I’ll come with you

Come on then m'lady, sniff sniff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are whatever we define ourselves to be.

We can be what ever we want to be

When we are labelled or label ourselves we do not become that label.

We are human after all, aren't we?

Call me what you will it does not change who we might be....

We'll put you down as a No then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure I would 'swing', I just havn't as yet. A Swinger in waiting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am not one, shall I get my coat?

I’ll come with you

Come on then m'lady, sniff sniff"

Where shall we go

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"I am not one, shall I get my coat?

I’ll come with you

Come on then m'lady, sniff sniff

Where shall we go

To heaven and back Cheeky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No im not a swinger even before sally i wasnt i was just good at sex i tried a swap once and didnt like it totally put me off im too greedy for orgasms i dont like sharing credit im too competetive

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"I'm just an attention hungry time waster"

You're in good company.

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By *ornyhornytwoCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

We are definitely swingers... But a lot of other things too. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, I’m just here to fuck hot men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am not one, shall I get my coat?

I’ll come with you

Come on then m'lady, sniff sniff

Where shall we go

To heaven and back Cheeky

Oi oi what’s goin on ere then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope, I’m just here to fuck hot men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope, I’m just here to fuck hot men

Did you not read her comment properly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope, I’m just here to fuck hot men

Did you not read her comment properly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope, I’m just here to fuck hot men

Did you not read her comment properly?

I could quite literally kill two birds with one stone here!

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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth

We are not swingers but we are sexually liberated.

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By *xelf787Man
over a year ago

Chorlton, Manchester

"We are not swingers but we are sexually liberated.

Everyone likes a bit of liberation!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope, I’m just here to fuck hot men

Did you not read her comment properly?

I could quite literally kill two birds with one stone here!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope, I’m just here to fuck hot men

Did you not read her comment properly?

I could quite literally kill two birds with one stone here!"

Yeah yeah. In your dreams. Like you could handle that

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

"It recently dawned on me that the true definition of swingers are those who are in a couple. Husband and wife...partners that kind of thing.

If so then what does that make me I wonder or you?"

I'm not sure if the labels have that much meaning. Was in this game before I meet my partner and now I am part of a couple. So technically by that logic I'm more of a swinger now than before simply by virtue that I'm in a relationship with a like minded prev. But labels can be misleading because we are together shit swingers; We spend more time propping up the bar, chatting, having a laugh and making new friends than we do having orgies and playing with new people (although we do enjoy an orgy). But what ever we get up to together we have a great time. So don't have much time for labels.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"I'm not sure what it makes me but I'd like to be an otter. "

Thought you might prefer beaver!

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"No I am not. I just shag around

Nowt wrong with that

Some would say he’s a man hoe

That is right nothing wrong with that, some might say that lol

Damn right there’s nothing wrong with that

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

Hi op!

Actually I’d call myself a swinger even though I’m not in a couple!

If I just met single guys on a one to one basis then I’d agree that doesn’t make me a swinger!

However, at clubs and parties I play with women, couples and small groups - hence I’d say that makes me a swinger?

I’m not too concerned if others disagree with the title though - all I know/care about is that I’m having a hell of a lot of fun with some lovely, sexy people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whatever you want me to be. I'm fine with whatever everyone is fine with.....

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"Whatever you want me to be. I'm fine with whatever everyone is fine with.....

What if I want you to be up my chuff in about half an hour?

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By *andonmessMan
over a year ago

A world all of his own

I'm just me, label me as you will *shrug*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whatever you want me to be. I'm fine with whatever everyone is fine with.....

What if I want you to be up my chuff in about half an hour?

I'd say thanks my love but I need to save all my energy for tomorrow..... Xx

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"Whatever you want me to be. I'm fine with whatever everyone is fine with.....

What if I want you to be up my chuff in about half an hour?

I'd say thanks my love but I need to save all my energy for tomorrow..... Xx

Enjoy!

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Hi op!

Actually I’d call myself a swinger even though I’m not in a couple!

If I just met single guys on a one to one basis then I’d agree that doesn’t make me a swinger!

However, at clubs and parties I play with women, couples and small groups - hence I’d say that makes me a swinger?

I’m not too concerned if others disagree with the title though - all I know/care about is that I’m having a hell of a lot of fun with some lovely, sexy people!

To me that is what it's all about. Meeting like minded people. Enjoying the ride and having fun x

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