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Mental stimulation or physical attraction

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38

If there was ONLY the choice of one or the other what would make you get your kit off.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Mental, although tbh I'd rather not.

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Mental, although tbh I'd rather not. "

Yes, I'd rather not either but it's got to be mental for.

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Mental for me over here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need both so if i was forced to choose I would say neither and join a monastery

LJ

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan
over a year ago

stockport wasteland

Mental all the way for me, it's all about the wonder of what we don't know, can't see and haven't touched. Such a turn on only got to worry about the over excitement when you do get to touch eventually

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I find having my mind stimulated far more arousing, than staring at a set of abs & a chiseled jaw line.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was just a fuck, then physical

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I must have a bit of both i'm afraid. I can't be turned on if there's no physical attraction.

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By *illing2016Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

It's too bloody cold at the moment for getting my kit off, so will go with mental.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think I could have only the one.. but for me mental stimulation is the more powerful tool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need both. I’d have a brew instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mental connection.

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

physical

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By *edmark07Man
over a year ago

liverpool

Bit of both for me but if you there's a strong mental connection I'd probably find that enough at least for a social meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physical attraction, if I had to choose one.

I can't have sex with someone I'm not physically attracted to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find having my mind stimulated far more arousing, than staring at a set of abs & a chiseled jaw line.

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I have been attracted to men who have a lot of body fat, and very little muscle.

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38

When I first met my late husband and he asked me out I told him I didn't feel that way about him. I didn't, I wasnt attracted to him and then a strange thing happened over time of getting to know him on a friend level we fell in love. It just shows the power of personality and mind.

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan
over a year ago

stockport wasteland


"When I first met my late husband and he asked me out I told him I didn't feel that way about him. I didn't, I wasnt attracted to him and then a strange thing happened over time of getting to know him on a friend level we fell in love. It just shows the power of personality and mind."
I'm hoping thats how I fall for someone again eventually, physical attraction does help but I think mental is the bigger and better option

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Casual fuck, physical attraction.

Long term both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mental x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has to be both. If it's clear from pics that I don't find them attractive then I wouldn't go any further.

If I do find them attractive then all is good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physical attraction. I can always read a book if I need mental stimulation.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Hmmm...If there can be only one (like Highlander) then on a site like this it's going to be physical.

I want to get into your pants, not check out your IQ...

If that makes me shallow I can live with that

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

Mental stimulation. Has to be a mind to engage with, not just a hot body.

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Hmmm...If there can be only one (like Highlander) then on a site like this it's going to be physical.

I want to get into your pants, not check out your IQ...

If that makes me shallow I can live with that "

I don't think that's shallow at all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Physical attraction. I can always read a book if I need mental stimulation. "

Or just give your wang a rub, they do say men think with their man meat.

Ok, maybe not you. You is a special

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For casual sex? I could probably make do with just physical at first but it wouldn't beta long term arrangement, I'd get bored pretty fast.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For casual sex? I could probably make do with just physical at first but it wouldn't beta long term arrangement, I'd get bored pretty fast. "

*be a

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have to say physical out of those two options. In reality i need both. But in that situation, no mental stimulation is going to make me want to get my kit off if i dont fancy them

Holly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Physical attraction.

I couldn’t have sex with someone I want physically attracted to regardless of how much they stimulate me mentally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mental stimulation all day long.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

I'm definitely a bit mental

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Purely sex? Physical attraction.

I could read a good book afterwards if I wanted stimulated in other ways.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% physical attraction for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mental. Can't get properly turned on without it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One off sex - physical

More than a one off - mental.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Casual fuck, physical attraction.

Long term both."

Definitely this!!... If its just to have naughty naked fun then physical, but anything more than just a quick shag needs to have both!! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mental stimulation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One off sex - physical

More than a one off - mental."

Agreed

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

In the highly unlikely situation it would be for me...physical attraction.

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

As many have said if it's purely sex then physical, neither of us could have sex with ppl we don't find attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mental by itself, physical by itself or both together it’s mostly about connection to me, but if I have to pick one, mental

D.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Physical attraction.

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By *rbean69Man
over a year ago

Stroud

I am only attracted by appearance. It's not choice, it's just the only thing that attracts me in a sexual way. I think women's requirements are more complex. I have worked with many men who claimed looks were unimportant - you should have seen their heads swivel when an attractive woman entered the office! I think there is a lot of political correctness about this issue on the part of men.

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Hmmm.. Difficult one, need the physical attraction but if their a knob forget it no matter how hot they look, so shows personality is needed, so think would have to pass if not registering at least an 8 on both

Maybe that’s why we don’t meet much where we take our clothes off lol, it’s difficult to find a couple where both are what we are attracted to with personalities to match

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mental. I can appreciate physical attraction though there has to be an element of mental attraction, will we get on, how do we agree what boundaries.

Also, without the mental attraction how do you learn new experiences?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think I'm probably a complete mentalist....

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Physical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I have to choose physical attraction would trump mental for a fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you mental

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By *andonmessMan
over a year ago

A world all of his own


"If there was ONLY the choice of one or the other what would make you get your kit off."

I'd have to say I'd go without then. There has to be both physical and mental attraction for me.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

The boy me, always Mental

The girl me, physical

But ideally bit of both no matter how I appear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For fab purposes definitely physical.

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

I am both, personified...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Out of all of my encounters the most memorable is mental stimulation XX k XX

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Physical to get my kit off. Mental to keep it off again and again x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I first met my late husband and he asked me out I told him I didn't feel that way about him. I didn't, I wasnt attracted to him and then a strange thing happened over time of getting to know him on a friend level we fell in love. It just shows the power of personality and mind."

Awww!

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Not entirely sure I could divide the two. Oddly the more I find someone mentally attractive the more they metamorphosis into someone I physically desire. It's a strange kind of magic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say mental as well

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