FabSwingers.com forum: Sexual attraction?

By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

An intriguing messages drops in your box. Its contents fire your imagination. This person is different, interesting, your thoughts are similar and you are turned on talking to each other.

But, they are not your ideal in terms of looks.

Could you? would you take it further?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The mind is as much of a stimulus as the body. So definitely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"An intriguing messages drops in your box. Its contents fire your imagination. This person is different, interesting, your thoughts are similar and you are turned on talking to each other.

But, they are not your ideal in terms of looks.

Could you? would you take it further?"

Yes if there’s a connection there, some of the most interesting nights I’ve had have been like this!

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By *harliebbwWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"An intriguing messages drops in your box. Its contents fire your imagination. This person is different, interesting, your thoughts are similar and you are turned on talking to each other.

But, they are not your ideal in terms of looks.

Could you? would you take it further?"

Wouldn't right it off, but maybe go with the social just to make the final yes or no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes personality is all it takes

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I'd like to think so but in reality I'd probably make excuses.

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"The mind is as much of a stimulus as the body. So definitely. "

The mind plays a big part for me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plain daft not to. Most of us don't get enough messages to quibble over mere detail

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

I'd certainly carry on chatting with them.

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Sometimes personality is all it takes

Cheeky... you have that in spades

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The mind is as much of a stimulus as the body. So definitely.

The mind plays a big part for me too."

You also know how you feel and what's right and what's not.

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I'd certainly carry on chatting with them."

I'd definitely carry on chatting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would carry on chatting see what happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd decide after a social.

I've met people in the past who I wasn't initially physically attracted to and ended up playing and having a great time.

People's minds and personalities can be sexy enough for me to find the whole package a turn on at times.

There aren't many physical factors that would be a total deal breaker for me if I was attracted to the non physical stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes personality is all it takes

Cheeky... you have that in spades

So do you

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Sometimes personality is all it takes

Cheeky... you have that in spades

So do you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without a doubt - stimulate my mind and my body will follow lol

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I'd decide after a social.

I've met people in the past who I wasn't initially physically attracted to and ended up playing and having a great time.

People's minds and personalities can be sexy enough for me to find the whole package a turn on at times.

There aren't many physical factors that would be a total deal breaker for me if I was attracted to the non physical stuff."

I would meet for a social too. For me that kind of mental attraction is a rarity. But does happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t meet men, I might meet one for a social and see what happens, I have had lots of men message me that looks wise isn’t something I go for but their message content keeps me interested, the ones that read my profile first definitely grabs me and if they can keep me interested by just a series of messages then who knows what could happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over inflated egos are a big turn off for us, humility, sincerity, a sense of humour and a little cheeky flirtation are far more attractive.

We have a wide range of acceptables xx

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Plain daft not to. Most of us don't get enough messages to quibble over mere detail "

This is true

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Over inflated egos are a big turn off for us, humility, sincerity, a sense of humour and a little cheeky flirtation are far more attractive.

We have a wide range of acceptables xx"

For me too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh absolutely yes. That first look at someone is always a weird thing especially just a picture on here. Real faces are better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"An intriguing messages drops in your box. Its contents fire your imagination. This person is different, interesting, your thoughts are similar and you are turned on talking to each other.

But, they are not your ideal in terms of looks.

Could you? would you take it further?"

To a social meeting yes, because sometimes pictures don't do people Justice and seeing them in real life can change things, you see how they hold themselves, how they sound, see a glint in their eye etc.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"An intriguing messages drops in your box. Its contents fire your imagination. This person is different, interesting, your thoughts are similar and you are turned on talking to each other.

But, they are not your ideal in terms of looks.

Could you? would you take it further?"

They wouldn't have to be "wow" in the looks department, but if there was some semblance of an attraction I might take it further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell yes.. I don't really like conventional faces. I'm attracted to the slightly quirky guys with fascinating personalities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv been lucky so far looks matched personality

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By *uriousTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Definitely meet! I’m not the best looking bloke on here so have to play with my personality and humour, plus I have a six inch tongue and can breathe through my ears

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I’d carry on the conversation, especially as my personality is my selling point and not my face x

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan
over a year ago

stockport wasteland

I'd say if you have connection through talking, then you 80% there already

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

On here there would still need to be some physical attraction although I have found that someone in real life that I didn’t fancy initially became someone I found really beautiful once I got to know them. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan
over a year ago

stockport wasteland

"On here there would still need to be some physical attraction although I have found that someone in real life that I didn’t fancy initially became someone I found really beautiful once I got to know them. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. "
and there's that old age saying lol knew it would pop up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“Not ideal” covers almost the entire population we’d say - ideals are very rare indeed. But interesting and acceptable as a bed mate - totally different thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have an ideal, but I have to have facial attraction, so no, I wouldn't take it any further, if there was none.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ideal? I've never had my ideal and I doubt I ever will.

So I tend to make a decision based on the overall package.. personality, looks and body.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If we all waited for the ideal person in terms of looks we'd be here a long time. I find lots of people physically attractive but if you aren't one of them we ain't getting sexual it doesn't matter how interesting you are.

If I had sex with everyone I found interesting I'd have very little time for anything else.

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By *igboobstCouple
over a year ago

barrow

Definitely a stimulating mind far exceeds looks for us would much rather have fun with someone who turns us mentally than a stunner with a flat mind xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes mental stimulation is my main attraction. i had a meet last year with a stunner on here, looks wise so so hot but there was nothing else there, conversation was rubbish she just had nothing about her. She wanted to meet again, i declined

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By *ustme34Man
over a year ago

Bingley

With the majority it sounds like theres hope for me yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"An intriguing messages drops in your box. Its contents fire your imagination. This person is different, interesting, your thoughts are similar and you are turned on talking to each other.

But, they are not your ideal in terms of looks.

Could you? would you take it further?"

No. I have to like the personality as well as looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not ideal is a vague and polite description, it could mean anything from being outside your preferred height range to having virtually none of the physical attributes you usually desire.

If a great person is not vaguely sexually attractive to me then I'd make it known I was only meeting socially, and I'd like the same honesty myself. Personality and chemistry are key to play for me, but only if there's a mutual physical spark face to face.

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By *ustme34Man
over a year ago

Bingley

To flip ot around. On the same basis if you found someone attractive but talking found they were rude and arogant would you stil meet hust because the physical was there

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

Go for a social see if there’s an improvement on their looks, could just not be photogenic lol

Wouldn’t go if the other way where they were hot as but a personality that didn’t make me smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"An intriguing messages drops in your box. Its contents fire your imagination. This person is different, interesting, your thoughts are similar and you are turned on talking to each other.

But, they are not your ideal in terms of looks.

Could you? would you take it further?"

If they've managed to get your imagination going from a message, then who knows what you could do if you met them! X

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

I get many nice interesting messages but if the physical appearance is not to what I'm attracted to, I won't meet them for sex. I will offer them a club meet where we can just have non-sexual fun in the club.

I can't 'touch' someone whom I am not physically attracted to; just how a (real) straight guy can't touch another guy.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

"An intriguing messages drops in your box. Its contents fire your imagination. This person is different, interesting, your thoughts are similar and you are turned on talking to each other.

But, they are not your ideal in terms of looks.

Could you? would you take it further?"

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met some who don't, despite what they may say in the forums.

Perhaps it depends on who the other is and where they are in their life, or what they seek.

Yesterdays thread about emotions fits with this, they are complicated, there are never easy answers, and often people say one thing and do another.

For me, if you can get inside my mind, make me want to know, more discover all there is about another, intrigue me, capture my imagination, and make me tingle with their words, then how they may be perceived in terms of physical appearance matters less than who they are.

For others my personal experience suggests that's not always how they view the world, who they meet or how they react if we do meet.....

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By *rbean69Man
over a year ago

Stroud

Only looks attract me, but some personality traits turn me right off however good-looking a woman may be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"An intriguing messages drops in your box. Its contents fire your imagination. This person is different, interesting, your thoughts are similar and you are turned on talking to each other.

But, they are not your ideal in terms of looks.

Could you? would you take it further?"

Without a doubt. The ideal looking can lack greatly at the next stage, sometimes because they don't have to try and then that very disappointing. The interesting mind is rarer and can sustain when appearance dims.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes definitely carry on chatting, I think someone’s personality can make them attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd carry on chatting. Just because they were not my ideal in terms of type, wouldnt mean i would cut them off. Type can be fluid with me. If i still found that i didnt find a spark after more chatting, I'd be honest and broach if we could just be friends. The ball is then in their court. They could either accept that or cut me off

Holly

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

It's a cliché, but attraction is not defined by looks alone - personality plays a major part too, and someone you don't find physically attractive at first glance can still be attractive for other reasons so ultimately one outweighs the other.

It's more likely I'd not take things further with someone because I found them physically attractive but there was no connection with their personality than the other way round

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

I've met people in the past who I wasn't initially physically attracted to and ended up playing and having a great time."

And for the single guys: This is why we bang on about going to socials and clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think I fall into the category of someone’s ideal type very often, but I hope that when people talk to me they might find something that interests them enough to want to meet me. That said I don’t think I’d ever be much of a priority on anyone’s must meet list.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Most probably yes, it’s a meeting of minds and from that comes sexual attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes def. A good sence of hummer is a great turn on. Nothing worse than looks but a usless shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah...i have to be physically attracted to someone.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Definitely YES ! I once worked with a girl and when she joined the team (in my typical ignorant Male brain) I thought she’s not very pretty

Then by the end of the week I was totally smitten with her, her zest for life, dirty jokes, open mind and knowledge. The ability to listen and accurately understand exactly what you meant .... cause she listened

her musical and film taste ... her favourite film was Casablanca

Her looks, what ? Yes she’s a bit plain I think

not sure I don’t remember that, all I remember this entirely beautiful person inside and actually out as well ..but the real annoying bit was, that she had a boyfriend

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Finding your ideal in the looks department is a rare thing. I'd take it to social level, some people just have a great way about them. However if they were really not good looking I'd more than likely not meet up with them again.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I’ll go back through the answers to check, but did any women say that looks nor personality mattered? The centre of the particular Venn diagram looks quite small for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well yeah if I'm turned on by them but things can change when you meet in person, the mind conjures up a better picture than reality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God yes attraction is far deeper than just good looks

But then coming from an ugly guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im defo a sapiosexual, looks aren't everything x

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I don't have an ideal looks category. My brain is my sexual organ. Stimulate that and I'm willing to meet to see if there's anything there.

Some write well and then have nothing else to offer when we meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I have to fancy someone physically, have specific taste, so no regardless how amazing their message was.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

I couldn't take anything to a sexual level if I wasnt attracted to them physically. It's very important to me that, that pwoar feeling is there. Shallow I know.

I have a physical type which doesn't change much. Wouldn't matter how lovely you are as a person or how well we got on, if I'm not in a flutter its not happening sexually.

Of course I would continue conversations with friends. But often after meeting it doesn't work well.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

We've both had some great sex with people that aren't what we'd call classically good looking and some truly awful sex with some that are. The only thing that really puts us off, looks wise are when people are at the extremes of the fat/thin spectrum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone my not look totally what you want but chat and you may find them perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've looked at couples in the street and thought, there's something else going on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"An intriguing messages drops in your box. Its contents fire your imagination. This person is different, interesting, your thoughts are similar and you are turned on talking to each other.

But, they are not your ideal in terms of looks.

Could you? would you take it further?"

If I am turned on then I find her attractive. Most women underestimate their looks anyway. .

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

It's a bit odd but the more I get to like someone, the physically attracted they become to me. So very possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit odd but the more I get to like someone, the physically attracted they become to me. So very possible."

There's a lot of general truth in what you say. The visual stimulating wow factor that may first appear often disappears quickly and does not always translate futher to the bed.

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