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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi can you please comment or advise

I’m very polite in my messages and respectful never use suggestive words to soon

However I’m struggling to get replies

Ladies do you respond better to suggestive or crude messages

I also accept I’m not the best looking guy but surely that shouldn’t stop people chatting

Do I change my personality or give up

Thanks x

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth


"Hi can you please comment or advise

I’m very polite in my messages and respectful never use suggestive words to soon

However I’m struggling to get replies

Ladies do you respond better to suggestive or crude messages

I also accept I’m not the best looking guy but surely that shouldn’t stop people chatting

Do I change my personality or give up

Thanks x"

Most ladies look at the profile before deciding whether to read a message or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi can you please comment or advise

I’m very polite in my messages and respectful never use suggestive words to soon

However I’m struggling to get replies

Ladies do you respond better to suggestive or crude messages

I also accept I’m not the best looking guy but surely that shouldn’t stop people chatting

Do I change my personality or give up

Thanks x"

Being polite and respectful should just be a given. That is not enough to get a response.

No, I don’t like suggestive or crude messages.

And ‘I’m not the best looking guy but surely that shouldn’t stop people chatting’ well, if I was looking to meet someone I wouldn’t waste time chatting to someone I didn’t find attractive.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Hi can you please comment or advise

I’m very polite in my messages and respectful never use suggestive words to soon

However I’m struggling to get replies

Ladies do you respond better to suggestive or crude messages

I also accept I’m not the best looking guy but surely that shouldn’t stop people chatting

Do I change my personality or give up

Thanks x"

Neither.

What are your expectations of the site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being polite and respectful should just be a given. That is not enough to get a response.

No, I don’t like suggestive or crude messages.

And ‘I’m not the best looking guy but surely that shouldn’t stop people chatting’ well, if I was looking to meet someone I wouldn’t waste time chatting to someone I didn’t find attractive. "

What were your expectations when you joined fab?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Expectations were to meet nice people make a few friends and the rest to flow naturally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe add some more pics , not necessarily cock picks but maybe shirt off , unbuttoned jeans etc and add more wording on your profile make it more interesting. Definitely polite messages ! Have a look at other men’s profiles to get ideas ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's a good point well made thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And you have a nice friendly face btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's a good point well made thank you "

Click reply+quote so we know who you’re replying to

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That's a good point well made thank you

Click reply+quote so we know who you’re replying to "

Ahh got it thank you

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Being polite and respectful should just be a given. That is not enough to get a response.

No, I don’t like suggestive or crude messages.

And ‘I’m not the best looking guy but surely that shouldn’t stop people chatting’ well, if I was looking to meet someone I wouldn’t waste time chatting to someone I didn’t find attractive.

What were your expectations when you joined fab?"

This.

Unfortunately I have limited time and limited messages. I don't talk to those I know I won't meet. (and when I've tried for whatever reason, they get the wrong idea. It also weakens my future message filters)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's a good point well made thank you "

Don’t send 250 dick pics with your first message, and remember it’s a swingers site not a hook up site, some people don’t consider that and fail at the first hurdle.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Nice profile though I wouldn’t have a blank avatar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you only want to chat?! I try not to get drawn into conversation with guys I am not attracted to, even if it is just meant to be talking, because they eventually start to flirt with me, even when I have told them I don't fancy them, which is extremely annoying.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That's a good point well made thank you

Don’t send 250 dick pics with your first message, and remember it’s a swingers site not a hook up site, some people don’t consider that and fail at the first hurdle."

Again very good points.

I don't send dick pics unless I'm asked as I do think that's not being very polite

They are however on profile if we agree to add as friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And you have a nice friendly face btw "

That's just what I thought too!

Hi OP. If I may suggest to put in a profile pic as shadow displays tend to just get deleted.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"So you only want to chat?! I try not to get drawn into conversation with guys I am not attracted to, even if it is just meant to be talking, because they eventually start to flirt with me, even when I have told them I don't fancy them, which is extremely annoying. "

Yeah, chatting either goes in the direction of, so when are you sucking me off, or wank chat. It's never just chatting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nice profile though I wouldn’t have a blank avatar "

Thank you I'll take that point on board x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's a good point well made thank you

Don’t send 250 dick pics with your first message, and remember it’s a swingers site not a hook up site, some people don’t consider that and fail at the first hurdle.

Again very good points.

I don't send dick pics unless I'm asked as I do think that's not being very polite

They are however on profile if we agree to add as friends

"

That’s how we prefer it, but that doesn’t mean it’s the right way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Agreed guess it's each to their own

Thanks for the input

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On this site, I think your profile needs to convey some of your personality and the pictures have to be interesting and enticing enough for women to feel a spark of interest. Have a think about what presence you’d like to create on here and then set about creating it.

Knocking about on the forum helped me considerably

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't do any suggestive or sex chat at all with people I haven't met. If they do then we won't be meeting. If they want that they can find someone else, we're just not compatible.

You have a friendly face OP. Hope you get a reply soon.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't do any suggestive or sex chat at all with people I haven't met. If they do then we won't be meeting. If they want that they can find someone else, we're just not compatible.

You have a friendly face OP. Hope you get a reply soon. "

Thank you that's very kind of you to say x

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