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The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Apparently this is secret...

Does this work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes...

If you're getting over a lustrous or someone, maybe. Love? No. Time will heal but in my experience, nothing else works.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I think it provides a distraction but not a cure

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Yes..it is

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Hmmm I dont think that really works. Maybe for a distraction but not cure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think it depends on a few thing's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmm I dont think that really works. Maybe for a distraction but not cure."
this ....think you still want the first person who's gone

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I think it provides a distraction but not a cure "

I should have read the thread

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"Apparently this is secret...

Does this work? "
sometimes. I tried it when I was first single and it made me feel so much worse so I took 6 months out x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If only life was ever that simple....

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Nope it doesn’t work, it might distract you until you find someone else that makes you forget about the first person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. can't disconnect that easily and wouldn't use someone else to try and make me feel better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can definitely help as a distraction and stop you thinking about someone quite as much....but will it help you get over heart break?...probably not unfortunately!!

PT x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a short term distraction. But it helps to feel desired again and that in turns can help people move on.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I'm sure that for a small number of people this works but for the majority it doesn't. You stumble into a new relationship for the wrong reasons and that makes for shaky foundations.

There is a grieving / coping process when something ends and it varies from person to person. The main idea is it's best to start something new when you've definitively moved on and are well with yourself.

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

Hmm I don't know. Sometimes I think if you're nearing the point of being over the person indulging can be good as it makes you feel wanted in a sense.

When you're havin sex with someone and the other person pops into your head then maybe not as only person you're torturing is yourself

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's a short term distraction. But it helps to feel desired again and that in turns can help people move on."

I think that's the thing isn't it. The feeling of being wanted and desired. Sometimes we miss that more so than the actual person.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"It's a short term distraction. But it helps to feel desired again and that in turns can help people move on.

I think that's the thing isn't it. The feeling of being wanted and desired. Sometimes we miss that more so than the actual person. "
it actually made me miss the person even more.. Ended up sobbing after a meet x

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

It can be a double edged sword in many ways. As others have stated, it can help as a short term distraction but trying to replace the emotional intimacy that you're missing with sex, will only lead to further hurt and heighten the feeling of loss.

You can't shorthand or circumvent the healing process sadly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a short term distraction. But it helps to feel desired again and that in turns can help people move on.

I think that's the thing isn't it. The feeling of being wanted and desired. Sometimes we miss that more so than the actual person. it actually made me miss the person even more.. Ended up sobbing after a meet x "

I think this would be me...its ok while actually being under them but afterward makes you feel worse

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's a short term distraction. But it helps to feel desired again and that in turns can help people move on.

I think that's the thing isn't it. The feeling of being wanted and desired. Sometimes we miss that more so than the actual person. it actually made me miss the person even more.. Ended up sobbing after a meet x "

That would be my fear too!

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Yes.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

No. It just masks the feelings and scratches the sex itch.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place


"No. can't disconnect that easily and wouldn't use someone else to try and make me feel better."

I’m willing to take one for the team!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for me it doesn't. Just makes me feel like shit. I need time to digest the loss then move on from it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No. can't disconnect that easily and wouldn't use someone else to try and make me feel better.

I’m willing to take one for the team! "

Ha ha ha such a gent!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep

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