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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Okay, so i don't go out all that much, but when i do, i usually get a nice woman giving me the eyes, usually that woman is in a group on the dance floor, or with a friend, and it's too fucking noisy to talk to her. Usually i'm out by myself, so inviting her to join my dance party isn't an option. i dance near her to show i'm interested, however, i don't want to come across to her as desperate so i keep a bit of distance,and then because she thinks i'm not interested she fucks off... If anyone can offer me some mature advice on how i can benefit in approaching a woman in a dancey environment, i would consider you a saint...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re asking on here ??

I await the words of wisdom

In the meantime , do the whole smile and eye contact.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


" use soft soled shoes "

Brothel creepers ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you catch her eye smile and do the drink hand signal, with a little nod towards the bar.

Walk to the bar.

If she joins you, great.

If not, get yourself a drink and enjoy your own company.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always from behind, use soft soled shoes "

Speaking from experience?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wait for her outside the ladies toilets and when she comes out pounce and ask her if she had a good piss?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Okay, so i don't go out all that much, but when i do, i usually get a nice woman giving me the eyes, usually that woman is in a group on the dance floor, or with a friend, and it's too fucking noisy to talk to her. Usually i'm out by myself, so inviting her to join my dance party isn't an option. i dance near her to show i'm interested, however, i don't want to come across to her as desperate so i keep a bit of distance,and then because she thinks i'm not interested she fucks off... If anyone can offer me some mature advice on how i can benefit in approaching a woman in a dancey environment, i would consider you a saint... "

You sound more like me than I was at your age! We could almost be twins

Sounds to me like you lack a bit of confidence, the only way I found around that was to just suck it up and talk to them without worrying about rejection. You'll win some, you'll lose some.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I'm hopeless at that kind of thing OP and always have been - sometimes think it takes a specific type of person to be able to meet women that way, someone who has the confidence to act etc.

I'd imagine though lots of eye contact and smiling to gauge interest would be the thing to do, and take your lead from whether it's reciprocated or not.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Always from behind, use soft soled shoes

Speaking from experience?"

To be fair, met my now wife in almost exactly the same environment as described by the OP, only a heavy rock night, not dance. Clash of heads in the "mosh pit" and the rest was history!

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

Try socialising and meeting women outside of a club environment

Unless, of course, your dancing skills outweigh your ability to hold an engaging conversation...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now more seriously - make eye contact and smile, if she reciprocates go over and ask her to dance, or if you can have her number, or if she is willing to have a chat.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always from behind, use soft soled shoes

Speaking from experience?

To be fair, met my now wife in almost exactly the same environment as described by the OP, only a heavy rock night, not dance. Clash of heads in the "mosh pit" and the rest was history! "

You both saw stars

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try socialising and meeting women outside of a club environment

Unless, of course, your dancing skills outweigh your ability to hold an engaging conversation..."

Socialising where exactly? A library? A supermarket? Ann Summers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Okay, so i don't go out all that much, but when i do, i usually get a nice woman giving me the eyes, usually that woman is in a group on the dance floor, or with a friend, and it's too fucking noisy to talk to her. Usually i'm out by myself, so inviting her to join my dance party isn't an option. i dance near her to show i'm interested, however, i don't want to come across to her as desperate so i keep a bit of distance,and then because she thinks i'm not interested she fucks off... If anyone can offer me some mature advice on how i can benefit in approaching a woman in a dancey environment, i would consider you a saint... "

two choices....either invoke the inbetweeners classic bar scene (prancing pony springs to mind here) or engage them properly with a self effacing one liner, make them laugh, suggest chatting somewhere quieter and listen..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm out and a man smiles at me, I assume he's a bit interested.

If I am too, I'll smile back and make sure I'm alone at some point for him to approach me.

Being approached while I'm with my friends is too public for me. I don't want them listening in to our conversation.

I have had men wait outside the ladies for me, which isn't that stalkery, as it's usually the quietest part of the club.

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places


"Try socialising and meeting women outside of a club environment

Unless, of course, your dancing skills outweigh your ability to hold an engaging conversation...

Socialising where exactly? A library? A supermarket? Ann Summers?"

So then Kaitlyn, do I really need to answer this?

Are you somehow suggesting a club is a good place to meet somebody?

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Okay, so i don't go out all that much, but when i do, i usually get a nice woman giving me the eyes, usually that woman is in a group on the dance floor, or with a friend, and it's too fucking noisy to talk to her. Usually i'm out by myself, so inviting her to join my dance party isn't an option. i dance near her to show i'm interested, however, i don't want to come across to her as desperate so i keep a bit of distance,and then because she thinks i'm not interested she fucks off... If anyone can offer me some mature advice on how i can benefit in approaching a woman in a dancey environment, i would consider you a saint... "

Like a crab sideways with your hands out to the side and above your head like claws.

Circle her twice and then wiggle your bum at her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not like approaching a pride of lions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Okay, so i don't go out all that much, but when i do, i usually get a nice woman giving me the eyes, usually that woman is in a group on the dance floor, or with a friend, and it's too fucking noisy to talk to her. Usually i'm out by myself, so inviting her to join my dance party isn't an option. i dance near her to show i'm interested, however, i don't want to come across to her as desperate so i keep a bit of distance,and then because she thinks i'm not interested she fucks off... If anyone can offer me some mature advice on how i can benefit in approaching a woman in a dancey environment, i would consider you a saint... "

From someone who does most of their pulling on the dancefloor - just go dance really near her and flash her a smile. If she's interested she'll come and dance with you, if not then move on. If you're a really good dancer you might even get a cheeky kiss in

Either that or I find the smoking area is a really good place to strike up a conversation if you're a social smoker after a few drinks like I am. If I've spotted someone I fancy I'll pretend I've lost my lighter and ask them for one - 9/10 times it then leads to a conversation.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Try socialising and meeting women outside of a club environment

Unless, of course, your dancing skills outweigh your ability to hold an engaging conversation..."

People advise others to get out and meet people, he does, now he is advised to go somewhere else..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it has to be on the dance floor op, dance up to her using your best/worst dance moves:all theatrical and with a semi serious face...then burst out laughing as you get close to her and hopes she laughs back. If she doesn't she's not for you(my logic and in my experience only)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never pulled on the dance floor.

Other situations are far better for me. (Anything that doesn't involve loud music)

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Wait until she goes to the bar and determine if she has had a lot to drink...walk away if you sense she has. Then ask about the venue/music just normal chat without committing yourself. Follow it up by asking if she'd like a drink. If she says yes, suggest a coffee at lunchtime one day in the week. Good luck!

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Okay, so i don't go out all that much, but when i do, i usually get a nice woman giving me the eyes, usually that woman is in a group on the dance floor, or with a friend, and it's too fucking noisy to talk to her. Usually i'm out by myself, so inviting her to join my dance party isn't an option. i dance near her to show i'm interested, however, i don't want to come across to her as desperate so i keep a bit of distance,and then because she thinks i'm not interested she fucks off... If anyone can offer me some mature advice on how i can benefit in approaching a woman in a dancey environment, i would consider you a saint... "

Perfect the inbetweeners dance in that empty club where they approach the group of girls across the dance floor

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places


"I've never pulled on the dance floor.

Other situations are far better for me. (Anything that doesn't involve loud music)"

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When you catch her eye smile and do the drink hand signal, with a little nod towards the bar.

Walk to the bar.

If she joins you, great.

If not, get yourself a drink and enjoy your own company. "

This^^

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wait for her outside the ladies toilets and when she comes out pounce and ask her if she had a good piss?"
I follow them in so I can hear them tinkle

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By *xperimentalistMan
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

I put my hazard lights on and have a recording playing to warn them that I am approaching and to take appropriate avoiding actions.

So don't take any advice from me! Other than that approach doesn't work!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When you catch her eye smile and do the drink hand signal, with a little nod towards the bar.

Walk to the bar.

If she joins you, great.

If not, get yourself a drink and enjoy your own company. "

That made me laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your 24 OP. Surely you can work it out for yourself

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Your 24 OP. Surely you can work it out for yourself "

We all need help now and then, whatever age you are

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Always from behind, use soft soled shoes

Speaking from experience?

To be fair, met my now wife in almost exactly the same environment as described by the OP, only a heavy rock night, not dance. Clash of heads in the "mosh pit" and the rest was history!

You both saw stars "

Indeed!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Try socialising and meeting women outside of a club environment

Unless, of course, your dancing skills outweigh your ability to hold an engaging conversation..."

My conversation skills could do with a bit of polishing, they are almost o par with my mad dance skill. Thanks for the advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your 24 OP. Surely you can work it out for yourself

We all need help now and then, whatever age you are"

Yeah, ok. Maybe it was a little harsh. But what works for one isn't a formula to be adopted by others....

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

To the OP, this was my life many moons ago, going to clubs. Most times men would just come over and dance, then ask did I want a drink, if I said yes we would go off to have a chat. Then if all went well either got taken home or arranged to meet somewhere the next day and hope they turn up.

Obviously fast forward 40 years and you have phones to swop numbers on to let them know if you are not turning up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Okay, so i don't go out all that much, but when i do, i usually get a nice woman giving me the eyes, usually that woman is in a group on the dance floor, or with a friend, and it's too fucking noisy to talk to her. Usually i'm out by myself, so inviting her to join my dance party isn't an option. i dance near her to show i'm interested, however, i don't want to come across to her as desperate so i keep a bit of distance,and then because she thinks i'm not interested she fucks off... If anyone can offer me some mature advice on how i can benefit in approaching a woman in a dancey environment, i would consider you a saint...

From someone who does most of their pulling on the dancefloor - just go dance really near her and flash her a smile. If she's interested she'll come and dance with you, if not then move on. If you're a really good dancer you might even get a cheeky kiss in

Either that or I find the smoking area is a really good place to strike up a conversation if you're a social smoker after a few drinks like I am. If I've spotted someone I fancy I'll pretend I've lost my lighter and ask them for one - 9/10 times it then leads to a conversation. "

I forgot to mention, i hardly drink when i'm out

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Your 24 OP. Surely you can work it out for yourself

We all need help now and then, whatever age you are

Yeah, ok. Maybe it was a little harsh. But what works for one isn't a formula to be adopted by others...."

I agree

However he is asking for advice so could try any suggestions that sound OK to him so he can see if one works for him

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Just smile and talk to her, she might be feeling exactly the same as you.

Offer a genuine compliment on something that you have found attractive about her, her hair her eyes her smile eccetera.

Ask her if you can buy a drink, the very process of buying a drink involves keeping the conversation going so you can see if you get along or not.

If it is loud and difficult to talk, there really isn't too much you can do about that. If you find you're getting along after she's finished a drink you can always ask her if she'd like to sit somewhere quieter so you can get to know each other.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your 24 OP. Surely you can work it out for yourself "

There are guys who learn from other guys, and there are guys who seek advise and then go balls to the wall

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your 24 OP. Surely you can work it out for yourself

We all need help now and then, whatever age you are

Yeah, ok. Maybe it was a little harsh. But what works for one isn't a formula to be adopted by others...."

I am aware of that, it's more about building an inventory, so i can try approaches that i haven't thought of

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just smile and talk to her, she might be feeling exactly the same as you.

Offer a genuine compliment on something that you have found attractive about her, her hair her eyes her smile eccetera.

Ask her if you can buy a drink, the very process of buying a drink involves keeping the conversation going so you can see if you get along or not.

If it is loud and difficult to talk, there really isn't too much you can do about that. If you find you're getting along after she's finished a drink you can always ask her if she'd like to sit somewhere quieter so you can get to know each other."

I found reading your comment lovely, i think it was soft and sweet. I'd buy you a drink if i saw you in a club.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Be respectful confident not arrogant and ask the question. What you got to loose. Good luck.

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places


"Your 24 OP. Surely you can work it out for yourself

We all need help now and then, whatever age you are

Yeah, ok. Maybe it was a little harsh. But what works for one isn't a formula to be adopted by others....

I agree

However he is asking for advice so could try any suggestions that sound OK to him so he can see if one works for him "

And yet, when I earlier offered a genuine advisory suggestion (which the OP has taken on board), you felt the need to negatively comment...

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Don't take it to heart, it was an observation more than a negative comment

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Probably not ideal though to be looking for a relationship with girls you meet out and about when you'll have to explain to them that you're also a swinger?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Probably not ideal though to be looking for a relationship with girls you meet out and about when you'll have to explain to them that you're also a swinger?"

I'm not looking for a relationship, i'm looking to have my more intimate needs met on a mutual base

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try socialising and meeting women outside of a club environment

Unless, of course, your dancing skills outweigh your ability to hold an engaging conversation...

Socialising where exactly? A library? A supermarket? Ann Summers?

So then Kaitlyn, do I really need to answer this?

Are you somehow suggesting a club is a good place to meet somebody?"

Why not?

Where should he go to socialise is what I'm asking?

I did meet someone outside Morrisons, but it's hardly a social place.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Probably not ideal though to be looking for a relationship with girls you meet out and about when you'll have to explain to them that you're also a swinger?"

Also, i'm technically not a swinger yet as i haven't had any luck finding anyone to swing with hahaha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably not ideal though to be looking for a relationship with girls you meet out and about when you'll have to explain to them that you're also a swinger?"

I met a man outside Morrisons recently-we've been on two dates and I have no intentions of telling him I'm on a swinging website meeting men for sex. I can't call myself a swinger, as I don't have a partner to watch fuck other people.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Probably not ideal though to be looking for a relationship with girls you meet out and about when you'll have to explain to them that you're also a swinger?

I met a man outside Morrisons recently-we've been on two dates and I have no intentions of telling him I'm on a swinging website meeting men for sex. I can't call myself a swinger, as I don't have a partner to watch fuck other people. "

True dat!

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Probably not ideal though to be looking for a relationship with girls you meet out and about when you'll have to explain to them that you're also a swinger?

I met a man outside Morrisons recently-we've been on two dates and I have no intentions of telling him I'm on a swinging website meeting men for sex. I can't call myself a swinger, as I don't have a partner to watch fuck other people. "

Hedging your bets eh..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Probably not ideal though to be looking for a relationship with girls you meet out and about when you'll have to explain to them that you're also a swinger?

I met a man outside Morrisons recently-we've been on two dates and I have no intentions of telling him I'm on a swinging website meeting men for sex. I can't call myself a swinger, as I don't have a partner to watch fuck other people. "

This is gold! May i have a peek at your profile?

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places


"Probably not ideal though to be looking for a relationship with girls you meet out and about when you'll have to explain to them that you're also a swinger?

I met a man outside Morrisons recently-we've been on two dates and I have no intentions of telling him I'm on a swinging website meeting men for sex. I can't call myself a swinger, as I don't have a partner to watch fuck other people. "

Similar then to how I meet women in libraries and Ann Summers retail outlets...

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Probably not ideal though to be looking for a relationship with girls you meet out and about when you'll have to explain to them that you're also a swinger?

I met a man outside Morrisons recently-we've been on two dates and I have no intentions of telling him I'm on a swinging website meeting men for sex. I can't call myself a swinger, as I don't have a partner to watch fuck other people.

Similar then to how I meet women in libraries and Ann Summers retail outlets..."

*burn*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably not ideal though to be looking for a relationship with girls you meet out and about when you'll have to explain to them that you're also a swinger?

I met a man outside Morrisons recently-we've been on two dates and I have no intentions of telling him I'm on a swinging website meeting men for sex. I can't call myself a swinger, as I don't have a partner to watch fuck other people.

Similar then to how I meet women in libraries and Ann Summers retail outlets..."

Don't pretend you read. The Ann Summers thing I can understand though, there's always a shady bloke in the back looking at the strap ons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably not ideal though to be looking for a relationship with girls you meet out and about when you'll have to explain to them that you're also a swinger?

I met a man outside Morrisons recently-we've been on two dates and I have no intentions of telling him I'm on a swinging website meeting men for sex. I can't call myself a swinger, as I don't have a partner to watch fuck other people.

This is gold! May i have a peek at your profile?"

You can, but there isn't much on it at the moment.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Probably not ideal though to be looking for a relationship with girls you meet out and about when you'll have to explain to them that you're also a swinger?

Also, i'm technically not a swinger yet as i haven't had any luck finding anyone to swing with hahaha!"

There's plenty of people on here with that kind of attitude, however it kind of turns off actual swingers from wanting to meet you. Especially if you're looking for for intimacy. The last thing anyone wants here is a single guy who might be looking for more than sex or could get clingy. It's all about sexual maturity. Some swingers you meet might not want to feel like your stop gap. Good luck.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Probably not ideal though to be looking for a relationship with girls you meet out and about when you'll have to explain to them that you're also a swinger?"

Are the 2 mutually exclusive?

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places


"Probably not ideal though to be looking for a relationship with girls you meet out and about when you'll have to explain to them that you're also a swinger?

I met a man outside Morrisons recently-we've been on two dates and I have no intentions of telling him I'm on a swinging website meeting men for sex. I can't call myself a swinger, as I don't have a partner to watch fuck other people.

Similar then to how I meet women in libraries and Ann Summers retail outlets...

Don't pretend you read. The Ann Summers thing I can understand though, there's always a shady bloke in the back looking at the strap ons "

There's more to life than books, you know;

But not much more,

A boy in the bush is worth two in the hand...

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

When dancing i got thirsty. Any bloke offering me a drink in my moment of parchment usually got a positive reaction. A snog too if he was fit.

Mind, this is going back a few years...it may be old fashioned these days.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Probably not ideal though to be looking for a relationship with girls you meet out and about when you'll have to explain to them that you're also a swinger?

There's plenty of people on here with that kind of attitude, however it kind of turns off actual swingers from wanting to meet you. Especially if you're looking for for intimacy. The last thing anyone wants here is a single guy who might be looking for more than sex or could get clingy. It's all about sexual maturity. Some swingers you meet might not want to feel like your stop gap. Good luck. "

So when i say intimate needs, i mean sexual as well as intimate needs, i'm not always in to fucking and then "bye!", sometimes it's nice to chill and chat afterwards, it all depends on the situation, i'm a human being not a fuck machine, though right now i'd let a woman use me like one hahahah!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Always from behind, use soft soled shoes "

ffs.......... lol

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Wait for her outside the ladies toilets and when she comes out pounce and ask her if she had a good piss?"

For God's sake where's your decency???

Say dribbled not piss.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Okay, so i don't go out all that much, but when i do, i usually get a nice woman giving me the eyes, usually that woman is in a group on the dance floor, or with a friend, and it's too fucking noisy to talk to her. Usually i'm out by myself, so inviting her to join my dance party isn't an option. i dance near her to show i'm interested, however, i don't want to come across to her as desperate so i keep a bit of distance,and then because she thinks i'm not interested she fucks off... If anyone can offer me some mature advice on how i can benefit in approaching a woman in a dancey environment, i would consider you a saint...

Like a crab sideways with your hands out to the side and above your head like claws.

Circle her twice and then wiggle your bum at her "

Hahahaaaaa I can SEE this in my minds eye..... it's fucking great. Specially the pincers..... she'll love it.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Do an Oliver Hardy wave followed by a flutter of your tie

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Now i've stopped chortlin' ......

O.P. You are good to look at, so I can believe you are given the eye.

I can only speak from my perspective and this is it.

I could spot Adonis a mile away - but if he gyrated on his own in my proximity i'd think he was off his teeny trolley.

So .... cough

If you see someone you like and she appears to like you. Smile and make eye contact from where you are stood. If it happens again later then that's good cos it's sort of confirmation .... BUT you don't know ANYTHING about her 'status' or preferences. SO...... at an opportune moment ' walk over - say ....(as you pass her your number ) I'd like to talk to you sometime. Call me if you are single and want to. Smile and walk away.

Don't forget.... the ... I can chat now if you like.

Don't do any of that til you know she's not with a bloke. Rehearse being rebuffed/rejected/ridiculed with dignity

Make it a second phone. Not for secrecy but just incase she's a looney or her brother or dad are......

Take better care of yourself.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

P.S. There is nothing wrong with just wanting female company.

If it's just a shag your after be more forward.

Oh yeah ...... Don't be too quick to buy women drinks. Why should you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"P.S. There is nothing wrong with just wanting female company.

If it's just a shag your after be more forward.

Oh yeah ...... Don't be too quick to buy women drinks. Why should you?"

She might buy him one back Granny, or offer to buy it. We aren't all free loaders.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"P.S. There is nothing wrong with just wanting female company.

If it's just a shag your after be more forward.

Oh yeah ...... Don't be too quick to buy women drinks. Why should you?

She might buy him one back Granny, or offer to buy it. We aren't all free loaders."

If she buys first or buys back fine.

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By *reenEyedFellaMan
over a year ago

Derby

Less of the dancing, and maybe some mire Dutch courage! I find biting the bullet and going to talk to her is the best way. She may shoot you down but at least you’ll know either way... what’s the worst that can happen!

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By *mahonMan
over a year ago

Dublin Wicklow and Wexford

Do a Donald Trump on it and grab them by the pudenda, oh no that's illegal ...isnt it?

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Do a Donald Trump on it and grab them by the pudenda, oh no that's illegal ...isnt it?"

Only if you’re poor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"P.S. There is nothing wrong with just wanting female company.

If it's just a shag your after be more forward.

Oh yeah ...... Don't be too quick to buy women drinks. Why should you?

She might buy him one back Granny, or offer to buy it. We aren't all free loaders.

If she buys first or buys back fine.

"

I always buy first, so they don't think I'm obligated to do anything for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Strut onto the dance floor, make eye contact, slut drop whilst maintaining eye contact, lick your lips seductively then give her the eyebrows.

She’ll melt in front of you.

Enjoy

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"P.S. There is nothing wrong with just wanting female company.

If it's just a shag your after be more forward.

Oh yeah ...... Don't be too quick to buy women drinks. Why should you?

She might buy him one back Granny, or offer to buy it. We aren't all free loaders.

If she buys first or buys back fine.

I always buy first, so they don't think I'm obligated to do anything for them. "

Snap. Or I buy my own. I'm not one for mixed messages and I don't know the bloke so I don't ingratiate myself

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Strut onto the dance floor, make eye contact, slut drop whilst maintaining eye contact, lick your lips seductively then give her the eyebrows.

She’ll melt in front of you.

Enjoy "

God Sam but you know women so well!

Now tell me it's Lacey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Strut onto the dance floor, make eye contact, slut drop whilst maintaining eye contact, lick your lips seductively then give her the eyebrows.

She’ll melt in front of you.

Enjoy

God Sam but you know women so well!

Now tell me it's Lacey "

**gives grammar the eyebrows**

Nah, it’s me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tentatively

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"Your 24 OP. Surely you can work it out for yourself "

Mate I'm 42 and I'm still not great at it. I can get the mutual eye contact and smile bit and usually pretty interesting conversation as well but I'm still lousy at moving things along beyond that point. I have difficulty working out when people are just being casually flirty with me or if they're genuinely interested and whilst I am not afraid of rejection per se, I see how badly people take unwanted advances and just don't want to be tarred with the 'creepy' brush if I get it wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wait for her outside the ladies toilets and when she comes out pounce and ask her if she had a good piss?"

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

Arhhhhhh them were the days.......dancing round handbags, wolves ready to pounce......sigh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say with the amount of ladies giving advice, you've a good chance of pulling one of them

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl


"I'd say with the amount of ladies giving advice, you've a good chance of pulling one of them "

Or a man.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd say with the amount of ladies giving advice, you've a good chance of pulling one of them

Or a man..... "

Or a TV

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By *ingle ex cuckMan
over a year ago

chester

I'm not sure you want a swinger dude .

do you want a date ? or casual sex ?

if casual sex ,

send a polite messege on here attaching a face picture

a date ?

then do something , like voluntary work

or work in a pub or help out were people your age also congregate

you will be hooked up in no time

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By *r Rubba LoverMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"When you catch her eye smile and do the drink hand signal, with a little nod towards the bar.

Walk to the bar.

If she joins you, great.

If not, get yourself a drink and enjoy your own company. "

Exactly what I was gonna say .

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

Firstly Moonwalk around her 3 time clockwise then 3 times anti clockwise to get her attention. Then lay down your best Riverdance moves for between 3 and 5 minutes. Grand finish with the splits while holding a red rose in your mouth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being out on your own is a turn off pal! Sorry but it’s true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Less of the dancing, and maybe some mire Dutch courage! I find biting the bullet and going to talk to her is the best way. She may shoot you down but at least you’ll know either way... what’s the worst that can happen!"

Disagree - if you're a good dancer that's the best way to pull in my opinion as you can see how the guy moves and gauge his sense of rhythm. Eye contact/smiling is key. If by Dutch courage you mean drinking, that's the worst, having a half-d*unk man stumbling over and slurring something. Approaching sober with a simple nod and "hello" is fine to get the ball rolling. If she's not interested, she'll ignore you or move away

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By *lkmazabukaMan
over a year ago

bristol


"Being out on your own is a turn off pal! Sorry but it’s true"

I find the complete opposite, had some of the best nights out solo and women(some)love it

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

Agreed. I find I meet way more new people when I'm out on my own vs when I'm with a group of friends, not least because I can go where I want for as long as I want without feeling like I've abandoned the crew.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its not like approaching a pride of lions "

Did someone say lions?

LJ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A trick i did once was while by the bar i saw a womans NHS nurses ID without her knowing it.

I then preceded to pretend i was psychic and cleverly guessed her occupation and name.

It worked really well!!

LJ

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By *lkmazabukaMan
over a year ago

bristol


"Agreed. I find I meet way more new people when I'm out on my own vs when I'm with a group of friends, not least because I can go where I want for as long as I want without feeling like I've abandoned the crew. "

Spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just approach and chat ,what's the worst that can happen ?

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria


"just approach and chat ,what's the worst that can happen ?"

Lol the worst is you get good at engaging and holding a conversation god forbid you've got to try but..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Okay, so i don't go out all that much, but when i do, i usually get a nice woman giving me the eyes, usually that woman is in a group on the dance floor, or with a friend, and it's too fucking noisy to talk to her. Usually i'm out by myself, so inviting her to join my dance party isn't an option. i dance near her to show i'm interested, however, i don't want to come across to her as desperate so i keep a bit of distance,and then because she thinks i'm not interested she fucks off... If anyone can offer me some mature advice on how i can benefit in approaching a woman in a dancey environment, i would consider you a saint... "

Wait until she goes to the bar to get a drink. Stand next to her and begin chatting in a friendly fashion there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wait for her outside the ladies toilets and when she comes out pounce and ask her if she had a good piss?"

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