FabSwingers.com forum: Honesty

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This might be just me but but how many threads (apart from the fun ones) involve justifying ones position or stating how perfect one is whether or not that is the view in the hope that it will be attractive to say what others think should be said?

Wouldn't it be refreshing if people just said what they actually thought?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

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I do. So do a lot of people. It's easy to spot the sychophants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am brutally honest about myself on here, when’s I’m not just messing around. If I say something serious I mean it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Commas dear man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hear you but whether it is fab, mates, Facebook or just life in general people are not honest or truthful for 1 reason or another,. Weakness in mind, weakness in conscience or just born pervayers of tasty bullshit..

In truth though, don't we all tell a few porkies now and then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Commas dear man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Commas dear man

Marvel presents "GrammerMan" Comma to a cinema near you.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I always offer an honest opinion, and back it up with balance and reasoning - don't see the point in sugar coating to try and impress it will soon be seen through.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Commas dear man

As grammar police, where would you have put the commas?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some do say what they think. It's been an interesting few days on the forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always offer an honest opinion, and back it up with balance and reasoning - don't see the point in sugar coating to try and impress it will soon be seen through."

There is a fine line between honest to the point and knowing that you are going to offend or hurt someone with 100% total truth..

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I always offer an honest opinion, and back it up with balance and reasoning - don't see the point in sugar coating to try and impress it will soon be seen through.

There is a fine line between honest to the point and knowing that you are going to offend or hurt someone with 100% total truth.. "

Which is where balance and reasoning and a healthy dose of consideration comes in - there are ways of saying things that need to be said without offending and hurting, and in an environment such as this where you have time to pick your words carefully, it's not that difficult to do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's just so boring seeing rants about irrelevancies, mainly that someone has or hasn't replied etc. Then its followed by moralistic posts saying that all women are terribly treated and 'I'd never do that' in the hope that the women will flock at those posters feet. Fortunately I'm happy to point out the reality rather than try to be everyone's friend but the forum would work far better if everyone expressed their honest opinion rather than faux outrage. Here Kenneth the sermon.

Ps here's a few commas for you Autumn ,,,,,,,, ??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

If I've got anything constructive to say that's not already been said, then I'll post an opinion, if not I'll just keep ma trap shut

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I'm honest, but im not just going to rock into every single thread with my honest opinion as sometimes that's not constructive. It's sometimes better to say nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve come to the conclusion - be happy with your own posting style, that’s all that matters...

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I'm honest, but im not just going to rock into every single thread with my honest opinion as sometimes that's not constructive. It's sometimes better to say nothing. "

Indeed, times I've backed out of threads for exactly those reasons (and that's just the past few days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm honest, but im not just going to rock into every single thread with my honest opinion as sometimes that's not constructive. It's sometimes better to say nothing. "

So intelligent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Commas dear man

Marvel presents "GrammerMan" Comma to a cinema near you. "

GrammarMan ... Lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Be honest everyone though, how many times have you seen a faux outraged post and said to yourself 'he's just saying that because he thinks that's what the ladies want to hear'?

On another, very different subject, forum they are referred to as thinly veiled look at me posts.

Ps some more commas for you Autumn ,,,,,,,??????

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Be honest everyone though, how many times have you seen a faux outraged post and said to yourself 'he's just saying that because he thinks that's what the ladies want to hear'?

On another, very different subject, forum they are referred to as thinly veiled look at me posts.

Ps some more commas for you Autumn ,,,,,,,??????"

Yep it happens all the time and when it's obvious often gets called out as such

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Be honest everyone though, how many times have you seen a faux outraged post and said to yourself 'he's just saying that because he thinks that's what the ladies want to hear'?

On another, very different subject, forum they are referred to as thinly veiled look at me posts.

Ps some more commas for you Autumn ,,,,,,,??????

Yep it happens all the time and when it's obvious often gets called out as such

I just look at a site such as this which hugely relies on trust and discretion and then see how much bulls.. goes on and can only shake my head.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Be honest everyone though, how many times have you seen a faux outraged post and said to yourself 'he's just saying that because he thinks that's what the ladies want to hear'?

On another, very different subject, forum they are referred to as thinly veiled look at me posts.

Ps some more commas for you Autumn ,,,,,,,??????

Yep it happens all the time and when it's obvious often gets called out as such

I just look at a site such as this which hugely relies on trust and discretion and then see how much bulls.. goes on and can only shake my head."

Will always be the way though - I learned a long time ago to focus on my own use of the site and not get overly bothered by how others choose to use it - generally makes the experience much more positive

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Be honest everyone though, how many times have you seen a faux outraged post and said to yourself 'he's just saying that because he thinks that's what the ladies want to hear'?

On another, very different subject, forum they are referred to as thinly veiled look at me posts.

Ps some more commas for you Autumn ,,,,,,,??????

Yep it happens all the time and when it's obvious often gets called out as such

I just look at a site such as this which hugely relies on trust and discretion and then see how much bulls.. goes on and can only shake my head.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Be honest everyone though, how many times have you seen a faux outraged post and said to yourself 'he's just saying that because he thinks that's what the ladies want to hear'?

On another, very different subject, forum they are referred to as thinly veiled look at me posts.

Ps some more commas for you Autumn ,,,,,,,??????

Yep it happens all the time and when it's obvious often gets called out as such

I just look at a site such as this which hugely relies on trust and discretion and then see how much bulls.. goes on and can only shake my head.

Totally agree but sometimes it's worth saying something g, or at least it feels as if it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just wonder: why do some people get so hung up on what random people on a website do or say?

Do your own thing.

Take most things with a pinch of salt.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I just wonder: why do some people get so hung up on what random people on a website do or say?

Do your own thing.

Take most things with a pinch of salt. Or be honest with yourself and, when something frustrates you, say so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It isn't websites....it's the way of the world now. Too many snowflakes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It isn't websites....it's the way of the world now. Too many snowflakes"

And those who would rather say what they think that the snowflakes want to hear than be honest to their own views

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Be honest everyone though, how many times have you seen a faux outraged post and said to yourself 'he's just saying that because he thinks that's what the ladies want to hear'?

On another, very different subject, forum they are referred to as thinly veiled look at me posts.

Ps some more commas for you Autumn ,,,,,,,??????

Yep it happens all the time and when it's obvious often gets called out as such

I just look at a site such as this which hugely relies on trust and discretion and then see how much bulls.. goes on and can only shake my head.

Totally agree but sometimes it's worth saying something g, or at least it feels as if it is"

We all get like that at times - but will it make a difference? Probably not.

Does how others act affect your personal experience of the site? Almost definitely not.

So you just accept that others act like arses in your opinion and are spoiling it for no-one but themselves and ignore it as much as you can

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Be honest everyone though, how many times have you seen a faux outraged post and said to yourself 'he's just saying that because he thinks that's what the ladies want to hear'?

On another, very different subject, forum they are referred to as thinly veiled look at me posts.

Ps some more commas for you Autumn ,,,,,,,??????

Yep it happens all the time and when it's obvious often gets called out as such

I just look at a site such as this which hugely relies on trust and discretion and then see how much bulls.. goes on and can only shake my head.

Totally agree but sometimes it's worth saying something g, or at least it feels as if it is

We all get like that at times - but will it make a difference? Probably not.

Does how others act affect your personal experience of the site? Almost definitely not.

So you just accept that others act like arses in your opinion and are spoiling it for no-one but themselves and ignore it as much as you can

You're absolutely right but sometimes I just feel like saying what I see (cue the Roy Walker comments for those of us old enough)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Be honest everyone though, how many times have you seen a faux outraged post and said to yourself 'he's just saying that because he thinks that's what the ladies want to hear'?

On another, very different subject, forum they are referred to as thinly veiled look at me posts.

Ps some more commas for you Autumn ,,,,,,,??????"

Phew thats better!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This made me howl

In laughter

It’s an everyday occurrence and has been for years and years

Of course some say things that would make them more ‘attractive’ to others on here

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

Snowflakes. That comment

it’s everywhere like a bad rash.

There - I’m honest and have said what I think. I don’t have any interest in whether folk agree with me or not.

Do I think my comment adds anything? No I don’t. Do I think a lot of what is said on here is worth the effort? No.

You can only control what you type on here and it’s not really your place to tell others the right and wrong way. I don’t think it’s your place to judge whether others are being sincere or honest in their comments and opinions either. That’s my opinion.

There are ways of putting things though without making sweeping statements and sounding like you’re having a go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a forum, used in a multitude of ways. I skip past those threads that don't interest me and start threads on things that do. Whether people are interested or not will dictate if they participate.

Everyone here is capable of making the contribution they would like and by this can alter the way the forums are.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I’m very honest on here apart from when I’m deliberately being silly.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"I’m very honest on here apart from when I’m deliberately being silly.

I tried humour once. It didn’t work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This made me howl

In laughter

It’s an everyday occurrence and has been for years and years

Of course some say things that would make them more ‘attractive’ to others on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This made me howl

In laughter

It’s an everyday occurrence and has been for years and years

Of course some say things that would make them more ‘attractive’ to others on here

Stop the presses. People say stuff on fab so they are viewed in a positive light....

Who would have thought it

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

"I’m very honest on here apart from when I’m deliberately being silly.

I tried humour once. It didn’t work

It made me chuckle that time Babs!

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"I’m very honest on here apart from when I’m deliberately being silly.

I tried humour once. It didn’t work

It made me chuckle that time Babs! "

About blummin time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be terrifying if everyone said EXACTLY what they thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suspect the forums would be an awfully quiet place if people said everything they wanted to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No different than the person / persons you know in the real who are full of bullshit..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I suspect the forums would be an awfully quiet place if people said everything they wanted to."

Even the mods would be banned

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