FabSwingers.com forum: For the slightly older member

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm talking around 40's onwards.

That stage in life where we all thought things would be sorted in life emotionally and financially!

Are you there? Do you look back and think "yes I've done ok" ?

Or are you stalled on the start line still and if so do you have a plan???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm at that stage in life. I was ill when I was younger so making up for it now. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gosh that's a bit deep!

No - not where I thought I'd be at all. And yet pretty happy with how things have panned out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I’m pretty content

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would go back and change so many things but that's just me

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

Yes I’m very happy and content in life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely nowhere near to where I expected. But life throws curveballs that sometimes change everything.

I trust I'm where I'm supposed to be right now and every day is a building block to a whole different ending.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 49 in body, 21 in eveything else; mind, spirit & financial status

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm at that stage in life. I was ill when I was younger so making up for it now. X"

Me too babe I’m with you xx

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By *iss-BWoman
over a year ago

NR BARNSTAPLE

I am happy with my single life not sure I would want a guy around all the time so it works for me to see my FWB every now an then and that way after over 6 yrs of our friendship every meet even now is just as exciting as our first ones if not better trying different things and the most important thing the trust we have with each other !!!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Not really, I didn't think I would still be single, but then I would rather that that be in a wrong relationship just for the sake of it.

Plus I am getting fed up having to support myself and everything else around both mentally and financially, sometimes you just need a little help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course, its not all about money but...my pension fund is about £250,000 short ofwhat i really wanted but two divorces has had a rather depleting effect on my finances, but have i had fun?

You bet I have, and still am. John

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm back in the starting blocks, poised to go, but waiting for someone with a starting pistol to give me a sign.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

I never imagined that my life would turn out to be so rich in experience.

Traveling the world and meeting such a wide range of people from those with everything to those with nothing. I am proud to say I treat everyone I met with respect.

I feel blessed that fate has given me such opportunities.

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By *ruebameMan
over a year ago

from the womb and tryout to get back

I'm there op I've got my retirement sorted only got another 13 bloody years to go

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By *rtraymondo76Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"I am happy with my single life not sure I would want a guy around all the time so it works for me to see my FWB every now an then and that way after over 6 yrs of our friendship every meet even now is just as exciting as our first ones if not better trying different things and the most important thing the trust we have with each other !!!

Can't PM you, but just wanted to say, Good to hear, sounds as if you've got it cracked!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, life has certainly thrown me a few curveballs. But still chance to win the lottery x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fine, I do alright, on paper I'm probably a catch! Possessions however mean fuck all unless you don't have any, so essentially they're pointless imho (ppl may see that as smug but I truly believe it). My daughter is the best thing I ever did

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"No, life has certainly thrown me a few curveballs. But still chance to win the lottery x

Me too, I have traveled quite a bit, but due to health conditions it is unlikely that I will be able to visit Patagonia. I should have gone 20 years ago when I wes a lean fit fighting machine lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm over 60 .

where's my nurse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

40 is the new 30. Ask me when I'm 50.

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By *nitterWoman
over a year ago

the land of tall tales and yarn

Feelimg blessed right now, life is good

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I suppose to an outsider my life could be considered a mess, especially for a 44 year old. But there are very good reasons why myself and my two amazingly beautiful, full of character bambino’s, live with my mum.

I’m happier now than when I had my own house, a relationship, no overdraft.

Life would be dull if it went to plan.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I where I thought I would be?!!... No....however where I am isn't that bad and apart from the financial shit storm around me most things are pretty good!!...and thanks to Fab certainly not boring!! Lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm good thanks. Apart from sex, some would be nice....

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Not where I thought I would be but accept where I am and make the most of every day x

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I'm over 60 .

where's my nurse

I'll send Nurse Gladys Emmanuel round right now

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I’m at the stage in life where any curve balls are the ones I throw

I’m independent and definitely not dependant on anyone.

Life is good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just shy of 4 and unlikly to get where i wanna be by 50 but im nothing if not adaptable

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

Nope first time bankrupt. Still recovering from housing crash. Earning the same as I was in 2005.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Definitely not, but you just have to deal with where the path is taking you, one day at a time

As long as my lad is happy, healthy, roof over his head and food on the table then nothing else matters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm fine, I do alright, on paper I'm probably a catch! Possessions however mean fuck all unless you don't have any, so essentially they're pointless imho (ppl may see that as smug but I truly believe it). My daughter is the best thing I ever did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely unaware it would be like this. Thank god people get dirtier as they get older.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just shy of 4 and unlikly to get where i wanna be by 50 but im nothing if not adaptable"
40 ffs

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We look back on a life of ups and downs, highs and lows, times when we were dirt poor and times where we could splash out a bit. We're sorted emotionally and have been for a long time, financially I doubt we ever will be. We look back band think we've done better than we ever imagined in ways we couldn't have guessed.

We never had a plan, we're where we want to be entirely by accident

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

40 in a couple of months and I'm about 5 years behind where I want to be. Am happier with the way things are going though now and I feel a helluva lot better now than I did 12 months ago

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

“Regrets I’ve had a few, but then again too few to mention.... “

Survived a 25 yr relationship with a narcissist, have 3 great kids, amazing family and friends, a family home we love and I embark on a new career which will give me financial security when I qualify later this year - what’s not to love?

.... I did it my way!!”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm now well on the way to the end of my time.

I should be mortgage free and kids free by now. But thanks to an untimely midlife divorce an then meeting a younger woman, I'm neither!

To cap it all, the sex with her stopped 6 years ago

So yes, I've got it so wrong.

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

Financially I’m fucked although my wants / needs are very modest and achievable. I’ve no wish to travel the world and would be a happy boy if never went through an airport or stayed in a hotel again in my life. Simple life in France is all I seek. Rustic lifestyle, cycling. Good food, local wine. Need someone to come with me of course and that’s the tricky bit.

On the plus side - I’m dating a couple of women and having the nest sex of my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive bumped back to the bottom of the ladder but Im not climbing back up it Im going somewhere very different and much more interesting. (I certainly fucking hope so anyway)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve done okay but I’m certainly not there.

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By *oss and SuzieCouple
over a year ago

Porthmadog

Happy to be drug and alcohol free and with a sexy wife and good kids. Nothing else matters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm still trying to get used to the fact that I am rapidly approaching 50.

How the f*** did that happen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would I have changed things? Yes. Am I ok with where I am? It is what it is and my glass is always half full.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was completely fine, until last summer, when I got a phone call telling me I had a 5 year old child.

I’m currently married to someone else with my own child.

That call has made me feel like the sword of Damocles is hanging over me. Hate it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm I m 54, thing is for me I ve always just followed where my road takes me.. To most I didnt just stall, i never started, but for me life was never about settling down, having a family, a good job, money (cant stand the stuff but accept it as a necessary evil) etc, for me it was FREEDOM. So I took that road, caring not about tomorrow, four walls etc but more wheres the next gig, the next skydive, the next excitement.. I ve made good and real bad decisions but thats life.. When I look back am I happy darned right I am.. When others look they see nothing for me to smile about, but thats because they dont see the pattern of life how they see it... Nah I didnt stall on the start, i just thought fk it, lets see what happens.. BOSH

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was sorted financially,house, cars, lots of holidays every year etc but not now, quick divorce and both me and my ex are happier for it. I'm as broke now as I was when I was 20 but feel so much better and have experienced so much since then.

Life goes in cycles and there is another upturn coming soon

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I've got a slightly older member

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m thinking I’ll be working until death

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By *r Rubba LoverMan
over a year ago

Bristol

" I'm talking around 40's onwards.

That stage in life where we all thought things would be sorted in life emotionally and financially!

Are you there? Do you look back and think "yes I've done ok" ?

Or are you stalled on the start line still and if so do you have a plan???"

Surely you know.... Men get to twelve and then they get stuck....the only thing that happens after that is the toys get gradually more expensive.

I'd like to know where the last five years have gone though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably not where I thought I would be, but there is no place I would rather be.

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By *ust chilled out meMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

I'm not where I thought I'd be never imagined I'd be bringing 2 kids up on my own am I happy yes

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By *exy gentMan
over a year ago

Midlothian

Financially not where we should be, would change somethings in my past but only if I still get my 2 daughters

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I'd in a pretty good position but sorted nah. I still have to graft my ass off.

Emotionally I'm pretty steady and content most of the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Things are pretty good financially but it's been tough. I'm short of nothing other than good health. Looking back though, yes would have done things a little differently but can't change the past. Would I like lots more money, hell yeah.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I've done ok although it's been tough.

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