FabSwingers.com forum: Unrequited Love

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Have you ever been on the either end? How did you deal with it?

Is it possible to remain friends?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ive never loved anyone who hasnt loved me but my ex boyfriend fell in love with me and i didnt him. We where together 18 months and i flipalintly ended it on an arguement. It was only after we split up i found out how much he did lovd me. He never got over it and still loved me till he died. Quite sad

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I fell in love with a fuck buddy I was seeing, that didn't end well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ive never loved anyone who hasnt loved me but my ex boyfriend fell in love with me and i didnt him. We where together 18 months and i flipalintly ended it on an arguement. It was only after we split up i found out how much he did lovd me. He never got over it and still loved me till he died. Quite sad"

Do you think it would've made a difference if you'd known at the time?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I fell in love with a fuck buddy I was seeing, that didn't end well. "
did you tell them?

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

"I fell in love with a fuck buddy I was seeing, that didn't end well. did you tell them? "

I only realised after things got messy, by which time they had moved on, gotten married and had a sprog.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I don’t know about unrequited but I was much more into a woman than she was into me.

Broke my heart when she ended it, but time heals these things a bit

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By *icetouch83Man
over a year ago

swansea

"I fell in love with a fuck buddy I was seeing, that didn't end well. "

Same thing happened to me wasn't the best time of my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never really loved before until now always lived my life to suit others luckily she loves me back

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Do you think it would've made a difference if you'd known at the time? "
I wish id never gone out with him. I had no idea really how he felt i saw the relationship completly different to him. I should of ended it soon as he told me he loved me so he didnt fall any deeper.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both, I fell for someone who wasn't interested, but we became friends she knew how I felt about her and she took advantage. I haven't spoken to her in a while now, I don't hate her but at times I wish I had never met her. As for the other way around I had a FB who fell for me. I just wasn't interested in her in that way. In all fairness I told her from the beginning that it wasn't going anywhere. She has a nice boyfriend now and we stay in touch but don't fuck anymore (obviously).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone fell for me a bit.. I freaked out.. then realised I loved her too. It was too late apparently.. which really fucked with my tiny mind. I still miss her now.

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I have... I was absolutely crazy about him.. In fact I fell in love with him.. He was always honest about not wanting more.. I should have stopped seeing him but we used to have such a great time when out and the sex was amazing.. I guess I just used to hope things would change... He'd tell me how amazing I was and that if things were different... Which was probably BS..anyway I stopped seeing him in the end.. Lesson learned.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I've had it happen to me.

Telling someone you'll never love them is one of the hardest things to do.

One was my eldest sons dad, and still one of my best friends 26yrs later.

The other, it didn't end well

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago

London

I've only ever had someone love me once I think. I ended our relationship though as we weren't right for each other and not fair on him. Most of the time I'm the one getting heartbroken unfortunately...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly it's the only love I ever seen to find.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This threads very sad man

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By *irl1234xxxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I have... I was absolutely crazy about him.. In fact I fell in love with him.. He was always honest about not wanting more.. I should have stopped seeing him but we used to have such a great time when out and the sex was amazing.. I guess I just used to hope things would change... He'd tell me how amazing I was and that if things were different... Which was probably BS..anyway I stopped seeing him in the end.. Lesson learned.

I could have written this!

We were inseparable for 9 months, I worshipped him. My heart was broken.

I look at him now and don’t know what I was thinking, he’s a minger!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This threads very sad man"

Life isn't all sweetness and light bus man!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you ever been on the either end? How did you deal with it?

Is it possible to remain friends? "

Yes. Badly and no.

Still think about her most days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This threads very sad man

Life isn't all sweetness and light bus man! "
well when i grow up im gonna be king and make you all happy again now bow and love your king

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Have you ever been on the either end? How did you deal with it?

Is it possible to remain friends? "

Just get used to it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This threads very sad man

Life isn't all sweetness and light bus man! well when i grow up im gonna be king and make you all happy again now bow and love your king

You're not king yet! I ain't bowing to you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This threads very sad man

Life isn't all sweetness and light bus man! well when i grow up im gonna be king and make you all happy again now bow and love your king

You're not king yet! I ain't bowing to you! "
grrrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you ever been on the either end? How did you deal with it?

Is it possible to remain friends?

Just get used to it."
this.

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I could have written this!

We were inseparable for 9 months, I worshipped him. My heart was broken.

I look at him now and don’t know what I was thinking, he’s a minger! "

Hehehe aww that made me smile.. Sadly I still think he's gorgeous.. He was a Fwb... So that's not an area I would go into unless I absolutely did not have "those" type feelings for the other person.. Glad you got over him xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think being in love can be confused for other things sometimes. Does love have to build between two people mutually. One sided love couldn't be love could it? I dont know. (I do love this cheese on toast Im eating, but it is definitely a one sided love)

Anyway it's a shit state of affairs either way, Ive had both, erring more to be the one falling. Seems I dont learn either as I keep doing it. The sweet blessed pain of what the heart wants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think being in love can be confused for other things sometimes. Does love have to build between two people mutually. One sided love couldn't be love could it? I dont know. (I do love this cheese on toast Im eating, but it is definitely a one sided love)

Anyway it's a shit state of affairs either way, Ive had both, erring more to be the one falling. Seems I dont learn either as I keep doing it. The sweet blessed pain of what the heart wants.

You talk pretty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. The first moment I saw her I was completely lost. That had never happened before either.

She didnt feel the same. Not sure she ever felt anything, really.

Still love her, maybe always will....

Can't change the past though, and thinking about what might have been, its pointless, even though I still do....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. The first moment I saw her I was completely lost. That had never happened before either.

She didnt feel the same. Not sure she ever felt anything, really.

Still love her, maybe always will....

Can't change the past though, and thinking about what might have been, its pointless, even though I still do....

How long ago ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. The first moment I saw her I was completely lost. That had never happened before either.

She didnt feel the same. Not sure she ever felt anything, really.

Still love her, maybe always will....

Can't change the past though, and thinking about what might have been, its pointless, even though I still do....

How long ago ?"

Almost 2 years. Still think of her every day.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. The first moment I saw her I was completely lost. That had never happened before either.

She didnt feel the same. Not sure she ever felt anything, really.

Still love her, maybe always will....

Can't change the past though, and thinking about what might have been, its pointless, even though I still do....

How long ago ?

Almost 2 years. Still think of her every day....."

Oh, still close. Your chest aches ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The most cowardly thing someone can do is awaken the love of another without the intention or ability to love them back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The most cowardly thing someone can do is awaken the love of another without the intention or ability to love them back.

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cruel too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyway it's a shit state of affairs either way, Ive had both, erring more to be the one falling. Seems I dont learn either as I keep doing it. The sweet blessed pain of what the heart wants.

You talk pretty."

Code word for crap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The most cowardly thing someone can do is awaken the love of another without the intention or ability to love them back.

cruel too"

Yes it absolutely is

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"The most cowardly thing someone can do is awaken the love of another without the intention or ability to love them back.

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but how do you know they are going to fall in love with you. How can you stop it happening?

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"The most cowardly thing someone can do is awaken the love of another without the intention or ability to love them back.

cruel too

Yes it absolutely is "

I double this... I should have stopped it but some of the things he would say to me... Anyone would have thought there was hope...doesnt help with my fab cynasism these days...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The most cowardly thing someone can do is awaken the love of another without the intention or ability to love them back.

but how do you know they are going to fall in love with you. How can you stop it happening?"

You don't but when you actively try to get them to it is wrong

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"The most cowardly thing someone can do is awaken the love of another without the intention or ability to love them back.

but how do you know they are going to fall in love with you. How can you stop it happening?

You don't but when you actively try to get them to it is wrong "
oh yes i agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyway it's a shit state of affairs either way, Ive had both, erring more to be the one falling. Seems I dont learn either as I keep doing it. The sweet blessed pain of what the heart wants.

You talk pretty.

Code word for crap

No.. that would be me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The most cowardly thing someone can do is awaken the love of another without the intention or ability to love them back.

but how do you know they are going to fall in love with you. How can you stop it happening?

You don't but when you actively try to get them to it is wrong "
ego sickness that is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never loved someone who hasn’t loved me back.

But I’m friends with someone who has had feelings for me since I was 14. At school he was a fuck around, he slept with loads of girls (he’s older than me by 3 years) and when he first told me he liked me I thought he was just trying it on. He was so popular and I wasn’t at all.

Nope, turns out it was genuine feelings. Which he still has now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The most cowardly thing someone can do is awaken the love of another without the intention or ability to love them back.

cruel too

Yes it absolutely is

I double this... I should have stopped it but some of the things he would say to me... Anyone would have thought there was hope...doesnt help with my fab cynasism these days... "

I have definitely been there

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By *ocbigMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Anyway it's a shit state of affairs either way, Ive had both, erring more to be the one falling. Seems I dont learn either as I keep doing it. The sweet blessed pain of what the heart wants.

are we still talking about cheese on toast...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on both sides in the past.

I was besotted with a guy I was good friends with in sixth form, I had literally been pining over him for almost 2 years! We slept together one night after a few beers and I got all excited, only for him to tell me the following week that he'd met the girl of his dreams (like a knife to the chest that was!). We stayed friends for a while but eventually grew apart after he got married and I moved in with my ex, still occasionally message on bookface and still think he's a cool guy.

There was an ex who loved me but I just didn't feel the same. I've always felt guilty about that one, he never quite moved on and unfortunately turned into a bit of a stalker and I had to cut all ties. I'll never forget the look in his eyes when I had to tell him I just didn't love him

Hopefully, now I've found someone mental enough to put up with me and love me back in won't have to experience either again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

unrequited love is really an unrequited longing. when you think you found your soulmate that is stood 6 feet away but they may as well be the other side of the planet ..it's a worse feeling than continuous toothache

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I don't think I've ever had someone fall for me and not reciprocate.

Perhaps I'm only open enough with those that I love to engender it, who knows!

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