FabSwingers.com forum: Women wait and men chase

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

In reality I have often thought that women are waiters and men are chasers. I think some women like a man who has the guts to make the first move and be persistent to get a date.(not a thing I do because I'm abit shy in reality and I would have to be crazy for a woman, to chase her in reality) but online it's different for me, because I feel fine chatting.

Anyways getting to the point.. Last night I messaged a lady and she messaged me back to say she wasn't interested and I then sent a text back saying "oh, okay thank for for replying, all the best).

And today I looked at her profile and she blocked me.

Now I know we can't be everyone's type.. But part of me is thinking should I of been more persistent?

God loves a tryer as they say

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Why do you think trying again would have been a good thing?

She blocked you to stop you trying again after she said no.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

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More persistent after she said she wasn't interested? No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What would being more persistent achieve? No doubt if you had, she’d have blocked you anyway.

Many of us on here will block profiles we are not interested in, to prevent them from messaging again & getting abusive.

It’s not personal, it’s just another way to filter on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why do you think trying again would have been a good thing?

She blocked you to stop you trying again after she said no.

Because i know lots of men who have been turned down the first time and they have tried again had relationships

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You were being persistent, that’s why you were blocked.

There’s absolutely no need to say thank you to the person who said no thanks...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"More persistent after she said she wasn't interested? No.

she basically said it wasn't her type and didn't even see me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you for real ?

This is a wind up right ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I chase nobody im too old

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

To steal something from someone else OP - how would you feel if the AA man outside Tesco chased you inside the store after you had politely said "No thanks"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"More persistent after she said she wasn't interested? No.

she basically said it wasn't her type and didn't even see me"

She can see half your face from your public photos.

Maybe she wasn’t attracted to what she saw & decided to move on.

That’s her right.

Being persistent after being politely rejected for most women will not make them say yes to you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What would being more persistent achieve? No doubt if you had, she’d have blocked you anyway.

Many of us on here will block profiles we are not interested in, to prevent them from messaging again & getting abusive.

It’s not personal, it’s just another way to filter on here. "

Maybe it would of given me a chance to get noticed and not swept to the side without a second thought.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You were being persistent, that’s why you were blocked.

There’s absolutely no need to say thank you to the person who said no thanks...

I only sent one message. I want persistsnt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What would being more persistent achieve? No doubt if you had, she’d have blocked you anyway.

Many of us on here will block profiles we are not interested in, to prevent them from messaging again & getting abusive.

It’s not personal, it’s just another way to filter on here.

Maybe it would of given me a chance to get noticed and not swept to the side without a second thought. "

She did notice you....she noticed you weren't what she was looking for and blocked you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In reality I have often thought that women are waiters and men are chasers. I think some women like a man who has the guts to make the first move and be persistent to get a date.

All I say is;

Forget all that kinda bullshit, anything you read or learned before wont work here.

It comes across as trying too hard I think here to others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What would being more persistent achieve? No doubt if you had, she’d have blocked you anyway.

Many of us on here will block profiles we are not interested in, to prevent them from messaging again & getting abusive.

It’s not personal, it’s just another way to filter on here.

Maybe it would of given me a chance to get noticed and not swept to the side without a second thought. "

But she said she wasn’t interested.

That’s the end of it.

You cannot force somebody or entice someone to like you, if they don’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"More persistent after she said she wasn't interested? No.

she basically said it wasn't her type and didn't even see me"

She doesn't need to see you. She's read your profile text and you're not her type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's difficult to be persistent if you were blocked, but overall it's not a good plan.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You were being persistent, that’s why you were blocked.

There’s absolutely no need to say thank you to the person who said no thanks...

I only sent one message. I want persistsnt.

BTW I think it is being polite to say thank you to any women who as the decency to reply.. considering women get bombed with messages online.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What would being more persistent achieve? No doubt if you had, she’d have blocked you anyway.

Many of us on here will block profiles we are not interested in, to prevent them from messaging again & getting abusive.

It’s not personal, it’s just another way to filter on here.

Maybe it would of given me a chance to get noticed and not swept to the side without a second thought.

But she said she wasn’t interested.

That’s the end of it.

You cannot force somebody or entice someone to like you, if they don’t. "

Yeah that is quick judgement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To steal something from someone else OP - how would you feel if the AA man outside Tesco chased you inside the store after you had politely said "No thanks"?"

I would personally take that as a game and pretend I'm playing cops and robbers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we get the message OP.

Your not a happy bunny.

Forget it, move on, she has

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To steal something from someone else OP - how would you feel if the AA man outside Tesco chased you inside the store after you had politely said "No thanks"?"

That is a very good point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the positive is she didn't block you straight away but waited until the day after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What would being more persistent achieve? No doubt if you had, she’d have blocked you anyway.

Many of us on here will block profiles we are not interested in, to prevent them from messaging again & getting abusive.

It’s not personal, it’s just another way to filter on here.

Maybe it would of given me a chance to get noticed and not swept to the side without a second thought.

But she said she wasn’t interested.

That’s the end of it.

You cannot force somebody or entice someone to like you, if they don’t.

Yeah that is quick judgement "

You can see part of your face on your profile. You were not her physical type, so she had no interest in chatting more. It happens. The fact that she then blocked you, shows she wasnt looking to be chased. She genuinely wasn't interested. Try not to take it personally. It happens OP. Onwards and upwards.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you for real ?

This is a wind up right ?"

Yes i am for real and this is not a wind up. You are making me feel paranoid. Am I that d*unk already lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What should she have said for you to accept it as a "no"?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Let's take this back a step - why do you think you should have been more persistent OP?

The lady in question had already made it clear that she wasn't interested, and took the step of blocking you to help you - she wouldn't come up on your searches again and therefore saved you the trouble of messaging her again.

On what planet would being more persistent have changed that?

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"In reality I have often thought that women are waiters and men are chasers. I think some women like a man who has the guts to make the first move and be persistent to get a date.(not a thing I do because I'm abit shy in reality and I would have to be crazy for a woman, to chase her in reality) but online it's different for me, because I feel fine chatting.

Anyways getting to the point.. Last night I messaged a lady and she messaged me back to say she wasn't interested and I then sent a text back saying "oh, okay thank for for replying, all the best).

And today I looked at her profile and she blocked me.

Now I know we can't be everyone's type.. But part of me is thinking should I of been more persistent?

God loves a tryer as they say

Terrible idea to try and force the issue. I rarely block anyone but if I said no thankyou and someone got pushy then I would definitely use it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"In reality I have often thought that women are waiters and men are chasers. I think some women like a man who has the guts to make the first move and be persistent to get a date.

All I say is;

Forget all that kinda bullshit, anything you read or learned before wont work here.

It comes across as trying too hard I think here to others.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What should she have said for you to accept it as a "no"?"

Good question. I'm not sure how to answer it.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"What should she have said for you to accept it as a "no"?

Good question. I'm not sure how to answer it. "

And there is your answer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Let's take this back a step - why do you think you should have been more persistent OP?

On what planet would being more persistent have changed that?"

Lol have you or any of your mates ever asked a lady out on a date and been turned down.. Only to end up in a relationship with her and even marrying her? This happens on planet earth.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Let's take this back a step - why do you think you should have been more persistent OP?

On what planet would being more persistent have changed that?

Lol have you or any of your mates ever asked a lady out on a date and been turned down.. Only to end up in a relationship with her and even marrying her? This happens on planet earth.

Actually they haven't - and this is not planet earth - it's fab where a polite no thank you means precisely that

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Let's take this back a step - why do you think you should have been more persistent OP?

On what planet would being more persistent have changed that?

Lol have you or any of your mates ever asked a lady out on a date and been turned down.. Only to end up in a relationship with her and even marrying her? This happens on planet earth.

It does happen but it's rare, especially on here.

I block people who send persistent messages after I have deleted, unanswered, or said no. I tell them I am blocking to save them sending the same message again. The last time I did this I had a slew of abusive messages. Blocking before any engagement saves that.

Be persistent, if that's what you want to do, but don't be surprised if you get blocked a lot. And, really, don't complain about it by dressing it up as men being chasers and us women are just waiting to be chased.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Let's take this back a step - why do you think you should have been more persistent OP?

On what planet would being more persistent have changed that?

Lol have you or any of your mates ever asked a lady out on a date and been turned down.. Only to end up in a relationship with her and even marrying her? This happens on planet earth.

Actually they haven't - and this is not planet earth - it's fab where a polite no thank you means precisely that

You can't be serious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To steal something from someone else OP - how would you feel if the AA man outside Tesco chased you inside the store after you had politely said "No thanks"?"

Touchè

Think about it this way, how much do we hear these days about consent?

All the fucking time, we're having it drummed into us left, right and centre.

What she was doing by blocking was not consenting. Not consenting to private communication.

This stops you from messaging her again, where she still probably wouldn't have changed her mind, saving you both time and effort.

Yes it can take you by surprise when people block you, especially if you've been polite, but some people do block to save time in the future, to stop you showing up on each others searches.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You were being persistent, that’s why you were blocked.

There’s absolutely no need to say thank you to the person who said no thanks...

I only sent one message. I want persistsnt.

BTW I think it is being polite to say thank you to any women who as the decency to reply.. considering women get bombed with messages online. "

Well I betcha that was the message that got you blocked.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Let's take this back a step - why do you think you should have been more persistent OP?

On what planet would being more persistent have changed that?

Lol have you or any of your mates ever asked a lady out on a date and been turned down.. Only to end up in a relationship with her and even marrying her? This happens on planet earth.

Actually they haven't - and this is not planet earth - it's fab where a polite no thank you means precisely that

You can't be serious. "

I'm very serious - ultimately though if you think being more persistent will get you somewhere on here, then go for it - just don't go crying when it doesn't work out

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Let's take this back a step - why do you think you should have been more persistent OP?

On what planet would being more persistent have changed that?

Lol have you or any of your mates ever asked a lady out on a date and been turned down.. Only to end up in a relationship with her and even marrying her? This happens on planet earth.

It does happen but it's rare, especially on here.

Yeah I wasn't trying to dress it up. Just trying to make a point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You were being persistent, that’s why you were blocked.

There’s absolutely no need to say thank you to the person who said no thanks...

I only sent one message. I want persistsnt.

BTW I think it is being polite to say thank you to any women who as the decency to reply.. considering women get bombed with messages online.

Well I betcha that was the message that got you blocked.

Why?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"You were being persistent, that’s why you were blocked.

There’s absolutely no need to say thank you to the person who said no thanks...

I only sent one message. I want persistsnt.

BTW I think it is being polite to say thank you to any women who as the decency to reply.. considering women get bombed with messages online.

Well I betcha that was the message that got you blocked.

Why? "

Because it signified the end of the conversation as far as she was concerned perhaps?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You were being persistent, that’s why you were blocked.

There’s absolutely no need to say thank you to the person who said no thanks...

I only sent one message. I want persistsnt.

BTW I think it is being polite to say thank you to any women who as the decency to reply.. considering women get bombed with messages online.

Well I betcha that was the message that got you blocked.

Why? "

Partly because by responding, you're continuing the bombing.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"To steal something from someone else OP - how would you feel if the AA man outside Tesco chased you inside the store after you had politely said "No thanks"?

Touchè

Told you I was going to steal it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To steal something from someone else OP - how would you feel if the AA man outside Tesco chased you inside the store after you had politely said "No thanks"?

Touchè

Told you I was going to steal it

And you executed it perfectly

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"To steal something from someone else OP - how would you feel if the AA man outside Tesco chased you inside the store after you had politely said "No thanks"?

Touchè

Told you I was going to steal it

And you executed it perfectly

Despite 4 pints of Amstel and a bottle of Hobgoblin too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only sent one message. I want persistsnt.

BTW I think it is being polite to say thank you to any women who as the decency to reply.. considering women get bombed with messages online. "

But that is yet another message in her bulging box, she said no thanks just leave it, and also makes it at least 2 messages.

Being persistent, is never good, it is the road to stalking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You were being persistent, that’s why you were blocked.

There’s absolutely no need to say thank you to the person who said no thanks...

I only sent one message. I want persistsnt.

BTW I think it is being polite to say thank you to any women who as the decency to reply.. considering women get bombed with messages online.

Well I betcha that was the message that got you blocked.

Why?

Partly because by responding, you're continuing the bombing.

What she said and also Gemini Man above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To steal something from someone else OP - how would you feel if the AA man outside Tesco chased you inside the store after you had politely said "No thanks"?

Touchè

Told you I was going to steal it

And you executed it perfectly

Despite 4 pints of Amstel and a bottle of Hobgoblin too

I don't wanna know who you've been gobbling ta very much!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I feel like I can't please anyone on this site. If I say thanks it's too much and if I don't, I feel I'm being an ignorant man to whoever sent me a message back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I feel like I can't please anyone on this site. If I say thanks it's too much and if I don't, I feel I'm being an ignorant man to whoever sent me a message back.

Have you read the site FAQs?

That may give you some indication about how things work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let's take this back a step - why do you think you should have been more persistent OP?

On what planet would being more persistent have changed that?

Lol have you or any of your mates ever asked a lady out on a date and been turned down.. Only to end up in a relationship with her and even marrying her? This happens on planet earth.

Imagine it this way. You went back round and knocked on her door to ask her out again. She kept the door locked and curtains closed. She doesn't want to talk to you, she's not interested.

Some people do sometimes meet again and decide to give it another go. But she just doesn't want to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I feel like I can't please anyone on this site. If I say thanks it's too much and if I don't, I feel I'm being an ignorant man to whoever sent me a message back.

Have you read the site FAQs?

That may give you some indication about how things work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I chase nobody im too old"

Probably best, you don't want to trip. Falls at your age can be serious!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"To steal something from someone else OP - how would you feel if the AA man outside Tesco chased you inside the store after you had politely said "No thanks"?

Touchè

Told you I was going to steal it

And you executed it perfectly

Despite 4 pints of Amstel and a bottle of Hobgoblin too

I don't wanna know who you've been gobbling ta very much!

I just can't help myself sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I feel like I can't please anyone on this site. If I say thanks it's too much and if I don't, I feel I'm being an ignorant man to whoever sent me a message back.

How do you think us women feel?

If we don't reply we're rude, if we do, we're teasing, if we block we're being total head fucks or weirdos!

It's not a big deal, really.

You said thanks, she blocked you because she's done talking and isn't interested. Forget about it and move on.

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By *hrisAndKatieCouple
over a year ago

stevenage

I see you are new here ... get used to being blocked and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I feel like I can't please anyone on this site. If I say thanks it's too much and if I don't, I feel I'm being an ignorant man to whoever sent me a message back.

If the reply says 'no' that is the end, may be a good time to block to save you accidently messaging again.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I feel like I can't please anyone on this site. If I say thanks it's too much and if I don't, I feel I'm being an ignorant man to whoever sent me a message back.

If you let it feel that way, then it will feel that way - if however you accept that is the way it works, and adapt your attitude, approach and expectations accordingly if won't guarantee a thing, but will improve your experience tend told

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyways getting to the point.. Last night I messaged a lady and she messaged me back to say she wasn't interested and I then sent a text back saying "oh, okay thank for for replying, all the best).

And today I looked at her profile and she blocked me.

Now I know we can't be everyone's type.. But part of me is thinking should I of been more persistent?

God loves a tryer as they say

No.

I do exactly the same. Saves having the same conversation again in a months time x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By blocking you, she is telling you pretty clearly that being persistent wouldn't have made any difference. You aren't her type. Move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I feel like I can't please anyone on this site. If I say thanks it's too much and if I don't, I feel I'm being an ignorant man to whoever sent me a message back.

Don't read too much into it OP

Some people do like to get the thankyou anyway responce and some don't.

Also dont be downhearted about the lady blocking you. Some just do it as a filter so you don't cross paths again maybe no malice meant by it..

You won't please everyone on here because everyone has different likes and dislikes... Just take it as a learning curve and put it behind you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I feel like I can't please anyone on this site. If I say thanks it's too much and if I don't, I feel I'm being an ignorant man to whoever sent me a message back.

How do you think us women feel?

If we don't reply we're rude, if we do, we're teasing, if we block we're being total head fucks or weirdos!

It's not a big deal, really.

You said thanks, she blocked you because she's done talking and isn't interested. Forget about it and move on."

Oh, yes i imagine it can be terrible for women online.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Acurate username op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Acurate username op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what about us couples and women who have all men blocked?

We have to do the chasing. We sometimes get block as well. Stop making a mountain out of a mole hill. Not everyone is everyone's type. That's life

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I feel like I can't please anyone on this site. If I say thanks it's too much and if I don't, I feel I'm being an ignorant man to whoever sent me a message back.

Don't read too much into it OP

Some people do like to get the thankyou anyway responce and some don't.

Also dont be downhearted about the lady blocking you. Some just do it as a filter so you don't cross paths again maybe no malice meant by it..

You won't please everyone on here because everyone has different likes and dislikes... Just take it as a learning curve and put it behind you.

Will do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Acurate username op

Meanies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let's take this back a step - why do you think you should have been more persistent OP?

On what planet would being more persistent have changed that?

Lol have you or any of your mates ever asked a lady out on a date and been turned down.. Only to end up in a relationship with her and even marrying her? This happens on planet earth.

Hahahajahjaahha you crack me up op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can’t take the block function as personal, it’s there for a reason, some do use it because they simply don’t like a person but if like me, I use it because I don’t wish for that person to message again after I’ve already said no thank you (or not replied, which doesn’t happen often). I have tried not blocking the person and giving them the benefit of the doubt of not trying again but they try their luck again a week or so later or see they aren’t blocked and send another message.

My block list like many women here is getting bigger by the day, so I feel bad for blocking them? Sometimes I do but because most of the messages I get are one word or clearly not read my profile, I don’t give it a second thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can’t take the block function as personal, it’s there for a reason, some do use it because they simply don’t like a person but if like me, I use it because I don’t wish for that person to message again after I’ve already said no thank you (or not replied, which doesn’t happen often). I have tried not blocking the person and giving them the benefit of the doubt of not trying again but they try their luck again a week or so later or see they aren’t blocked and send another message.

Exactly this. Iv now blocked men and the reason is iv changed my profile and not looking to meet men. I put this on my profile but still got messages, then when I didn't reply got messages saying I was rude or up myself. My profile wording was the polite no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So what about us couples and women who have all men blocked?

We have to do the chasing. We sometimes get block as well. Stop making a mountain out of a mole hill. Not everyone is everyone's type. That's life"

Yeah but I'm not trying to make a mountain out of a mole hill. I think when points are raised in these forums, it seems like a big deal when it isn't.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Maybe some of them like me have a memory like a goldfish and forgot that they even messaged you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I should really block men then I wouldn’t have the problem, not as though I get many messages anyway lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe some of them like me have a memory like a goldfish and forgot that they even messaged you. "

And this is why the block button is there, you’ve just answered the question lol

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Maybe some of them like me have a memory like a goldfish and forgot that they even messaged you. "

So they're doing a favour and saving you relying on your goldfish memory by blocking you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

good night everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry about geez, world full of women. Keep it moving

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So what about us couples and women who have all men blocked?

We have to do the chasing. We sometimes get block as well. Stop making a mountain out of a mole hill. Not everyone is everyone's type. That's life

Yeah but I'm not trying to make a mountain out of a mole hill. I think when points are raised in these forums, it seems like a big deal when it isn't. "

Well you keep on that they shouldn't have blocked you. You even posted a thread so you could complain about it.

You got blocked...so what? Everyone does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You were being persistent, that’s why you were blocked.

There’s absolutely no need to say thank you to the person who said no thanks...

I don't see someone who replies to say 'OK, thanks for the reply' as being persistent. Polite yes, persistent no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"More persistent after she said she wasn't interested? No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I get a no I’ve always replied with a quick thanks for the reply anyway. So according to this I’m still chasing which isn’t the case. I’m just being polite something I was brought up to be. I then block to stop the chance of me messaging that member again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You were being persistent, that’s why you were blocked.

There’s absolutely no need to say thank you to the person who said no thanks...

I don't see someone who replies to say 'OK, thanks for the reply' as being persistent. Polite yes, persistent no. "

From what he has written in other posts on this tread, I don't think that's all he said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You were being persistent, that’s why you were blocked.

There’s absolutely no need to say thank you to the person who said no thanks...

I don't see someone who replies to say 'OK, thanks for the reply' as being persistent. Polite yes, persistent no.

From what he has written in other posts on this tread, I don't think that's all he said. "

Sure, but that wasn't ascertained by the time the comment I quoted was posted.

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh

I mean no means yes right?

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"More persistent after she said she wasn't interested? No.

she basically said it wasn't her type and didn't even see me"

Don't need to see you to know that most of the time I can tell from a profile if I'd possibly click with someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"More persistent after she said she wasn't interested? No.

she basically said it wasn't her type and didn't even see me

Don't need to see you to know that most of the time I can tell from a profile if I'd possibly click with someone."

Sometimes I don’t even look at profiles before I decide to block, I would say 80% of the time I block purely based on the quality of message I receive.

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Maybe some of them like me have a memory like a goldfish and forgot that they even messaged you. "

Use your notes facility.

i.e. "messaged once got a no, don't message again."

Or "chatted for a bit but she said contact later as now is not good time remind to message in one month (date)"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wait.... and get fuck all ha

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Hey, Mr BlueBalls, I have a current example for you if why we block.

A guy who's messaging me now was told

a) I'm not meeting and

b) I really don't think we're compatible

He's not taken it as a no, it seems instead that I have apparently given him permission to keep going.

He's said I should make an exception because he's got a nice car

and he's a guy with needs apparently.

I don't like him at all never mind fancy and me being nice and letting him down gently means he just pushed for more.

He's told me that women (he actually said babes) like me are lucky to be on fab because otherwise we'd never pull and has started mentioning A-class drugs as an apparent incentive to me meeting him and has hinted at financial recompense if I do.

So I'm going to report his sorry ass but I really wish I'd blocked him after the first no.

Would have saved me time.

Now

Multiply that interaction by twenty...every day.

THAT is why we block. We literally don't have time for this shit.

Get a no? Block and move on. Better still try Tinder I hear it's like instashag.

Sorry if I seem harsh but being called a fat munter because you won't meet an ignorant head who has 0 respect for you as a human never mind as a woman erodes my patience and calm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will quite often block someone if they've said no (even if I've sent them a 'thanks for replying' message) simply to stop me from messaging them again in the future - because quite often you come across a profile again after a while and all the site tells you is that there was an exchange of messages. There's no point in having people in your search results who have no interest in you whatsoever.

I'm finding it difficult to understand why this is bothering you OP.

She said she wasn't interested. End of.

From what you're saying, it would seem that she did the right thing in blocking you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to learn to accept rejection.

This whole ‘women are here to be chased’ thing is bull, the majority aren’t. Myself and plenty of other women don’t want to be chased.

I would have blocked you as probably. So many men think trying again is alright. I said no. No means no. It couldn’t be more clear.

Learn to accept that, move on, don’t make a big deal about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This guy won't chase.I'm too proud.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

"You were being persistent, that’s why you were blocked.

There’s absolutely no need to say thank you to the person who said no thanks...

I only sent one message. I want persistsnt.

BTW I think it is being polite to say thank you to any women who as the decency to reply.. considering women get bombed with messages online. "

I can assure you. On this you are wrong

V x

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

No chasing necessary, just move on. Dont take the block personally

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So what about us couples and women who have all men blocked?

We have to do the chasing. We sometimes get block as well. Stop making a mountain out of a mole hill. Not everyone is everyone's type. That's life

Yeah but I'm not trying to make a mountain out of a mole hill. I think when points are raised in these forums, it seems like a big deal when it isn't.

Well you keep on that they shouldn't have blocked you. You even posted a thread so you could complain about it.

You got blocked...so what? Everyone does. "

Yeah I posted a thread but I'm not keeping on about it. I got blocked.. It's no big deal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So what about us couples and women who have all men blocked?

We have to do the chasing. We sometimes get block as well. Stop making a mountain out of a mole hill. Not everyone is everyone's type. That's life

Yeah but I'm not trying to make a mountain out of a mole hill. I think when points are raised in these forums, it seems like a big deal when it isn't.

Well you keep on that they shouldn't have blocked you. You even posted a thread so you could complain about it.

You got blocked...so what? Everyone does.

Yeah I posted a thread but I'm not keeping on about it. I got blocked.. It's no big deal.

He said the next day

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You were being persistent, that’s why you were blocked.

There’s absolutely no need to say thank you to the person who said no thanks...

I don't see someone who replies to say 'OK, thanks for the reply' as being persistent. Polite yes, persistent no.

From what he has written in other posts on this tread, I don't think that's all he said. "

I'm not sure what makes you say that. I can screenshot the conversation, if you don't believe me.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"Why do you think trying again would have been a good thing?

She blocked you to stop you trying again after she said no.

Because i know lots of men who have been turned down the first time and they have tried again had relationships "

aye and many that had blue balls end up with NO balls following action from a rusty blunt knife!!! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you think trying again would have been a good thing?

She blocked you to stop you trying again after she said no.

Because i know lots of men who have been turned down the first time and they have tried again had relationships

aye and many that had blue balls end up with NO balls following action from a rusty blunt knife!!! lol

The trick is in the swing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Maybe some of them like me have a memory like a goldfish and forgot that they even messaged you.

Use your notes facility.

i.e. "messaged once got a no, don't message again."

Or "chatted for a bit but she said contact later as now is not good time remind to message in one month (date)""

notes facility? Is that an option on here?

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"Why do you think trying again would have been a good thing?

She blocked you to stop you trying again after she said no.

Because i know lots of men who have been turned down the first time and they have tried again had relationships

aye and many that had blue balls end up with NO balls following action from a rusty blunt knife!!! lol

The trick is in the swing"

of?? my right hand with knife firmly grasped in it? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Persistence after a rejection is creepy and means I was correct in rejecting someone in the first place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do you think trying again would have been a good thing?

She blocked you to stop you trying again after she said no.

Because i know lots of men who have been turned down the first time and they have tried again had relationships

aye and many that had blue balls end up with NO balls following action from a rusty blunt knife!!! lol

The trick is in the swing

of?? my right hand with knife firmly grasped in it? lol

Hard enough to dig in but enough retraction to sclice

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By *icetouch83Man
over a year ago

swansea

I'd love it for a woman to be doing the chasing but we live and dream

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By *illingVicMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks

My absolute lack of verifications is probably contributed to (along with my situation and considerable ugliness) by me being almost totally submissive and not pursuing anyone - but I’m happy making friends on the forums!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My absolute lack of verifications is probably contributed to (along with my situation and considerable ugliness) by me being almost totally submissive and not pursuing anyone - but I’m happy making friends on the forums!"

seems as if women don't want to be pursued on here though. You can allways wait for them to come to you.. Just don't hold your breath.

If I waited for the type of woman who I like, to contact me I'm sure I would die waiting.

So I have to make a move sometimes,ya know.

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By *hrisAndKatieCouple
over a year ago

stevenage

seems as if women don't want to be pursued on here though. You can allways wait for them to come to you.. Just don't hold your breath.

If I waited for the type of woman who I like, to contact me I'm sure I would die waiting.

So I have to make a move sometimes,ya know.

Its the same as any dating site, either they like you or they dont - dont get hung up on it

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