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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38

The bus journey was just so annoying as some young guy was singing his head off (couldn't sing a note) with his phone blasting out music. In the past I said something but sometimes you've just got to pick your battles.

So my question is if something/someone is annoying or being a twat do you do battle?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The bus journey was just so annoying as some young guy was singing his head off (couldn't sing a note) with his phone blasting out music. In the past I said something but sometimes you've just got to pick your battles.

So my question is if something/someone is annoying or being a twat do you do battle?"

Irl? Absolutely. On here? Nope not really. Just steer clear. I dont really need excessive grief so it's easy for me to just ignore this part and concentrate on real life. That's where the important battles need to be fought and aint got energy to fight on both fronts x

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire


"The bus journey was just so annoying as some young guy was singing his head off (couldn't sing a note) with his phone blasting out music. In the past I said something but sometimes you've just got to pick your battles.

So my question is if something/someone is annoying or being a twat do you do battle?"

Depends on the incident. If they were being a dick to me, I wouldn't bother.

If they were picking on someone else, I would step in (provided that person did not cause trouble in the first place).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on what and with whom I’m battling. I normally bite my tongue and mutter swear words under my breath

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Battle? Can you win, will you gain anything? Possibly depending on the answers to those questions....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it depends on context. Mr irritating tuneless git could be seen as either harmless, but annoying or deliberately causing a disturbance. If the latter you are within your rights to politely ask him to shut the fuck up.

Not sure if that helps really

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38

I see so much disrespect from people on public transport, not aimed at me but I really dislike it. I find it hard to walk away and if I do it doesn't sit well with me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Annoying I can deal with.. being a twat I'll ignore unless it's leaving an ill informed, personal comment unchecked.

Very little truly angers me so tend to roll my eyes and move on.

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Battle? Can you win, will you gain anything? Possibly depending on the answers to those questions.... "

I have walked away when I've known I couldn't win. There was a super aggressive guy once, insulting and shouting abuse to passengers and no one said a thing . It kinda hurt me that I couldn't tell him to do one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“When walking in open territory, bother no one. If someone bothers you, ask them to stop. If they do not stop, destroy them“

Seems fitting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pick your battles.

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"“When walking in open territory, bother no one. If someone bothers you, ask them to stop. If they do not stop, destroy them“

Seems fitting "

Believe me if I could have given the aggressive way out of order guy on the bus some of his own medicine I would have in a heartbeat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"“When walking in open territory, bother no one. If someone bothers you, ask them to stop. If they do not stop, destroy them“

Seems fitting "

Anton La Vey?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the situation, I do let a lot of trivial annoyances go as it isn’t worth the hassle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Battle? Can you win, will you gain anything? Possibly depending on the answers to those questions....

I have walked away when I've known I couldn't win. There was a super aggressive guy once, insulting and shouting abuse to passengers and no one said a thing . It kinda hurt me that I couldn't tell him to do one."

Camera innit....

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

Oooooo yeh I should pick my battles, I went to work the other day stuck behind a flatbed with rubbish falling off, swerved a couple of times then I over took them couple of bleep words as I did, they stopped I stopped (2 guys) I went into you arsehole mode to the driver not a good idea ......they did not like being shouted at, as I drive off I thought you daft cow

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Battle? Can you win, will you gain anything? Possibly depending on the answers to those questions....

I have walked away when I've known I couldn't win. There was a super aggressive guy once, insulting and shouting abuse to passengers and no one said a thing . It kinda hurt me that I couldn't tell him to do one.

Camera innit.... "

Innit just

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on whether the annoyance is at my front door or not. If its just some greif on my way home or something that's going to be over very quickly then I look the other way and don't escalate the situation. If it's getting out of hand though and there's a general feeling that "something needs to be said", then I wouldn't be behind the door about telling someone to wind their neck in

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Oooooo yeh I should pick my battles, I went to work the other day stuck behind a flatbed with rubbish falling off, swerved a couple of times then I over took them couple of bleep words as I did, they stopped I stopped (2 guys) I went into you arsehole mode to the driver not a good idea ......they did not like being shouted at, as I drive off I thought you daft cow "

I know. You never know what reaction your going to get back.

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"It depends on whether the annoyance is at my front door or not. If its just some greif on my way home or something that's going to be over very quickly then I look the other way and don't escalate the situation. If it's getting out of hand though and there's a general feeling that "something needs to be said", then I wouldn't be behind the door about telling someone to wind their neck in"

These are the times I'd like to be a guy. As a woman you can be a bit more vulnerable.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl


"Oooooo yeh I should pick my battles, I went to work the other day stuck behind a flatbed with rubbish falling off, swerved a couple of times then I over took them couple of bleep words as I did, they stopped I stopped (2 guys) I went into you arsehole mode to the driver not a good idea ......they did not like being shouted at, as I drive off I thought you daft cow

I know. You never know what reaction your going to get back."

Definitely a learning curve that, never do that again.....pull over take deep breaths.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The bus journey was just so annoying as some young guy was singing his head off (couldn't sing a note) with his phone blasting out music. In the past I said something but sometimes you've just got to pick your battles.

So my question is if something/someone is annoying or being a twat do you do battle?

Depends on the incident. If they were being a dick to me, I wouldn't bother.

If they were picking on someone else, I would step in (provided that person did not cause trouble in the first place)."

Same as above but also if being annoying Id usally just stare at them till it stops

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By *tubblechinMan
over a year ago

worcester

This day and age is it worth it, meaning are you putting yourself in the firing line to be verbally abused, physically abused or even worse drawn a knife against you. Sometimes it’s just best to put up and say nothing unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This day and age is it worth it, meaning are you putting yourself in the firing line to be verbally abused, physically abused or even worse drawn a knife against you. Sometimes it’s just best to put up and say nothing unfortunately "

What if it was you in trouble and ppl are just stood there watching.....

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"This day and age is it worth it, meaning are you putting yourself in the firing line to be verbally abused, physically abused or even worse drawn a knife against you. Sometimes it’s just best to put up and say nothing unfortunately "

I totally get that

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"This day and age is it worth it, meaning are you putting yourself in the firing line to be verbally abused, physically abused or even worse drawn a knife against you. Sometimes it’s just best to put up and say nothing unfortunately

What if it was you in trouble and ppl are just stood there watching..... "

That's different if someone was in trouble I couldn't walk away...and I'm only little

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl


"This day and age is it worth it, meaning are you putting yourself in the firing line to be verbally abused, physically abused or even worse drawn a knife against you. Sometimes it’s just best to put up and say nothing unfortunately

What if it was you in trouble and ppl are just stood there watching..... "

I would definitely not hesitate to help someone in need....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try not to engage with much out there in the real world. Head down and plow on or grit my teeth and bear it. Emergency type stuff I would stop to help but annoyances no.

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By *tubblechinMan
over a year ago

worcester

I didn’t say I wouldn’t help someone, I’m just saying is it worth speaking up in the first place?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Woman I work with, she blames the guy that has left for everything going wrong for a function we have going on here soon, in front of the customer..this is a big bloody battle I’m going to have to have soon, I don’t want to but I’m going to have to get battle ready!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The bus journey was just so annoying as some young guy was singing his head off (couldn't sing a note) with his phone blasting out music. In the past I said something but sometimes you've just got to pick your battles.

So my question is if something/someone is annoying or being a twat do you do battle?"
It's not an easy choice to make,it's never wrong to challenge certain behaviours but it's best to do so with the coolest of heads on.

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"The bus journey was just so annoying as some young guy was singing his head off (couldn't sing a note) with his phone blasting out music. In the past I said something but sometimes you've just got to pick your battles.

So my question is if something/someone is annoying or being a twat do you do battle?

Depends on the incident. If they were being a dick to me, I wouldn't bother.

If they were picking on someone else, I would step in (provided that person did not cause trouble in the first place).

Same as above but also if being annoying Id usally just stare at them till it stops "

Staring st these guys who have no respect and seem angry at the world doesnt cut it. Their reactions are so threateningly unreasonable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The bus journey was just so annoying as some young guy was singing his head off (couldn't sing a note) with his phone blasting out music. In the past I said something but sometimes you've just got to pick your battles.

So my question is if something/someone is annoying or being a twat do you do battle?

Depends on the incident. If they were being a dick to me, I wouldn't bother.

If they were picking on someone else, I would step in (provided that person did not cause trouble in the first place).

Same as above but also if being annoying Id usally just stare at them till it stops

Staring st these guys who have no respect and seem angry at the world doesnt cut it. Their reactions are so threateningly unreasonable. "

True to be honest dont see alot of this around in my area so has rarely have to do anything it's, mainly over rowdy school kids and the stare tends to work same one I use on my kids too

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"The bus journey was just so annoying as some young guy was singing his head off (couldn't sing a note) with his phone blasting out music. In the past I said something but sometimes you've just got to pick your battles.

So my question is if something/someone is annoying or being a twat do you do battle?

Depends on the incident. If they were being a dick to me, I wouldn't bother.

If they were picking on someone else, I would step in (provided that person did not cause trouble in the first place).

Same as above but also if being annoying Id usally just stare at them till it stops

Staring st these guys who have no respect and seem angry at the world doesnt cut it. Their reactions are so threateningly unreasonable.

True to be honest dont see alot of this around in my area so has rarely have to do anything it's, mainly over rowdy school kids and the stare tends to work same one I use on my kids too "

I need to master that state

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I see so much disrespect from people on public transport, not aimed at me but I really dislike it. I find it hard to walk away and if I do it doesn't sit well with me."

There was a group of tipsy young women shouting across the train carriage and generally being very annoying. The other passengers were clearly fed up but didn't say anything.

I shouted at the women to shut up. They shouted that I was a killjoy and anyone who didn't like it should fuck off and move carriages. They did stop being so noisy though after their initial rant.

I half expected them to be abusive when they eventually got off but they weren't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This day and age is it worth it, meaning are you putting yourself in the firing line to be verbally abused, physically abused or even worse drawn a knife against you. Sometimes it’s just best to put up and say nothing unfortunately "

True.

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"The bus journey was just so annoying as some young guy was singing his head off (couldn't sing a note) with his phone blasting out music. In the past I said something but sometimes you've just got to pick your battles.

So my question is if something/someone is annoying or being a twat do you do battle?

Irl? Absolutely. On here? Nope not really. Just steer clear. I dont really need excessive grief so it's easy for me to just ignore this part and concentrate on real life. That's where the important battles need to be fought and aint got energy to fight on both fronts x "

I neither need or want excessive grief and definitely would rather save my energy for other things x

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"The bus journey was just so annoying as some young guy was singing his head off (couldn't sing a note) with his phone blasting out music. In the past I said something but sometimes you've just got to pick your battles.

So my question is if something/someone is annoying or being a twat do you do battle?It's not an easy choice to make,it's never wrong to challenge certain behaviours but it's best to do so with the coolest of heads on."

Wise words

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