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I saw the signs...

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Well actually I didn't.

I'm awful at reading the signs of interest in another person when they're directed at me, I'm great at reading the subtleties in others, but towards me? Not a clue.

So dear fabbers, how are you with this? Do you require a flashing neon sign, whilst simultaneously being beaten with a large placard with their intentions written on? Or are you adept at reading the subtle nuances of this human mating dance?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Thank you for the damn earworm.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What signs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see it when watching other people but haven't a scooby when it's directed at me. Unless someone says 'I really fancy you' I just don't pick up on it. Fab is so much more straight forward than RL.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you for the damn earworm. "

Haha I’m the same!

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Thank you for the damn earworm. "

What can I say except, you're welcome...

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By *ark ph0enixWoman
over a year ago

Teesside

I'm the same. Can spot it easy for others. But towards me? Often clueless lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they message and say, then they're interested.

If they wink fab a pic chat in forums it just passing the day or just stringing you along.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I can see it when watching other people but haven't a scooby when it's directed at me. Unless someone says 'I really fancy you' I just don't pick up on it. Fab is so much more straight forward than RL. "

I'm exactly the same, I just think they're being nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can see it when watching other people but haven't a scooby when it's directed at me. Unless someone says 'I really fancy you' I just don't pick up on it. Fab is so much more straight forward than RL.

I'm exactly the same, I just think they're being nice. "

Or occasionally I think they're hinting and it turns out they really were just being nice...

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"If they message and say, then they're interested.

If they wink fab a pic chat in forums it just passing the day or just stringing you along."

I was thinking in person, as opposed to fab based. I generally grasp things if they're written out for me.

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By *adylydfordWoman
over a year ago

altinkum

Usually here people just message me with want a fuck? .. that gives it away somewhat.

In real life i dont have a clue. Hasnt happened in like forever. Just goes to show how desperate guys are on here doesnt it. On here im drowning in requests. Off here not even a date since my ex husband took me out in 2002

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I can see it when watching other people but haven't a scooby when it's directed at me. Unless someone says 'I really fancy you' I just don't pick up on it. Fab is so much more straight forward than RL.

I'm exactly the same, I just think they're being nice.

Or occasionally I think they're hinting and it turns out they really were just being nice... "

Is that better or worse?!

I think that fab has broken my ability (what little I had) to flirt, so I just stopped trying, for fear of being arrested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that I struggle on here because I assume they're saying the same things to everyone. I find it hard to interpret messages sometimes because there's no tone or expression.

In person I'm quite bubbly and flirty so I assume they're just responding to that.

I have to say I do love that moment when it clicks into place and you realise they're interested too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they message and say, then they're interested.

If they wink fab a pic chat in forums it just passing the day or just stringing you along.

I was thinking in person, as opposed to fab based. I generally grasp things if they're written out for me. "

I find it harder here. It's impersonal, whereas sitting at a coffee table or bar and they catch your eye it's much easier. IMO.

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I can see it when watching other people but haven't a scooby when it's directed at me. Unless someone says 'I really fancy you' I just don't pick up on it. Fab is so much more straight forward than RL. "

This! I'm utterly oblivious in rl.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"

I have to say I do love that moment when it clicks into place and you realise they're interested too. "

In my experience that was usually the day after, accompanied by a face palm.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"If they message and say, then they're interested.

If they wink fab a pic chat in forums it just passing the day or just stringing you along.

I was thinking in person, as opposed to fab based. I generally grasp things if they're written out for me.

I find it harder here. It's impersonal, whereas sitting at a coffee table or bar and they catch your eye it's much easier. IMO."

Teach me oh wise one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need that neon sign definitely but I can see when someone likes someone else....The placards a good idea as well for me

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

Club me over the head and drag me back to the cave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm oblivious to any signs. I needs hands fumbling in my pants before get an inkling that something might be up.

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By *ea monkey OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I'm oblivious to any signs. I needs hands fumbling in my pants before get an inkling that something might be up."

I'd probably think they were looking for loose change...

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"Thank you for the damn earworm. "

Great song that is so stuck in my head now. Grrr...now I have to listen to the whole album!

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"Thank you for the damn earworm.

Great song that is so stuck in my head now. Grrr...now I have to listen to the whole album! "

Found it on my Mp3! Music to drive home to....loud!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely clueless. For added awkwardness I am also more than capable of reading non-existent signs as a sign of interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read the initial signs pretty well I think. I usually find there is something about me that will cause the attraction to me to diminish somewhere along the line. Knowing that I have a tendency to overdo things and cause it to self-destruct anyway.

#ShitSwingingTimeWastingWankshaft

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely pants.. need straight forward telling or I don't know it at all. That's online and in person. I just assume people want to be friends. Im probably so used to sarcasm that I create my own awkwardness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely useless!

I don’t pick up on subtleties at all, someone literally has to spell it out.

Other times, I’ve thought people were interested but they were just being nice.

And I think on here, the amount of attention (although it has subsided a tad with age) is ridiculous, completely distorting what would happen in reality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh here not a thing can be relied upon, even when meeting in person what is said can turn out to be bull

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not bad but i read people for a living flirt to convert

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I can't see what's not to love about me so I just accept everyone wants me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you for the damn earworm.

Great song that is so stuck in my head now. Grrr...now I have to listen to the whole album! "

I’m listening to the album too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you for the damn earworm. "

Exactly what I thought x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely useless, need it in neon lights then I’d still miss it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not aware of anyone fancying me in a very long time. That may be because no one has, I don't know.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Can notice it with others but I need to be directly told if someone is interested in me, I'm hopeless at reading/picking up on the signs x

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