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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do anyone else feel this site has affected their confidence?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

No.

Has it affected yours, OP?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No.

Has it affected yours, OP?"

Yes

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

No, but I can see how it might.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No.

Has it affected yours, OP?

Yes "

How?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope if anything increased it?? Are you expectations too high?

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

No it hasn’t as I don’t take this site seriously and wouldn’t meet half the people anyway but I can see how it would knock most people’s confidence. Best advice is try real life instead of hoping you’ll find something half decent off here OP. You’ll be ok man.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

It can..give yourself a break.. come back fighting fit and ready for the hurly burly

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I guessed it would increase women's confidence.. But for me I feel unless I'm a gym rat, black, VWE, covered in tattoos or very experienced then I have nothing to offer the women on this site.

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow


"No it hasn’t as I don’t take this site seriously and wouldn’t meet half the people anyway but I can see how it would knock most people’s confidence. Best advice is try real life instead of hoping you’ll find something half decent off here OP. You’ll be ok man."

Nice confidence booster for the masses there

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"No.

Has it affected yours, OP?

Yes

How?"

He's been on 2 weeks and isn't balls deep in hotties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guessed it would increase women's confidence.. But for me I feel unless I'm a gym rat, black, VWE, covered in tattoos or very experienced then I have nothing to offer the women on this site. "

Weird, as I’ve never met any men who fits any of that description

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, but I can see how it might. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does at times ...i very often feel i shouldnt be gere or im second best

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"I guessed it would increase women's confidence.. But for me I feel unless I'm a gym rat, black, VWE, covered in tattoos or very experienced then I have nothing to offer the women on this site. "

I'm sorry, but that's a load of tosh.

I cannot speak for every woman, but it is how you present yourself, your outlook, the quality of your profile, your interactions with others...that gets you noticed.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"I guessed it would increase women's confidence.. But for me I feel unless I'm a gym rat, black, VWE, covered in tattoos or very experienced then I have nothing to offer the women on this site. "

Pick 10 random men on here who aren't gym rat, black, vwe, tattooed,or hugely experienced and you'll see a % still get meets.

I think your expectations need altering.

Do you get regular sex by meeting women away from fab ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guessed it would increase women's confidence.. But for me I feel unless I'm a gym rat, black, VWE, covered in tattoos or very experienced then I have nothing to offer the women on this site. "

You really shouldn't compare yourself to others, there's no self-worth in that.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

It has affected my confidence, but in a positive way.

Its all about your expectations though OP, you've been here for only a brief moment. It can take new guys months to get meets.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I guessed it would increase women's confidence.. But for me I feel unless I'm a gym rat, black, VWE, covered in tattoos or very experienced then I have nothing to offer the women on this site.

You really shouldn't compare yourself to others, there's no self-worth in that. "

it's hard not to with the type of profiles on this site.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple


"I guessed it would increase women's confidence.. But for me I feel unless I'm a gym rat, black, VWE, covered in tattoos or very experienced then I have nothing to offer the women on this site. "

Thats not true, be fun, quirky and proud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guessed it would increase women's confidence.. But for me I feel unless I'm a gym rat, black, VWE, covered in tattoos or very experienced then I have nothing to offer the women on this site. "

I'm none of the above! I treat the site like a great social group and if anything comes of it, brilliant! If not, I've still made some ace friends. Don't take yourself or the site so seriously; look to make friends first and I'm sure the rest will follow.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I guessed it would increase women's confidence.. But for me I feel unless I'm a gym rat, black, VWE, covered in tattoos or very experienced then I have nothing to offer the women on this site.

I'm sorry, but that's a load of tosh.

I cannot speak for every woman, but it is how you present yourself, your outlook, the quality of your profile, your interactions with others...that gets you noticed."

Really? When women are looking for "exceptional men"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guessed it would increase women's confidence.. But for me I feel unless I'm a gym rat, black, VWE, covered in tattoos or very experienced then I have nothing to offer the women on this site.

You really shouldn't compare yourself to others, there's no self-worth in that.

it's hard not to with the type of profiles on this site. "

Concentrate on your own profile rather than other people’s. It’s quite a turn off when a man blames other people for his lack of success.

Keep your chin up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even as a woman there are times that fab can make me feel bad, although overall my confidence has improved and I worry less about my wobbly bits lol.

I can understand why so many men feel less confident once they’ve been here a few weeks and got nowhere.

Just relax, join in where you can OP, send sane, polite messages and don’t get down hearted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guessed it would increase women's confidence.. But for me I feel unless I'm a gym rat, black, VWE, covered in tattoos or very experienced then I have nothing to offer the women on this site.

I'm sorry, but that's a load of tosh.

I cannot speak for every woman, but it is how you present yourself, your outlook, the quality of your profile, your interactions with others...that gets you noticed.

Really? When women are looking for "exceptional men""

And in my opinion, exceptional men don’t need to be what you described. (No, it doesn’t say ‘I’ll only meet exceptional men’ on my profile).

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I guessed it would increase women's confidence.. But for me I feel unless I'm a gym rat, black, VWE, covered in tattoos or very experienced then I have nothing to offer the women on this site.

Pick 10 random men on here who aren't gym rat, black, vwe, tattooed,or hugely experienced and you'll see a % still get meets.

I think your expectations need altering.

Do you get regular sex by meeting women away from fab ?

"

No I'm ashamed to say I can't remember the last time I had sex lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guessed it would increase women's confidence.. But for me I feel unless I'm a gym rat, black, VWE, covered in tattoos or very experienced then I have nothing to offer the women on this site.

Pick 10 random men on here who aren't gym rat, black, vwe, tattooed,or hugely experienced and you'll see a % still get meets.

I think your expectations need altering.

Do you get regular sex by meeting women away from fab ?

No I'm ashamed to say I can't remember the last time I had sex lol"

Then what were your expectations when you joined fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From another guys perspective it can, very easily get you down on here.

Yes, the athletic/heavily muscled guys seem to have an easier time, but being physically impressive helps boost your confidence.

I've found that the more socials you go on, the more charisma and confidence you gain in talking to women on this site, you learn how to communicate.

And at the end of the day, most women on this site won't get into bed with you if you don't know how to talk to them, if you haven't read their profile ect.

Worry about whether you meet their physical expectations once you have them thinking about meeting you for coffee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, but I can see how it might. "

I can't. Do tell please

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I guessed it would increase women's confidence.. But for me I feel unless I'm a gym rat, black, VWE, covered in tattoos or very experienced then I have nothing to offer the women on this site.

Pick 10 random men on here who aren't gym rat, black, vwe, tattooed,or hugely experienced and you'll see a % still get meets.

I think your expectations need altering.

Do you get regular sex by meeting women away from fab ?

No I'm ashamed to say I can't remember the last time I had sex lol

Then what were your expectations when you joined fab? "

I had no expectations of meeting women anytime soon, because I feel women are spoilt for choice online.. But I didn't expect to see so many disheartening profiles.

Sorry if this offends anyone here, but many of the women on this site come across like very stuck up and as if the world revolves around them.

But all of you in the forums seem to be cool.

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Do anyone else feel this site has affected their confidence? "

If I took this site to heart, I’d be a sniveling heap. If anything it’s made me indifferent to people’s desires as most seem to want everything handed to them or have no idea what they want.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I guessed it would increase women's confidence.. But for me I feel unless I'm a gym rat, black, VWE, covered in tattoos or very experienced then I have nothing to offer the women on this site.

You really shouldn't compare yourself to others, there's no self-worth in that.

it's hard not to with the type of profiles on this site. "

Maybe learn something from them. Look at your own profile to see if you can change something to enhance it. Work at it a little.I do appreciate it's different for women but still I have to work at it. I want to attract certain type of man and presentation is important to do this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amazingly empathetic responses from some ladies here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks to everyone for the messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you start here, as with anything in life, try to think what you can realistically expect to get out of the site, it might not be meets to start with, you might just take some great pics of yourself for your profile and realise you're not as bad as you think, or you might make some forum friends and your confidence could build from there.

All great tasks are about small steps and building up. If you just look at it as "I joined a sex sure and nobody has shagged me yet" then of course it could get you down but why not focus on the steps involved in reaching your target and don't put yourself under pressure. Enjoy your time here and have a laugh in the forum as a start maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would suggest your confidence was already low before joining

Fab has likely affirmed your feelings as opposed to creating them

Let me just mention a few things here (in no particular order)

I am 10 years your senior, at 5ft6 I fall well short of the 6ft+ SOME women seek. I am far from toned. I am hairy, including the dreaded and much maligned hairy back. I am bald. I wear specs. I like a bit of cock too - in itself a red flag to a lot of members

Despite all that, I've done OK on here

I have blithly past the profiles of those that seek what I am not

I have happily skipped past the ones with a list of demands similar to the Dead Sea Scrolls

I've not taken to heart the 'no thanks', the non responses and the outright delete and blocks

I think I have been able to do that because I actually quite like me and have a well honed sense of self worth

I'm also a pretty decent bloke and have always shown respect to those that have approached me, led me on and let me down

The site owes me nothing

Its members owe me nothing

Likewise, I owe the site and its members nothing in return - other than respect and decency

You have been here two weeks

It is no time at all

Making the site work for you can take months for a single guy

You can get to know people in the Forums, attend organised Forum socials, go on cam or start chatting with Forumites in private

Adjust your settings, lose the woe is me, stop pitting yourself against guys you could never be

Build up a reputation as being a decent guy as opposed to Top Totty and a piece of meat, a fucktoy

I would sooner be remembered for being a half decent bloke than that guy with the abs and tatts that we fucked once*

* note: some VWE, tattooed and gym fit guys are really decent too

I've forgotten where I started now , but I might come back with more later

In the mean time, don't make life harder for yourself

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By *ewkesbury cowboyMan
over a year ago

Tewkesbury

Occasionally some of the folks on this site have knocked my confidence but then I find others who pick it right back up

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

It has mine from time to time but I think it depends what frame of mind I'm in... So if your not feeling it then have some time out or don't organise any meets while you feel better about things.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Do anyone else feel this site has affected their confidence? "

Nope!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some great advice given here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do anyone else feel this site has affected their confidence? "

This should be a question for straight guys on the site.

Women can only get a confidence boost on here since their mailboxes are full all the time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do anyone else feel this site has affected their confidence?

This should be a question for straight guys on the site.

Women can only get a confidence boost on here since their mailboxes are full all the time. "

I was just thinking the same. The only people who have messaged me are men and one nice couple gave me some advice.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Do anyone else feel this site has affected their confidence?

This should be a question for straight guys on the site.

Women can only get a confidence boost on here since their mailboxes are full all the time. "

Actually no, my inbox is rarely full.

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By *ornyhornytwoCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

No. Because for every couple that doesn't like us, we won't like another couple. You can't like everyone and even then your trying to judge people based on a picture and text...

Best to just not think past that... It's out of your control what somebody else thinks x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My messages rarely get seen,so I thought women were getting bombed with lots of messages and have no time to get through them all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do anyone else feel this site has affected their confidence?

This should be a question for straight guys on the site.

Women can only get a confidence boost on here since their mailboxes are full all the time.

I was just thinking the same. The only people who have messaged me are men and one nice couple gave me some advice. "

Oh believe me, when you first join and have hundreds of messages within a few hours as a single woman, without even a profile picture, it does knock your confidence as it goes, because you realise at that moment that those hundreds of blokes who send those emails within hours of you joining really give zero shits about the person, and all that matters is you have a fanny. That's where it hit me in the confidence stakes right at the start, I no longer felt like I was viewed a person and felt like a hole.

P

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By *icetouch83Man
over a year ago

swansea

No

I no how it goes odds are not in our favour but if your expecting a different woman every week then it's not going to happen. I get more meets off of here than on. I'm mostly here for the forum and to chat with friends if I get the chance to meet someone then it's a bonus

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Do anyone else feel this site has affected their confidence?

This should be a question for straight guys on the site.

Women can only get a confidence boost on here since their mailboxes are full all the time.

Actually no, my inbox is rarely full."

Lol are you a fast reader

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't place all of your swinging hopes 'online' or on here. You need to get out there and mingle! Meet real people.

The arranged Socials can be a fantastic way of making connections. They are happening all over and a great way of meeting others.

Get yourself to a club! It takes proper balls to walk through those doors, but once you do it, an entire swinging world will I open up to you.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Do anyone else feel this site has affected their confidence?

This should be a question for straight guys on the site.

Women can only get a confidence boost on here since their mailboxes are full all the time.

Actually no, my inbox is rarely full.

Lol are you a fast reader

"

I only read the ones that have read my profile and attached a pic, the rest are an immediate delete. Plus, I use the filters so it really narrows down who can message me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's very much about perceptions on here.. if you think most women only talk to and meet the big, pretty, gym bodies you're very much mistaken. There's a market for everyone to show their personality and photos that give a glimpse of who you are. Treat it as talking to a really diverse group in a pub and you'll realise how different we all are. It's no better for women being bombarded with messages from people who don't care what we think or like. Certainly doesn't give me confidence that any of these randomers would look at me twice in the street... it is what it is.. I look for things that I associate with rather than the packaging it's in..

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Do anyone else feel this site has affected their confidence?

This should be a question for straight guys on the site.

Women can only get a confidence boost on here since their mailboxes are full all the time.

Actually no, my inbox is rarely full."

By full you mean reaching your daily limit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do anyone else feel this site has affected their confidence?

This should be a question for straight guys on the site.

Women can only get a confidence boost on here since their mailboxes are full all the time.

I was just thinking the same. The only people who have messaged me are men and one nice couple gave me some advice.

Oh believe me, when you first join and have hundreds of messages within a few hours as a single woman, without even a profile picture, it does knock your confidence as it goes, because you realise at that moment that those hundreds of blokes who send those emails within hours of you joining really give zero shits about the person, and all that matters is you have a fanny. That's where it hit me in the confidence stakes right at the start, I no longer felt like I was viewed a person and felt like a hole.

P"

That is a good point and I never thought of it in that way about women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has highs and lows. Had confidence boosts and confidence knocks over periods of time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Myself being the female part of the couple, am not into Gym bodies, yeuk. Black, white and pink get the same consideration. I prefer medium size over VWE.

There is a huge amount more men than women on the site, which I guess can be disheartening for men.

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do anyone else feel this site has affected their confidence?

This should be a question for straight guys on the site.

Women can only get a confidence boost on here since their mailboxes are full all the time.

Actually no, my inbox is rarely full."

How many a day on average?

If it's a few nice ones from some normal guys then it should affect cofidence in a positive way at least a little.

I've read really a lot of profiles and many women write on them "sorry for not answering to many messages" and similar things.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Do anyone else feel this site has affected their confidence?

This should be a question for straight guys on the site.

Women can only get a confidence boost on here since their mailboxes are full all the time.

Actually no, my inbox is rarely full.

How many a day on average?

If it's a few nice ones from some normal guys then it should affect cofidence in a positive way at least a little.

I've read really a lot of profiles and many women write on them "sorry for not answering to many messages" and similar things."

Anything between 10 and 50 a day, depending if I've put up new pics or a status.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guessed it would increase women's confidence.. But for me I feel unless I'm a gym rat, black, VWE, covered in tattoos or very experienced then I have nothing to offer the women on this site.

Pick 10 random men on here who aren't gym rat, black, vwe, tattooed,or hugely experienced and you'll see a % still get meets.

I think your expectations need altering.

Do you get regular sex by meeting women away from fab ?

No I'm ashamed to say I can't remember the last time I had sex lol

Then what were your expectations when you joined fab?

I had no expectations of meeting women anytime soon, because I feel women are spoilt for choice online.. But I didn't expect to see so many disheartening profiles.

Sorry if this offends anyone here, but many of the women on this site come across like very stuck up and as if the world revolves around them.

But all of you in the forums seem to be cool. "

Yes we women have choice even old birds like me

Women on here gave the right to choose as do men I’ve been knocked back. Yeah, I was like wtf really too, lol.

But read the profiles, keep it light and polite and IMO you're more likely to succeed.

Keep at it, you’ll succeed and your balls will regain their natural hue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think after 2 weeks you should still be in the curious phase not already knocked for confidence, unless as Bussy pointed out above you already have a bit of a complex about yourself, which your gym bunny, tattoo comment seems to illuminate. I have never met a man such as you describe as the only ones with any luck on here.

The world is full of people having sex and not just the pretty ones.

Work on your own presence and confidence not looking at what you are not.

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By *eavier than HeavenMan
over a year ago

Belfast

This is a interesting thread! I'm just gonna lurk.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do anyone else feel this site has affected their confidence?

This should be a question for straight guys on the site.

Women can only get a confidence boost on here since their mailboxes are full all the time.

Actually no, my inbox is rarely full.

How many a day on average?

If it's a few nice ones from some normal guys then it should affect cofidence in a positive way at least a little.

I've read really a lot of profiles and many women write on them "sorry for not answering to many messages" and similar things.

Anything between 10 and 50 a day, depending if I've put up new pics or a status."

Wow that makes me think I have no chance of ever clicking with any women on here.

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"Do anyone else feel this site has affected their confidence?

This should be a question for straight guys on the site.

Women can only get a confidence boost on here since their mailboxes are full all the time.

Actually no, my inbox is rarely full.

How many a day on average?

If it's a few nice ones from some normal guys then it should affect cofidence in a positive way at least a little.

I've read really a lot of profiles and many women write on them "sorry for not answering to many messages" and similar things.

Anything between 10 and 50 a day, depending if I've put up new pics or a status.

Wow that makes me think I have no chance of ever clicking with any women on here. "

Pretty much, don’t treat it as a sex site then you won’t be disappointed.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Do anyone else feel this site has affected their confidence?

This should be a question for straight guys on the site.

Women can only get a confidence boost on here since their mailboxes are full all the time.

Actually no, my inbox is rarely full.

How many a day on average?

If it's a few nice ones from some normal guys then it should affect cofidence in a positive way at least a little.

I've read really a lot of profiles and many women write on them "sorry for not answering to many messages" and similar things.

Anything between 10 and 50 a day, depending if I've put up new pics or a status.

Wow that makes me think I have no chance of ever clicking with any women on here. "

You say on your profile that you're not a swinger, but you're on a swinging site looking for meets with swingers. Maybe you need to think about what you want from meets and adjust your profile accordingly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guessed it would increase women's confidence.. But for me I feel unless I'm a gym rat, black, VWE, covered in tattoos or very experienced then I have nothing to offer the women on this site. "

That's bollocks mate.

A very very small percentage of women want one or more of the traits you have mentioned.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I guessed it would increase women's confidence.. But for me I feel unless I'm a gym rat, black, VWE, covered in tattoos or very experienced then I have nothing to offer the women on this site.

Pick 10 random men on here who aren't gym rat, black, vwe, tattooed,or hugely experienced and you'll see a % still get meets.

I think your expectations need altering.

Do you get regular sex by meeting women away from fab ?

No I'm ashamed to say I can't remember the last time I had sex lol

Then what were your expectations when you joined fab?

I had no expectations of meeting women anytime soon, because I feel women are spoilt for choice online.. But I didn't expect to see so many disheartening profiles.

Sorry if this offends anyone here, but many of the women on this site come across like very stuck up and as if the world revolves around them.

But all of you in the forums seem to be cool.

Yes we women have choice even old birds like me

Women on here gave the right to choose as do men I’ve been knocked back. Yeah, I was like wtf really too, lol.

But read the profiles, keep it light and polite and IMO you're more likely to succeed.

Keep at it, you’ll succeed and your balls will regain their natural hue

"

Men have the right to choose if they have choice. I was reading a forum recently about women who are punching above their weight and I thought are the ladies punching above their weight or are the men punching bellow their weight for an easy win lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do anyone else feel this site has affected their confidence?

This should be a question for straight guys on the site.

Women can only get a confidence boost on here since their mailboxes are full all the time.

Actually no, my inbox is rarely full.

How many a day on average?

If it's a few nice ones from some normal guys then it should affect cofidence in a positive way at least a little.

I've read really a lot of profiles and many women write on them "sorry for not answering to many messages" and similar things.

Anything between 10 and 50 a day, depending if I've put up new pics or a status.

Wow that makes me think I have no chance of ever clicking with any women on here.

You say on your profile that you're not a swinger, but you're on a swinging site looking for meets with swingers. Maybe you need to think about what you want from meets and adjust your profile accordingly."

Any tips from anyone please?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Overall, yes...but in a positive way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guessed it would increase women's confidence.. But for me I feel unless I'm a gym rat, black, VWE, covered in tattoos or very experienced then I have nothing to offer the women on this site.

That's bollocks mate.

A very very small percentage of women want one or more of the traits you have mentioned.

"

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Nope I’ve always been pretty confident

The day it’s started effecting me negatively I’d leave

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By *ydnNancyCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

As most have already said you need to try not to get yourself tied into knots about what certain people are asking for as preferences and realise that every type of person has the opportunity to have fun here.

I’m a UK Size 24, tattooed, Syd is medium build and although his cock is a great size he’s not VWE and not covered in tattooed or rocking a gym bod. Yet we’ve had LOTS of fun here (solo and couple) because both of us are confident in our sexual presence, and don’t hang off the supposed ideals perpetuated amongst society or this site.

If you go to a club or a group social you will see all sorts of people, differing sizes, body types, cultures and looks.

Sexual attraction is subjective. Take a look in the mirror and start liking what you see and you’ll see a change in your outlook here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As most have already said you need to try not to get yourself tied into knots about what certain people are asking for as preferences and realise that every type of person has the opportunity to have fun here.

I’m a UK Size 24, tattooed, Syd is medium build and although his cock is a great size he’s not VWE and not covered in tattooed or rocking a gym bod. Yet we’ve had LOTS of fun here (solo and couple) because both of us are confident in our sexual presence, and don’t hang off the supposed ideals perpetuated amongst society or this site.

If you go to a club or a group social you will see all sorts of people, differing sizes, body types, cultures and looks.

Sexual attraction is subjective. Take a look in the mirror and start liking what you see and you’ll see a change in your outlook here"

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

No quite the opposite. Having loads of fun on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes at times I’ve had my confidence knocked, but overall it’s built my confidence up. I accept that I’m not everyone’s cup of tea and concentrate on those that like me for what I am x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This place can knock your confidence and highlight any insecurities you might have I (Mrs) tend to just take a break from here for a few days or until start to feel better about myself again.

Sometimes just have to remind yourself that nobody is everybodies cup of tea and its ok to have wobbly bits! Actually sometimes being on the forum really helps with confidence- i dont like my large aerolas but came across a thread the other day specifically for people who love them! Check out different threads and there might be someone saying how they love a particular quality you have!

Btw from my point of view - a six pack profile pic is good but if the message doesnt make me smile or catch my interest im not interested - its all about the msg content for me

Good luck op

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Do anyone else feel this site has affected their confidence? "

No!

I don't rely on strangers to make me feel good. Didn't have nurturing parents. Learnt very early in life the only person to make me feel good is me.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"I guessed it would increase women's confidence.. But for me I feel unless I'm a gym rat, black, VWE, covered in tattoos or very experienced then I have nothing to offer the women on this site.

I'm sorry, but that's a load of tosh.

I cannot speak for every woman, but it is how you present yourself, your outlook, the quality of your profile, your interactions with others...that gets you noticed.

Really? When women are looking for "exceptional men""

Exceptional is only a state of mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some great advice given here "

Are you feeling a bit better?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The site itself didn’t knock my confidence but getting in s relationship with somebody on here who was using the site behind me back did but that’s not the sites fault and it is a good way to meet new people the best way to treat it is your not going to be everybody’s cup of tea and take the knock backs as just that don’t take them personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it hasn’t.

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By *robinsonMan
over a year ago

Alton

The site is so impossible you do everything that the women on here tell you like: be polite, don't just talk about sex, don't shove cock photos at them and beg them for sex, have different photos on your profile and they can't even message you back the site is a joke it's impossible

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

Yes, has helped mine massively. I had such low body confidence when I joined, I feel so much better about myself now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think Fab has knocked my confidence, it's just confirmed I was right not to have much to start with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The site is so impossible you do everything that the women on here tell you like: be polite, don't just talk about sex, don't shove cock photos at them and beg them for sex, have different photos on your profile and they can't even message you back the site is a joke it's impossible "

If this site is a joke, as you say, why don’t you just delete your profile and try elsewhere?

I will never understand people complaining about a site being bad, whilst staying on it.

If something doesn’t work for me, I change my approach, or ditch it.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"The site is so impossible you do everything that the women on here tell you like: be polite, don't just talk about sex, don't shove cock photos at them and beg them for sex, have different photos on your profile and they can't even message you back the site is a joke it's impossible "

But you still have to be attractive to them. It says in the rules that no reply is a polite no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The site is so impossible you do everything that the women on here tell you like: be polite, don't just talk about sex, don't shove cock photos at them and beg them for sex, have different photos on your profile and they can't even message you back the site is a joke it's impossible "

So you’re a semi decent human being and expect that to be what gets you fucked?

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

Occasionally it has but it doesn't last very long at all, nothing you can really do about it so why get worked up over it, just don't let fab be the main focus in your life and enjoy the forums as there all a friendly bunch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it hasn’t knocked it but it has made me more aware of areas in which I need to build my confidence. My friends on here help me build it.

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By *ZcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Thetford

Nope.. maybe? I go through phases of confidence which i think is normal? The one for me thats the killer is my social anxiety..

I have to feel comfertable with someone before a meeting in person and a lot dont understand that. They dont have too though. But asking me to meet in an hour is never gonna happen.

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By *robinsonMan
over a year ago

Alton


"The site is so impossible you do everything that the women on here tell you like: be polite, don't just talk about sex, don't shove cock photos at them and beg them for sex, have different photos on your profile and they can't even message you back the site is a joke it's impossible

But you still have to be attractive to them. It says in the rules that no reply is a polite no thanks."

Christ I didn't realise I was that hideous. I get I'm not exactly chris hemsworth but to be flat out turned down by roughly 30 women with no success whatsoever wow

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By *eralt80Man
over a year ago

cork

Yes, for me it has increased.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The site is so impossible you do everything that the women on here tell you like: be polite, don't just talk about sex, don't shove cock photos at them and beg them for sex, have different photos on your profile and they can't even message you back the site is a joke it's impossible "

You want some cheese with that whine?

P

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"The site is so impossible you do everything that the women on here tell you like: be polite, don't just talk about sex, don't shove cock photos at them and beg them for sex, have different photos on your profile and they can't even message you back the site is a joke it's impossible

But you still have to be attractive to them. It says in the rules that no reply is a polite no thanks.

Christ I didn't realise I was that hideous. I get I'm not exactly chris hemsworth but to be flat out turned down by roughly 30 women with no success whatsoever wow "

No offence but this explains alot. You're sulking because out of 30 women none fancy you, if you were expecting loads of sex with no effort you came to the wrong site.

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By *robinsonMan
over a year ago

Alton


"The site is so impossible you do everything that the women on here tell you like: be polite, don't just talk about sex, don't shove cock photos at them and beg them for sex, have different photos on your profile and they can't even message you back the site is a joke it's impossible

You want some cheese with that whine?

P"

Well aren't you funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The site is so impossible you do everything that the women on here tell you like: be polite, don't just talk about sex, don't shove cock photos at them and beg them for sex, have different photos on your profile and they can't even message you back the site is a joke it's impossible

You want some cheese with that whine?

P"

Ffs I’m in Tesco and just dropped a nacho kit and spilled it everywhere cause I was laughing at this

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)


"The site is so impossible you do everything that the women on here tell you like: be polite, don't just talk about sex, don't shove cock photos at them and beg them for sex, have different photos on your profile and they can't even message you back the site is a joke it's impossible

But you still have to be attractive to them. It says in the rules that no reply is a polite no thanks.

Christ I didn't realise I was that hideous. I get I'm not exactly chris hemsworth but to be flat out turned down by roughly 30 women with no success whatsoever wow "

You're not that hideous, The problem for you is that there's probably plenty of slightly less hideous guys for them to choose from.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some great advice given here

Are you feeling a bit better? "

Yeah and thanks again to everyone who responded

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds


"The site is so impossible you do everything that the women on here tell you like: be polite, don't just talk about sex, don't shove cock photos at them and beg them for sex, have different photos on your profile and they can't even message you back the site is a joke it's impossible

You want some cheese with that whine?

P"

Grapes and crackers too?

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By *robinsonMan
over a year ago

Alton


"The site is so impossible you do everything that the women on here tell you like: be polite, don't just talk about sex, don't shove cock photos at them and beg them for sex, have different photos on your profile and they can't even message you back the site is a joke it's impossible

You want some cheese with that whine?

P

Ffs I’m in Tesco and just dropped a nacho kit and spilled it everywhere cause I was laughing at this "

ooo get you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The site is so impossible you do everything that the women on here tell you like: be polite, don't just talk about sex, don't shove cock photos at them and beg them for sex, have different photos on your profile and they can't even message you back the site is a joke it's impossible

You want some cheese with that whine?

P

Ffs I’m in Tesco and just dropped a nacho kit and spilled it everywhere cause I was laughing at this

ooo get you"

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The site is so impossible you do everything that the women on here tell you like: be polite, don't just talk about sex, don't shove cock photos at them and beg them for sex, have different photos on your profile and they can't even message you back the site is a joke it's impossible

But you still have to be attractive to them. It says in the rules that no reply is a polite no thanks.

Christ I didn't realise I was that hideous. I get I'm not exactly chris hemsworth but to be flat out turned down by roughly 30 women with no success whatsoever wow "

Yeah, and those 30 women may not even be looking to hook up at that time. People have lives outside of fab, things like mood can impact on how messages are recieved. I know full well I could receive a message off someone and if I was feeling a bit blue I may not receive it well, though if i was in a good mood it would be totally different.

There are so many variables to be taken into consideration, I think people forget those receiving the messages are human too

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The site is so impossible you do everything that the women on here tell you like: be polite, don't just talk about sex, don't shove cock photos at them and beg them for sex, have different photos on your profile and they can't even message you back the site is a joke it's impossible

But you still have to be attractive to them. It says in the rules that no reply is a polite no thanks.

Christ I didn't realise I was that hideous. I get I'm not exactly chris hemsworth but to be flat out turned down by roughly 30 women with no success whatsoever wow "

Gosh all of 30 women! If there were 30 women in a pub how many of them would you expect to fancy you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally it has helped my confidence being on here, but everyone is different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The site is so impossible you do everything that the women on here tell you like: be polite, don't just talk about sex, don't shove cock photos at them and beg them for sex, have different photos on your profile and they can't even message you back the site is a joke it's impossible

You want some cheese with that whine?

P

Ffs I’m in Tesco and just dropped a nacho kit and spilled it everywhere cause I was laughing at this "

I'm a bitch ain't I. I've not let the evil in me out for a while.... I think it's creeping to the surface

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The site is so impossible you do everything that the women on here tell you like: be polite, don't just talk about sex, don't shove cock photos at them and beg them for sex, have different photos on your profile and they can't even message you back the site is a joke it's impossible

You want some cheese with that whine?

P

Grapes and crackers too? "

Sour ones?

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)


"The site is so impossible you do everything that the women on here tell you like: be polite, don't just talk about sex, don't shove cock photos at them and beg them for sex, have different photos on your profile and they can't even message you back the site is a joke it's impossible

But you still have to be attractive to them. It says in the rules that no reply is a polite no thanks.

Christ I didn't realise I was that hideous. I get I'm not exactly chris hemsworth but to be flat out turned down by roughly 30 women with no success whatsoever wow

Gosh all of 30 women! If there were 30 women in a pub how many of them would you expect to fancy you? "

How d*unk are they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The site is so impossible you do everything that the women on here tell you like: be polite, don't just talk about sex, don't shove cock photos at them and beg them for sex, have different photos on your profile and they can't even message you back the site is a joke it's impossible

You want some cheese with that whine?

P"

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By *robinsonMan
over a year ago

Alton


"The site is so impossible you do everything that the women on here tell you like: be polite, don't just talk about sex, don't shove cock photos at them and beg them for sex, have different photos on your profile and they can't even message you back the site is a joke it's impossible

But you still have to be attractive to them. It says in the rules that no reply is a polite no thanks.

Christ I didn't realise I was that hideous. I get I'm not exactly chris hemsworth but to be flat out turned down by roughly 30 women with no success whatsoever wow

Gosh all of 30 women! If there were 30 women in a pub how many of them would you expect to fancy you? "

Well I'd hope at least 1 but apparently not

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The site is so impossible you do everything that the women on here tell you like: be polite, don't just talk about sex, don't shove cock photos at them and beg them for sex, have different photos on your profile and they can't even message you back the site is a joke it's impossible

But you still have to be attractive to them. It says in the rules that no reply is a polite no thanks.

Christ I didn't realise I was that hideous. I get I'm not exactly chris hemsworth but to be flat out turned down by roughly 30 women with no success whatsoever wow "

Maybe it just wasn't their time to click with you.

Womem get alot of attention and it's hard to stand out online.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

Initially it was a bit of a confidence boost rather than anything else but that was fleeting really.

I’m confident in what I am and what I’m not. I have had two experiences recently that I would say have had a negative impact on my confidence. It’s important to keep things in perspective though and hopefully these feelings will also be fleeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do anyone else feel this site has affected their confidence? "

It has done a few times, usually after sending a face pic.then getting a rejection,I am not that bad(honest), but often look in the mirror and think why would anyone meet me? I actually have had a number of meets over the years so that boosts me up again, especially the lady I am meeting at the moment.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

On a site that is nothing more than a hook up site for the majority of users , it’s great to see that the forum gets its kicks on a thread about how guys get their confidence knocked by laughing at them . I really don’t know why men bother with fab to be honest . Especially when it comes to the forum which could be a helpful tool for them , but is more often than not a platform for couples and women to further put men down .

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By *robinsonMan
over a year ago

Alton


"On a site that is nothing more than a hook up site for the majority of users , it’s great to see that the forum gets its kicks on a thread about how guys get their confidence knocked by laughing at them . I really don’t know why men bother with fab to be honest . Especially when it comes to the forum which could be a helpful tool for them , but is more often than not a platform for couples and women to further put men down . "

Couldn't have put it better myself

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

2 Weeks and it's affecting you behave lol what is wrong with you needy boys go have a wank or something have a cold bath ffs 2 weeks hahahah

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By *robinsonMan
over a year ago

Alton


"2 Weeks and it's affecting you behave lol what is wrong with you needy boys go have a wank or something have a cold bath ffs 2 weeks hahahah"

funny aren't you haha do one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On a site that is nothing more than a hook up site for the majority of users , it’s great to see that the forum gets its kicks on a thread about how guys get their confidence knocked by laughing at them . I really don’t know why men bother with fab to be honest . Especially when it comes to the forum which could be a helpful tool for them , but is more often than not a platform for couples and women to further put men down . "

This thread is pissing me off. A woman recently posted about confidence issues and she got the usual hugs and glitter.

A man posts about his confidence issues and people just make him feel even worse with snide comments.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"2 Weeks and it's affecting you behave lol what is wrong with you needy boys go have a wank or something have a cold bath ffs 2 weeks hahahah

funny aren't you haha do one "

Don’t rise to it mate , it’s not worth it .

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"2 Weeks and it's affecting you behave lol what is wrong with you needy boys go have a wank or something have a cold bath ffs 2 weeks hahahah

funny aren't you haha do one "

Not funny no, bored to shit with these whinny threads yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

You are always going to get a mixed bag of advice. And there has been some good advice in this thread.

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By *robinsonMan
over a year ago

Alton


"2 Weeks and it's affecting you behave lol what is wrong with you needy boys go have a wank or something have a cold bath ffs 2 weeks hahahah

funny aren't you haha do one

Not funny no, bored to shit with these whinny threads yes"

Then don't go on then and participate...

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"On a site that is nothing more than a hook up site for the majority of users , it’s great to see that the forum gets its kicks on a thread about how guys get their confidence knocked by laughing at them . I really don’t know why men bother with fab to be honest . Especially when it comes to the forum which could be a helpful tool for them , but is more often than not a platform for couples and women to further put men down .

This thread is pissing me off. A woman recently posted about confidence issues and she got the usual hugs and glitter.

A man posts about his confidence issues and people just make him feel even worse with snide comments. "

Exactly , people go on about equality and all that . Then they say men should be more in touch with their sensitive side and be more open about mental health etc..... What a joke !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"2 Weeks and it's affecting you behave lol what is wrong with you needy boys go have a wank or something have a cold bath ffs 2 weeks hahahah

funny aren't you haha do one

Not funny no, bored to shit with these whinny threads yes

Then don't go on then and participate..."

I can post where ever iike I'm just pointing out 2 weeks and my man's needs feeling affected lol behave lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On a site that is nothing more than a hook up site for the majority of users , it’s great to see that the forum gets its kicks on a thread about how guys get their confidence knocked by laughing at them . I really don’t know why men bother with fab to be honest . Especially when it comes to the forum which could be a helpful tool for them , but is more often than not a platform for couples and women to further put men down .

This thread is pissing me off. A woman recently posted about confidence issues and she got the usual hugs and glitter.

A man posts about his confidence issues and people just make him feel even worse with snide comments. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You are always going to get a mixed bag of advice. And there has been some good advice in this thread. "

Agreed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guessed it would increase women's confidence.. But for me I feel unless I'm a gym rat, black, VWE, covered in tattoos or very experienced then I have nothing to offer the women on this site. "

It doesn't increase all women's confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a bit of a rollercoaster, up and down all the time.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"It’s a bit of a rollercoaster, up and down all the time. "

Once you learn how to ride it out it gets easier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guessed it would increase women's confidence.. But for me I feel unless I'm a gym rat, black, VWE, covered in tattoos or very experienced then I have nothing to offer the women on this site.

Pick 10 random men on here who aren't gym rat, black, vwe, tattooed,or hugely experienced and you'll see a % still get meets.

I think your expectations need altering.

Do you get regular sex by meeting women away from fab ?

No I'm ashamed to say I can't remember the last time I had sex lol

Then what were your expectations when you joined fab?

I had no expectations of meeting women anytime soon, because I feel women are spoilt for choice online.. But I didn't expect to see so many disheartening profiles.

Sorry if this offends anyone here, but many of the women on this site come across like very stuck up and as if the world revolves around them.

But all of you in the forums seem to be cool.

Yes we women have choice even old birds like me

Women on here gave the right to choose as do men I’ve been knocked back. Yeah, I was like wtf really too, lol.

But read the profiles, keep it light and polite and IMO you're more likely to succeed.

Keep at it, you’ll succeed and your balls will regain their natural hue

Men have the right to choose if they have choice. I was reading a forum recently about women who are punching above their weight and I thought are the ladies punching above their weight or are the men punching bellow their weight for an easy win lol.

"

Punching above their weight?

Interesting turn of phrase

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"2 Weeks and it's affecting you behave lol what is wrong with you needy boys go have a wank or something have a cold bath ffs 2 weeks hahahah

funny aren't you haha do one

Not funny no, bored to shit with these whinny threads yes

Then don't go on then and participate...

I can post where ever iike I'm just pointing out 2 weeks and my man's needs feeling affected lol behave lol"

I guess you are referring to me. Yes I've been here 2weeks and it affected my confidence so I decided to write a forum about it. Like you I can also post what I like. Smh.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"On a site that is nothing more than a hook up site for the majority of users , it’s great to see that the forum gets its kicks on a thread about how guys get their confidence knocked by laughing at them . I really don’t know why men bother with fab to be honest . Especially when it comes to the forum which could be a helpful tool for them , but is more often than not a platform for couples and women to further put men down . "

The majority of posts have advised the OP ( and others) to be realistic and positive.

When I see people complaining they can't get meets on here my two thoughts are well do you do better in real life, and if not why did you think it would be any different on here?I'd hazard that the majority of guys who are successful on here aren't the male model types or the gym bunnies, but the ones who have a bit of personality and wit.

Whinging is never going to be sexy, but positivity is attractive.

Dont take yourself or the site too seriously and you should do ok.

Happy fabbing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As most have already said you need to try not to get yourself tied into knots about what certain people are asking for as preferences and realise that every type of person has the opportunity to have fun here.

I’m a UK Size 24, tattooed, Syd is medium build and although his cock is a great size he’s not VWE and not covered in tattooed or rocking a gym bod. Yet we’ve had LOTS of fun here (solo and couple) because both of us are confident in our sexual presence, and don’t hang off the supposed ideals perpetuated amongst society or this site.

If you go to a club or a group social you will see all sorts of people, differing sizes, body types, cultures and looks.

Sexual attraction is subjective. Take a look in the mirror and start liking what you see and you’ll see a change in your outlook here"

I’m jealous, couldn’t have put it better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On a site that is nothing more than a hook up site for the majority of users , it’s great to see that the forum gets its kicks on a thread about how guys get their confidence knocked by laughing at them . I really don’t know why men bother with fab to be honest . Especially when it comes to the forum which could be a helpful tool for them , but is more often than not a platform for couples and women to further put men down .

This thread is pissing me off. A woman recently posted about confidence issues and she got the usual hugs and glitter.

A man posts about his confidence issues and people just make him feel even worse with snide comments. "

There’s a man posting about his confidences issues & taking on board the advice given to him.

Then there’s a man posting about not getting meets in the three weeks he’s been a member, then getting an attitude over it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"2 Weeks and it's affecting you behave lol what is wrong with you needy boys go have a wank or something have a cold bath ffs 2 weeks hahahah

funny aren't you haha do one

Not funny no, bored to shit with these whinny threads yes

Then don't go on then and participate...

I can post where ever iike I'm just pointing out 2 weeks and my man's needs feeling affected lol behave lol

I guess you are referring to me. Yes I've been here 2weeks and it affected my confidence so I decided to write a forum about it. Like you I can also post what I like. Smh. "

I don’t think you’ve said anything wrong.

I agree with what someone else said, your confidence wasn’t probably already low before you joined.

It’s always best to work on that before diving in at the deep end to sites like this where the ratio of women to men isn’t equal.

At least you’ve read some of the advice people have given, and it might help you!

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By *am4CamWoman
over a year ago

Fairy Land


"Do anyone else feel this site has affected their confidence? "

Please don’t let a bunch of anonymous strangers on a website actually affect your sense of self. On my old profile (where I actually came out of hiding and interacted rather well), I was one of those women who got lots of messages, winks, fabs etc. It was actually quite daunting and at times overwhelming. Learn to love yourself and don’t let online nonsense knock you.

It’s early days for you on Planet Fab. Sit back and evaluate. You won’t find it full of buxom wenches ready and waiting to adore you. But, with the right attitude and the ability to bravely step away from a keyboard and maybe go to a club or organised social, you might well find that the site can be a little gem.

Chin up OP.

P.s. women on here aren’t arrogant arseholes, nor are they dial a shag hoes. They’re just nice ladies looking for exceptional gents and other ladies (the exceptional isn’t model fit, it’s exceptionally respectful, fun and engaging).

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Well I'm bolloxed on the confused.com scale. Read the OP profile, says not a swinger, just around for the forums. Has no 'interests' ticked, so nothing therefore to interest me. Therefore, not sure why the OP is complaining.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

No it’s done wonders for mine. I’m much more comfortable in my body now directly as a result of meets from here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do anyone else feel this site has affected their confidence?

Please don’t let a bunch of anonymous strangers on a website actually affect your sense of self. On my old profile (where I actually came out of hiding and interacted rather well), I was one of those women who got lots of messages, winks, fabs etc. It was actually quite daunting and at times overwhelming. Learn to love yourself and don’t let online nonsense knock you.

It’s early days for you on Planet Fab. Sit back and evaluate. You won’t find it full of buxom wenches ready and waiting to adore you. But, with the right attitude and the ability to bravely step away from a keyboard and maybe go to a club or organised social, you might well find that the site can be a little gem.

Chin up OP.

P.s. women on here aren’t arrogant arseholes, nor are they dial a shag hoes. They’re just nice ladies looking for exceptional gents and other ladies (the exceptional isn’t model fit, it’s exceptionally respectful, fun and engaging). "

Well said

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By *hewifeandiCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"2 Weeks and it's affecting you behave lol what is wrong with you needy boys go have a wank or something have a cold bath ffs 2 weeks hahahah

funny aren't you haha do one

Not funny no, bored to shit with these whinny threads yes

Then don't go on then and participate...

I can post where ever iike I'm just pointing out 2 weeks and my man's needs feeling affected lol behave lol

I guess you are referring to me. Yes I've been here 2weeks and it affected my confidence so I decided to write a forum about it. Like you I can also post what I like. Smh. "

I'm not trying to belittle you my friend but be real, we've waited that long for a reply, wev only had 2 meets in 2 years that's led to any sexy play, you're one man in the middle of 1000s 2 weeks is nothing in the world of fab, I apologise if iv upset you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and no. It boosts it up and knocks it down all the time, so I stopped caring or at least trying to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope increased my confidence I have always had a low self esteem and body image people here have sed I’m sexy so definitely boosted it

Mrscxxx

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

My body confidence has improved dramatically since joining and I've met and chatted to lots of lovely people.

Don't force it or it will break

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Do anyone else feel this site has affected their confidence?

Please don’t let a bunch of anonymous strangers on a website actually affect your sense of self. On my old profile (where I actually came out of hiding and interacted rather well), I was one of those women who got lots of messages, winks, fabs etc. It was actually quite daunting and at times overwhelming. Learn to love yourself and don’t let online nonsense knock you.

It’s early days for you on Planet Fab. Sit back and evaluate. You won’t find it full of buxom wenches ready and waiting to adore you. But, with the right attitude and the ability to bravely step away from a keyboard and maybe go to a club or organised social, you might well find that the site can be a little gem.

Chin up OP.

P.s. women on here aren’t arrogant arseholes, nor are they dial a shag hoes. They’re just nice ladies looking for exceptional gents and other ladies (the exceptional isn’t model fit, it’s exceptionally respectful, fun and engaging). "

I guess women define exceptional men in different ways

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

It must be difficult to see confident, sexually liberated women who aren’t media standard stunning on here, wanting to meet men of their own choosing. After all, we spend our lives being objectified, vilified, underpaid, under represented and grateful for any ‘scraps’ men throw at us.

As Bussy suggested, you were probably not all that confident before you joined and I have a strong suspicion you thought women here are just a bunch of village bikes with no self esteem, willing to fuck anything and we are your last chance.

Present yourself as a confident, desirable man and that’s exactly what you will become.

All of us here have choices, every single one and if you feel your confidence has been knocked after just a few weeks of not getting a shag then you really are on the wrong site.

Swinging for most of us is way beyond sticking things in holes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well I'm bolloxed on the confused.com scale. Read the OP profile, says not a swinger, just around for the forums. Has no 'interests' ticked, so nothing therefore to interest me. Therefore, not sure why the OP is complaining."

I have got an interest ticked and I'm not complaining about not meeting any ladies.. Hell no I don't expect to meet anyone so easily.

I just felt it affected my confidence after reading profiles.

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By *exylilzWoman
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

Increased my confidence. Being told how good i look rather than me saying to myself that im ugly and fat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the start yes. I had people meshing me to tell me I am fat. That calling myself curvy is just a nice way of saying I am fat. Now I take what guys say with a pinch of salt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It must be difficult to see confident, sexually liberated women who aren’t media standard stunning on here, wanting to meet men of their own choosing. After all, we spend our lives being objectified, vilified, underpaid, under represented and grateful for any ‘scraps’ men throw at us.

As Bussy suggested, you were probably not all that confident before you joined and I have a strong suspicion you thought women here are just a bunch of village bikes with no self esteem, willing to fuck anything and we are your last chance.

Present yourself as a confident, desirable man and that’s exactly what you will become.

All of us here have choices, every single one and if you feel your confidence has been knocked after just a few weeks of not getting a shag then you really are on the wrong site.

Swinging for most of us is way beyond sticking things in holes."

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It must be difficult to see confident, sexually liberated women who aren’t media standard stunning on here, wanting to meet men of their own choosing. After all, we spend our lives being objectified, vilified, underpaid, under represented and grateful for any ‘scraps’ men throw at us.

As Bussy suggested, you were probably not all that confident before you joined and I have a strong suspicion you thought women here are just a bunch of village bikes with no self esteem, willing to fuck anything and we are your last chance.

Present yourself as a confident, desirable man and that’s exactly what you will become.

All of us here have choices, every single one and if you feel your confidence has been knocked after just a few weeks of not getting a shag then you really are on the wrong site.

Swinging for most of us is way beyond sticking things in holes."

your suspicion of me is wrong and my confidence hasn't been knocked for not getting a shag.

The fact that I haven't had sex through this site is not the point here.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Boosted mine without a doubt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just confirmed what I already knew.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just remember that what most people say to and about you is oftentimes more reflective of what they think and feel about themselves.

Once you accept, understand and internalise this you'll feel very liberated.

Be well, friends.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Second thoughts...

I was just looking back at my messages and some of them look as if I am complaining about not having sex already lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

Definitely affected my confidence. When you can knock on a gorgeous woman's front door wearing nothing but your best lingerie, four inch heels and a fur coat, and they ask you in and tell you how amazing you look... It's the sort of experience you can't forget easily

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Second thoughts...

I was just looking back at my messages and some of them look as if I am complaining about not having sex already lol "

I actually think you've come across as a nice guy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Second thoughts...

I was just looking back at my messages and some of them look as if I am complaining about not having sex already lol

I actually think you've come across as a nice guy. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just remember that what most people say to and about you is oftentimes more reflective of what they think and feel about themselves.

Once you accept, understand and internalise this you'll feel very liberated.

Be well, friends."

Spot on!

Fab and the decent people I have met have been amazing for me.

I’ve made some life long friends & that warms me no end.

BUT being on here has also been an eye opener in to how many nasty, shameful adults there are.

We talk about cyber bullying with the younger generation, we hit out at people that bully kids from a keyboard yet it’s here, on this site.

We’re adults, we should know better!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just remember that what most people say to and about you is oftentimes more reflective of what they think and feel about themselves.

Once you accept, understand and internalise this you'll feel very liberated.

Be well, friends.

Spot on!

Fab and the decent people I have met have been amazing for me.

I’ve made some life long friends & that warms me no end.

BUT being on here has also been an eye opener in to how many nasty, shameful adults there are.

We talk about cyber bullying with the younger generation, we hit out at people that bully kids from a keyboard yet it’s here, on this site.

We’re adults, we should know better!!

"

Exactly.. though sometimes I think it's just banter and people take it too far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find being on here can either boost my confidence or it can suck it dry.

But that has more to do with how I’m feeling about myself at the time, especially the latter.

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By *hxkesMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Generally women get inundated with messages so if anything it feeds their ego. On the flip side men send out a lot of messages and not all of them are answered so men are more vulnerable to a bruised ego.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, due to bad experiences.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

It's not a great place with somebody with anxiety or Body Image problems .

Have seen so may people come and go from this site who have literally been Simon Cowell they think they're amazing but then when somebody tells them the truth they just cannot handle it.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Generally women get inundated with messages so if anything it feeds their ego. On the flip side men send out a lot of messages and not all of them are answered so men are more vulnerable to a bruised ego. "

Actually it can be quite the opposite, when you are just treated as if you are a vessel to dump their cum, it can make you feel pretty shit.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

A little in the best way. It was my gateway onto the scene and the scene has deffinatly increased my social confidence, love for my self and my body. But I also had to put the effort in and push my self.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find being on here can either boost my confidence or it can suck it dry.

But that has more to do with how I’m feeling about myself at the time, especially the latter.

"

I think you’ve nailed it here.

It’s subjective to how you feel at the time - I (Mr) have found from visiting clubs it boosts my confidence, even just from a social interaction point of view, I’ve also learnt that I’m not everyone’s cup of tea and that’s fine by me too - but it has also inspired me to get my ass back into the gym - so motivation too (but that is for myself).

It’s amazing how a really good meet can flip it on its head, I know Mrs from time to time suffers from confidence, but after a great meetnshe is Beeming.

Confidence breeds sexiness!!

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By *rs99Man
over a year ago

Scarborough


"Do anyone else feel this site has affected their confidence?

Please don’t let a bunch of anonymous strangers on a website actually affect your sense of self. On my old profile (where I actually came out of hiding and interacted rather well), I was one of those women who got lots of messages, winks, fabs etc. It was actually quite daunting and at times overwhelming. Learn to love yourself and don’t let online nonsense knock you.

It’s early days for you on Planet Fab. Sit back and evaluate. You won’t find it full of buxom wenches ready and waiting to adore you. But, with the right attitude and the ability to bravely step away from a keyboard and maybe go to a club or organised social, you might well find that the site can be a little gem.

Chin up OP.

P.s. women on here aren’t arrogant arseholes, nor are they dial a shag hoes. They’re just nice ladies looking for exceptional gents and other ladies (the exceptional isn’t model fit, it’s exceptionally respectful, fun and engaging). "
looked and read through the thread and to cudnt agree wit you more spot on xxx

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By *rs99Man
over a year ago

Scarborough


"Do anyone else feel this site has affected their confidence?

Please don’t let a bunch of anonymous strangers on a website actually affect your sense of self. On my old profile (where I actually came out of hiding and interacted rather well), I was one of those women who got lots of messages, winks, fabs etc. It was actually quite daunting and at times overwhelming. Learn to love yourself and don’t let online nonsense knock you.

It’s early days for you on Planet Fab. Sit back and evaluate. You won’t find it full of buxom wenches ready and waiting to adore you. But, with the right attitude and the ability to bravely step away from a keyboard and maybe go to a club or organised social, you might well find that the site can be a little gem.

Chin up OP.

P.s. women on here aren’t arrogant arseholes, nor are they dial a shag hoes. They’re just nice ladies looking for exceptional gents and other ladies (the exceptional isn’t model fit, it’s exceptionally respectful, fun and engaging). looked and read through the thread and to cudnt agree wit you more spot on xxx"
but one thing I will say is fabs a game of chance if your not prepared or can't handle what comes after uve rolled the dice then maybe fabs not for you xxx

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By *rs99Man
over a year ago

Scarborough

Love sent to all xxx

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