FabSwingers.com forum: Asking guy out

By *unningFox OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

What are you guys thinking when girls ask you out? Do you like it or prefer to be the one asking a girl out?

I’m very flirty with one guy in gym and I feel a few vibes from him and just wondering should I ask him out for a drink as I’m not very patient person

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I like being asked. I also like hair stroking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's very hot for a woman to make the first move. Good luck with your gym guy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah i think you should go for it!

Its always nice for a guy to be asked from time to time

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By *adboy1Man
over a year ago

Torquay

I would be very flattered if a girl came up to me at the gym and asked me out, go for

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By *unningFox OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"It's very hot for a woman to make the first move. Good luck with your gym guy xx"

Thanks. Just a bit scared to be rejected however he is lovely and probably won’t make a big deal out of it

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By *adboy1Man
over a year ago

Torquay

"I would be very flattered if a girl came up to me at the gym and asked me out, go for

Go for it ( sorry too much wine )

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By *ohndunboyneMan
over a year ago

Dunboyne & Dublin

"I would be very flattered if a girl came up to me at the gym and asked me out, go for

This

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By *unningFox OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

So many positive answers

Loving it! Thank you guys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be quite flattered and impressed by a confident woman like that.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I agree. Just go for it

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By *unningFox OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I agree. Just go for it

Have you ever done it?

I have but only on dating sites. In “real” life it’s a bit scary

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"I agree. Just go for it

Have you ever done it?

I have but only on dating sites. In “real” life it’s a bit scary

Yes. In fact, I believe I made moves on the chap I am now happily married to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doooo iiitttttt.....!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree. Just go for it

Have you ever done it?

I have but only on dating sites. In “real” life it’s a bit scary

Just go for it.

Would be great if the ladies did that more.

Go go

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

I’m very shy and couldn’t do that I’m good for starting up a conversation and subtle flirting but that’s as far as I. An seem to go do I just wait to be asked if they don’t then they obviously are not that keen anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it ever happened, I'd like it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only if you were closer lol

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By *e DevilMan
over a year ago

Blantyre

To save any embarrassment why not just get chatting then drop into conversation your going for a coffee or an ice cream , depending on weather and say something like , hey why dont you join me , since im buying. If hes interested he may immediately take up your offer. If he says hed like to but busy right now, youve now made it easy for the future to say , hey when are we grabbibg that coffee i promised you. If he refuses next time , take it as a not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m very shy and couldn’t do that I’m good for starting up a conversation and subtle flirting but that’s as far as I. An seem to go do I just wait to be asked if they don’t then they obviously are not that keen anyway"

Doesn't have to be that they are not keen.

Manners, politeness and other similar things can restrain you even if there is a huge desire to do it.

If you start it up that's great

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love it. It’s such a refreshing change to be asked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish you all the best asking him

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"What are you guys thinking when girls ask you out? Do you like it or prefer to be the one asking a girl out?

I’m very flirty with one guy in gym and I feel a few vibes from him and just wondering should I ask him out for a drink as I’m not very patient person

Just don't make it a full on date date if that makes sense or you run the risk of scaring him away.

quick coffee after the gym or something similar might be best.

Good luck

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By *organ and rob zombieCouple
over a year ago

bradford

As a lad, being asked out is a complement, flattering and an ego boost so I recon your gym guy will lap it up but maybe you should do some fishing if you’re unsure?

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

I love it and it always gives me a confidence boost when it's from someone I am into!

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By *unningFox OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"To save any embarrassment why not just get chatting then drop into conversation your going for a coffee or an ice cream , depending on weather and say something like , hey why dont you join me , since im buying. If hes interested he may immediately take up your offer. If he says hed like to but busy right now, youve now made it easy for the future to say , hey when are we grabbibg that coffee i promised you. If he refuses next time , take it as a not interested.

That’s very good advice! There was already few times when we talked about our weekend plans when it felt like he wanted to be invited to join us so this could work wonderfully

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By *unningFox OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"What are you guys thinking when girls ask you out? Do you like it or prefer to be the one asking a girl out?

I’m very flirty with one guy in gym and I feel a few vibes from him and just wondering should I ask him out for a drink as I’m not very patient person

Just don't make it a full on date date if that makes sense or you run the risk of scaring him away.

quick coffee after the gym or something similar might be best.

Good luck "

Thank you. Going to that

Do t want to scare him off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've asked a guy out when I was much younger. It worked! We were seeing eachother on/off for nearly a year. Now I prefer to be asked out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my foolish mans mind I never actually realised there were women who won't ask a guy out based on some internal lady logic even if they really like him..... ....can't just be me thinking that though, so on that basis there must be a tonne of frustrated ladies out there.... Defo ask him, it's like Dr Pepper innit!

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By *annyboy2Man
over a year ago

stuttgart

Definitely ask him, if he says no then he says no but you have to risk being rejected or nothing would ever happen, personally I love when a lady asks me out, it shows confidence and it's just nice isn't it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say go for it. You've nothing to Lose.

It's always flattering to be asked out x

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By *ungscotsman26Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

"What are you guys thinking when girls ask you out? Do you like it or prefer to be the one asking a girl out?

I’m very flirty with one guy in gym and I feel a few vibes from him and just wondering should I ask him out for a drink as I’m not very patient person

Ask him out! Go for out. And please let us know how you get on with it. I'm sure he will say yes! Very flattering for a girl to make the first move

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are you guys thinking when girls ask you out? Do you like it or prefer to be the one asking a girl out?

I’m very flirty with one guy in gym and I feel a few vibes from him and just wondering should I ask him out for a drink as I’m not very patient person

I'll let you know when it happens

I'd like i yt though assuming i liked the girl otherwise it might be awkward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask him out

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By *unningFox OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Well maybe guys can share what would be best indicators that he actually like me?

I kind of recognised few signals but he could be just very friendly

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By *moothCriminal_xMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"Well maybe guys can share what would be best indicators that he actually like me?

I kind of recognised few signals but he could be just very friendly

Hard to say. Does he initiate convs with you? Does he work to make you laugh? Does he tease you a bit? Does he find excuses to work out near you? Has he ever put his hand on ur arm/elbow/,shoulder?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last time I plucked up the courage to ask a guy out I think he assumed I meant as "one of the lads"

I don't think I'm very good at it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well maybe guys can share what would be best indicators that he actually like me?

I kind of recognised few signals but he could be just very friendly

Google '10 things that show a man is attracted to you'.

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By *alking HeadMan
over a year ago

Bolton

You have to consider that he might be aching to make the first move, but, just like yoursel OP, lacks the confidence. Its not uncommon in men. It took me years to grasp the "Feint heart never won fair maiden" idea. Then eventually i just thought, fuck it whats the worst that can happen? Its not like your in the schoolyard and everyone will point and laugh at you being rejected. And he wouldnt be rejecting you. He might already be seeing someone or has designs on someone else. Believe me, you WILL regret it eventually if you dont ask. I look back at my own past and its full of what ifs.

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By *unningFox OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Well maybe guys can share what would be best indicators that he actually like me?

I kind of recognised few signals but he could be just very friendly

Hard to say. Does he initiate convs with you? Does he work to make you laugh? Does he tease you a bit? Does he find excuses to work out near you? Has he ever put his hand on ur arm/elbow/,shoulder?"

He inniciates convos and we do have a good laugh. He always comes to sauna and hot tub to sit near me and we can have a chat. I have met him only now 4 times really he have never put his hands on me bet i did notice in hot tub when we are talking his legs are pointing at me and we have those moments when you look into each other’s eyes and kind of get shy and just smile.

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By *unningFox OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"You have to consider that he might be aching to make the first move, but, just like yoursel OP, lacks the confidence. Its not uncommon in men. It took me years to grasp the "Feint heart never won fair maiden" idea. Then eventually i just thought, fuck it whats the worst that can happen? Its not like your in the schoolyard and everyone will point and laugh at you being rejected. And he wouldnt be rejecting you. He might already be seeing someone or has designs on someone else. Believe me, you WILL regret it eventually if you dont ask. I look back at my own past and its full of what ifs. "

Definitely worth a try

no regrets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As everyone seems to have said, go for it. It's the same as for us men, we wont get anywhere being silent. Having said that, I keep being silent!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well maybe guys can share what would be best indicators that he actually like me?

I kind of recognised few signals but he could be just very friendly

Hard to say. Does he initiate convs with you? Does he work to make you laugh? Does he tease you a bit? Does he find excuses to work out near you? Has he ever put his hand on ur arm/elbow/,shoulder?

Call me crazy, but I think he fancies you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I much prefer it if a woman asks me out. Not that it happens much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So many positive answers

Loving it! Thank you guys! "

Go for it, fingers crossed for you and your gym man!

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Go for it, you only live once

If you don’t ask you will never know !

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By *unningFox OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I will need all the good luck I can get than

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"I will need all the good luck I can get than

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind it at all. Before I was married I had never asked a woman out, they had all asked me. Now , none of them do. Well, not none but a lot less......

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Go for it, at the very least he will be flattered and you'll make his day. Or he will make yours when he accepts.. good luck. If you do let come back and let us know how it goes.

Think how empowering it will be.

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

Ask away........!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let us know how you get on. I can't see him resisting those eyes for a start...

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

I've asked 4 guys out ... given up asking ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it! Great to be asked!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes you have to be gutsy. It can be daunting but is sometimes worth it

. I wrote a valentine poem on fab, naming someone who i never thought i had a chance with and now he's my boyfriend! Go for it OP

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By *en and StimpyCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Fuck him, and get it over and done with.

FFs... why are you asking for our opinion?? We're all cunts!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy it.

Sometimes I don't realise someone is interested unless they blatantly say so.

Duh me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I enjoy it.

Sometimes I don't realise someone is interested unless they blatantly say so.

Duh me"

That's a very important thing to remember - men are clueless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just do it. Nothing to lose.

Ask him to a bar or whatever, some gyms have a smoothie bar or similar - post workout or sauna meet up in there and chat away.

I took a huge poll of 5 of my female friends and none of have ever and would never ask a guy out. They're too scared of rejection. They don't know what they're missing!

Asking someone out is scary for everyone! Just do it!

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