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By *moothCriminal_x OP Man
over a year ago

Redditch

Dry patches...regardless of if you are now in a long term relationship or single etc... what is the longest you have been without sex? What was the reason? How did it affect you? What did you miss the most?!

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

Don't know exactly but it was years

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By *moothCriminal_x OP Man
over a year ago

Redditch

Go on....betweem what ages? Why do you think it was so long? How did it affect you?

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By *annooWoman
over a year ago

Hastings

4 years between my first time and the next

Gone a year or two without before

These days it's only months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The longest I went was about 2 months. Didn't like it much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The longest was over a decade. From the age of 21 to 35

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

About 3 months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 1/2 years after an accident, surgery and prescription drug withdrawal. Switched off from everything so didn't actually miss it. Can easily go months if there's nobody specific I really want.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Oh several years, that's what yer right hand is for innit

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

19 years ... to the point of losing my virginity

Since then ... longest has been 6 months

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

12 years

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"The longest was over a decade. From the age of 21 to 35

Have you ever shown him both of your eyes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was with someone for 10 years and we only had sex a handful times - he didn't fancy me.

Being single is the best thing I ever did for my self esteem.

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

"I was with someone for 10 years and we only had sex a handful times - he didn't fancy me.

Being single is the best thing I ever did for my self esteem.

I fancy you

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By *moothCriminal_x OP Man
over a year ago

Redditch

"The longest was over a decade. From the age of 21 to 35

Have you ever shown him both of your eyes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The longest was over a decade. From the age of 21 to 35

Have you ever shown him both of your eyes?

What does that have to do with the thread?

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

There’s two types of answer here - one is from people who can’t meet the right person, the other much sadder answer is from those in a relationship with someone who they think is right and neglects them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About 6 weeks, after having a baby. Was a pretty peaceful time actually despite the chaos down there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Approx 4 years, a variety of different reasons all came together at the same time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes it’s a week at a time :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

7 and half months, i was away with the army.

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By *ocodoughnutgirlWoman
over a year ago

Sea of jelly and doughnuts

2 years by choice.

I wanted to be my best self emotionally, spiritually and physically. Learnt a lot about myself and what I wanted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over 3 years, wanted to concentrate on my career and advance myself.

Discovered fab along the way and it fits with my lifestyle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *moothCriminal_x OP Man
over a year ago

Redditch

"Sometimes it’s a week at a time :/"

Since your first time thats the longest gap?

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

3 year. My partner at the time was seriously ill!

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

A few years after the break up of my marriage partly cause I had 3 kids the youngest age 3 and partly because I didn’t enjoy sex with my ex and he was the only one I had ever been with so I just thought I didn’t need/want it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least 3 years towards the end of marriage. Dead from the waist down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes it’s a week at a time :/

Since your first time thats the longest gap?"

Not since I was a teenager but a week is too long lol

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By *moothCriminal_x OP Man
over a year ago

Redditch

"Sometimes it’s a week at a time :/

Since your first time thats the longest gap?

Not since I was a teenager but a week is too long lol "

Wow.Good for you

i cant even get a text back!

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

I've know idea what it is anymore....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 years or so, during my marriage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Years. Having kids, putting on weight, depression and I didn't miss it. It was just another thing I was supposed to supply!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't usually miss the sex, I miss the person....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 years she was pregnant so wouldnt then was bleeding for 6 months so wouldnt by then i didnt want to either

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

7 years in my last relationship

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By *heklangsCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Sometimes it’s a week at a time :/"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably longest spells were after the kids were born may be few months. After my vasectomy couple of months and recently bit patchy as wife went through the change. But through all of these spells wife has always relieved my tensions in other ways so never been frustrated in the 38 years we’ve been together.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Fourteen years. It started as a choice for a year and then became a default. On the plus side, my career was fantastic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fourteen years. It started as a choice for a year and then became a default. On the plus side, my career was fantastic."

I would explode if I went without for fourteen months let alone fourteen years

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Dry patches...regardless of if you are now in a long term relationship or single etc... what is the longest you have been without sex? What was the reason? How did it affect you? What did you miss the most?!"

4 years

I didn't notice at the time.

Too many shitty things happening in my sphere.

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I was with someone for 10 years and we only had sex a handful times - he didn't fancy me.

Being single is the best thing I ever did for my self esteem.

Damn right it was. Fuck! Was he visually impaired?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About a year - a pretty spark-less relationship!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Around 4 years.

It was only when I found fab I realised that it mattered to me.

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"Around 4 years.

It was only when I found fab I realised that it mattered to me.

I found that with fab too, maybe cause you realise it’s for fun rather than an expectation or chore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Around 4 years.

It was only when I found fab I realised that it mattered to me.

I found that with fab too, maybe cause you realise it’s for fun rather than an expectation or chore. "

Predictable back story....

I stayed for my son.

Then eventually realised I needed a life too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Long 9 months. It was about 4 years ago. But I used toys. So no massive cobwebs.

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"Around 4 years.

It was only when I found fab I realised that it mattered to me.

I found that with fab too, maybe cause you realise it’s for fun rather than an expectation or chore.

Predictable back story....

I stayed for my son.

Then eventually realised I needed a life too.

Same stayed for my boys then realised it was better for them if we split.

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

My longest was when I was married to my ex husband.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

5 months.. Not a great time for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was with someone for 10 years and we only had sex a handful times - he didn't fancy me.

Being single is the best thing I ever did for my self esteem.

Damn right it was. Fuck! Was he visually impaired?"

He said he couldn't get hard for anyone my size.

The more I tried to diet the bigger I got.

I didn't realise it was abusive for a long time as it was very subtle.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

3 1/2 years, last few years of my relationship before we split. 2 months after we split I had sex again when I went a swingers club x

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By *moothCriminal_x OP Man
over a year ago

Redditch

Part 2 of this qas what impact did it have on you? Were you angrier? Sad? Etc...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On pills once that seemed to effect it and more you go without...the less you want it! Glad to say back to normal, in fact hornier at 55 than when I was 25

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was with someone for 10 years and we only had sex a handful times - he didn't fancy me.

Being single is the best thing I ever did for my self esteem.

He was gay

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By *moothCriminal_x OP Man
over a year ago

Redditch

"I was with someone for 10 years and we only had sex a handful times - he didn't fancy me.

Being single is the best thing I ever did for my self esteem.

He was gay "

Wow. Thats awful.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Part 2 of this qas what impact did it have on you? Were you angrier? Sad? Etc...?"

I accepted it. I got told that much that I was fat and unattractive so I never felt sexy. I missed the little things most. Cuddles, closeness and kisses x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Part 2 of this qas what impact did it have on you? Were you angrier? Sad? Etc...?"

I was just meh all the time

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By *imandHerNottsCouple
over a year ago

North Notts

3 days (after our first child) was the biggest gap until last year when it increased to 4 days through working abroad.

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By *moothCriminal_x OP Man
over a year ago

Redditch

"3 days (after our first child) was the biggest gap until last year when it increased to 4 days through working abroad. "

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

9 months when single. Currently 5 weeks as I’ve had an operation so we can’t

J x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 years

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

Two years, which is what lead to me joining Fab, meeting Mr J and leaving my old life behind!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not sure about the longest period , but for 19 years I averaged sexual contact once every 471 days

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

"I was with someone for 10 years and we only had sex a handful times - he didn't fancy me.

Being single is the best thing I ever did for my self esteem.

Damn right it was. Fuck! Was he visually impaired?

He said he couldn't get hard for anyone my size.

The more I tried to diet the bigger I got.

I didn't realise it was abusive for a long time as it was very subtle.

I was in a similar marriage. Had a really good chat with my mum today & it’s made me realise just how emotionally abusive my ex was. And how much I really love my parents & T for sticking by me when I kept him at arms length

J x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two years for me which ended around 4 years ago. Since then it's been a couple of months at the most.

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By *moothCriminal_x OP Man
over a year ago

Redditch

"Two years for me which ended around 4 years ago. Since then it's been a couple of months at the most. "

Was that out of choice or similar to some of these othwr stories of relationships that were dying...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Two years for me which ended around 4 years ago. Since then it's been a couple of months at the most.

Was that out of choice or similar to some of these othwr stories of relationships that were dying..."

Dying marriage. We only had sex once every few months before that anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was with someone for 10 years and we only had sex a handful times - he didn't fancy me.

Being single is the best thing I ever did for my self esteem.

He didn't fancy you are you fecking kidding was he gay or dead lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was with someone for 10 years and we only had sex a handful times - he didn't fancy me.

Being single is the best thing I ever did for my self esteem.

He didn't fancy you are you fecking kidding was he gay or dead lol"

Haha no unfortunately not

I hear he has a new partner now - I pity her poor cow!

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Two and a half years by choice once.

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

November for me, also through choice

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I am at the just over 2 years mark unfortunately

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