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By *UNCHBOX OP   Man
over a year ago

folkestone

... Should you be always be a diplomat or should tell the truth, even if the person doesn't like the answer?

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

You can be both.

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

On here a bit of diplomacy is warranted as the naughty step awaits those with an honest opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think you need to choose, I think you need to be able to read a person and situation and adapt your response accordingly.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

Fuck em I say!

Tell em how it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm learning to be a little less soft with ppl and tell them if I think they're talking bollocks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Telling the truth cost me two promising careers. Fuck 'em.....

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

If you always tell the truth, you never have to remember x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can tell the truth, but in a gentle manner. I don't like to be brutal with it. I like to sprinkle a little sugar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you always tell the truth, you never have to remember x"

This. You have to be very clever and have an extremely good memory to be a liar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can tell the truth, but in a gentle manner. I don't like to be brutal with it. I like to sprinkle a little sugar "

I need to get me some of that sugar I think

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It depends if you confuse opinion with truth. There really isn't any need to express your opinion every time it's asked for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm learning to be a little less soft with ppl and tell them if I think they're talking bollocks. "

Nah you're not.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I try but im not very good with the sugar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no filter.. so folk get what im thinking...

((Ptsd damaged the filter))

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is it people think you cannot tell the truth and not be an arsehole about it?

You can do both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can tell the truth in a diplomatic manner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can tell the truth, but in a gentle manner. I don't like to be brutal with it. I like to sprinkle a little sugar

I need to get me some of that sugar I think "

I'm good at sharing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont wanna be negative but i think theres a hell of alot of lies on this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont wanna be negative but i think theres a hell of alot of lies on this site."

I never knew that! I'm shocked!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iron fist in a velvet glove

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've no short term memory so I'd be a crap liar. I'm very open and probably too honest sometimes but I don't think I'm rude with it, just maybe a little brutal when necessary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've no short term memory so I'd be a crap liar. I'm very open and probably too honest sometimes but I don't think I'm rude with it, just maybe a little brutal when necessary. "

Same I am too. Although maybe a bit too brutal sometimes. I need to try not to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you tell the truth you can’t go wrong, just the perception of unrealist that objects.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it people think you cannot tell the truth and not be an arsehole about it?

You can do both"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've no short term memory so I'd be a crap liar. I'm very open and probably too honest sometimes but I don't think I'm rude with it, just maybe a little brutal when necessary.

Same I am too. Although maybe a bit too brutal sometimes. I need to try not to be "

Don't think there's anything wrong with that if people understand you though.. people don't expect a sugar coated response from me. My theory is 'if you don't want an honest answer, don't ask the question'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've no short term memory so I'd be a crap liar. I'm very open and probably too honest sometimes but I don't think I'm rude with it, just maybe a little brutal when necessary.

Same I am too. Although maybe a bit too brutal sometimes. I need to try not to be

Don't think there's anything wrong with that if people understand you though.. people don't expect a sugar coated response from me. My theory is 'if you don't want an honest answer, don't ask the question' "

He worst is when you don't ask the question and they choose to give it to you with both barrels anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've no short term memory so I'd be a crap liar. I'm very open and probably too honest sometimes but I don't think I'm rude with it, just maybe a little brutal when necessary.

Same I am too. Although maybe a bit too brutal sometimes. I need to try not to be

Don't think there's anything wrong with that if people understand you though.. people don't expect a sugar coated response from me. My theory is 'if you don't want an honest answer, don't ask the question' "

To be honest people like that about me. My friends know if they say does this dress look ok I will be honest and give my true opinion. I think it’s the people that don’t know me that well I need to be a bit more careful with!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've no short term memory so I'd be a crap liar. I'm very open and probably too honest sometimes but I don't think I'm rude with it, just maybe a little brutal when necessary.

Same I am too. Although maybe a bit too brutal sometimes. I need to try not to be

Don't think there's anything wrong with that if people understand you though.. people don't expect a sugar coated response from me. My theory is 'if you don't want an honest answer, don't ask the question'

He worst is when you don't ask the question and they choose to give it to you with both barrels anyway "

That's just rude!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... Should you be always be a diplomat or should tell the truth, even if the person doesn't like the answer? "

I find you revolting im not interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've no short term memory so I'd be a crap liar. I'm very open and probably too honest sometimes but I don't think I'm rude with it, just maybe a little brutal when necessary.

Same I am too. Although maybe a bit too brutal sometimes. I need to try not to be

Don't think there's anything wrong with that if people understand you though.. people don't expect a sugar coated response from me. My theory is 'if you don't want an honest answer, don't ask the question'

He worst is when you don't ask the question and they choose to give it to you with both barrels anyway

That's just rude!! "

My sister was like that. She fried my brain sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can speak my truth but it is only ever my truth- timing it well with appropriate language is the art I’m trying to learn.

Being open to other perspectives on the truth is also important - I’m trying to learn that too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've no short term memory so I'd be a crap liar. I'm very open and probably too honest sometimes but I don't think I'm rude with it, just maybe a little brutal when necessary.

Same I am too. Although maybe a bit too brutal sometimes. I need to try not to be

Don't think there's anything wrong with that if people understand you though.. people don't expect a sugar coated response from me. My theory is 'if you don't want an honest answer, don't ask the question'

To be honest people like that about me. My friends know if they say does this dress look ok I will be honest and give my true opinion. I think it’s the people that don’t know me that well I need to be a bit more careful with! "

Yeah true.. I probably assume people know my bluntness and humour more than they really do sometimes..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've no short term memory so I'd be a crap liar. I'm very open and probably too honest sometimes but I don't think I'm rude with it, just maybe a little brutal when necessary.

Same I am too. Although maybe a bit too brutal sometimes. I need to try not to be

Don't think there's anything wrong with that if people understand you though.. people don't expect a sugar coated response from me. My theory is 'if you don't want an honest answer, don't ask the question'

He worst is when you don't ask the question and they choose to give it to you with both barrels anyway

That's just rude!!

My sister was like that. She fried my brain sometimes "

Not surprised! That'd drive me nuts..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've no short term memory so I'd be a crap liar. I'm very open and probably too honest sometimes but I don't think I'm rude with it, just maybe a little brutal when necessary.

Same I am too. Although maybe a bit too brutal sometimes. I need to try not to be

Don't think there's anything wrong with that if people understand you though.. people don't expect a sugar coated response from me. My theory is 'if you don't want an honest answer, don't ask the question'

To be honest people like that about me. My friends know if they say does this dress look ok I will be honest and give my true opinion. I think it’s the people that don’t know me that well I need to be a bit more careful with! "

I would prefer for someone to say "that dress doesn't suit you" to " fuck me, your arse looks huge in that!!".... i already know i look a wreck, just by that first comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've no short term memory so I'd be a crap liar. I'm very open and probably too honest sometimes but I don't think I'm rude with it, just maybe a little brutal when necessary.

Same I am too. Although maybe a bit too brutal sometimes. I need to try not to be

Don't think there's anything wrong with that if people understand you though.. people don't expect a sugar coated response from me. My theory is 'if you don't want an honest answer, don't ask the question'

He worst is when you don't ask the question and they choose to give it to you with both barrels anyway

That's just rude!!

My sister was like that. She fried my brain sometimes

Not surprised! That'd drive me nuts.. "

She even used to try and tell me how to bring up my child... despite not having children herself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've no short term memory so I'd be a crap liar. I'm very open and probably too honest sometimes but I don't think I'm rude with it, just maybe a little brutal when necessary.

Same I am too. Although maybe a bit too brutal sometimes. I need to try not to be

Don't think there's anything wrong with that if people understand you though.. people don't expect a sugar coated response from me. My theory is 'if you don't want an honest answer, don't ask the question'

To be honest people like that about me. My friends know if they say does this dress look ok I will be honest and give my true opinion. I think it’s the people that don’t know me that well I need to be a bit more careful with!

I would prefer for someone to say "that dress doesn't suit you" to " fuck me, your arse looks huge in that!!".... i already know i look a wreck, just by that first comment "

Oh god yeah I’m not that harsh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've no short term memory so I'd be a crap liar. I'm very open and probably too honest sometimes but I don't think I'm rude with it, just maybe a little brutal when necessary.

Same I am too. Although maybe a bit too brutal sometimes. I need to try not to be

Don't think there's anything wrong with that if people understand you though.. people don't expect a sugar coated response from me. My theory is 'if you don't want an honest answer, don't ask the question'

To be honest people like that about me. My friends know if they say does this dress look ok I will be honest and give my true opinion. I think it’s the people that don’t know me that well I need to be a bit more careful with!

I would prefer for someone to say "that dress doesn't suit you" to " fuck me, your arse looks huge in that!!".... i already know i look a wreck, just by that first comment

Oh god yeah I’m not that harsh! "

Hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've no short term memory so I'd be a crap liar. I'm very open and probably too honest sometimes but I don't think I'm rude with it, just maybe a little brutal when necessary.

Same I am too. Although maybe a bit too brutal sometimes. I need to try not to be

Don't think there's anything wrong with that if people understand you though.. people don't expect a sugar coated response from me. My theory is 'if you don't want an honest answer, don't ask the question'

He worst is when you don't ask the question and they choose to give it to you with both barrels anyway

That's just rude!!

My sister was like that. She fried my brain sometimes

Not surprised! That'd drive me nuts..

She even used to try and tell me how to bring up my child... despite not having children herself. "

I had a mother in law like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forever the diplomat and always positive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've no short term memory so I'd be a crap liar. I'm very open and probably too honest sometimes but I don't think I'm rude with it, just maybe a little brutal when necessary.

Same I am too. Although maybe a bit too brutal sometimes. I need to try not to be

Don't think there's anything wrong with that if people understand you though.. people don't expect a sugar coated response from me. My theory is 'if you don't want an honest answer, don't ask the question'

He worst is when you don't ask the question and they choose to give it to you with both barrels anyway

That's just rude!!

My sister was like that. She fried my brain sometimes

Not surprised! That'd drive me nuts..

She even used to try and tell me how to bring up my child... despite not having children herself.

I had a mother in law like that "

Well obviously she’d had children lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've no short term memory so I'd be a crap liar. I'm very open and probably too honest sometimes but I don't think I'm rude with it, just maybe a little brutal when necessary.

Same I am too. Although maybe a bit too brutal sometimes. I need to try not to be

Don't think there's anything wrong with that if people understand you though.. people don't expect a sugar coated response from me. My theory is 'if you don't want an honest answer, don't ask the question'

He worst is when you don't ask the question and they choose to give it to you with both barrels anyway

That's just rude!!

My sister was like that. She fried my brain sometimes

Not surprised! That'd drive me nuts..

She even used to try and tell me how to bring up my child... despite not having children herself.

I had a mother in law like that

Well obviously she’d had children lol "

That was one time i did lose the sugar

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Unless you are lacking in empathy, then it's important to always consider the effects that your actions have on others - especially if relationships are important to you.

The truth to you is just a perception anyway, so you also need to have a potential reassessment of your own limitations.

Callous disregard for others, whilst insisting that you speak the 'truth' trgardless, is repulsive.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Unless you are lacking in empathy, then it's important to always consider the effects that your actions have on others - especially if relationships are important to you.

The truth to you is just a perception anyway, so you also need to have a potential reassessment of your own limitations.

Callous disregard for others, whilst insisting that you speak the 'truth' trgardless, is repulsive. "

That's the long and short of it

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By *ottyNStripes30Couple
over a year ago

Oakham

Mostly tell the truth but we must be kind here and there, but truth be told there are some bellends out there with no reguard for a persons feelings, they are the ones to be honest towards

And thats the gospel truth..

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By *UNCHBOX OP   Man
over a year ago

folkestone

Just like to point out this thread isn't about my behaviour as anyone who has met me will tell you I'm very polite, it was about hearing from people who are blunt and straight to the point, as it's not something I can do.

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By *UNCHBOX OP   Man
over a year ago

folkestone


"... Should you be always be a diplomat or should tell the truth, even if the person doesn't like the answer?

I find you revolting im not interested "

Don't hold back, tell me what you really think

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