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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Are exaggerating or omitting facts as bad as telling outright lies?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No most folks cv is bulled up a bit hell i used to tell interviewers id been offered slightly more than i had got me a good job

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

For me yes, I would rather know all the facts than find out things later, at least you can process real time rather than trying to deal with the fallout after.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Despite what some on here think, lies aren’t just black or white.

There’s a very broad spectrum, some are bad and some aren’t. Some of the worst are the ones we tell ourselves

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire


"Are exaggerating or omitting facts as bad as telling outright lies? "

Depends on who you are talking to

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"Are exaggerating or omitting facts as bad as telling outright lies? "

Yes. Are lies/exaggerating or omitting facts always bad though?

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I don't like exaggerations but omitting the truth for the sake of a white lie I could live with that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No most folks cv is bulled up a bit hell i used to tell interviewers id been offered slightly more than i had got me a good job"

But what if those exaggerations were affecting people's emotional reaction to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tough one.. I prefer the full truth rather than the bits someone wants me to hear... but not all truth avoidance or exaggeration hurts another. So very much dependent on how it would affect another person...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are exaggerating or omitting facts as bad as telling outright lies? "

They are all deceptive though not an outright lie.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are exaggerating or omitting facts as bad as telling outright lies?

Yes. Are lies/exaggerating or omitting facts always bad though?

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That's the thing, if we're talking in a fab sense then is it as important? So you get to have sex with a high flying millionaire instead of Dave the dustman, does it hurt you they lied?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cannot be doing with exaggeration to sway how something is perceived. Omitting facts, I suppose, could be used for the same reasons, but I'm more comfortable with that for some reason.

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By *oncupiscentTonyMan
over a year ago

Kent


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There’s a very broad spectrum, some are bad and some aren’t. Some of the worst are the ones we tell ourselves "

Morrissey considers hasty rewrite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm more concerned with the outrights tbh....

I omit small facts occasionally to avoid conflict, but bullshitting and manipulative nonsense isn't acceptable if you want to be in my inner circle.....

(I owe you something I know, I haven't forgotten Xx)

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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No but it does depend on what they are. I was actually talking about this earlier with a friend - regarding what we explain to oh's friends and families etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ps, I wrote a fucking book on this.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No most folks cv is bulled up a bit hell i used to tell interviewers id been offered slightly more than i had got me a good job

But what if those exaggerations were affecting people's emotional reaction to you? "
why u go and complicate things and make me think ffs do you mean like uping the anti to get the reaction you want then no thats not fair you are who you are it will bite in the end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what you mean by omitting truths. I don’t lie but I don’t offer information that I don’t want to share. My private life is just that. Only one person on here knows where I live and that’s because we are just good friends now. Nobody else ever will. Or do you mean things like not telling someone you’re meeting that you have crabs or something along that line?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends what you mean by omitting truths. I don’t lie but I don’t offer information that I don’t want to share. My private life is just that. Only one person on here knows where I live and that’s because we are just good friends now. Nobody else ever will. Or do you mean things like not telling someone you’re meeting that you have crabs or something along that line? "
daaaaaaash

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Depends what you mean by omitting truths. I don’t lie but I don’t offer information that I don’t want to share. My private life is just that. Only one person on here knows where I live and that’s because we are just good friends now. Nobody else ever will. Or do you mean things like not telling someone you’re meeting that you have crabs or something along that line? "

I was thinking more about maybe a married guy who doesn't offer up that fact to a potential meet. He could use the excuse he wasn't asked but then if it's something which could affect if someone wants to meet is it wrong not to say?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends what you mean by omitting truths. I don’t lie but I don’t offer information that I don’t want to share. My private life is just that. Only one person on here knows where I live and that’s because we are just good friends now. Nobody else ever will. Or do you mean things like not telling someone you’re meeting that you have crabs or something along that line?

I was thinking more about maybe a married guy who doesn't offer up that fact to a potential meet. He could use the excuse he wasn't asked but then if it's something which could affect if someone wants to meet is it wrong not to say? "

Absolutely wrong not to say. People should know if someone is attached so they can then make an informed choice whether to meet them. I’m not against attached people being on here at all. Everyone has their reasons but to not to tell someone you’re meeting is bang out of order.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends what you mean by omitting truths. I don’t lie but I don’t offer information that I don’t want to share. My private life is just that. Only one person on here knows where I live and that’s because we are just good friends now. Nobody else ever will. Or do you mean things like not telling someone you’re meeting that you have crabs or something along that line?

I was thinking more about maybe a married guy who doesn't offer up that fact to a potential meet. He could use the excuse he wasn't asked but then if it's something which could affect if someone wants to meet is it wrong not to say? "
aaah that dont bother me its not my issue wouldnt have cared if i knew or not its not my guilt to carry

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"Are exaggerating or omitting facts as bad as telling outright lies?

Yes. Are lies/exaggerating or omitting facts always bad though?

That's the thing, if we're talking in a fab sense then is it as important? So you get to have sex with a high flying millionaire instead of Dave the dustman, does it hurt you they lied? "

Mmmm I’m not sure I distinguish that it’s alright on Fab but not in real life. I mean more what’s the intent or impact of it as to whether it might be acceptable, more palatable or kinder - on occasion. It’s still dishonest though, can’t shirk that and you’ve got accept that others are entitled to be upset by it if they disagree even if you thought it was kinder/an okay thing to do.

On the whole, I think lies, and the spectrum of dishonesty ain’t great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends what you mean by omitting truths. I don’t lie but I don’t offer information that I don’t want to share. My private life is just that. Only one person on here knows where I live and that’s because we are just good friends now. Nobody else ever will. Or do you mean things like not telling someone you’re meeting that you have crabs or something along that line?

I was thinking more about maybe a married guy who doesn't offer up that fact to a potential meet. He could use the excuse he wasn't asked but then if it's something which could affect if someone wants to meet is it wrong not to say? aaah that dont bother me its not my issue wouldnt have cared if i knew or not its not my guilt to carry"

I’d have to know. Don’t think it would stop me meeting them if I wanted to. But if I found out and they hadn’t told me I wouldn’t be happy and wouldn’t meet them again.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"Depends what you mean by omitting truths. I don’t lie but I don’t offer information that I don’t want to share. My private life is just that. Only one person on here knows where I live and that’s because we are just good friends now. Nobody else ever will. Or do you mean things like not telling someone you’re meeting that you have crabs or something along that line?

I was thinking more about maybe a married guy who doesn't offer up that fact to a potential meet. He could use the excuse he wasn't asked but then if it's something which could affect if someone wants to meet is it wrong not to say? "

Yep. That’s wrong.

The intent is to deceive the other to ensure there’s no barrier to getting your fuck, and whilst one person won’t mind either that the person is attached or even being lied to on principle - to another both or one of those facts might be an absolute no no and you’ve removed their right to informed consent.

It’s a douchebag move.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends what you mean by omitting truths. I don’t lie but I don’t offer information that I don’t want to share. My private life is just that. Only one person on here knows where I live and that’s because we are just good friends now. Nobody else ever will. Or do you mean things like not telling someone you’re meeting that you have crabs or something along that line?

I was thinking more about maybe a married guy who doesn't offer up that fact to a potential meet. He could use the excuse he wasn't asked but then if it's something which could affect if someone wants to meet is it wrong not to say? aaah that dont bother me its not my issue wouldnt have cared if i knew or not its not my guilt to carry

I’d have to know. Don’t think it would stop me meeting them if I wanted to. But if I found out and they hadn’t told me I wouldn’t be happy and wouldn’t meet them again. "
na i know i just was never bothered by there personal stuff volunteered info or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if the lie has purpose other than to just make the person look good. Say, telling fibs for sympathy or for gain would be shitty. I have no problem with someone saying they're a couple of inches taller or using pics with their gut sucked in or using a fab birthday though. I take that as a given for most of you tbh.....

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I frequently lie by omission and exaggerate. Nobody on earth tells the whole truth all the time, it isn't possible.

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