FabSwingers.com forum: Looking for an attractive......

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When you see the phrase looking for an attractive couple/ woman/ man (delete as appropriate) does it put you off replying?

We’re just a normal, run of the mill couple and possibly do ourselves down but worry we wouldn’t match up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only apply when they specify ugg... Wtf, what's the worst that can happen?

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

Attractive is also so subjective

But yes ... it's more about the attitude and what's between the ears

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you see the phrase looking for an attractive couple/ woman/ man (delete as appropriate) does it put you off replying?

We’re just a normal, run of the mill couple and possibly do ourselves down but worry we wouldn’t match up!"

No I consider it a filter and am grateful for their honesty. Saves a lot of time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I don't think I'm ugly but if someone is laying out an expected standard then I assume I won't hit it and nor would I want to.

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

"When you see the phrase looking for an attractive couple/ woman/ man (delete as appropriate) does it put you off replying?

We’re just a normal, run of the mill couple and possibly do ourselves down but worry we wouldn’t match up!"

Not in the way you mean - we tend to avoid couples who define compatibility solely on looks ......

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Yes, what I find attractive is always what others find attractive.

I don't bother looking at profiles who describe themselves as attractive as it seems somewhat arrogant nor ones who want ' attractive ' people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't put me off. It's all about perspective and preferences. I'm ugly to some, handsome to others.

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By *anana JoeMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

In all honestly it would put me off a little but then I may mail but not really expect a reply as I am average or just little above at best.

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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago

The Land that time forgot (Norfolk)

Anyone with a list of specific requirements is a no go for me, a rough idea of what they are looking for is helpful but once it gets too specific I write them off as probably incompatible with my outlook.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Yes, it puts me off, I don't know if I'm up to their level of attractiveness. If you look at the 'Hot' photos in the TV/TS section, I'm nowhere close to those girls. So I make the assumptions that's whom they're looking for.

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I just move on if they state attractive. I'm like marmite and think attractiveness is more than just the outer packaging x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it puts us off. Especially when they say they only meet equally as attractive people x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally.. I'm a bit weird looking and prefer an equally weird man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would put me off the woman or couple asking. Anyone asking for attractive/ exceptional isn’t the sort of person I’m interested in. Nothing to do whether I meet their demands, rather we would have nothing in common.

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By *icetouch83Man
over a year ago

swansea

"I just move on if they state attractive. I'm like marmite and think attractiveness is more than just the outer packaging x"

Exactly how I see myself. not winning any beauty contests over here but beauty is not everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just ask if they want me to wear a bag on my head...

Last time I did, they suggested a plastic bag....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I steer clear of those profiles because I don’t see the point of even looking further than the heading or first paragraph, I mean one persons attractive is different to someone else isn’t it but generally these profiles want gym fit, chiselled jaw, perfectly perfect in everywhere (looking).

Of course we all have our wants and desires and they are just expressing something they want, the same as we only look for curvy women for example, they just want ‘good looking people’ but the problem I have found talking to those people that have got the balls to say they are good looking generally have personality issues, not everyone but anyone that in my opinion struts around the place thinking there shit doesn’t stink have flaws.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hot people want sex too. They have preferences the same as anyone. If they are looking for attractive people, good for them. I don't think it's a bad thing at all.

It's the same as asking for tall people or only meeting people between a certain age range. I don't meet their preferences, I'm not upset.

I don't know why people get pissed off about some preferences but not others.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

No it wouldn't put me off, it's up to them if they find me attractive or not. And don't we all want to meet attractive people? At least, people we find attractive?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hot people want sex too. They have preferences the same as anyone. If they are looking for attractive people, good for them. I don't think it's a bad thing at all.

It's the same as asking for tall people or only meeting people between a certain age range. I don't meet their preferences, I'm not upset.

I don't know why people get pissed off about some preferences but not others. "

It doesn’t piss us off. It’s just about our own insecurities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hot people want sex too. They have preferences the same as anyone. If they are looking for attractive people, good for them. I don't think it's a bad thing at all.

It's the same as asking for tall people or only meeting people between a certain age range. I don't meet their preferences, I'm not upset.

I don't know why people get pissed off about some preferences but not others.

It doesn’t piss us off. It’s just about our own insecurities."

Sorry it was a general comment/ observation, it wasn't 'aimed' at you. X

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Hot people want sex too. They have preferences the same as anyone. If they are looking for attractive people, good for them. I don't think it's a bad thing at all.

It's the same as asking for tall people or only meeting people between a certain age range. I don't meet their preferences, I'm not upset.

I don't know why people get pissed off about some preferences but not others.

It doesn’t piss us off. It’s just about our own insecurities."

Exactly this and was in my reply, I don't get pissed off, I just expect they're looking for someone more attractive than me, my insecurities, nothing to do with their preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality comes 1st.

She could be sexy as Fck but if there's awkwardness and no connection it aint going to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I consider myself to be attractive. Whether I'm their type, or they consider me attractive is another matter mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't consider myself unattractive but I'd never never throw myself forward at someone specifying "attractive" as it's so subjective

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman
over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Yes.

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By *ornyhornytwoCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

Puts us off.... Not that we consider ourselves ugly or anything but it definitely makes us think twice about replying x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I'm gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I consider myself to be attractive. Whether I'm their type, or they consider me attractive is another matter mind

Well I think you know how attractive i find you MDHV

And i am not too shabby myself

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"Yes. I don't think I'm ugly but if someone is laying out an expected standard then I assume I won't hit it and nor would I want to. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow people are really judgey about others use of language eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hot people want sex too. They have preferences the same as anyone. If they are looking for attractive people, good for them. I don't think it's a bad thing at all.

It's the same as asking for tall people or only meeting people between a certain age range. I don't meet their preferences, I'm not upset.

I don't know why people get pissed off about some preferences but not others. "

I think it is because the term attractive is subjective with other preferences you're black or you're not, you're over 6ft or you're not, you're over 25 or you're not. However what is attractive? What I find attractive isn't what the next man will find attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" What I find attractive isn't what the next man will find attractive."

Yeah except for the fact that statistically people find the same features attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it’s on their profile, but they’ve messaged me I don’t mind. Honestly though, it would stop me messaging first. It gives the impression that looks are of more interest than personality (which I’m sure they often are on Fab and there’s nothing wrong with that) it’s just I like to rely on both!

As has been said attractiveness is subjective. I guess most of us are looking for one version of attractive or another (physically attractive, mentally attractive).

If they message me first I get the feeling that my body at least, is their idea of attractive which is a start

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" What I find attractive isn't what the next man will find attractive.

Yeah except for the fact that statistically people find the same features attractive

Really?? I never knew that!!

It’s good to know you are on hand to point these things out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" What I find attractive isn't what the next man will find attractive.

Yeah except for the fact that statistically people find the same features attractive

Really?? I never knew that!!

It’s good to know you are on hand to point these things out

LJ"

Damn! I really wanted to go down the sarcasm route.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" What I find attractive isn't what the next man will find attractive.

Yeah except for the fact that statistically people find the same features attractive

Really?? I never knew that!!

It’s good to know you are on hand to point these things out

Damn! I really wanted to go down the sarcasm route."

I wouldn’t worry i am sure you will get another chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't bother messaging them as they are usually younger and slim, so I won't be what they are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" What I find attractive isn't what the next man will find attractive.

Yeah except for the fact that statistically people find the same features attractive

Do you mean all women find Tom Cruise or Tom Hardy attractive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" What I find attractive isn't what the next man will find attractive.

Yeah except for the fact that statistically people find the same features attractive

The sheeple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm gorgeous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would not put me off as I decide on the whole profile not just a word. If I think there is a good match both ways then I will send a message.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

No it doesn't put me off. Nobody is specifically looking for unattractive surely.

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