FabSwingers.com forum: Mental Health ....

By *iamondCougar OP Woman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I often see posts here regarding Mental Health issues. On my way home (weds 24th April) I was listening to a Radio 4 programme broadcast at 3.30pm called ‘ All in the mind’

Each of us experiences a mental health journey as we go through life.... the outcome is dependent upon each individual’s ability to process and cope with it.

The programme is about the issues experienced by Clarke Carlisle (ex QPR player) after he suffered a serious injury early in his career that changed his life and thus started his mammoth battle with MH.

It was really interesting so I thought I’d share with fellow forumites, no doubt you will be able to access via BBC radio player.

I wonder how many people will watch the Pixar film Inside Out after listening to the 28 mins worth of really good mental health insight!

Feedback your thoughts after you listened to it....

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

My journey started when I was about 10 although I didn't know it at the time, followed by 30years of denial and trying to build an impenetrable barrier around my feelings.

Then in 2008 I suffered a head injury that changed my life and opened the floodgates.

I'm a changed man, for the worse in my opinion a part of me died both literally and figuratively when I fell on a concrete block and smashed my head open.

The result was literally life changing, whilst I suffered no immediate physical injuries the

Trauma to my brain caused all sorts of issues.

Upshot is

Ten years on and I am struggling on a daily basis to maintain a positive attitude.

Basically I'm treading water and if I stop trying I will sink.

Thankfully I have a wonderful family to help keep me afloat.

Even then as people know you can be surrounded by people who care and love you but you can still feel alone and vulnerable.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

Oooh thanks for the recommendation

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By *iamondCougar OP Woman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Oooh thanks for the recommendation

Your welcome

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By *iamondCougar OP Woman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"My journey started when I was about 10 although I didn't know it at the time, followed by 30years of denial and trying to build an impenetrable barrier around my feelings.

Then in 2008 I suffered a head injury that changed my life and opened the floodgates.

I'm a changed man, for the worse in my opinion a part of me died both literally and figuratively when I fell on a concrete block and smashed my head open.

The result was literally life changing, whilst I suffered no immediate physical injuries the

Trauma to my brain caused all sorts of issues.

Upshot is

Ten years on and I am struggling on a daily basis to maintain a positive attitude.

Basically I'm treading water and if I stop trying I will sink.

Thankfully I have a wonderful family to help keep me afloat.

Even then as people know you can be surrounded by people who care and love you but you can still feel alone and vulnerable.

I hope you may find a solution that suits you

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"My journey started when I was about 10 although I didn't know it at the time, followed by 30years of denial and trying to build an impenetrable barrier around my feelings.

Then in 2008 I suffered a head injury that changed my life and opened the floodgates.

I'm a changed man, for the worse in my opinion a part of me died both literally and figuratively when I fell on a concrete block and smashed my head open.

The result was literally life changing, whilst I suffered no immediate physical injuries the

Trauma to my brain caused all sorts of issues.

Upshot is

Ten years on and I am struggling on a daily basis to maintain a positive attitude.

Basically I'm treading water and if I stop trying I will sink.

Thankfully I have a wonderful family to help keep me afloat.

Even then as people know you can be surrounded by people who care and love you but you can still feel alone and vulnerable.

I hope you may find a solution that suits you"

Thank you.

But to be honest I don't think you ever actually find a solution other than learning to live with it.

Some days are good some not so good and some frikkin awful.

It's all about keeping your head above water.

I have nearly drown so to speak a couple of times and it's family and love that's kept me going.

I can't imagine how difficult it must be for someone who is alone.

But ultimately no matter how much help someone gets the person has to want the help to get better.

Unfortunately the vicious think about mental health is some don't want to be helped or realise that they need it.

We all have outlet's some more extreme than others.

But arming ones self with the tool's to help yourself when the signs start is a good way to begin.

There's a few apps and always help on the end of a phone if things are really bad.

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By *EBCAMandKNICKERSMan
over a year ago

Bristol

thx, ive bookmarked it to listen to later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My issues with MH started around 10 years ago. I had always been very level headed. Quite a stable kind of man. I had a happy childhood but craved some excitement so joined the army at 18. I found army life suited me and gained promotion easily. Married at 21. Two lovely children . So life was good.

At 41 i left the army. My wife then left me and the children. Unknown to me she was having an affair. I had just started a flooring business. So suddenly im out of the army bubble. Starting again with 2 teenagers.

My mind started racing. At first i could cope. Stress it will pass. It didnt. It got much worse.

My mind sped up. I couldnt keep up. Panic attacks. My god they were bad. My whole body ached. I couldnt relax. Muscle tension. Sometimes i could actually hear the blood pumping around my body.

All the time hiding this from everybody. I thought i was going mad. Finally i went to my gp. She understood. I sat there in tears. A mixture of terror and relief. She put me on sertaline and i had to go back every 2 weeks. She kept telling me that i will start to feel better and after a couple of months and the right dosage it did. I also had cbt through the British Legion which helped.

So life got back to normal. After a couple of years i came of the medication.

Then in B&Q of all places i met a beautiful lady. Who thought while looking for a new hob i would find love ! We started dating. She was wonderful all of 4'11" a lovely smile and long dark hair. After 3 months we started talking about living together.

Then she died. A clot in her brain.

I fell apart.

I was alone or at least i felt alone.

Sadness overwhelmed me. So i went back to my gp. Again she understood and she put me back together through cbt and medication.

Now my life is going well. I am still on sertraline. My guess is that i always will be. Sometimes life is rough but mostly its not. Im not sad anymore. I have mental baggage so still do not date but one day i know i will again. My kids have grown and left. My son is now a soldier in my old regiment and my daughter is a teacher and a mum which makes me a Grandad who spoils his grandson so very much.

Anyone with or thinks they need help go and get it. You can find the right key to the right door. Just keep trying.

You can feel free again.

Ps: Sorry its a long post probably littered with both grammer and spelling errors. Sometimes it nice to just let go.

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