FabSwingers.com forum: Self critical analysis...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I might be having a wobbly day, we all get them.

Do you ever look at someone's veri's and think"I can't live up to that!".

Conversely, you see a veri from a profile and think "Shit, that is a rough profile, yet they aren't interested in me?".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go through phases where I wonder ‘why on earth would anyone want to meet me’ (currently there)

And phases where I think ‘fuck they’d be lucky to meet me’

It can be about the same man, just depends on my mood

Although I am very anxious (always have been) and my anxiety has been awful for the past year or two...so I often wonder ‘why are they interested in me at all?’ Not because of anyone else, I just have a lot of self doubts sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Naaa 1st im very competetive so naturally believe im the best fuck on earth nobody will be able to change my mind on that the day i dont believe that il become a eunuch and lop it off as unlikely as that is

On the other point folks like who they like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go through phases where I wonder ‘why on earth would anyone want to meet me’ (currently there)

And phases where I think ‘fuck they’d be lucky to meet me’

It can be about the same man, just depends on my mood

I can tell you now it's unlikely there is any guy here that wouldn't be interested in you.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Not so much someone's veris, but I often look at people's profile blurb and rule myself out not so much because I don't match their criteria necessarily, but because I don't perceive myself to, if that makes sense?

I think that is partly me being overly self-critical and self-analytical, and partly me being realistic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I might be having a wobbly day, we all get them.

Do you ever look at someone's veri's and think"I can't live up to that!".

Conversely, you see a veri from a profile and think "Shit, that is a rough profile, yet they aren't interested in me?".

Yeah all the time lol but I do t let it bother me as they are most likely thinking the same thing anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go through phases where I wonder ‘why on earth would anyone want to meet me’ (currently there)

And phases where I think ‘fuck they’d be lucky to meet me’

It can be about the same man, just depends on my mood

I can tell you now it's unlikely there is any guy here that wouldn't be interested in you."

I’m too young for most men I fancy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In our head we are no better and no worse than anyone in here. There may be people with more “attractive” bodies, but that’s only part of the equation. We are who we are. If people want to meet us, great. If they don’t, I’m sure someone else who tickles their particular fancy will be along shortly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is a roller coaster if you, like me, are prone to periods of self doubt and anxiety. Take comfort though that there are a lot of people on here who feel the same way and though we might appear to be ok about baring all physically, and full of bravado, the truth is that letting our guard down emotionally is a challenge. The fact that you are acknowledging your self doubts and confusion instantly makes you a better more rounded human being.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get far more attention on fab than I do in real life! Maybe the way I dress for the school run doesn't quite have the same appeal?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's the other way around. I do go through spells of not feeling myself and have self confidence dips. These are the times I'll take myself off here as I know this will impact how I interact with others.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

Have I read * I'm the best their ever going to get* in the wrong context?....like your doing them a favour?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not the veris but, definitely some profiles and pics. I’ve tried being brave but the response I e got back just confirms I was right x

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By *edmark07Man
over a year ago

liverpool

I get very little attention here. I'm one of thousands of middle aged guys so its always going to be that way and it does quite often effect my confidence and stop meessaging a lady but I console myself I do better in real life than on fab and try and stay light hearted about fab life with no real expectations.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

It’s incredibly rare on here to read a Male profile that has more than a one line at best and more often than not no veris!

Those decent profiles that punch above my weight are more often than not fake!

As for any others if they draw my attention I’m confident enough to contact. If the veris read well all the better. Those that have a list as long as your arm I tend to avoid..... I have no desire to become another ‘notch on the bed post’

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have I read * I'm the best their ever going to get* in the wrong context?....like your doing them a favour? "

It is more of a case of being supremely confident in yourself and you feel invincible. Not that you look down on someone, but that you feel you have your "A- Game" going on.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I personally feel that people take fab way too seriously and it impacts on their self esteem. We are frequently told publicly that due to one preference of ours people wouldn't meet us under any circumstances. If we allowed that to influence the way we feel about ourselves we wouldn't be able to continue.

It's superficial, internet transaction. Verifications are like the blurb on a book's dust cover, they're not going to say "this book is crap, don't read it".

Believe in yourself people!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I personally feel that people take fab way too seriously and it impacts on their self esteem. We are frequently told publicly that due to one preference of ours people wouldn't meet us under any circumstances. If we allowed that to influence the way we feel about ourselves we wouldn't be able to continue.

It's superficial, internet transaction. Verifications are like the blurb on a book's dust cover, they're not going to say "this book is crap, don't read it".

Believe in yourself people!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never used to, but I do now. I've been wobbling for ages and have come to the conclusion that I'm past my sell by date with regards to who I really want to meet. I like younger guys and most in my area have an age range under my age. I can't get to clubs and meet either so that's not an option. Meh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know my limitations but that isn’t going to stop me at least trying to get to meet someone I fancy. However I do bide my time while waiting for an opportunity to express my interest. I don’t know how successful that will be having had such a long time out of the ‘game’.

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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

I wouldn't worry too much about it. Veris are generally overly biased. And sex is different every time, it's not just the individual. So much more yes into it. You could have incredible sex with a partner one day, but the next it could just be 'Meh'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hide my varies as they seem to cause nothing but trouble reading the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never really do the "I'm the best they'll have" thing but I do remind myself that I will be the only me they have. I might not be as sexy or as confident as others but I am me and the experience we have together will be different to those they have with others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never really do the "I'm the best they'll have" thing but I do remind myself that I will be the only me they have. I might not be as sexy or as confident as others but i can drown a man in cleavage "

Fixed :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fixed :p"

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fixed :p

Thanks

They are fantastic dumplings

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

In some ways the insecure responses are comforting..other people are having the same issues with confidence...I'm other ways I'm thinking what the actual fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck... have you looked at yourselves recently... you're bloody gorgeous get over it and get out there

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I do all the time. Not necessarily through verifications though.. For me it's more because I want to date and have been single for over two years..so that leads to "why does no one want me" and "what's wrong with me". Even though hopefully there isn't anything wrong with me and I'm not desperate for a realtionship. Especially when I've been jejected a lot. I like to think I just haven't met the right guy yet and some things are worth waiting for.. I've been through too much shit to settle.

I think for fab to work you have to be in the right mindset that's why I have long breaks or don't have any meets.

Sometimes you need to just go with it.. Ride out the wave but then dust yourself down and think of all your amazing qualities and be confident and positive... Also remember a lot of veris are BS anyway... And with the right person it will be great anyway... Hugs x

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

Yep very much so.... not just after reading someones veris but looking at their pics and quite often I will just hotlist them and not embarrass myself by even messaging them.

It is quite daunting esp as most men go for very distinctive looks which is far from my own look.

I wouldnt doubt yourself tho OP and certainly not because.of a veri

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I hear what your saying. Yes. I pull on my big girl pants. Not because I'm the best they will ever have but for the experience.

Either way if I'm into them it will end well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep very much so.... not just after reading someones veris but looking at their pics and quite often I will just hotlist them and not embarrass myself by even messaging them.

It is quite daunting esp as most men go for very distinctive looks which is far from my own look.

I wouldnt doubt yourself tho OP and certainly not because.of a veri "

"Distinctive" is exactly how I'd describe your look lol.

You dont exactly blend into a crowd :p

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Do you ever look at someone's veri's and think"I can't live up to that!". "

No (because no one will see say they were a shit shag in a not fooling around way) but I have had the "what the fuck do they see in me" wobble.

But on the same hand I think "Ah fuck it, I must be quite hot as well" and then it's like a weird ego boost? You know if someone has met a few stunners and then you start believing you could be one too because they clearly have bloody brilliant taste. Yeah that sort of ego boost.

Conversely, you see a veri from a profile and think "Shit, that is a rough profile, yet they aren't interested in me?".

I've never once had that feeling, when I do I'll let you know Op.

A rough profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes veris put me off more than anything. I won't meet anyone with more than 4 sex veris showing because I'm not the type of person they're looking for. It's not the number, it's the fact they're on show. I'm not at all bothered if they've got 1 hidden veri or 1,000 hidden.

I can't compete with other profiles so I don't, and I'm happy with that. Rough profile- sounds like mine. I'd prefer if people didn't show veris from me as I know it puts some people off, and that's not fair on the people I met.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I might be having a wobbly day, we all get them.

Do you ever look at someone's veri's and think"I can't live up to that!".

Conversely, you see a veri from a profile and think "Shit, that is a rough profile, yet they aren't interested in me?".

No way I do this! Anyone who gets with me is a very lucky man as I know I am probably the best meet they will ever get! I’m picky though!!!

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

"Yep very much so.... not just after reading someones veris but looking at their pics and quite often I will just hotlist them and not embarrass myself by even messaging them.

It is quite daunting esp as most men go for very distinctive looks which is far from my own look.

I wouldnt doubt yourself tho OP and certainly not because.of a veri

"Distinctive" is exactly how I'd describe your look lol.

You dont exactly blend into a crowd :p"

Haha no I could never be described as a wallflower... nor could you lose me altho am sure many have tried

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very often feel i cant live up to that or second best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I might be having a wobbly day, we all get them.

Do you ever look at someone's veri's and think"I can't live up to that!".

Conversely, you see a veri from a profile and think "Shit, that is a rough profile, yet they aren't interested in me?".

I'm easily influenced by others behaviour with me and how we interact together. To the point in can send me on a bit of a downer at times.

I cope with it by reminding myself I am worth the effort I'd like others to put in. Though I'd never assume I'd be anyone's best shag ever. I find tgat level of arrogance really unattractive in someone else, so it's not a method I'm going to adopt.

More reminding myself of my self worth and it's just the internet. That if they'd met me in person, hadn't made an incorrect assumption, had stronger communication skills or a more open mind.. then it may have been. Plenty more people to play with who may meet the things I want from Fab... eventually.

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By *-and-mCouple
over a year ago

Carlisle

"I go through phases where I wonder ‘why on earth would anyone want to meet me’ (currently there)

And phases where I think ‘fuck they’d be lucky to meet me’

It can be about the same man, just depends on my mood

We would love to meet you but you didn’t reply to our message

we think you look amazing! Don’t you like our pics??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go through phases where I wonder ‘why on earth would anyone want to meet me’ (currently there)

And phases where I think ‘fuck they’d be lucky to meet me’

It can be about the same man, just depends on my mood

We would love to meet you but you didn’t reply to our message

we think you look amazing! Don’t you like our pics??"

Did you read her profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go through phases where I wonder ‘why on earth would anyone want to meet me’ (currently there)

And phases where I think ‘fuck they’d be lucky to meet me’

It can be about the same man, just depends on my mood

We would love to meet you but you didn’t reply to our message

we think you look amazing! Don’t you like our pics??"

No. I don’t meet couples either. Says all this on my profile

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I go through phases where I wonder ‘why on earth would anyone want to meet me’ (currently there)

And phases where I think ‘fuck they’d be lucky to meet me’

It can be about the same man, just depends on my mood

We would love to meet you but you didn’t reply to our message

we think you look amazing! Don’t you like our pics??"

I don’t think the forum is the place for this. Send a pm to the member....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go through phases where I wonder ‘why on earth would anyone want to meet me’ (currently there)

And phases where I think ‘fuck they’d be lucky to meet me’

It can be about the same man, just depends on my mood

We would love to meet you but you didn’t reply to our message

we think you look amazing! Don’t you like our pics??

I don’t think the forum is the place for this. Send a pm to the member....

"
shush you its good entertainment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go through phases where I wonder ‘why on earth would anyone want to meet me’ (currently there)

And phases where I think ‘fuck they’d be lucky to meet me’

It can be about the same man, just depends on my mood

We would love to meet you but you didn’t reply to our message

we think you look amazing! Don’t you like our pics??

No. I don’t meet couples either. Says all this on my profile

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puts down the phone

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I go through phases where I wonder ‘why on earth would anyone want to meet me’ (currently there)

And phases where I think ‘fuck they’d be lucky to meet me’

It can be about the same man, just depends on my mood

We would love to meet you but you didn’t reply to our message

we think you look amazing! Don’t you like our pics??

No. I don’t meet couples either. Says all this on my profile

puts down the phone

Has teddy been slung out of cot?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go through phases where I wonder ‘why on earth would anyone want to meet me’ (currently there)

And phases where I think ‘fuck they’d be lucky to meet me’

It can be about the same man, just depends on my mood

We would love to meet you but you didn’t reply to our message

we think you look amazing! Don’t you like our pics??

No. I don’t meet couples either. Says all this on my profile

puts down the phone

Has teddy been slung out of cot? "
peppapig joke

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I go through phases where I wonder ‘why on earth would anyone want to meet me’ (currently there)

And phases where I think ‘fuck they’d be lucky to meet me’

It can be about the same man, just depends on my mood

We would love to meet you but you didn’t reply to our message

we think you look amazing! Don’t you like our pics??"

I think if you check in the faq's, no reply is a no thanks, unless of course that only applies to single males and couples get a seperate set of rules? #justsayin'

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By *-and-mCouple
over a year ago

Carlisle

"I go through phases where I wonder ‘why on earth would anyone want to meet me’ (currently there)

And phases where I think ‘fuck they’d be lucky to meet me’

It can be about the same man, just depends on my mood

We would love to meet you but you didn’t reply to our message

we think you look amazing! Don’t you like our pics??

I think if you check in the faq's, no reply is a no thanks, unless of course that only applies to single males and couples get a seperate set of rules? #justsayin'"

It’s always nice to reply even if it’s a no thanks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go through phases where I wonder ‘why on earth would anyone want to meet me’ (currently there)

And phases where I think ‘fuck they’d be lucky to meet me’

It can be about the same man, just depends on my mood

We would love to meet you but you didn’t reply to our message

we think you look amazing! Don’t you like our pics??

I think if you check in the faq's, no reply is a no thanks, unless of course that only applies to single males and couples get a seperate set of rules? #justsayin'

It’s always nice to reply even if it’s a no thanks!"
why?

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By *AABMan
over a year ago

Not far

I'll have a look through many profiles, but decide not to send a message as I know I'm not going to get a response:

1) I can't live up some profile demands so no reply will be forthcoming

2) For whatever reason, I think they'll judge me a desperado so again no reply.

3) Some profiles are so lame with very little content, that unless you're a mind reader you will miss the mark and not get a reply.

Notwithstanding being a middle aged male I'm virtually untouchable anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go through phases where I wonder ‘why on earth would anyone want to meet me’ (currently there)

And phases where I think ‘fuck they’d be lucky to meet me’

It can be about the same man, just depends on my mood

We would love to meet you but you didn’t reply to our message

we think you look amazing! Don’t you like our pics??

I think if you check in the faq's, no reply is a no thanks, unless of course that only applies to single males and couples get a seperate set of rules? #justsayin'

It’s always nice to reply even if it’s a no thanks!"

FAQ

‘There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?’

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

I wouldn't say being self critical means holding yourself to others standards, or thinking you cant meet them.

For me its more about setting my own standards and being honest with myself if I am meeting them.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I go through phases where I wonder ‘why on earth would anyone want to meet me’ (currently there)

And phases where I think ‘fuck they’d be lucky to meet me’

It can be about the same man, just depends on my mood

We would love to meet you but you didn’t reply to our message

we think you look amazing! Don’t you like our pics??

I think if you check in the faq's, no reply is a no thanks, unless of course that only applies to single males and couples get a seperate set of rules? #justsayin'

It’s always nice to reply even if it’s a no thanks!

FAQ

‘There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

When are you holding the training sessions? You seem to have thought this through....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go through phases where I wonder ‘why on earth would anyone want to meet me’ (currently there)

And phases where I think ‘fuck they’d be lucky to meet me’

It can be about the same man, just depends on my mood

We would love to meet you but you didn’t reply to our message

we think you look amazing! Don’t you like our pics??

I think if you check in the faq's, no reply is a no thanks, unless of course that only applies to single males and couples get a seperate set of rules? #justsayin'

It’s always nice to reply even if it’s a no thanks!

FAQ

‘There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

When are you holding the training sessions? You seem to have thought this through....

Every first Tuesday of the month, between 3 and 4pm

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By *airytaleOfNewPorkMan
over a year ago

Close By

Getting into conversations with people I like, and then meeting, getting veris, is a huge ego boost in moments of self doubt.

My previous profile had a few veris from circa 3-4 people. This time around I've taken a while to get going again as I wasn't a "face" in the forums etc, and the majority of the people I was talking to have gone unlos.... From small beginnings grow bigger relationships and opportunity.... And I see this as a journey that will have its good days and its bad.....

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I go through phases where I wonder ‘why on earth would anyone want to meet me’ (currently there)

And phases where I think ‘fuck they’d be lucky to meet me’

It can be about the same man, just depends on my mood

We would love to meet you but you didn’t reply to our message

we think you look amazing! Don’t you like our pics??

I think if you check in the faq's, no reply is a no thanks, unless of course that only applies to single males and couples get a seperate set of rules? #justsayin'

It’s always nice to reply even if it’s a no thanks!

FAQ

‘There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

When are you holding the training sessions? You seem to have thought this through....

Every first Tuesday of the month, between 3 and 4pm"

If there are spreadsheets involved I’ll think about going! Oooh I don’t need to I’m a single fab lady......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I might be having a wobbly day, we all get them.

Do you ever look at someone's veri's and think"I can't live up to that!".

Conversely, you see a veri from a profile and think "Shit, that is a rough profile, yet they aren't interested in me?".

Can your self doubts lead you to a negative outlook despite evidence to the contrary or are you naturally more inclined to put on your big boy/girl pants and say "Fuck it, I'm the best they are ever going to get, they just don't know it yet"?"
No, I don't worry or let things bother me too much with strangers on the Internet. I be myself and if someone doesn't think you're for them, there will be someone who is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go through phases where I wonder ‘why on earth would anyone want to meet me’ (currently there)

And phases where I think ‘fuck they’d be lucky to meet me’

It can be about the same man, just depends on my mood

We would love to meet you but you didn’t reply to our message

we think you look amazing! Don’t you like our pics??

I think if you check in the faq's, no reply is a no thanks, unless of course that only applies to single males and couples get a seperate set of rules? #justsayin'

It’s always nice to reply even if it’s a no thanks!"

Did you read her profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I might be having a wobbly day, we all get them.

Do you ever look at someone's veri's and think"I can't live up to that!".

Conversely, you see a veri from a profile and think "Shit, that is a rough profile, yet they aren't interested in me?".

I'm easily influenced by others behaviour with me and how we interact together. To the point in can send me on a bit of a downer at times.

You have made me view certain things in a different way and not many people can do that. I like you for that and I think although we have very different views on things (from reading your threads etc) you’re a top bloke and you made me think about myself

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

OP..there's someone for everyone here. It may take while, but it's worth persevering.

What you nay not see in yourself, someone else will. Be kind to yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex is fun, dont over think it

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over a year ago

"I go through phases where I wonder ‘why on earth would anyone want to meet me’ (currently there)

And phases where I think ‘fuck they’d be lucky to meet me’

It can be about the same man, just depends on my mood

I can tell you now it's unlikely there is any guy here that wouldn't be interested in you.

I’m too young for most men I fancy

You’re not that young x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not veris I get funny about and this sounds really sad for someone of my age but I just cannot for the life of me take a sexy photo and I try lots, I quite liked to be liked and even to get 100 fabs in a day would be nice but I never get them and then I get all upset about the state of me, of course doughnut is my biggest supporter and while it doesn’t matter in the wider picture, it bothers me that no matter how hard I try that I’m just not sexy.

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over a year ago

"I might be having a wobbly day, we all get them.

Do you ever look at someone's veri's and think"I can't live up to that!".

Conversely, you see a veri from a profile and think "Shit, that is a rough profile, yet they aren't interested in me?".

I'm easily influenced by others behaviour with me and how we interact together. To the point in can send me on a bit of a downer at times.

One person can change your entire mindset in a negative or positive way. But when you randomly find someone with fireworks you realise why the others weren't meant to be

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over a year ago

"I might be having a wobbly day, we all get them.

Do you ever look at someone's veri's and think"I can't live up to that!".

Conversely, you see a veri from a profile and think "Shit, that is a rough profile, yet they aren't interested in me?".

I'm easily influenced by others behaviour with me and how we interact together. To the point in can send me on a bit of a downer at times.

One person can change your entire mindset in a negative or positive way. But when you randomly find someone with fireworks you realise why the others weren't meant to be

Find me that person!!

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over a year ago

"I might be having a wobbly day, we all get them.

Do you ever look at someone's veri's and think"I can't live up to that!".

Conversely, you see a veri from a profile and think "Shit, that is a rough profile, yet they aren't interested in me?".

I'm easily influenced by others behaviour with me and how we interact together. To the point in can send me on a bit of a downer at times.

One person can change your entire mindset in a negative or positive way. But when you randomly find someone with fireworks you realise why the others weren't meant to be

Awwwww, I feel like that about someone too....

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"One person can change your entire mindset in a negative or positive way. But when you randomly find someone with fireworks you realise why the others weren't meant to be

This is really lovely, x

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over a year ago

"One person can change your entire mindset in a negative or positive way. But when you randomly find someone with fireworks you realise why the others weren't meant to be

This is really lovely, x"

. Speaks a lot of sense for a Manc she does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I seem to meet people that don't show them so that solves that little problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One person can change your entire mindset in a negative or positive way. But when you randomly find someone with fireworks you realise why the others weren't meant to be

This is really lovely, x

. Speaks a lot of sense for a Manc she does

I have a rare moment of clarity

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By *icetouch83Man
over a year ago

swansea

I get like this especially cause I just message people I genuinely fancy and are probably way out of my league. but what can you do if they don't message you back absolutely nothing. I'm not going to message them constantly that's just weird. and to be fair to them they get hundreds of messages a day if mine goes unnoticed that's the way it goes move on

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over a year ago

"One person can change your entire mindset in a negative or positive way. But when you randomly find someone with fireworks you realise why the others weren't meant to be

This is really lovely, x

. Speaks a lot of sense for a Manc she does

I have a rare moment of clarity

I do every now and then too. It’s a Manc thing

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over a year ago

"One person can change your entire mindset in a negative or positive way. But when you randomly find someone with fireworks you realise why the others weren't meant to be

This is really lovely, x"

Christ I'm going soft!!!

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over a year ago

"One person can change your entire mindset in a negative or positive way. But when you randomly find someone with fireworks you realise why the others weren't meant to be

This is really lovely, x

. Speaks a lot of sense for a Manc she does

I have a rare moment of clarity

I do every now and then too. It’s a Manc thing

Balances our foul moods!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me too..

I have days when i am very self critical and think 'your just a fat old bird trying to reclaim your youth, what are you thinking'...trouble is i don't feel ready for the knackers yard yet..just coming out of a long spell of not being interested in sex and certainly not feeling sexy...yaaay menapause!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont show veries. And very rarely read them. I form my own opinions about others.

I dont read trip advisor eithet

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"One person can change your entire mindset in a negative or positive way. But when you randomly find someone with fireworks you realise why the others weren't meant to be

This is really lovely, x

. Speaks a lot of sense for a Manc she does

I know. Surprisingly so.

I only really got back in to the swing of things when I started talking to someone who's a bit of a dick so often but also wonderful. It was him who helped me in getting out of my funk and changed my mindset about here into positivity again. And I'm having a lot more fun and rediscovering myself again. So yes. The right person can do wonders.

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over a year ago

"I might be having a wobbly day, we all get them.

Do you ever look at someone's veri's and think"I can't live up to that!".

Conversely, you see a veri from a profile and think "Shit, that is a rough profile, yet they aren't interested in me?".

I'm easily influenced by others behaviour with me and how we interact together. To the point in can send me on a bit of a downer at times.

One person can change your entire mindset in a negative or positive way. But when you randomly find someone with fireworks you realise why the others weren't meant to be

Awwwww, I feel like that about someone too.... "

Bloody hell are you going soft?!?!

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over a year ago

"I might be having a wobbly day, we all get them.

Do you ever look at someone's veri's and think"I can't live up to that!".

Conversely, you see a veri from a profile and think "Shit, that is a rough profile, yet they aren't interested in me?".

I'm easily influenced by others behaviour with me and how we interact together. To the point in can send me on a bit of a downer at times.

One person can change your entire mindset in a negative or positive way. But when you randomly find someone with fireworks you realise why the others weren't meant to be

Awwwww, I feel like that about someone too....

Bloody hell are you going soft?!?!"

Still hard from the hairdressers my love

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over a year ago

"I might be having a wobbly day, we all get them.

Do you ever look at someone's veri's and think"I can't live up to that!".

Conversely, you see a veri from a profile and think "Shit, that is a rough profile, yet they aren't interested in me?".

I'm easily influenced by others behaviour with me and how we interact together. To the point in can send me on a bit of a downer at times.

One person can change your entire mindset in a negative or positive way. But when you randomly find someone with fireworks you realise why the others weren't meant to be

Awwwww, I feel like that about someone too....

Bloody hell are you going soft?!?!

Still hard from the hairdressers my love

What exactly was he pruning???

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over a year ago

"One person can change your entire mindset in a negative or positive way. But when you randomly find someone with fireworks you realise why the others weren't meant to be

This is really lovely, x

. Speaks a lot of sense for a Manc she does

I know. Surprisingly so.

That’s great. I think the right people can do that, even if it’s just as a friend. I’m a stubborn cow (believe it or not!) but I think and look at things a lot differently since being on here x

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over a year ago

"I might be having a wobbly day, we all get them.

Do you ever look at someone's veri's and think"I can't live up to that!".

Conversely, you see a veri from a profile and think "Shit, that is a rough profile, yet they aren't interested in me?".

I'm easily influenced by others behaviour with me and how we interact together. To the point in can send me on a bit of a downer at times.

One person can change your entire mindset in a negative or positive way. But when you randomly find someone with fireworks you realise why the others weren't meant to be

Awwwww, I feel like that about someone too....

Bloody hell are you going soft?!?!

Still hard from the hairdressers my love

What exactly was he pruning???

I'll show you in the shower tonight baby xx

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over a year ago

"I might be having a wobbly day, we all get them.

Do you ever look at someone's veri's and think"I can't live up to that!".

Conversely, you see a veri from a profile and think "Shit, that is a rough profile, yet they aren't interested in me?".

I'm easily influenced by others behaviour with me and how we interact together. To the point in can send me on a bit of a downer at times.

One person can change your entire mindset in a negative or positive way. But when you randomly find someone with fireworks you realise why the others weren't meant to be

Awwwww, I feel like that about someone too....

Bloody hell are you going soft?!?!

Still hard from the hairdressers my love

What exactly was he pruning???

I'll show you in the shower tonight baby xx"

Thought you were in Bath?

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over a year ago

"I might be having a wobbly day, we all get them.

Do you ever look at someone's veri's and think"I can't live up to that!".

Conversely, you see a veri from a profile and think "Shit, that is a rough profile, yet they aren't interested in me?".

I'm easily influenced by others behaviour with me and how we interact together. To the point in can send me on a bit of a downer at times.

One person can change your entire mindset in a negative or positive way. But when you randomly find someone with fireworks you realise why the others weren't meant to be

Awwwww, I feel like that about someone too....

Bloody hell are you going soft?!?!

Still hard from the hairdressers my love

What exactly was he pruning???

I'll show you in the shower tonight baby xx

Thought you were in Bath? "

You make the rules, just say.....

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By *heIcebreakersCouple
over a year ago

Cramlington

"I might be having a wobbly day, we all get them.

Do you ever look at someone's veri's and think"I can't live up to that!".

Conversely, you see a veri from a profile and think "Shit, that is a rough profile, yet they aren't interested in me?".

Can your self doubts lead you to a negative outlook despite evidence to the contrary or are you naturally more inclined to put on your big boy/girl pants and say "Fuck it, I'm the best they are ever going to get, they just don't know it yet"?"
I'm not going to place a bet on being the best they'll ever get but I'll be the best I can be. Is that good enough for them? No idea. Will it be what they're looking for? That's what profiles are for. If you see veris as a competition you'll undermine yourself before you start....

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over a year ago

"I might be having a wobbly day, we all get them.

Do you ever look at someone's veri's and think"I can't live up to that!".

Conversely, you see a veri from a profile and think "Shit, that is a rough profile, yet they aren't interested in me?".

I'm easily influenced by others behaviour with me and how we interact together. To the point in can send me on a bit of a downer at times.

One person can change your entire mindset in a negative or positive way. But when you randomly find someone with fireworks you realise why the others weren't meant to be

Awwwww, I feel like that about someone too....

Bloody hell are you going soft?!?!

Still hard from the hairdressers my love

What exactly was he pruning???

I'll show you in the shower tonight baby xx

Thought you were in Bath?

You make the rules, just say..... "

I'm ducking lost!!

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over a year ago

"I might be having a wobbly day, we all get them.

Do you ever look at someone's veri's and think"I can't live up to that!".

Conversely, you see a veri from a profile and think "Shit, that is a rough profile, yet they aren't interested in me?".

I'm easily influenced by others behaviour with me and how we interact together. To the point in can send me on a bit of a downer at times.

One person can change your entire mindset in a negative or positive way. But when you randomly find someone with fireworks you realise why the others weren't meant to be

Awwwww, I feel like that about someone too....

Bloody hell are you going soft?!?!

Still hard from the hairdressers my love

What exactly was he pruning???

I'll show you in the shower tonight baby xx

Thought you were in Bath?

You make the rules, just say.....

I'm ducking lost!! "

M6, M5, M4 flower xx

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over a year ago

"I might be having a wobbly day, we all get them.

Do you ever look at someone's veri's and think"I can't live up to that!".

Conversely, you see a veri from a profile and think "Shit, that is a rough profile, yet they aren't interested in me?".

I'm easily influenced by others behaviour with me and how we interact together. To the point in can send me on a bit of a downer at times.

One person can change your entire mindset in a negative or positive way. But when you randomly find someone with fireworks you realise why the others weren't meant to be

Awwwww, I feel like that about someone too....

Bloody hell are you going soft?!?!

Still hard from the hairdressers my love

What exactly was he pruning???

I'll show you in the shower tonight baby xx

Thought you were in Bath?

You make the rules, just say.....

I'm ducking lost!!

M6, M5, M4 flower xx"

Ha ha I know nowt outside my Manchester boarders!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I might be having a wobbly day, we all get them.

Do you ever look at someone's veri's and think"I can't live up to that!".

Conversely, you see a veri from a profile and think "Shit, that is a rough profile, yet they aren't interested in me?".

I'm easily influenced by others behaviour with me and how we interact together. To the point in can send me on a bit of a downer at times.

One person can change your entire mindset in a negative or positive way. But when you randomly find someone with fireworks you realise why the others weren't meant to be

Awwwww, I feel like that about someone too....

Bloody hell are you going soft?!?!

Still hard from the hairdressers my love

What exactly was he pruning???

I'll show you in the shower tonight baby xx

Thought you were in Bath?

You make the rules, just say.....

I'm ducking lost!!

M6, M5, M4 flower xx

Ha ha I know nowt outside my Manchester boarders!! "

Directions to South Wales obv

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I might be having a wobbly day, we all get them.

Do you ever look at someone's veri's and think"I can't live up to that!".

Conversely, you see a veri from a profile and think "Shit, that is a rough profile, yet they aren't interested in me?".

I'm easily influenced by others behaviour with me and how we interact together. To the point in can send me on a bit of a downer at times.

One person can change your entire mindset in a negative or positive way. But when you randomly find someone with fireworks you realise why the others weren't meant to be

Awwwww, I feel like that about someone too....

Bloody hell are you going soft?!?!

Still hard from the hairdressers my love

What exactly was he pruning???

I'll show you in the shower tonight baby xx

Thought you were in Bath?

You make the rules, just say.....

I'm ducking lost!!

M6, M5, M4 flower xx

Ha ha I know nowt outside my Manchester boarders!! "

Useless! A1, M25, M4, M5 for me. I’ll race ya!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get like this especially cause I just message people I genuinely fancy and are probably way out of my league. but what can you do if they don't message you back absolutely nothing. I'm not going to message them constantly that's just weird. and to be fair to them they get hundreds of messages a day if mine goes unnoticed that's the way it goes move on

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I'll have a look through many profiles, but decide not to send a message as I know I'm not going to get a response:

1) I can't live up some profile demands so no reply will be forthcoming

2) For whatever reason, I think they'll judge me a desperado so again no reply.

3) Some profiles are so lame with very little content, that unless you're a mind reader you will miss the mark and not get a reply.

Notwithstanding being a middle aged male I'm virtually untouchable anyway."

I wholeheartedly disagree with all 3! You’ve definitely been elevated to my HOT list!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I've talked myself out of a meet with one very lovely and hot guy. To scared too go for a private meet because I don't think I'm hot enough and would just end up being a disappointment to him.

Funny thing is my bf was very supportive of me going for it, my gosh darn inner demons can go fuck themselves.

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By *AABMan
over a year ago

Not far

"I'll have a look through many profiles, but decide not to send a message as I know I'm not going to get a response:

1) I can't live up some profile demands so no reply will be forthcoming

2) For whatever reason, I think they'll judge me a desperado so again no reply.

3) Some profiles are so lame with very little content, that unless you're a mind reader you will miss the mark and not get a reply.

Notwithstanding being a middle aged male I'm virtually untouchable anyway.

I wholeheartedly disagree with all 3! You’ve definitely been elevated to my HOT list!

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Well I've talked myself out of a meet with one very lovely and hot guy. To scared too go for a private meet because I don't think I'm hot enough and would just end up being a disappointment to him.

Funny thing is my bf was very supportive of me going for it, my gosh darn inner demons can go fuck themselves."

Hopefully you can put those inner demons back in their cage. I had them was I was you younger now I think fuck it. You really do only live once....cliched, but so true x

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

I am one of those people who gets really upset if I think someone doesn't like me,but I understand it's going to happen from time to time.

However those people who don't like me or even go as far as hating me will never even touch how much I hate myself.

I have zero self confidence and am my own worst critic.

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By *ornyhornytwoCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

We both criticize ourselves no matter how many positive comments we get. Human nature I suppose xx

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By *olexMan
over a year ago

Hull

"I go through phases where I wonder ‘why on earth would anyone want to meet me’ (currently there)

And phases where I think ‘fuck they’d be lucky to meet me’

It can be about the same man, just depends on my mood

Don't put yourself down. You're so much hotter than you give yourself credit for. We all have doubts from time to time but you would never have a problem finding a man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am one of those people who gets really upset if I think someone doesn't like me,but I understand it's going to happen from time to time.

However those people who don't like me or even go as far as hating me will never even touch how much I hate myself.

I have zero self confidence and am my own worst critic.

That's a shame. I like your posts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a bit torn on this one.

A veri alone won’t give me self doubt, there’s always someone who’s going to be younger, prettier, slimmer, sexier etc etc than me - I won’t dwell over something I can’t change.

However if it was very obvious from the veri’s shown that the person was definitely into a certain type (as described above) and then wanted to meet me, that would make me think twice.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

O don't look at veris, except to confirm that someone may be reliable.

Comparing yourself to others is a no win situation as there are always others that can seem better

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I might be having a wobbly day, we all get them.

Do you ever look at someone's veri's and think"I can't live up to that!".

Conversely, you see a veri from a profile and think "Shit, that is a rough profile, yet they aren't interested in me?".

Only for a few seconds til I catch myself doing it and change the script.

These thoughts are pointless so I've been working to change them into something positive and alter my perspective.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes it’s hard seeing the veris Mr leaves, especially if he mentions how hot they are, wants to keep them, jump at the chance to see them again, etc. Probably because I’m older, and they’re always younger, hotter and fitter than me. That’s just my insecurities though.

We all have wobbly days, and being the age that most women have as a cut off point, doesn’t help.

Strangers veris don’t bother me though, I can kind of guess that they won’t be interested in me through them xx

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