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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

.....if you knew someone who was struggling with the truth, and it was affecting other people in a negative way, should you say something? To the person I mean, in confidence, not to the ppl affected....

Or just not interfere and STFU and let things take their natural repetitive coarse....?

Asking for a friend, obv....

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Struggling with the truth? As in lying?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Struggling with the truth? As in lying?"

Yep

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It would depend. Some things are best left to work through their natural course for the lesson to be learned.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It would depend. Some things are best left to work through their natural course for the lesson to be learned."

I kinda was thinking that, but it might be a repetitive thing....

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By *osie xWoman
over a year ago

wolverhampton

I think it depends on your dynamic.

If you are good friends, they may be mad at you but will see it with good intentions eventually

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think it depends very much on the situation. I'm a huge believer in staying out of other people's business unless I'm pretty sure some sort of abuse is going on. Truth is a funny old thing and can alter when viewed from someone else's point of view

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank fuck this is a late night post, it'll sink quickly.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think it depends very much on the situation. I'm a huge believer in staying out of other people's business unless I'm pretty sure some sort of abuse is going on. Truth is a funny old thing and can alter when viewed from someone else's point of view"

But you know when ppl are likely to be hurt by it in the future?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think it depends on your dynamic.

If you are good friends, they may be mad at you but will see it with good intentions eventually"

My friends situation is internet based so friends are only ever "friends" but the person I believe is good apparently, but just the lies might be awful....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it would depend on your relationship with them and obviously the person themself.

If they are lying to protect themselves in some way then that is different to lying in order to deceive. Also they may have gotten into a situation where they have told so many lies they can see no way out.

If it was a friend of mine then I would speak to them and try and understand their reasons and also discuss the implications of what they are doing to others. I would make it clear that the fact they are lying was known.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I think it depends very much on the situation. I'm a huge believer in staying out of other people's business unless I'm pretty sure some sort of abuse is going on. Truth is a funny old thing and can alter when viewed from someone else's point of view

But you know when ppl are likely to be hurt by it in the future? "

If it's abuse then I'd step in, and have. Otherwise, I stay out and be there to help after.

The messenger always gets shot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the situation. I'm pretty blunt so if I think something's weird or hurtful I'll generally say it. Sometimes it hard to articulate though if you're being strung along. If it affects others I'd most likely do something about it. Truth will always out eventually.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I think it depends on your dynamic.

If you are good friends, they may be mad at you but will see it with good intentions eventually

My friends situation is internet based so friends are only ever "friends" but the person I believe is good apparently, but just the lies might be awful.... "

Stay out. Internet stuff is too complex to get a true reading. Some of the lies I have seen spun beggar belief but how to prove it?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

It's a difficult one if you're not directly involved, even though you may be close to those affected and trust implicitly what you are hearing.

I think much as I'd be tempted to "have a word" I'd probably focus on supporting the friends and trusting that the truth would out and the person concerned would be found out for their deceit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think it would depend on your relationship with them and obviously the person themself.

If they are lying to protect themselves in some way then that is different to lying in order to deceive. Also they may have gotten into a situation where they have told so many lies they can see no way out.

If it was a friend of mine then I would speak to them and try and understand their reasons and also discuss the implications of what they are doing to others. I would make it clear that the fact they are lying was known. "

That's what my friend said

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I think it depends very much on the situation. I'm a huge believer in staying out of other people's business unless I'm pretty sure some sort of abuse is going on. Truth is a funny old thing and can alter when viewed from someone else's point of view

But you know when ppl are likely to be hurt by it in the future? "

Yes it happens all the time. I'm just not sure how far our responsibility extends in preventing that hurt. What if for instance,your intervention leads to hurt but for a different reason?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think it depends on your dynamic.

If you are good friends, they may be mad at you but will see it with good intentions eventually

My friends situation is internet based so friends are only ever "friends" but the person I believe is good apparently, but just the lies might be awful....

Stay out. Internet stuff is too complex to get a true reading. Some of the lies I have seen spun beggar belief but how to prove it?"

Does anything need proving though?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think it depends very much on the situation. I'm a huge believer in staying out of other people's business unless I'm pretty sure some sort of abuse is going on. Truth is a funny old thing and can alter when viewed from someone else's point of view

But you know when ppl are likely to be hurt by it in the future?

Yes it happens all the time. I'm just not sure how far our responsibility extends in preventing that hurt. What if for instance,your intervention leads to hurt but for a different reason?"

I'm sure there'll be hurt if my friend intervenes, but surely you go for the lesser hurt and to end the said deception?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank fuck this is a late night post, it'll sink quickly..... "

Depends on the lie

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think it depends very much on the situation. I'm a huge believer in staying out of other people's business unless I'm pretty sure some sort of abuse is going on. Truth is a funny old thing and can alter when viewed from someone else's point of view

But you know when ppl are likely to be hurt by it in the future?

Yes it happens all the time. I'm just not sure how far our responsibility extends in preventing that hurt. What if for instance,your intervention leads to hurt but for a different reason?"

I don't think my friend feels responsible, but it's possible they've been deceived themselves, and in a rather personal and manipulative way....?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I think it depends on your dynamic.

If you are good friends, they may be mad at you but will see it with good intentions eventually

My friends situation is internet based so friends are only ever "friends" but the person I believe is good apparently, but just the lies might be awful....

Stay out. Internet stuff is too complex to get a true reading. Some of the lies I have seen spun beggar belief but how to prove it?

Does anything need proving though? "

Your intentions may be good but may not be seen in that light. You become perceived as the storytelling liar.

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I think it depends on your dynamic.

If you are good friends, they may be mad at you but will see it with good intentions eventually

My friends situation is internet based so friends are only ever "friends" but the person I believe is good apparently, but just the lies might be awful.... "

That kind of truth probably needs to come from someone close to them, if it's obviously a lie and they keep doing it and you're affected then calling it out or naming the behaviour can help.

If it isn't directly affecting you...well I'd probably leave it alone.

Some people seem to have to learn things the hard way or not at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thank fuck this is a late night post, it'll sink quickly.....

Depends on the lie"

Stop giving me depends lol, give me some answers????

.....please

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I think it depends very much on the situation. I'm a huge believer in staying out of other people's business unless I'm pretty sure some sort of abuse is going on. Truth is a funny old thing and can alter when viewed from someone else's point of view

But you know when ppl are likely to be hurt by it in the future?

Yes it happens all the time. I'm just not sure how far our responsibility extends in preventing that hurt. What if for instance,your intervention leads to hurt but for a different reason?

I'm sure there'll be hurt if my friend intervenes, but surely you go for the lesser hurt and to end the said deception? "

Who is your friend to decide what will hurt another person more or less?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think it depends on your dynamic.

If you are good friends, they may be mad at you but will see it with good intentions eventually

My friends situation is internet based so friends are only ever "friends" but the person I believe is good apparently, but just the lies might be awful....

Stay out. Internet stuff is too complex to get a true reading. Some of the lies I have seen spun beggar belief but how to prove it?

Does anything need proving though?

Your intentions may be good but may not be seen in that light. You become perceived as the storytelling liar.

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My friend isn't bothered how they're viewed

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I think it depends very much on the situation. I'm a huge believer in staying out of other people's business unless I'm pretty sure some sort of abuse is going on. Truth is a funny old thing and can alter when viewed from someone else's point of view

But you know when ppl are likely to be hurt by it in the future?

Yes it happens all the time. I'm just not sure how far our responsibility extends in preventing that hurt. What if for instance,your intervention leads to hurt but for a different reason?

I don't think my friend feels responsible, but it's possible they've been deceived themselves, and in a rather personal and manipulative way....? "

Then your friend needs to deal with his or her situation as it directly affects them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think it depends on your dynamic.

If you are good friends, they may be mad at you but will see it with good intentions eventually

My friends situation is internet based so friends are only ever "friends" but the person I believe is good apparently, but just the lies might be awful....

That kind of truth probably needs to come from someone close to them, if it's obviously a lie and they keep doing it and you're affected then calling it out or naming the behaviour can help.

If it isn't directly affecting you...well I'd probably leave it alone.

Some people seem to have to learn things the hard way or not at all."

I think this might t be a case of a person never learning and moving from on person to the next to fill the hole left by the last....

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It would depend on my relationship with the person and how tactfully I thought I could handle it. If it was something causing major problems then I would be more likely to be. Ultimately it is still for the other person to decide how they progress, once discussed and I would only speak with them if I was sure that they would still feel free to pursue things as they chose to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It would depend on my relationship with the person and how tactfully I thought I could handle it. If it was something causing major problems then I would be more likely to be. Ultimately it is still for the other person to decide how they progress, once discussed and I would only speak with them if I was sure that they would still feel free to pursue things as they chose to. "

Thanks xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Depends on the situation. I'm pretty blunt so if I think something's weird or hurtful I'll generally say it. Sometimes it hard to articulate though if you're being strung along. If it affects others I'd most likely do something about it. Truth will always out eventually. "

Tru dat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As this is vauge as vauge can be its impossible to say.

I mean you could be describing a Nigerian scammer or a teenager with an Instagram account its so broad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As this is vauge as vauge can be its impossible to say.

I mean you could be describing a Nigerian scammer or a teenager with an Instagram account its so broad

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"As this is vauge as vauge can be its impossible to say.

I mean you could be describing a Nigerian scammer or a teenager with an Instagram account its so broad"

Agreed, without specifics or greater understanding of the situation it very difficult to give advice beyond the broadest of generalities.

Personally though if it is a 'friend' and other people and you're not directly involved in the situation, then you'd better make sure that you grasp the situation fully. Jumping in without the full facts to 'put someone right' is presumptuous at best.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would stay out of it unless it was another friend that would be affected by the lie

Also depends how close a friend the lie person is i tend to be too blunt for most tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t even understand the question. So I’d say no. Or maybe yes. Hope that helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t even understand the question. So I’d say no. Or maybe yes. Hope that helps "

Have you suddenly turned into me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t even understand the question. So I’d say no. Or maybe yes. Hope that helps

Have you suddenly turned into me "

Sssshhhhh we are the same person. We are never seen together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t even understand the question. So I’d say no. Or maybe yes. Hope that helps

Have you suddenly turned into me

Sssshhhhh we are the same person. We are never seen together "

Made me laugh that did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t even understand the question. So I’d say no. Or maybe yes. Hope that helps

Have you suddenly turned into me

Sssshhhhh we are the same person. We are never seen together "
explore my finger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t even understand the question. So I’d say no. Or maybe yes. Hope that helps

Have you suddenly turned into me

Sssshhhhh we are the same person. We are never seen together

Made me laugh that did "

Wonder why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t even understand the question. So I’d say no. Or maybe yes. Hope that helps

Have you suddenly turned into me

Sssshhhhh we are the same person. We are never seen together explore my finger "

Hahaha we so need a couples profile with that name

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

Truth, you can’t handle the truth!

Seriously though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t even understand the question. So I’d say no. Or maybe yes. Hope that helps

Have you suddenly turned into me

Sssshhhhh we are the same person. We are never seen together explore my finger

Hahaha we so need a couples profile with that name "
we cant like u said never seen together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t even understand the question. So I’d say no. Or maybe yes. Hope that helps

Have you suddenly turned into me

Sssshhhhh we are the same person. We are never seen together explore my finger

Hahaha we so need a couples profile with that name we cant like u said never seen together "

You’re on the ball today. It’s coz I’ve only had one tea. Give me half hour I’ll be my normal delightful self

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t even understand the question. So I’d say no. Or maybe yes. Hope that helps

Have you suddenly turned into me

Sssshhhhh we are the same person. We are never seen together explore my finger

Hahaha we so need a couples profile with that name we cant like u said never seen together "

So your mum never left that wig in your car after all and what I found in your......ahhh now everything is starting to make sense

LJ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t even understand the question. So I’d say no. Or maybe yes. Hope that helps

Have you suddenly turned into me

Sssshhhhh we are the same person. We are never seen together explore my finger

Hahaha we so need a couples profile with that name we cant like u said never seen together

You’re on the ball today. It’s coz I’ve only had one tea. Give me half hour I’ll be my normal delightful self "
iv not touched em yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t even understand the question. So I’d say no. Or maybe yes. Hope that helps

Have you suddenly turned into me

Sssshhhhh we are the same person. We are never seen together explore my finger

Hahaha we so need a couples profile with that name we cant like u said never seen together

So your mum never left that wig in your car after all and what I found in your......ahhh now everything is starting to make sense

LJ"
no that was mothers but shes at home watching a young fitty shower

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I think it depends very much on the situation. I'm a huge believer in staying out of other people's business unless I'm pretty sure some sort of abuse is going on. Truth is a funny old thing and can alter when viewed from someone else's point of view"

I like this but if this a really good friend then I may have a word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having been at the receiving end of deception by someone I invested 3 years of my life in, I would always appreciate the heads up. Yes it could look like you're trying to cause trouble, but not everyone is well equipped with a good bullshit radar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having been at the receiving end of deception by someone I invested 3 years of my life in, I would always appreciate the heads up. Yes it could look like you're trying to cause trouble, but not everyone is well equipped with a good bullshit radar. "

he's asking should he tell his friend who's doing the lying not the people being lied to.

Which i dont get

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over a year ago

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Lies O lies. The vain of our lives. Some people do it to protect themselves and others which really doesn’t work Like why not just tell the truth !!

After all this is fab and we are all respectful folk who tell the truth. Aren’t we!?!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having been at the receiving end of deception by someone I invested 3 years of my life in, I would always appreciate the heads up. Yes it could look like you're trying to cause trouble, but not everyone is well equipped with a good bullshit radar.

he's asking should he tell his friend who's doing the lying not the people being lied to.

Which i dont get "

Oh yeah! How very odd...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having been at the receiving end of deception by someone I invested 3 years of my life in, I would always appreciate the heads up. Yes it could look like you're trying to cause trouble, but not everyone is well equipped with a good bullshit radar.

he's asking should he tell his friend who's doing the lying not the people being lied to.

Which i dont get "

Me neither. Tell them what? Don’t lie? Will they take any notice? If it doesn’t affect me I’d steer clear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh the drama

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the person in question was a friend, I'd probably say something to them...if not, I'd mind my own business.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lies O lies. The vain of our lives. Some people do it to protect themselves and others which really doesn’t work Like why not just tell the truth !!

After all this is fab and we are all respectful folk who tell the truth. Aren’t we!?!!!"

Lol vain is the right word, I think a few ppl think this post is about them pmsl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lies O lies. The vain of our lives. Some people do it to protect themselves and others which really doesn’t work Like why not just tell the truth !!

After all this is fab and we are all respectful folk who tell the truth. Aren’t we!?!!!

Lol vain is the right word, I think a few ppl think this post is about them pmsl "

If it helps i think its made up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lies O lies. The vain of our lives. Some people do it to protect themselves and others which really doesn’t work Like why not just tell the truth !!

After all this is fab and we are all respectful folk who tell the truth. Aren’t we!?!!!

Lol vain is the right word, I think a few ppl think this post is about them pmsl

If it helps i think its made up "

That's because you don't like me, but that's fine too

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Having been at the receiving end of deception by someone I invested 3 years of my life in, I would always appreciate the heads up. Yes it could look like you're trying to cause trouble, but not everyone is well equipped with a good bullshit radar.

he's asking should he tell his friend who's doing the lying not the people being lied to.

Which i dont get

Oh yeah! How very odd... "

That's why I thought it would smack of presumption.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lies O lies. The vain of our lives. Some people do it to protect themselves and others which really doesn’t work Like why not just tell the truth !!

After all this is fab and we are all respectful folk who tell the truth. Aren’t we!?!!!

Lol vain is the right word, I think a few ppl think this post is about them pmsl "

Or is that what you want people to think? I think ppl should maybe grow up

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm, sure someone mentioned something about the messenger at the start of this thread....

Nvm....

My friend and a few of their friends know I guess, and maybe the person knows too now... Who knows....?

Peace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it is impacting you directly then confronting it could be the right thing to do. If it is impacting someone else and they are not confronting it I wouldn’t intervene. Playing the rescuer in a game rarely ends well.

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

It depends on the situation, I work with people who like to do jackanory time alot so in that situation we all tend to call them out on it

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl


"If it is impacting you directly then confronting it could be the right thing to do. If it is impacting someone else and they are not confronting it I wouldn’t intervene. Playing the rescuer in a game rarely ends well."

I wish you wouldn't bend over like that Doc, Alan's awake FFS!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm, sure someone mentioned something about the messenger at the start of this thread....

Nvm....

My friend and a few of their friends know I guess, and maybe the person knows too now... Who knows....?

Peace "

Oh so this is a weird fab sniping thread?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it is impacting you directly then confronting it could be the right thing to do. If it is impacting someone else and they are not confronting it I wouldn’t intervene. Playing the rescuer in a game rarely ends well.

I wish you wouldn't bend over like that Doc, Alan's awake FFS! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If it is impacting you directly then confronting it could be the right thing to do. If it is impacting someone else and they are not confronting it I wouldn’t intervene. Playing the rescuer in a game rarely ends well.

I wish you wouldn't bend over like that Doc, Alan's awake FFS! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An Irish friend gave me a really good piece of advice.

“In life you find out what is your business and you feckin mind it”!!

It wasn’t meant in an offensive way and the same applies here.

I try my best to live by theses words.

LJ

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm, sure someone mentioned something about the messenger at the start of this thread....

Nvm....

My friend and a few of their friends know I guess, and maybe the person knows too now... Who knows....?

Peace

Oh so this is a weird fab sniping thread?"

Only you making it that way from wha I can see....

My friend spoke with her friend and so did I. Its actually quite a serious matter of gaslighting. You'd do well to know more, or ask more (maybe privately) or jump to less conclusions. There are actually ppl here who know what I'm talking about but we're hardly going to come and out a person on a thread. I was just asking for advice, we got some and dealt with the situation, it's done, but thanks for your wisdom buddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"An Irish friend gave me a really good piece of advice.

“In life you find out what is your business and you feckin mind it”!!

It wasn’t meant in an offensive way and the same applies here.

I try my best to live by theses words.

LJ"

Love that. Me too. Shame everyone else doesn’t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm, sure someone mentioned something about the messenger at the start of this thread....

Nvm....

My friend and a few of their friends know I guess, and maybe the person knows too now... Who knows....?

Peace "

So what was the point of the thread? To indirectly let someone know that you know they are lying?

It's a terribly convoluted and unnecessarily public way of doing so.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This was because it was to do with me too and someone who had preyed on a weakness I have.....

(yes I have one or two )

But generally I agree

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm, sure someone mentioned something about the messenger at the start of this thread....

Nvm....

My friend and a few of their friends know I guess, and maybe the person knows too now... Who knows....?

Peace

So what was the point of the thread? To indirectly let someone know that you know they are lying?

It's a terribly convoluted and unnecessarily public way of doing so. "

I was asking for advice, see the question?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I've read this whole thread and I'm none the wiser what it's about really, I'll try again after coffee

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl


"I'm, sure someone mentioned something about the messenger at the start of this thread....

Nvm....

My friend and a few of their friends know I guess, and maybe the person knows too now... Who knows....?

Peace

Oh so this is a weird fab sniping thread?

Only you making it that way from wha I can see....

My friend spoke with her friend and so did I. Its actually quite a serious matter of gaslighting. You'd do well to know more, or ask more (maybe privately) or jump to less conclusions. There are actually ppl here who know what I'm talking about but we're hardly going to come and out a person on a thread. I was just asking for advice, we got some and dealt with the situation, it's done, but thanks for your wisdom buddy "

Ermm ok, so the thread is to let them know that you know and most ppl know.......bit shitty way of going about it....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've read this whole thread and I'm none the wiser what it's about really, I'll try again after coffee

"

Pmsl, me either with some of the replies.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm, sure someone mentioned something about the messenger at the start of this thread....

Nvm....

My friend and a few of their friends know I guess, and maybe the person knows too now... Who knows....?

Peace

Oh so this is a weird fab sniping thread?

Only you making it that way from wha I can see....

My friend spoke with her friend and so did I. Its actually quite a serious matter of gaslighting. You'd do well to know more, or ask more (maybe privately) or jump to less conclusions. There are actually ppl here who know what I'm talking about but we're hardly going to come and out a person on a thread. I was just asking for advice, we got some and dealt with the situation, it's done, but thanks for your wisdom buddy

Ermm ok, so the thread is to let them know that you know and most ppl know.......bit shitty way of going about it.... "

Noooooo, Jesus......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends who it was affecting. If it were my children or grandchildren I would speak to the person, and it might not be in private, depending on how badly they were distorting the truth.

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over a year ago


"I'm, sure someone mentioned something about the messenger at the start of this thread....

Nvm....

My friend and a few of their friends know I guess, and maybe the person knows too now... Who knows....?

Peace

So what was the point of the thread? To indirectly let someone know that you know they are lying?

It's a terribly convoluted and unnecessarily public way of doing so.

I was asking for advice, see the question? "

How can anyone give advice on that question? It’s too vague. Either give all the details of the situation or don’t bother. I’ve seen these types of threads before. To me this looks like it’s indirectly trying to have a go at someone on here or try and make them look a twat.

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over a year ago


"I'm, sure someone mentioned something about the messenger at the start of this thread....

Nvm....

My friend and a few of their friends know I guess, and maybe the person knows too now... Who knows....?

Peace

Oh so this is a weird fab sniping thread?

Only you making it that way from wha I can see....

My friend spoke with her friend and so did I. Its actually quite a serious matter of gaslighting. You'd do well to know more, or ask more (maybe privately) or jump to less conclusions. There are actually ppl here who know what I'm talking about but we're hardly going to come and out a person on a thread. I was just asking for advice, we got some and dealt with the situation, it's done, but thanks for your wisdom buddy "

Oh, if it was Fab related I would tell my friends to cut all contact with the truth bender.

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over a year ago


"I'm, sure someone mentioned something about the messenger at the start of this thread....

Nvm....

My friend and a few of their friends know I guess, and maybe the person knows too now... Who knows....?

Peace

Oh so this is a weird fab sniping thread?

Only you making it that way from wha I can see....

My friend spoke with her friend and so did I. Its actually quite a serious matter of gaslighting. You'd do well to know more, or ask more (maybe privately) or jump to less conclusions. There are actually ppl here who know what I'm talking about but we're hardly going to come and out a person on a thread. I was just asking for advice, we got some and dealt with the situation, it's done, but thanks for your wisdom buddy "

So this is a thread about somone(s) on fab?

Well that made it super creepy.

The "message for more info" is even worse your basicaly just trying to freak this person out by claiming you and others know whatever it is your claiming about them and spreading it around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm, sure someone mentioned something about the messenger at the start of this thread....

Nvm....

My friend and a few of their friends know I guess, and maybe the person knows too now... Who knows....?

Peace

So what was the point of the thread? To indirectly let someone know that you know they are lying?

It's a terribly convoluted and unnecessarily public way of doing so.

I was asking for advice, see the question?

How can anyone give advice on that question? It’s too vague. Either give all the details of the situation or don’t bother. I’ve seen these types of threads before. To me this looks like it’s indirectly trying to have a go at someone on here or try and make them look a twat. "

And we need names.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've read this whole thread and I'm none the wiser what it's about really, I'll try again after coffee

Pmsl, me either with some of the replies..... "

Right, you need to clarify what's going on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Acting in defense of a friend is never a bad thing and attempting to stop the spread of hurt is a admirable and appreciated goal I'm sure. There are shades of grey in most situations but you are acting in defense of a friend. I'm certain that if tackled well it will lead to some positive forward steps.

Btw for what its worth dude imho it's a good thing you are doing for both people involved.

Just my two cents, under the rock I go

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So, just to clarify, my friend wanted to speak to the person, so did I, we were worried about other ppl getting taken in and fucked over like we had been, but we just needed some encouragement to actually do it, hence asking for advice. Nothing sinister, just advice, and we dealt with the matter privately and successfully. Thanks t thaw who contributed positively

- THE END -

Thread is yours now if you'd like to turn it into something it's not, fill your boots....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So, just to clarify, my friend wanted to speak to the person, so did I, we were worried about other ppl getting taken in and fucked over like we had been, but we just needed some encouragement to actually do it, hence asking for advice. Nothing sinister, just advice, and we dealt with the matter privately and successfully. Thanks t thaw who contributed positively

- THE END -

Thread is yours now if you'd like to turn it into something it's not, fill your boots.... "

To those *

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was a friend and you think their behaviour will hurt someone, I'd have a word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m confused as fuck

You mentioned gaslighting, lying & more than one person involved....

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"I'm, sure someone mentioned something about the messenger at the start of this thread....

Nvm....

My friend and a few of their friends know I guess, and maybe the person knows too now... Who knows....?

Peace

Oh so this is a weird fab sniping thread?

Only you making it that way from wha I can see....

My friend spoke with her friend and so did I. Its actually quite a serious matter of gaslighting. You'd do well to know more, or ask more (maybe privately) or jump to less conclusions. There are actually ppl here who know what I'm talking about but we're hardly going to come and out a person on a thread. I was just asking for advice, we got some and dealt with the situation, it's done, but thanks for your wisdom buddy

So this is a thread about somone(s) on fab?

Well that made it super creepy.

The "message for more info" is even worse your basicaly just trying to freak this person out by claiming you and others know whatever it is your claiming about them and spreading it around"

That's how it generally works. Not the first time, won't be the last

Drama llamas

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By *ibblingnewtWoman
over a year ago

by the sea

If someone was telling lies and I knew it I’d speak to them and say something

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By *uzukiNo1Woman
over a year ago

Rhyl

OP your choice of words like * well they,ll know now* * some ppl know what's going on* wtf.... seriously X cmon if it's about you then confront said person in private.....if not stop with the baiting....

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By *nowwhitexxx1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

Never easy with something like this.. I think you just have to do what feels right for you looking in.. And depends how close you are to these people. As people have said the messenger often does get shot but so what... If you believe it is wrong what's happening and from how you describe the situation it doesn't sound like your being interfering... Just concerned and worried.

Trust your gut feeling and do what you think is right and if it all goes tits up at least you can say you tried for the right reasons... Hugs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP your choice of words like * well they,ll know now* * some ppl know what's going on* wtf.... seriously X cmon if it's about you then confront said person in private.....if not stop with the baiting...."

Done my lovely, chill out xx

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"I’m confused as fuck

You mentioned gaslighting, lying & more than one person involved...."

I'm glad it's not just me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Never easy with something like this.. I think you just have to do what feels right for you looking in.. And depends how close you are to these people. As people have said the messenger often does get shot but so what... If you believe it is wrong what's happening and from how you describe the situation it doesn't sound like your being interfering... Just concerned and worried.

Trust your gut feeling and do what you think is right and if it all goes tits up at least you can say you tried for the right reasons... Hugs x"

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over a year ago


"I'm, sure someone mentioned something about the messenger at the start of this thread....

Nvm....

My friend and a few of their friends know I guess, and maybe the person knows too now... Who knows....?

Peace

Oh so this is a weird fab sniping thread?

Only you making it that way from wha I can see....

My friend spoke with her friend and so did I. Its actually quite a serious matter of gaslighting. You'd do well to know more, or ask more (maybe privately) or jump to less conclusions. There are actually ppl here who know what I'm talking about but we're hardly going to come and out a person on a thread. I was just asking for advice, we got some and dealt with the situation, it's done, but thanks for your wisdom buddy

So this is a thread about somone(s) on fab?

Well that made it super creepy.

The "message for more info" is even worse your basicaly just trying to freak this person out by claiming you and others know whatever it is your claiming about them and spreading it around"

You must be right mate

Or..... Maybe the issue has been dealt with now as I've stated repeatedly. The person knows because we spoke with them directly after seeking advice, everyone else important to it knows, job done really....

Carry on if you've nothing better to do though, but don't let a post from me spoil your day my lovely

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"So, just to clarify, my friend wanted to speak to the person, so did I, we were worried about other ppl getting taken in and fucked over like we had been, but we just needed some encouragement to actually do it, hence asking for advice. Nothing sinister, just advice, and we dealt with the matter privately and successfully. Thanks t thaw who contributed positively

- THE END -

Thread is yours now if you'd like to turn it into something it's not, fill your boots.... "

Maybe that could have been done in private rather than on the forum as it is about someone on here

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